One fucking year

[FthisS]

That's how long it's been now. I would happily never have sex again but I know by the middle of next week I will be singing the welsh national anthem in my head.

I've known people who had 'an accident', later on tried to become pregnant again and didn't though nothing medically wrong with either of them. It's just the way things are.

That’s me right now.

@FthisS I'm lol-ing re steps, you've cheered me up. Wtf about the ex-heroin addict, that is totally taking the pi**. Does anyone else remember when they were younger they were petrified to get pregnant & now there's not a whiff of a BFP when you actually desperately want it? its just not fair.

There's a girl I work with who's just announced she's pregnant & has PCOS, she was due to go for IVF.....then naturally got BFP, it's so unfair bcos I have nothing medically wrong with me that I know off & she's ended up pregnant before me! I'm really struggling to deal with her in work though luckily she doesn't know about my MC or TTC so I can hide a bit.

Hi all. I’ve been trying for 14 months now... when do you recommend I speak to GP? Only 25 and starting to get worried now

@Pearlg I don’t think it’s unfair the girl at work got her BFP before you... She’s clearly struggling a LOT if she would soon be going for ivf

Hi All,

I have to join this thread! I'm on my 14th month and it's driving me insane that everyone else I having babies around me. I keep on getting told.."relax and it'll happen"! I was relaxed for the first 8 months and it hasn't happened and after 1 miscarriage and 2 chemical pregnancies I am losing the will to live!

Anyone else feeling the same?

DON'T TAKE PREGNACARE if you're trying to conceive.

I got pregnant completely accidentally the first time round. I missed my pill for 3 days after being on it for 16 years! Have an almost 3yo DD (obvs no prep in terms of ore-natal vitamins)

Second time, I got pregnant without really trying... ended in MMC at 11 weeks (no pre-natal vitamins).

After this, was keen to get pregnant again- first experience of 'trying' to conceive- months and months and NOTHING. Took pregnacare to help. Cycles starting going haywire when they've always been regular. Ran out of Pregnacare and... got pregnant that cycle.

Main message is that if you are trying to conceive and have suddenly experienced weird changes to your cycle (as many have mentioned) STOP TAKING PREGNACARE.. There are so many stories of it messing up cycles online, just google it.

@Thefaceofboe to me it feels unfair. I'm not taking away her struggles, it's how I'm feel right now- selfish or not I don't care. I was pregnant & should already have had my baby by now.

I have to take a very high dose of folic acid because I had a pregnancy with anencephaly before and Ian Watkins H had a brother who had spina bifida. These tablets make me sick but I'm too scared to stop taking them.

One good thing about having no friends or family is that I don't have to contend with pregnancy announcements...you guys are ok though if any of you post a bfp I will be jealous and cry genuinely pleased

Thefaceofboe

This thread should be a place of support for everyone. No one should be ashamed of how they feel because TTC is awful and does horrible things to you. I have had some terrible thoughts towards other people and felt pure jealousy about pregnancy announcements. I compare myself to them and declare myself more worthy.

We need to be here for each other to remind ourselves that we aren’t alone.

Completely agree @BeingATwatItsABingThing when I got told at my 12wk scan that the baby had anencephaly and it was incompatible with life having to leave the scan room was hard with everyone looking at me because I was crying so hard. But there in the waiting room was a woman who outside I had seen smoking and being rough with her toddler, in that moment I felt like punching the back of her head screaming at her. This process is so draining that it destroys you. Everyone should be able on this thread to be as irrational as they like. To fuck with the nice rules.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing

I couldn't have said it better myself, summed it up perfectly. I've had these thoughts and conversations with myself too. I think we are normal! Coming on here & chatting helps me so much bcos it gets so lonely TTC.

@FthisS lol remember not to accidentally call your real H 'Ian' now I have that '5,6,7,8' song in my head haha!!

FthisS

I’m so sorry you went through that.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing
I completely agree and don’t like dragging other people down. Anyone going through the struggle of PCOS and ivf isn’t going to find that comment very supportive, that’s all. I was just saying that I’m sure she has gone through a lot to finally get her BFP x

I’m sure she has been through a lot but that doesn’t make it any easier on those of us still waiting. We can irrationally declare it unfair!

When the BFPs start appearing on this thread, I’m sure we’ll all say we’re happy for each other whilst deep down hating that poster because it should be us.

Sorry I have to agree with @Thefaceofboe. I understand being jealous and angry at people who get pregnant by accident but being so negative about someone who clearly longs for a baby too is sad. TTC does crazy things to us all but just wish them congratulations and move on

@Thefaceofboe nobody is more worthy of being pregnant than anyone else, PCOS or not. The disappointment and feelings of jealously that it's not you are real and you cannot not make yourself feel something- even if you know it's irrational. & I do wish everyone who gets a BFP well obviously!

@FthisS so sorry to read your last post that must have been so incredibly tough xx

@Pearlg I agree. I can sympathise with the feeling of jealousy believe me. The confusion and upset every month is starting to get unbearable for me x

@BeingATwatItsABingThing I think it just proves it's chance most of the time when it happens 😣 hopefully it will happen for us soon.

@Pearlg so sorry it's taking so long for you also. I'd say both you and @FthisS try and put out of your mind that it's your Husbands fault, I knows it's hard but to save yourselves from any relationship problems remember whatever is meant to be will be. I know it's hard. You both have plenty of time yet, it will happen. Also about the woman at your work I know how you feel, I should win an Oscar for the act I pull off when people announce or tell me about their pregnancies. We have told no one other than my mum and I am so glad, I do not want any sympathy from anyone.

@FthisS I know what you mean, I keep worrying about drinking, taking the right vitamins, eating the right foods etc, but then I think why bother when drug addicts and generally unhealthy people can get pregnant so easily? Haha I lol at the "I will be happy if any of you get pregnant" I honestly will never ever be a smug pregnant woman, I think when I get my BFP I won't tell anyone because I know how bad it feels for people trying, the Instagram announcement are THE WORST! If you have no family or friends we are here for you to talk/rant 🥰

@Bluerussian thanks for the advice, you are right, I'm still planning holidays, going out as much as possible, I try to plan things and keep positive not for myself but for my husband. I am going with the positive thinking approach from now and thinking it will happen when it is meant to happen.

@Thefaceofboe I think @Pearlg meant it felt unfair to her, which is understandable when she has nothing diagnosed and been through a lot. I'd go to your gp just to have the standard tests done, it anything it will give you peace of mind to be able to relax.

@MummyT13 yep definitely feeling the same, I know it would be heartbreaking but I kind of wish I'd had a chemical or something, I've not even had so much as a faint line in 16 months 😭, it is impossible to relax after this long, and like you I was very relaxed( probably too relaxed) for a good 6-9months!

@Maisy24 Thanks for replying. I will most likely go to the doctors in the new year, I think I have been putting it off because I’m scared something is wrong and I will have to face reality

@Thefaceofboe @Pearlg @Pussinboots25 @BeingATwatItsABingThing agree with everyone. No matter how deep down we wish people well, it is impossible to have rational thinking when we are all going through so much. Let's all support eachother without judgement on here ❤️

Also I actually think I wouldn't be upset at all if any of you got BFPS as it would give me hope it just takes time ❤️

@Maisy24 thanks for reply, you are right I do want to stop thinking it's my husbands fault & looking to him for blame, who's to say this wouldn't have happened anyway 5years ago! Your Oscars performance, that made me smile. Like you when the BFP finally does come I'll be keeping it quiet, and yes any BFP on this thread would reassure me that it's going to be okay - we will all get there!

@Pearlg WE WILL GET OUR BFPS soon 😁💗

@Maisy24 would be a nice Christmas present!

It's been a year trying for me as well. I have been pregnant twice that time, but both times I miscarried at 12 weeks.

Absolutely fucking sick of pregnant people. Saw someone today who announced she's 'having another" whilst making a kind of twee "whoops! silly me" gesture

Imagine that! not only getting pregnant and staying pregnant once...but twice! I don't even have one baby - and here we have people parading around smugly announcing their second fucking pregnancy like it's easy or something.

Don't get me started on every single pregnant woman in my office, and all the annoying people with their stupid gender reveals of instagram.

Thanks @Maisy24 Well it happened quickly before, not sure it will again but trying to see the positives. Thanks for acknowledging me and good luck to you in TTC.

No one else acknowledged my post though so don’t think this is the thread for me

Good luck to you OP