TTC baby #1 Threat #2

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Hi ladies ,

@Cheyanne101
@hopefulhel
@Liam2018
@Maddy0405
@notalwaysalondoner
@Hannahb26
@CurbsideProphet
@ToCaden
@JEMMA18
@LeaBri
@bubblyboo900

Our other thread is getting quite long and I know they stop at 1,000 comments so thought I’d make a new one for us .
I am so sorry if I’ve missed anyone , just going by usernames I remember off the top of my head !
I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant (miscalculated and thought I was only 4+3). Going for an 8 week scan (I’ll be almost 9 weeks) on 25th Jan.
but I am really enjoying joining you on your journeys on TTC and you’ve all been amazing so I didn’t want to just say goodbye to the thread .
Please come on in if you’re new here , and join everyone on their journeys . I feel like we’ve been chatting forever but it’s only been a couple of months. What a roller coaster it’s been!

Anyway, as we were!

I've been thinking of you @hopefulhel I'm glad to see you, but also sorry to see you because it means you're still ttc too if that makes sense. Are you and your DH spending Saturday together?

@Liam2018 I bought OPKs but decided not to use them as I think it just looks too stressful. Why not have a month off OPKs and just dtd regularly, ie every couple of days from the end of your period? That way there's no risk of missing ovulation.

Have a date night planned. Think this is the first month where I've actually expressed concerns of ttc, he just seems to go with it when I mention dtd which is great. I'm 36 turning 37 during the summer and starting to worry I left it too late. We've holidays booked abroad for July for a few days, was holding off booking in case I was pregnant but can't live my life waiting for a bfp

I’m still here too!! We are on a road trip holiday and will be back on Valentine’s Day but I just wanted to drop in and see how everyone was doing x

Hi ladies, sorry for the being away for a while. I was on the dreaded tww again.
Thought nothing of it but got my BFP a few days ago!🎀 Still going strong now after 10 tests later.. I'm obsessed, I can't really believe it yet!
Sending you all baby dust! It's the month of love soon, I'm sure there will be plenty of dtd going on! Cant wait to see some more BFP on here.❣

Congratulations everyone with their BFP - so exciting!!

@itsemily we're marrying abroad on 29th Feb so hopefully the weather will be perfect! Hope you have a lovely anniversary.

Another question, what does OPKs mean please? Are these ovulation tests people are using? My period is very regularly (every 28 days) and I think I know when I'm ovulating as I have thicker discharge (sorry if TMI) on a specific date but do you recommend I also use these tests?

Congratulations @JEMMA18 that’s so exciting!! Did you have any symptoms? I’m on my TWW and have no symptoms so not feeling very positive but then used clearblue OPKs for the first time this month so feel pretty confident we DTD at the right time.

Am increasingly tempted to test early but know I should hold off for my own peace of mind.

@butterflyflower1234 if it’s your first month of TTC I think ovulation tests can stress you out. I’d suggest you leave them a couple of months as you might not need them anyway especially if you get clear CM changes (I don’t). I personally prefer the clearblue ones to the cheap strips as you can use them first thing in the morning and you don’t have to squint and try and figure out if the line is darker than the test line, it’s just a quick yes/no display. But they are more pricey. Enjoy your wedding!

@notalwaysalondoner thank you! I got sore boobs and a very horrible taste in my mouth that wouldn't shift other than that nothing really. I felt like I had more symptoms when I was convinced I was pregnant all the other months when I wasnt. So dont be thinking your out when you havent got any at all or very few. Got my fingers crossed for you. I was testing early and getting bfn. Waited a few more days and got a faint possitive. It's got darker since x

Congratulations @JEMMA18 Lovely to see you back with good news
Hi @Maddy0405 hope you're having a good time!

@hopefulhel I found it helped a bit when I spoke to my DH about my worries. It felt better than us both secretly worrying to ourselves. I'm 2 years behind you, though DH is a few years older. We only met at the end of 2014 so haven't had the chance to ttc sooner. We both wish we had met sooner, but we can't do anything about it unfortunately

I agree about trying to live life and not spending all our time and energy on waiting for that BFP. Obviously easier said than done, but we've made plans for being off in March and May now and I like having things to look forward to.

Negatives right?

Congrats to everyone who got bfp. Hope everything goes well for you all.

Thanks @CurbsideProphet having a great time. Been thinking about conception quite a lot still but I think that’s cow my husband keeps talking about me getting pregnant which is lovely to hear as he’s very excited about it too. We’ve been DTD absolutely loads 😂 but my cycle is so irregular I have no idea where I am in my cycle and I don’t get any obvious CM changes. So we are just enjoying our holiday and enjoying each other. I’m home on Valentine’s Day so if my period hasn’t come by then I’ll most likely do a test.

Lovely to read everyone’s bfps and to the rest of us - we can do this. Our bodies were designed specifically for this and we will get there in the end 😍

Anyone up for sharing baby name ideas? Will keep my mind off the TWW! @itsemily @JEMMA18 and others who have BFPs do you have any ideas?

I have a list on my phone so I can write them down as soon as I hear/think of them.

For girls:
Felicity
Lydia
Verity
Bronia
Bryony
Cressida
Electra
Miranda
Viola
Venetia
Flavia
Athena
Saskia
Thea
Phaedra
Marina
Serena
Cassia / Kasia
Cora
Calista
Darcy
Leonie
Aviva
Rosalie

For boys:
Jasper
Theo
Reuben
Seth
Malachi
Leighton
Rufus
Justin
Leo
Marcus
Hugo

Boys are so much harder!

Is it possible to get a false positive on a frer? Thought I got my bfp looked pink and even oh saw it hard to pick up on camera so tweaked a little. Opened another packet of frer cause used my last one and used same urine and looked negative maybe a little line but not sure:S

I'm really sorry @Liam2018 I can't see lines on any of the pics you've posted 🤷‍♀️

@notalwaysalondoner names are a minefield!

Girls:
Ally
Jojo
Elsa
Lyra are my favourites at the moment

Boys - I'm not that keen on any 😂 but best ones I've come up with:
Joss
Kit
Finn

Dont worry they are hard to see but the first one is deffo there, oh deffo saw it. I'll test in the morn and see how that goes

Thank you ladies, I've been testing every day since. I'm going crazy. But it's still there bold and clear. When will this excessive testing end.

As for baby names, I'm not sure at all. I am going to have a look tonight so I will get back to you on that, I have a few in mind but oh is not pleased with them typical.

@Liam2018 I can see a faint line in the first test. Test tomorrow again. But I can see it a little. Fingers crossed !

Thank you , another pic! Is it possible to get false positives?

Hi ladies! I’m still here just been keeping my head down really trying not to think about TCC! Last time I posted it was AF playing tricks on me and she arrived the next day . I have a bit of weight to lose, my BMI as around 35 so I have joined Slimming World and a gym, just focusing on that really for now and seeing what happens!

@Liam2018 on your first pic I could see a faint line but nothing in the second pic above, sorry! Maybe wait a few days and test again?

Fingers crossed for all out BFP’s soon, this month will be our 5th month of trying, does make you start to worry a bit!

@LeaBri I know, it will be our sixth cycle too. I’m 10dpo and CD24, had some brown CM this morning so worried it’s the start of AF. I haven’t had any cramps though so who knows. Am tempted to test but know there’s really no point until AF is properly late which will be around another four days, but I hate not knowing and how you get it your hopes up then the next minute get really dejected. Just had brunch with a friend who is seven months pregnant and wish I was on that journey too...

@notalwaysalondoner ohhh well brown CM could be implantation bleeding perhaps? I would wait until the day AF is due if you can, as hard as that is!
It really is a rollercoaster of emotions, hit me hard and I had a good cry when AF arrived! I think as hard as it is, just try to distract yourself with life so you don’t focus on it all the time, fingers crossed for you and let us know! X

I'm a bit afraid to think about baby names I've only thought about a couple of girls names: Ivy and Violet. I used to work with teenagers and there are so many names I associate with the boys who were rude I struggle to think of any "nice" names!

Hi @LeaBri this is month 4 for me now. It really is a struggle to not get too wound up in it all. It's good to have something to focus on. I've been having a big clear out and trying to walk a mile every day

It is so up and down. I was really stressed last month and am desperately trying to chill this month! This is cycle 6 for us which I know is really no time at all but it feels forever some days! I can't help but think about names when other people mention it - I'm keeping a list so I don't forget any of the good ones!

It's lovely and sunny here today and I've taken our dogs for a long walk with a friend. I'm due to be ovulating today but don't have any signs again 🤷‍♀️ Just keeping on DTD every other day! It's got to work some time right?!

To paraphrase Dory from Finding Nemo
"just keep shagging, just keep shagging"
😂😂

I'm all seriousness the uncertainty is crap and no one should feel bad if they get stressed about it. So much advice online is "it will happen when you relax" and that can be just another stick to beat ourselves with.