IVF students! for August and Sept, come and join us and lets share the hope and prayers!!!!!

[tempi]

Hello girls, just wanted you to know that there are 2 of us that are running with IVF this august and sept ... wondering if you want to join us?

I am afraid it wasn't good news bfn Not feeling to bad It think after 3 years me and dh have both had enough. So we have decided to give ttc a break. I will not use contraception but will not actively try. I feel quite liberated no more date watching etc. We are taking dd away on holiday next week before she starts school. So I am going to concentrate on her and dh at the moment. I think I am also going to give mumnet a break for a while I think it just makes me obsess more. Good Luck everyone.

I am afraid it wasn't good news bfn Not feeling to bad It think after 3 years me and dh have both had enough. So we have decided to give ttc a break. I will not use contraception but will not actively try. I feel quite liberated no more date watching etc. We are taking dd away on holiday next week before she starts school. So I am going to concentrate on her and dh at the moment. I think I am also going to give mumnet a break for a while I think it just makes me obsess more. Good Luck everyone.

Oh Cedar....(((((hugs)))) from me.
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Tempi.....IUI is Intra Utrine Insemination (although not necessarily spelt like that!)

My clinic sees it as the stage before IVF if all other fertility factors seem normal.
It involves injections to supress my hormones and others to give me hormones (??similar to IVF??) then I get several internal scans to check that things are growing....an hcg jab to release the eggs and then 40 hours later I have to have DHs sperm via a catheter (again....dodgy speling I'm afraid!)

I'm 'allowed' 3 attempts on the NHS....this is my last and I have woken up with AF pains this morning so not hopeful.

cedar very for you. Hope you'll have a good holiday with dd and dh. Taking a break is a good idea and I hope it will re-energise. Take care and all the best for the future. x

arhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Cedar... I am so sorry! you did you best honey and thats the most important thing.

Having a break is a good idea... we will ALWAYS be here for you when you feel ready to come back to us.

coggy thanks for the explanation. When do you test this time??????

Its so unfair about cedar isn't it!!!!!!!!! THIS TTC THING IS SO SO DIFFICULT!

I am feeling VERY fed up about it all tonight....partly because of Cedar's news I think and partly because it has never really occured to me that it may not happen....but now...I am getting further and further down the end of the road and beginning to feel rather sad.

I am not allowed to test until 16 days post procedure which would be a week today...but my AF usually comes on 14dpo....so Monday I guess.

Dear Cedar, so sorry to hear your news - this is all so very tough isnt it? I agree you should take a break. I went to docs this week and said my tolerance levels were zero at the moment and he looked at me and said no wonder!! I think we are too tough on ourselves sometimes and forget how much this TTC malarky just wears us out. So take some time out, rest and enjoy life and who knows!
take care
LNO
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Dear Coggy, nothing I can say will make you feel any better as the tww is the pits as I know too well. In a way I was relieved that they did not put back the eggs this time (although I felt really empty...) as at least I knew that we both did not need to live on a knife's edge for two weeks.

Do things that try to distract you and if you can maybe have an acupuncture session as these are supposed to aid implantation. Ive also heard brazil nuts (5 a day) or pineapple juice - the real stuff is supposed to help - the rest as they say is luck!

I am off on hols so will not catch up til end of sept so wishing you all the best and keeping my fingers x
take care
lno
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LNO glad you are ok.... enjoy your holiday try and switch off form all this TTC stuff (it really takes it out of you as you well know!)

Coggy.... so sorry you are feeling sad. I know it is difficult... but try and stay positive. LNO is right! acupuncture is supposed to be good for implantation, so this may help.

I am having accupucture for ttc and my therapist is going to do a pre and post implantation treatment for me... so we will see if it works!

I know what you mean about feeling so 'down'.....all this is so draining! I am just not thinking about my treatment, to the point where I feel I am watching someone else have it done on the telly!.....I guess i feel cut off form it all.. I don't know if its a good or bad thing. But I just feel there are son many 'ifs' and 'buts' before I even begin to come up to the stage of testing!

THE VERY VERY VERY BEST OF LUCK.

Cedar... if you are still looking in, you are in my thoughts.

AF came today...right on time so that's it for a while now as this was my fourth and last IUI treatment.
I am going to be lined up for IVF in January.
I guess I'm going to have to find lots of things to do between now and then so I don't feel like I am just marking time.

I will keep lurking and sending you all positive vibes of course.
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COGGY!!!!!!!!!! I thought everyone had left this thread!

So so sorry about AF!!!! Just concentrate on building up your mental strength for January!!!!

I am now in my second stage of IVF. My donor has started her stimulating injections and I have started taking lots of tablets to get my uterus ready!!! Its all a bit scary really!

Its starting to feel real!

Egg collection will be about 17th Sept... so transfer will be about 21st Sept. I am going to have 2 weeks off work to rest..... but will not tell work why as lots of employers can be funny about IVF treatment are we are not technically sick and its voluntary !

So glad you came back here.

Thanks Tempi.....I am still very ignorant about what happens with IVF.
I guess I will have a planning meeting fairly soon about it all?

Is it regular pratice to have the two weeks off work afterwards. I want to do EVERYTHING I can to make it work as I think this will be my one and only go at it.

I bet you feel scared and excited all at the same time.
Do you know your donor (told you I was totally ignorant about these things!)

What tablets are you taking?
I suppose I will be different as they will be trying to stimulate my own eggs....if that works...I know I had slightly raised FSH levels last year so we will see.

I am constantly checking on here for news!
Sometimes I just lurk but I do always check......good to hear from you too....it was feeling a bit lonely!!!!!

coggy great to hear from you.

I had slightly raised FHS also and I am 43yrs....so because this is our last chance at having our baby..... we decided to go for donor eggs. We just couldn't run the high risk of it not working with my own.

My donor is a friend. She is 29yrs with 2 gorgeous little boys 2yr and 1yr.

Basically its the donor that goes through the IVF..... The tablets that I am taking is Oestrogen to get the lining of my uterus ready for the embryo transfer.

The time off work thing is very debatable! but because this is our very last chance, we wanted to do EVERYTHING to make it work!!!!!!

I agree....think I shall be booking plenty of rest off too when my time comes.

I hope it all goes really smoothly and, of course, successfully for you Tempi.....keep updating.
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Thanks coggy.

Will keep posting when I have news....I think those 2 weeks off work will be a killer, but it must be done! I will try and keep my mind off things! (oh yea......right!)

Also lurking!!!

Hi Tempi - thinking of you - hope all is well with both you and your very special friend & her family. Will keep you in mind. Have you considered acupunture to help boost womb lining and aid implantation? There is pretty good eveidenc it helps.
I did not take the tww off - but then I also knew by then success was unlikley due to a problem with my embryos at ET (they had not continued to divide) - I think you can only do what you feel most comfortable with - and also depends how physical and stressful your work is. Good luck!!

Coggy - honestly - IVF is physically not that bad - sure you have to inject (& I'm not squimish) and you have a fair number of dildocam experiences (but suspect that was true of IUI too).
Emotionally it was tough post BFN as I had seen it as a "if all else fails" scenario - sadly I did not have beginners luck - I have a few weeks of dark thoughts.... punctuated by everyone and her dog seemingly announcing their pregnancies.

Feel free to ask ANY questions. - When you know what protocol you are on then you'll get a better idea of what to expect. Have you visited the Fertility friends chat site - it is riddled with OTT icons but also full of hands on experience where no question is too silly, odd or stupid.

CDxxx

PMSL at your dildocam experiences...spent several minutes wondering what on earth you meant til I read it out loud!!!!

Yes.....IUI means LOTS of those as well as lots of self-injecting so I won't mind that bit.....I think it's just the finality that concerns me and how I will handle it if that's it.

I will check out FF also and let you know what I am doing nearer the time when I have my panning meeting sometime in the next few months.
Thank you CD.
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fertilityfriends dot co dot uk

There are areas for specific problems as well as most clinics - and general peer help areas.

It has been (and still is) very helpful for me... though I need MN for sanity (the fluffy overuse of bouncing silliness can get a bit much on some threads!!)
The moderators are more involved too... but, as I say, it has been a great comfort and resourse at times.

CDxx

Just quickly poping to say hello. Sorry coggy about af and good luck for January. Tempi will be thinking of of you and keep every thing crossed for you. The holiday did us all the world of good, We are going to relax about it all not worry about dates etc and just see what happens as dh sperm count etc has gone through the roof!! motility went from 32% before ivf to over 80% I think so you never know. I am going gives mumnet a rest for the moment but will pop in every week or so to see how you all are. Good Luck every one.

cedar and chocolatedays!!!!!!! so great to hear from you! and it is so nice to know that you guys are lurking in the background, keeping an eye on us!

Yes!!! I am already having acupuncture and will have a pre and post transfer treatment, just waiting for a date so I can tell my therapist!

Its now been 4 days of me taking oestrogen tabs and my donor injecting herself...... its all getting nearer. Her scan is on wed am to check stimulation of ovaries and mine is sunday morning to check my uterine lining.

Its so nice to know that you are both around as well as coggy.

Just popped in to see how you are doing. You OK?

The hosital have told us that they will harvest my donors eggs on Wed (19/9/7) and they will tranfer the embryos in me on Friday (21/9/7)

I am excited and anxious........will it work?????????? trying to keep positive!

Hope you are all ok.