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One fucking year

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FthisS · 27/11/2019 16:47

That's how long it's been now. I would happily never have sex again but I know by the middle of next week I will be singing the welsh national anthem in my head.

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 10/12/2019 05:36

No idea where I’m at right now. CD 36 when I’m normally between 28-32 days. No sign of AF but no BFP either. Confused

Hhdxx · 10/12/2019 20:24

@Maisy24 Hi Maisy. We've been trying for 14 months and went to the doctors straight away at 12 months. So far, I was sent for my blood tests on the wrong day but apparently they've come back normal. Don't know how they can say this when it was on the wrong day. My husband's results have come back as abnormal and has done another SA but waiting on results now. The doctor told us that we won't be referred until we've passed the 2 year mark?!?!?!?!?!

I have been ill this month so ovulated on day 22! Ahhhhh crazy time. This is all sending me mad. I feel like I've changed as a person and genuinely don't enough life as much anymore. xxxx

zoomies1 · 10/12/2019 20:39

@BeingATwatItsABingThing you should go to your GP but if they know the dates and you are in you’re twenties(?) be prepared for them to send you away. Hopefully that won’t happen though. All you can do is try and your GP might be lovely.

Maisy24 · 10/12/2019 22:24

@BewilderedBee wow 7 months!! I suppose I'm in for a long wait then for my appointment 😒 I asked the doctor about waiting times but she just said she doesn't know and it depends on how long the list is. I'm not hopeful at all!

@Hhdxx sorry you've been trying for a while, it's so disheartening. What day did they do the blood tests? did they tell you what they tested? You should have had two, one on day 5 and one after ovulation to confirm it happened. What was abnormal in the SA? Also I lied to my doctor and added a few months to get me to the 2 year mark. I don't want to waste any more time. Ovulation on day 22 doesn't sound too bad? You'll have around a 35 dayish cycle? I think that's still normal. I know what you mean but try and think of the things you are thankful for and plan lots of things to do that can be a distraction. I book holidays, plan days out, concentrate on my pets. Little things help xxxxxxxx

Maisy24 · 10/12/2019 22:25

@FthisS how are you doing lovely? Xxxx

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FthisS · 10/12/2019 22:37

Hey everyone (and welcome to the gang any newcomers). I've been pretty down the last few days but I'm a little more rational now, trying to focus on christmas which I do tend to go crazy on (I mean really overboard). I think this is mainly because I had an awful childhood and secondly because all the children have is us I tend to over compensate for this.
Anyway can't remember who asked about home schooling (sorry) it is just until January. I had a thread on here a few months back about moving my son from a catholic school and people did warn me that I it would probably go downhill for my daughter which it did. The admissions officer would not give a mid term transfer so I have her with me until January. It's flipping hard to be honest but it was the best decision because I could not possibly return her to that cult school.
I will have a proper catch up of the thread tomorrow. I'm pretty much out this month because of a number of reasons. H is a singer (not in steps though he does sometimes sing tragedy) so christmas is bloody busy and we can't make up for lost time during the day because of our daughter so it's just one of those blinking things.

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 11/12/2019 05:53

zoomies1 My doctor is brilliant but I doubt I would get tests yet. You’re right. I’m 25. I also already have a DD.

Still no sign of AF.

zoomies1 · 15/12/2019 16:40

Hi All, How's everyone doing?

I have finally submitted my paperwork for my referral!

Had DH's SA test results.....not great. Motility is only 3% so he has to go for a re-test. Everything else is JUST about normal and I think total sperm count was 57 million which is normal but I'm not sure its high enough to make up for everything else being only 1% into the normal range. Fingers crossed his re-test comes back ok.

He still won't take his vitamin without being reminded though and its driving me crazy!! I have had to take time off work for invasive procedures, blood tests, doctor's appointments etc and he can't even take a vitamin. Trying to work out how to say it without starting an argument!!

zoomies1 · 15/12/2019 16:47

oopps, meant 3% morphology.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 15/12/2019 19:25

Men are annoying like that aren’t they!

AF made her presence known on Friday and decided to make up for lost time. Sad

Onto cycle 13 for me...

Hhdxx · 15/12/2019 19:40

@Maisy24 They did the blood tests on day 22. But they told me to go on day 21 but I ovulate late so thought I'd go a day later. On the SA morphology was abnormal (1.7%) and everything else normal. But now second result morphology is 6.5% which is a massive improvement but motility is low at 37% and only 17% of those being progressive which means there's less chance I guess? Has your OH had SA done? I've kept myself so busy but it's all I think about. It's so bad! Thank you for your message xx

@zoomies1 my husbands morphology was 1.7% so for one month he has cut down on alcohol and caffeine and it has gone up to 6.5% He has also been taking vitamin tablets. It's worth a try!! Sometimes it can be just a bad batch, so maybe he was ill? Good luck xxxx

Annie20019 · 15/12/2019 20:24

@FthisS I hope things become less stressful/busy!

You are incredibly selfless, you have all of this going on yet you are so supportive to all on here.
Merry Christmas all!

Annie20019 · 15/12/2019 20:27

@zoomies1
Bless you, it’s sounds stressful!
It might be worth having a chat, but by using assertive communication. Avoid the work you and explain how it’s making you feel, good luck!

TheBeesKnee · 15/12/2019 22:34

Hi, another Bitter Betty here 🙋‍♀️

I am 14 months into TTC and found out in the summer that DP basically doesn't produce sperm. He's had surgery to repair a varicosele and this is cycle 2 of when we expected results.

My rant is that my SIL told me she was in labour while I was on the toilet dealing with a shockingly early and unexpected period. I cried my eyes out while decanting blood and womb lining directly into the toilet and when she sent me photos of the baby I ignored her messages all evening because I couldn't bear to look. She's one of those people who blinks and they're pregnant.

I was having a self pity party with crying and posh tea in bed when I found this thread - and I'm glad that I did as it's made me laugh in places if nothing else. Totally agree that this experience has made me nasty and I don't think I'll tell anyone if I ever fall pregnant, people will just see me with a child one day and I'd say "oh yes I had a baby 4 years ago" really casually like a lunatic

Maisy24 · 16/12/2019 00:38

@TheBeesKnee haha brilliant, I'm exactly the same when I'm eventually pregnant no one will know. I'm keeping it to myself as there is literally nothing worse than people rubbing it in. I picture just bumping into people and being like oh yeah this happened. 🤣

I went away with friends this weekend and got a text message when I got there from my SIL "hi auntie maisy, can't wait to meet you in 2020"... she's pregnant. I genuinely felt sick , obviously I replied as if I was over the moon, but then I preceded to get messages from my other SILs "come on you need to hurry up" 😑 why does this have to be so hard.

Hhdxx · 17/12/2019 16:59

@TheBeesKnee heya! I've TCC for 14 months now too. Such a drag!

Do people tell you to think of something else and it will happen...erm how do I think of something else? I literally can't!! I really feel like this is never going to happen...ever!?!?!?!

xx

TheBeesKnee · 17/12/2019 23:18

Hhdxx

I've only told a couple of people who I know have also had fertility issues for this exact reason! I don't think I could be polite to unhelpful comments like that.

zoomies1 · 18/12/2019 11:03

@Hhdxx thanks. Fingers crossed.

I had a real moment of frustration this week asking myself why it isn’t happening. I just cannot understand!!

Christmas do last night. Bloody baby talk. One of the team is pregnant so I have to admit that I avoided her. And my manager said that he thought I was pregnant because I was having a softie. I was just pacing myself but hearing that followed by a message from DH to say his colleague who just got married is now also pregnant (that’s seven people currently) meant I may have stopped pacing. Plus, manager told everyone I was off for surgery (hysteroscopy) so I told him off for that too

Was I unreasonable l?

TheBeesKnee · 18/12/2019 11:24

zoomies1

That is shocking, your manager should not be gossiping about your private medical matters!!

Hhdxx · 18/12/2019 17:05

@Hhdxx you most definitely aren't unreasonable.

I'm trying so hard not to think about it because I feel like I'm getting on my husband's nerves. We are waiting till new year to book an appointment.

I also avoid people who are pregnant or who have recently had a baby. I find it too painful.

XXX

Hhdxx · 13/01/2020 16:47

Hello. I wondered how everyone is getting on? I'm 5dpo and have really sore boobs. Does anyone else get this? Do you think it could be a hormone problem?
Were putting off going to the doctors 😭

Pizzaaddict · 13/01/2020 18:20

Sorry to butt in, I stumbled upon this thread and read through it. Have any of you tried preseed?? My first baby was an “accident” ten years ago and when I met my current partner we tried for months and months and nothing. Then I tried preseed and was pregnant instantly. That ended in a loss but we kept using it and I was pregnant after that loss within a few weeks. He is now 20 months and we also have a 7 week old (I believe) through using preseed

Pizzaaddict · 13/01/2020 18:21

Btw I’m not trying to sell preseed 😂

BabyMoonPie · 13/01/2020 18:38

I'm into month 14. GP has started the referral process. I was going to have January off to help my mental health but I just can't - time is not on my side

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/01/2020 18:53

I got my BFP this month and am now 4+4. That was cycle 13 for me and didn’t do anything differently. 🤞this sticks for me.

I hope you all get your BFPs soon.