TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

@MilsCookie yes I’ve also thought about looking into counselling. It’s a lot to mentally deal with I think plus the hormones don’t help. I was coping okay but with the arrival of AF I’ve really really struggled so I assume the hormones are to blame! It’s hard not to let it consume your thoughts all the time and of course then I worry that the worrying will affect TTC! A viscous circle! Here’s to hoping it gets easier.

It is tricky with how friends/family are around you. My mum went through the same and my family have been great but most of my friends don’t have babies yet (or two are pregnant!!) so it’s quite difficult for them to understand I think. Also difficult that it isn’t really a linear thing in that you will be over it and able to move on, it’s a whole rollercoaster of ups and downs!

Wishing happy healthy pregnancies for us all v soon x

6 miscarriages so far, AF arrived today! Bring on Jan 2020 fingers crossed it's our year ladies xx

I’ve been reading mumsnet since my mmc in November and thought I’d join this thread now too for some positive vibes.
So many strong ladies on here.
I too sadly went to the 12 week scan to be told there was no heartbeat and baba measuring 9 weeks 5 days. No symptoms to indicate anything was wrong. I am 40 and this was to be first baby - devastating.
Had an ERPC two weeks later on 20th Nov. AF returned 15th Dec, Clearblue connected tests showed high and peak fertility so we got busy over Christmas and I’m now at the start of the 2ww. Trying to forget about it now and not stress. Fingers crossed for a BFP in Jan.
Good luck to you all, it’s unbelievable how common miscarriage is. I hate the very word now. No one really understands unless they’ve been through it.

Xx

@MilsCookie hey! I was just over 8 weeks when I found out. Had the MVA procedure on the 5th Dec, not 5th Nov as I incorrectly posted before. It will be 4 weeks this Thursday since the procedure so hoping AF will turn up soon so I can get back on it (no pun intended)!

Happy New Year everyone.
Here's to a better 2020 for us all with hopefully lots of success stories 🍾

In the meantime let's keep each other company through this madness that is TTC 😁

Happy New Year ladies!!

Wishing us all lots of love, luck, baby dust and rainbows for 2020!! 🎉❤🍀👶🏼🤰🌈🎉

Happy New Year to all you lovely Ladies. Hoping it’s a better year for all of us and that the future will be full of rainbows. Sending you all lots of love Xx

Happy new year ladies ❤❤ wishing all of us our rainbows in the new year ❤

2019 has been tough for all of us but we're all still here and we got through it 🙌🙌🙌

10mins until new year ladies. Let's make this year ours xxxxxx

Happy New Year 🥳 wishing lots of baby dust our way 💖❤️🧡💛💚💙

Happy New Year to you all! 🥂💫🌈 it’s going to be a positive year I am sure. Sending everyone lashings of baby dust! 💫 I’m excited to see what the next few months have in store for us all ☺️

@Mammacooks you’re right it is definitely a vicious circle. I am trying not to worry and my DP keeps telling me to relax which I am trying to do but it’s so hard! It’s literally all I think about when I have a spare moment.

@teaandtantrums90 welcome to the thread lovely. Goodness you’ve really been through it having had 6 mc. Have you been to the doctors to see if they can do any tests? Really feel for you. Having been through it once I can’t imagine the pain people must go through having multiples, it’s just so cruel. Really hope you’re ok and have a good support network around you. This will be our year!! 💕💫🌈

Welcome @Maisie111 - it sounds like you went through a very similar thing to me. Finding out at the 12 week scan when you’re expecting to see a healthy baby bean bumping around, to be told there is no heartbeat is just absolutely devastating. Life can be so cruel. Everyone on this thread can relate as we’ve all been through something similar, so I hope you can find some comfort and support here. Thinking of you in the TWW and sending lots of positive wishes for a BFP in the next couple of weeks! When will you be testing? 🍀🍀🍀

I am now just in the countdown to ovulation (on CD7)! 🤞💫

@latulipe hope you’re doing ok. Fingers crossed AF shows up soon for you 🤞💫

Happy new year everyone

Happy New Year Ladies. Very glad to be rid of 2019 and hopeful that 2020 will be a better year for us all.

Sorry haven’t replied earlier @Anny27 -
Both babies were in the same side. That’s my Husbands plan this year for us to try and get pregnant in both uteruses at once for a trip to see Phil and Holly on This Morning 😂 Just joking.

I have found the post on here about the double uteruses but lots of different experiences so need to medically understand my case first.

So glad we all have each other who actually understand how we are all feeling. 🤞🏻 For lots of BFP very soon. x

@MilsCookie thank you. Yes so sad to walk into that room full of excitement and leave totally shocked - traumatic doesn’t even cover it.
I hope everyone got through New Years - it all hit me again at a family party, very emotional night but today is a new year and a new start and we will all get our little rainbows in 2020 xxxx

Happy New Year lovelies.

Could anybody help me out and let me know what they think to this ovulation stick? Is this a positive... I feel like it is but not sure... thank you xx

Hi @mlax

I always thought in order for a positive result on an ovulation strip, it needs to be as dark or darker than the test line. However yours is very close so I would say BD like mad anyway! 🤣 My partner and I BD a few days before I ovulated when I concieved last time - and that day only that month - so I know you can defo get pregnant a few days before. :)

@StephyRose that's what I thought, it's almost like borderline isn't it! We DTD yesterday morning and it was negative but this is a lot darker today. I guess we'll just DTD and hope for the best! Thank you xx

It’s definitely on its way to a positive opk @mlax

🤞

Hope you all had a fab NYE :D I was happy to say goodbye to 2019 and even though it was a rubbish year it ended with my gorgeous nephew being born on NYE so even the bad year had a silver lining :)

@mlax definitley looks nearly positive! And actually, the month I fell pregnant i actually didn't get a positive positive only a nearly positive :D

@ELM7 that would be amazing wouldn't it haha! Did you know about your double womb before the pregnancy?

@StephyRose welcome lovely:D glad to see you on the conception boards too 😘

Everyone else saying they felt like a virgin again and I certainly did and got the first "dtd" over with after not DTD during pregnancy.....kinda embarrassed to say that haha but I was very nervous about miscarriage so didn't dtd.....it didn't make a different as miscarried anyway 🙈

Here are my OPKs so far (top is 30th, then 31st and then two from today).

I’m not sure when my fertile window is? I started spotting from 19th last month for five days and then had a semi-heavy bleed for only two days 24th and 25th. So I’m not sure when day 1 of my cycle was?! So thought it best to start OPKs earlier this month. The first is slightly lighter than today’s but not by much!

Does anyone else have any ideas?

Mmm not sure @disneymummysince2010 but looks like its gearing up to ovulate 🤞not positive yet though and mine usually progress quite quickly from almost blank to very positive

@Anny27 congratulations on the birth of your nephew, a good omen for our thread for this new year I'd say 💜👣

Thank you @ChampooPapi I'll certainly be giving him lots of cuddles hoping that it sends a message to my womb to make a little cousin for him 🤪😂

@Anny27 aww congrats lovely! Is it your first time being an aunty?

So I need a hand hold... I’m meeting up with one of my best school friends on Saturday after being away for 4 months and she said she wants to see me a bit earlier (I.e before we meet another friend) and I just KNOW she’s going to tell me she’s pregnant because I know she was trying for her second. I am SO happy for her but I am worried that I might crumble when she tells me this news face to face. I am just so sad because when I was pregnant I kept saying to my DP “I bet Emma* is pregnant too now and it will be so exciting to be pregnant together and have children the same age!”

I really am so so happy for her because she told me they had been trying for a few months and hadn’t had any luck (this was in August) but it still hurts 😢. Any tips on how to put on a brave face?! I am struggling not to cry right now and I haven’t cried for a few weeks about it! 😞 I feel like a horrible person for even having these feelings!