TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

This is the thread for those of us in the TTC after loss penguin huddle who want to try to eat a more healthy diet, exercise more, lose weight or just feel better physically this year
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If I’ve missed anyone please tag them

How about we start by saying what our goals are whether that he the number on the scale, doing more exercise or just feeling better about ourselves?

I’m BunnytheBlueWhale (NC recently - see TTC thread). I’m 35 and probably weigh about a stone more than I’d like since I had my stillborn daughter in February. I don’t need to lose weight massively but having post-baby weight and no baby is a bit rubbish!

I’d like to lose a bit of a weight all over and also target my belly with brushing, moisturising and maybe microneedling at home...

I eat a lot of sugary snacks so want to massively reduce those and also try to take a healthy lunch to work to stop me spending so much money on food!

[1stbabs]

Hi ladies, hope you're all ok. It's been a tough week for me so I've been a bit of a mess. Tried to walk to the cemetery my daughter is buried at and it was closed, and it kind of just set off my grief again. I had been doing really well but it seems like I'd gone backwards. I guess grief doesn't go in a straight line.

Impressed with those of you still keeping active! I am absolutely useless in lockdown 😂 I have been at least trying to eat healthy so that's something!

Hope you're all having a nice weekend x

[BunnytheHoneyBee]

@1stbabs I’m sorry the cemetery was closed. I’m still not sure whether the cemetery where my DD is, is open or not.

You're not going backwards although it may feel that way. I think grief comes and goes. Maybe it’s always there but it’s definitely worse sometimes than others. I think that’s why it is said that “grief comes in waves”.

Don’t be hard on yourself about exercise. Diet is the most important thing when it comes to staying in shape anyway but being a little bit active when you feel like it (even if that’s walking around the block or vacuuming the front room) can be good for your mind too but don’t put pressure on yourself to do much more than that.

[footprintsintheslow]

@1stbabs this makes me so cross for you and anyone else. I'm completely all for the rules around self isolation but honestly there is no need to close cemeteries. Everyone socially isolated there anyway. No one is going there to chat to anyone else visiting a grave.

[1stbabs]

@footprintsintheslow I really don't understand the logic either. Like you say it's not like you're hanging around talking to people. The place where your baby is buried sounds so peaceful and lovely with all the animals/nature around ❤️

@BunnytheHoneyBee Thank you for your encouraging words. I think you're right and it does come in waves, it just hit me hard as I hadn't even cried since Mother's Day. I think I need to be gentler on myself! I hope the cemetery your daughter is buried at stays open. My daughter is also buried with other babies which brings me comfort too x

[BunnytheHoneyBee]

@footprintsintheslow Exactly. What is the logic in closing cemeteries? I hardly see anyone whenever I go anyway so you hardly get people congregating and you’d think it would help people and their mental health. Could it be to do with funerals for people who have died from Covid I wonder? I really don’t know.

@1stbabs It can be horrible when that happens. I have moments like that, where I feel overwhelmed with sadness, and it can be a shock but it always passes. I’m always sad that my DD isn’t here but most of the time is somewhere in my mind rather than at the forefront. I hope you find some comfort x

I hope everyone else is ok 💕

[footprintsintheslow]

For anyone in areas with closed cemeteries it might be worth a quick email to the council if anyone has time on their hands? You can say Monmouthshire has theirs open with social distancing successfully going on.

[Seahawk80]

@1stbabs I'm sorry about the cemetery. I read somewhere that the government has said they should be reopened but the one behind our flat is still shut.

I'm feeling a bit panicky about how long lockdown will last. DH and I both work in travel and I'm so worried about our jobs. I'm just trying not to watch the news or listen to speculation. I'm feeling pretty down anyway, my mum called me to say my sister was having a bad day as her kids were driving her mad and she was feeling low so could I call her. I know everyone is entitled to a bad day but I found it so insensitive, she has 2 kids, a massive house that was just renovated, trampoline, swimming pool, they have loads of money and her husbands job is pretty safe. We are really struggling, have a smallish flat with no kitchen and the garden is basically a builders dumping ground and may never have another child but I'm meant to cheer her up! Thing is her kids drive her mad because she expects them to play on their own or watch TV and doesn't ever interact with them so I can't really have much sympathy. Anyway rant over! Hope everyone is enjoying the sun anyway.

[BunnytheHoneyBee]

@Seahawk80 Oh that would annoy me too. Especially to be asked to call her because her kids are hard work. with working from home I’ve heard so many complaints about how hard it is being at home with children and I’m sure it is hard but it’s better than the alternative of not having your child at home 🙄

When will your house be back to normal?

[footprintsintheslow]

@Seahawk80 this must be such a worrying time if you work in travel. Try to not think too long term and take each day as it comes. Sounds cliched but I find it helpful for all sorts of scenarios. Are you working from home at all?

People are so insensitive all the time. When I look back I was probably (definitely) one of those insensitive people before I knew how it was to be one of us.

[BeetheQueenBee]

How is everyone doing?

I feel I’ve done fairly well on the keeping active but today is one of the days when I really don’t feel like exercising!

I’m eating quite well but the chocolate addiction is going strong!

[Seahawk80]

Hey everyone, we seem to have dropped off this thread a bit. Is everyone doing lockdown baking and just giving up on fitness? I don't blame you! I'm back at work after furlough. It's pretty quiet, I'm in the office as I can cycle to work. Our house is still a building site but moving forward! DS is loving being back at the childminder. DH is still furloughed and his job looks iffy but trying to be positive. I fell off the couch to 5k wagon as the long runs at the end were too hard on my joints. I think I will keep running max 15 mins just 2 x a week, still something isn't it? I'm also cycling 40 miles a week.

Had a bit of a shock today, my period is late which is nothing unusual but I woke up and thought I should test and it was positive! I'm in shock as we weren't going to try until next month, I haven't even told DH, we literally DTD once. I'm so scared, both about the baby being OK and also financially. Luckily DH and I had a long talk last month about how it's not the best time to try but equally with me being 40 this year we can't wait and let's actually get to the stage where we might have a baby and then worry. As we all know a positive test doesn't mean a baby coming home. But I'm trying to stay positive and think positive thoughts. Hope everyone is doing ok xxx