TTC after baby loss / stillbirth

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I’m mid-thirties. My first child was stillborn at full term early this year. My second pregnancy, around 6 months later, ended in early miscarriage.

I’m now on CD21 and about 5DPO.

Anyone else?

I find some of the TTC boards hard to relate to as they’re either those who have never suffered a loss or those who have had early losses / RMC or general fertility issues. I am not trying to compare losses. Any loss is difficult but I know for me my miscarriage at 5 weeks did not even register compared to losing a baby at full term. It was disappointing but more so because I wanted to be pregnant and wasn’t any more.

@sh84 If it’s working for you then keep doing it. I might go back to it but I’ve found we’ve been dtd at least every other day when I think I’m fertile so maybe no need unless I’m getting my dates v wrong!! The CB ones are expensive too but I did track for a few months. It’s about ten months now that we’ve been TTC (I got pregnant and had MC in that time) so we’ll see what happens.

I just finished at the gym and plan to go shopping this afternoon and then hopefully just relax. Probably going to parents’ for dinner tomorrow.

Hi ladies, how is everyone doing?x

Hi @lunamoon1 How are you? I lost the thread and just had to google it to find it!

I’m ok. Had a couple of weeks of feeling quite low but been feeling better the last couple of days. It’s Mothers Day tomorrow which can be a tough time but I’ve barely thought about it with all that’s going on and probably won’t see my mum tomorrow now. I’m worried about my parents and other family members as well as myself and DH. It’s all very scary and puts some things into perspective tbh

I don’t love the idea of working from home and being stuck in the house as I tend to feel worse if I’m in the house all day but I actually think it would be a good time for us all to be locked down as people are still taking unnecessary risks IMHO.

In other news I think I’m in my fertile week which might have contributed to my mood improving but being pregnant now would be scary too!

Sorry for rambling...

Happy Mother’s Day to you wonderful ladies. Zain passed away just over 7 weeks ago now and I still feel so empty. Today is particularly hard for me, as I know it will be for you too, but I just wanted you all to know that you are all in my thoughts. ❤️

I’m so sorry about Zain @BrokenNlost and thanks for your kind words. Be kind to yourself today

And thinking if everyone else who is away from their child or mother today

💕

@BunnytheBee hi again, that's no problem. I'm glad to hear you're feeling better it's been a rough time lately and life out there feels very different now with everything that's going on!

Agreed, it is so important to be cautious. My DH's parents work in a high risk job where they come into contact with a lot of people so we'll be staying away for a while, I don't like to because we're used to seeing them every week but need to do what's best for everyone.

WFH can feel very isolating too I bet, it's so important to still get outside for a wander around, that's why I'm grateful to have my little dog as she keeps me motivated.

I hope you had a restful Mother's Day filled with lots of love💖 and to you too @BrokenNlost I'm so sorry for your loss💫

@BunnytheBee hope this is your month. I have my Fingers crossed for you.

@lunamoon1, I know that you’re trying too- my fingers are crossed for you too.

I’ve had a hell of a month. My husband and I went to sands meeting where we met others who get us and what we’re going through. I’ve had bloods taken for thrombophilia so get my results next week (unless this virus has put a delay not that too). So feeling anxious about the results but it’s one step closer to finding out the cause of Zain’s death. Although I am prepared that I may never know which sucks.

There’ll be no more tests after this so We have decided to start trying again. With being on maternity leave and our next pregnancy being high risk it makes sense to do it while I’m not working and can rest as much as I need to and go to weekly or fortnightly appointments for them to check my cervix take blood etc.

We’ve also decided to keep it a secret until 9 months (if we get there as baby will be at risk of premature birth again) as it was so exhausting having to deal with our family and friends emotions as well as ours. I know everyone reacts differently but you guys may have had the same.

Are you guys worried about getting pregnant during this virus? It’s something I’ve thought of.

Hope everyone else is ok too.

@lunamoon1 It’s nice to hear from you. The same thing keeps keeps happening with this thread. I just googled it again to find it 🙄

How are you doing? We are working from home full time now and it’s weird not to be able to see my parents. My mum is on the high risk list but it’s hard to get her to stay home. She shouldn’t even be going shopping or for walks but it’s been hard work even to get her stop working although she has now.

I went to a Sands meeting online last week and I found that really good.

@BrokenNlost I hope the Sands meeting was helpful and I hope your results were what you wanted.

I have thought about whther TTC right now is a good idea but given I’ve been trying about a year now and I’m 36 I don’t think I can put off TTC indefinitely. I can understand you wanting to keep your pregnancy secret for 9 months. I don’t think I’d be able to manage that unless I got pregnant now while we’re all still in lockdown.

I hope you’re ok.

💕

How are you all doing?

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