Anyone starting their TTC journey in July 2019?

[TurquoiseKiss]

Anyone in the same boat? I'm 33 and from next week DH and I will be actively trying for #1. I'm excited, nervous, trying to be chill about it all but also imagining myself with a bump celebrating Xmas this year

I started taking SS 'trying for a baby' supplements 4 weeks ago, not sure if it was their effects or not but this month my cycle was 20 days. Otherwise i'm 27 days always. Anyways, let's see what happens.

Hoping to find some pals in a similar place at the moment on here!

@Wearenotyourkind congratulations!!! So so pleased for you really wonderful news! @Positivity2019 and @Missgoldilocks I hope it will be your turn soon.

Thank you so much @Wakemeupwithcoffee 💗

@Positivity2019 hey how are you? I'm pretty sure af will be with me come the weekend, cramps have started andy cervix has rsumed it's very low and hard position. ☔😞 It's very difficult to not be upset at this time each month. Hope you're well x

Sorry to hear that @Missgoldilocks :-(

I was just thinking about the original poster @TurquoiseKiss I think she may due around now?

I’m so sorry to hear you think af is on her way @Missgoldilocks. It is so disheartening when you get that sinking feeling that it is over for the month. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you that it’s a sneaky positive month for you. As they say it’s not over until it’s over. Be kind to yourself, this is a mentally draining time and it’s just so rough the longer it takes but we will get there!!
I am doing ok. Got through af and started opk testing today. My plan this month is to DTD more over the fertile period. If we are up to the challenge get cracking twice in a day over those crucial peak days.

@Wakemeupwithcoffee I think you are probably right. Such an exciting time for all you guys with you little beans.

@Wearenotyourkind hope you are fine X

@Positivity2019 I'm planning on that too, dtd twice on cd14 since I always ovulate cd15. Yeah it's hard, I woke up this morning to a tiny but of spotting and a little bit of me hoped it was due to pregnancy lol and dtd last night with a sensitive cervix but it's just pre af spotting. I'm due Sunday so maybe it'll come early on Saturday instead x

@Missgoldilocks how are you doing?

@Positivity2019 hey, af came for me yesterday morning which was my birthday! Lovely present hah. Hoping for some better luck on this next cycle 10...I was feeling positive that it should happen soon but I feel myself getting upset again thinking about being let down again. How are you?

I’m so sorry @Missgoldilocks. I know how I feel on AF day and for it to be your bday that’s not nice. It will happen for us one day but man we are being tested while we wait. Be kind to yourself and indulge in something you really love. I hope you were spoiled for you birthday.

I am ok. I bought the clear blue fertility monitor and I got a peak reading on day 9 and 10 which confused me as it’s way off my Ava bracelet predictions and also didn’t really have any other symptoms. I’m day 11 today and it’s reading as high so I’ll just have to wait and see what happens over the next few days. Every time I use OPK sticks I just get more confused and fall into the depths of the internet trying to decipher what it must mean to apparently be ovulating on day 10/11 and how I can extend it. So yea, that’s super fun.
We are basically DTD as much as possible and waiting and seeing. I am trying to work hard at weight loss and yoga to help my chances.

@Positivity2019 sorry you're confused, I would be too. Yes, these things really add to the frustration of it all, I bought cheap opks this month because luckily I always ovulate cd15 but I'm sure they're going to stress me more than anything else.

We are definitely being tested, I would have never thought it would take so long 😩 but I hope we get some good news really soon! I think my biggest fear is it going on for +years...

@Missgoldilocks That is my fear too. That this is going to take years. I am already 35 and turn 36 in September and I would love to have three or four kids. Feel like at this rate I’ll be lucky to get 1.

@Positivity2019 I really hope you have one soon, then the next one after that will be so quick it'll shock you! Wam bam thank you mam haha 🙏😁

Thanks @Missgoldilocks. I do hope that once I’ve had one the others may come easier. But that may be another naive comment like the ones I used to make when I first started trying and thought this would be quick.
Today I’ve had some spotting. I’m on day 15 and according to my Ava bracelet today is ovulation day. But according to the clear blue monitor I ovulated on day 11/12. I don’t usually get spotting so makes me worried my hormones are out of whack. Trying not to stress about it, I figure what will be and until the GP services start accepting non urgent appointments and I can start getting checked out I can’t really control what’s happening.
Hope you’re fine.

@Positivity2019 hey how are you getting on? Where are you in your cycle now? I'll be ovulating on Sunday

Hey guys,

Would you mind if I join you? I am 34. TTC since June last year, so 11 months. Feeling really emotional and overwhelmed this month. My DH and I both had tests done privately at 6 months and all looked well. I just don't know how much longer to try naturally for. As it's unexplained the only real option is IVF. My doctor told me IUI only has around a 10% chance of working if it's unexplained.

I am sorry to be a misery guts. I am normally more positive. Currently in the 2WW 8dpo. I can't face testing until at least 12dpo. Seen too many BFNs!

Big love to you all - I am pleased I found this group. Have most / some of you been trying for a similar time? Will bring positive vibes next time I promise.

x

@jx0x0 hey there and welcome! Listen we have been trying a long time so we understand the frustration and negativity that can come with it❤️ I came off copper coil last year April but started really trying in august so about 10 months realistically. It's super hard, the waiting and not knowing especially if there is nothing wrong. It could just take a little time though... Are you having sex at the right time etc? You probably know what you're doing by now lol but things like taking your temperature can really help if you are already...
I get really negative about it when I'm around 8dpo as by then I'm 100bpercent sure I'm not pregnant! It's dismal but this is a place for support :)
Maybe give it to 15 months and then think about ivf? My doc said you aren't classed as infertile till it's been 2 years apparently even though I'm losing my mind already at 10 months. Obviously at 34 as well you would want to get a move on I imagine, there's nothing wrong with ivf xx

Hi @Missgoldilocks and welcome @jx0x0.
I’m doing ok. I am on CD21, roughly 6-9 days past ovulation. My Ava told me one thing and my Clearblue fertility monitor told me another. No symptoms or anything just a in my gut feeling that this isn’t our month. Feels like it never will be.
How are you doing @Missgoldilocks In the run up to ovulation?

@jx0x0 I’ve been trying about the same time as you. Took my last pill end of May. It feels like a never ending journey. However, so many stats seem to indicate the odds are in our favour and many people conceive within the second year so we need to hope for that.

@Positivity2019 - wow it's so nice to connect with you. We are literally in sync. We have been trying for the same amount of time and I am also I 9dpo. This is my first week as an active member of mumsnet. I am not talking to a lot of people about our journey so it's nice to talk to people who are going through a similar experience. You're right that the odds are in our favour. I am keeping everything crossed but not feeling like this month is our month. Not had any symptoms apart from a temp drop on 7dpo/8dpo. Temp back up today but feeling the same as I do every month. I hope you are doing ok and feeling positive? x

Alos @Missgoldilocks - thank you for taking the time to respond to me. I really appreciate it. I am feeling more positive today. Yesterday was a really emotional one and your message really helped. Thank you. Sending you love and luck for this cycle. x

@Positivity2019 I really hope it is your month! Fingers crossed 🤞 but I do understand how you feel. Well we have dtd so much I'm actually sick of it I don't want anymore but I need to tonight tomorrow and maybe Monday. I really hope this month we get some good news I honestly honestly need a break from dtd it's way too much pressure and I honestly don't know how we are going to get our sex life back??? It's that bad x

@Missgoldilocks I don’t think it is bad at all. TTC is a much harder emotional journey than I ever imagined and I would say it wrecks havoc on your sex life the most. I felt it for the first time this month, that feeling that we have to do it but really don’t want to. For the first time he was unable to finish and the whole experience left us feeling awkward with each other for a day. We had a chat and that made us feel better for sure but I can see it becoming more a regular thing. Without trying or meaning to it has become somewhat regimented and we had gone into this telling each other we would continue to enjoy the sex. But I think the feelings of disappointment at not conceiving are directly linked to the shitter sex.
So after a long speal, I totally understand but am hopeful that once we get that BFP some of the pressure will be gone and we can go back to enjoying it.
Maybe once you are past your ovulation days you guys could take a couple days off and then maybe have a date night. Cool a nice meal or get takeout if you can. Watch a silly movie where you can engage in some teenage heavy petting and then move it to the bedroom. Few beverages if you both drink. Zero pressure, it’s not about conception just you and him. You’ve prob already tried that or had it suggested already. Or else take some time for you. Next time you’re in a supermarket but some new Pjs and something nice for a bath or for a relax with a book. I love a new set of pjs to make myself feel better 😂

@jx0x0 I am glad you reached out. I struggled to message people on here for a while and I don’t contribute a massive amount on other threads, just now and then. So yea it’s good to connect with you. Hitting the year mark is a big disappointing milestone for us and we had been planning to contact a doc to start tests etc but that’s all been halted for now.
Fingers crossed for you. A temp drop could be a good sign and also I had two best mates have babies last Aug and they said they had no symptoms the month they conceived so could also be a good sign. I have no symptoms either. Temp has been a bit weird this month, lower than usual I think. I also had some spotting for a day around ovulation and that’s not normal for me so feel like this is a weird month and not holding my breath that it’s our lucky one.
Look after yourself X

@Positivity2019 thank you for that message much appreciated ❤️ I do love some new pyjamas myself! I think I'll do that, get a set that I feel quite sexy I too while still being comfortable... I must admit I wear child like pyjamas 🤣 I've been meaning to get some more grown up looking ones instead of having to wear a sort of sex outfit 😂. Ttc is super difficult I don't wish it on anyone it's crazy... Yes that's a good idea we should do a date night and enjoy it but I feel like I need a long break before doing that even! Haha, we will figure it out I suppose I think what makes it hard too is that I find it quite painful most of the time so when you're doing it multiple times it becomes horrid and sore! Anyway, I've woken up to loads of mucus so we will do it again tonight and maybe tomorrow depending on the mucus situation and hope for the best. I think perhaps if it doesn't happen this month I will try and take a break from the pressure, as in do it maybe once or twice during fw so I know we have a chance but not putting tons of pressure on ourselves... That or I'll get a self insemination kit! When is your af due? X

Glad I could help a little @Missgoldilocks. if you feel like you need a super long break from the sex side of things then maybe just have a romantic date night with sex off the table. Cuddles and a movie. Me and my partner love playing UNO. It’s a laugh and a little friendly competition. You’re right though, you guys will figure it out.
Adopting a lesser pressure month is a great idea. I hear about people conceiving when they have only done it once like days before ovulation so going a couple times during the fertile window and waiting and seeing seems like a great plan.
We didn’t want to stop trying because of Covid but I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that if I need medical help to fall pregnant then it’s not coming at the moment so therefore I can’t really control it just now have to just keep plodding on. That’s helped me relieve some of the stress of it. AF is due in three days so not long to go. Not feeling anything really so no idea. Quietly hopeful but also being realistic.

@Missgoldilocks I am sorry the pressure of ttc is getting to you and your partner. Great advice from @Positivity2019.

I am 11dpo today and just had a huge temp drop to just below my coverline. I am sure I am out this month. I normally only get my drop at 14dpo. I guess there is a mini chance it could be implantation but I know that's just clutching at straws really. Looks like it's onto cycle 12 for me. : (

@Positivity2019 - I hope the end of your tww is going ok.

x