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Starting again (CD1)

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blackfriars · 16/05/2019 12:56

Anyone else right at the start of a new cycle? I could do with some cycle buddies.

I'm 32, cycle 5 and TTC first baby. Regular cycles of 27/28 days.

Feeling bummed today - I really thought this month could be our month after all the DTD! Had my first TTC cry yesterday. Is that pathetic after just 5 months?!

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Louise190 · 07/06/2019 12:45

@blackfriars not out until AF arrives! Which hopefully is not on moving day!!

My cramps have continued today. I think they will all the way to AF/BFP. They've started a lot earlier than normal this cycle. Even DP is getting excited about them 🙈 I have ridiculous heart burn today as well 😩

Dweebette · 07/06/2019 13:28

@blackfriars everything crossed for you!

@Louise190 I'm having weird little twinges today as well, sort of around my right hip area, like something is pulling the inside and occasionally scraping. No idea what it means as I thought the pain yesterday may have been later ovulation (still no positive OPK). Didn't manage to DTD last night and I'm obsessing that we may have missed a vital opportunity. Definitely becoming obsessed and DH is being very patient but I can tell the structure is getting too him

Louise190 · 07/06/2019 22:33

@Dweebette how odd! Where are you in your cycle? Try not too obsess too much, it is what it is and obsessing and worrying won't change what may or may not have already happened! Easier said than done, I know, but I find it helps to keep telling myself that it is what it is. I almost fell down the hole of making things very mechanical with my DP but I think ya important to ensure your relationship doesn't change, I think it can be quite damaging for the partners as well as the Mama.

On that note, I'm checking out for the weekend and will catch up on Sunday eve! I'm on a dirty weekend away 😉 xx

Dweebette · 07/06/2019 22:40

@Louise190 no idea where I am in the cycle, mine are very irregular. Flo says I'm on CD25, 6DPO but I've been using OPK since CD16 and never got a positive so I have no idea what's happening. Flo shows AF due on 16th.

Enjoy your weekend away!

Skyla01 · 08/06/2019 16:05

@blackfriars Good luck with the move! Hopefully it will keep you distracted next week. Since most of us seem to have had an odd cycle / uncertain ovulation this month sitting tight & waiting for AF might be the best move. Fingers crossed for long wait followed by BFPs!

Dweebette · 08/06/2019 22:34

The TWW is feeling impossibly long today. Flo predicted AF in 8 days, possibly 10. I'm switching between feeling inpatient waiting for AF so I can start the next cycle and feeling optimistic that I won't have to because I'll get my BFP. It's so tough sometimes and I feel like life is on hold a lot waiting for it to happen. We DTD yesterday and afterwards there were 2 magpies (2 for joy?) in our garden, is it ridiculous to think it might be a positive sign?

Skyla01 · 09/06/2019 12:20

I'm 9dpo according to app, although that might be a few days ahead. Had a few cramps today. Hoping it might be implantation (or something else entirely) rather than related to AF. I don't normally get cramps until day before AF. Otherwise trying not to symptom spot.
@dweebette I was also thinking I'll be glad for AF to come as it will give me some insight in to my cycle & help with next month's effort. Not feeling optimistic for this cycle but of course BFPs could be on their way!

Louise190 · 09/06/2019 16:46

Back from my weekend away and the first thing I do is POAS! BFN ☹️ my temp dropped Friday and Saturday but shot up again this morning which Fertility Friend has discarded as inaccurate!? Depending on which app you look at I am 11 or 13DPO, AF due midweek but I think I'll be jumping on the July bus!

Skyla01 · 09/06/2019 18:00

Sorry about your bfn @louise190. Hope you still had a good weekend away. Sometimes it can be hard to enjoy other things when you're at the end of the TWW. But you're not out until AF arrives, so are still in with a shot.

Dweebette · 09/06/2019 18:18

@Louise190 boo but not out until AF arrives!

@Skyla01 unexpected cramping could be a good sign!

Just entered today's stats into Flo and it's now showing I'm only 6 DPO with AF not sure until 18th! I had some reflexology done yesterday and asked her to work on reproductive area, doubtful it'll make any difference. Hoping this week goes quickly, I swear this is the longest TWW yet, maybe because we've DTD way more so I'm scarily optimistic, really hope I'm not settling myself up for crushing disappointment...

Would love for some of us on this thread to get our BFP this time, spread hope!

Louise190 · 09/06/2019 18:30

Thanks ladies! I just want to know either way so I can move forward!

Skyla01 · 09/06/2019 20:06

It's hard to strike a balance between optimism and pessimism, I flit between the two! This cycle I'm not hopeful, but looking forward to be armed with more info to help with next cycle!

@dweebette have you been having reflexology for long? I've always been interested to try it, and now with ttc I've maybe got a reason to give it a go.

Dweebette · 09/06/2019 20:12

@Skyla01 I don't go as often as I should but try to go every 8 weeks or so. I really love it, I have a stressful job and it's a great way to relax and try and bring some balance back to my life, plus great for water retention in the ankles. I haven't tried specific fertility reflexology but I think I will next cycle. I've been told it's best to have it in the week before ovulation (but who knows when that is!)

Louise190 · 09/06/2019 20:13

I'm with you there @Skyla01 I'm not hopeful either.

Oh I've always been a fan of reflexology but didn't think of using it for TTC! Food for thought!

Dweebette · 09/06/2019 20:13

Also ordered a BBT thermometer and some preseed earlier so I'm prepared for cycle 7 Sad

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blackfriars · 10/06/2019 13:35

Hi ladies,

Wow what an awful weekend! We didn't exchange on the house on Friday but had to pack up the whole house anyway in case it still goes ahead this week as planned. I was an emotional wreck all weekend - super irritable and really teary - and obviously swinging back and forth between thinking this is PMS and thinking maybe it could be a sign! Thanks so much for the good luck on the house - fingers crossed we will get there today...

@Louise190 sorry about your BFN, but I think especially important to wait for AF this month to find out what's really going on given how confusing this cycle has been! You're still in with a chance.

@Dweebette - hearing you on the long wait. The first thing I do every morning is open my Clue app to see how far I am from AF, as if I don't already know what CD I am every day!

@Skyla01 - I am totally swinging back and forth between pessimism and optimism too. Mostly pessimism, but last night before I went to sleep I was focusing really hard on the cramps I'm getting and thinking maybe they don't feel like they usually do pre-AF...but then this morning I think they do! My back is pretty achy which is annoying....if AF is going to come I wish she'd just hurry up and arrive so I can get on with the next cycle!

Keep telling myself I'll know by the end of the week at least. AF due Weds/Thurs. I am having a LARGE glass of wine if she appears.

Fingers crossed for a BFP for at least one of us - it would definitely give me hope! xx

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Dweebette · 10/06/2019 13:48

Woke up this morning to a text from a friend saying she's expecting. Accidental pregnancy too so it pushed me over the edge completely and I feel so down today even though I am happy for her. It just feels like the end of the world even though it really hasn't even been that long (7 months now). It just seems so unfair that we can do all the right things and want it so much and then others just have a little oopsie and bam there's a baby. I'm super irritable and cramping a bit today which is normal about a week before AF so that's not helping. Sorry for the moaning, just feeling so sorry for myself.

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blackfriars · 10/06/2019 13:59

@Dweebette I hear you - I am 7 months down the line too, and even though that doesn't sound like THAT long in the scheme of things, it really is a long time when you are so focused on it and spend so much time tracking/obsessing/symptom spotting. Plus AF arriving is basically like spending each month thinking you might get proposed to but then getting dumped at the end of it instead - weird analogy, but you get me!

Don't feel bad for feeling sorry for yourself - it's totally understandable. Is there something nice you can do today to treat yourself? Facemask in the bath/bed with a good book/couple of eps of a good series? Tomorrow is another day xx

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Dweebette · 10/06/2019 15:35

@blackfriars you hit the nail on the head, that's exactly what it's like. I'm working a long day today but will get into bed early and watch love island later on.

keeponsmiling2019 · 10/06/2019 17:48

Hi ladies. Just catching up with the thread. Sounds like most of us are on the home straight now for this month.
I haven't done any OPK and must admit I feel so much more relaxed. DTD felt less of a chore for both of us for the first time in months.
I felt like I ovulated CD13 and we DTD in the run up and on the day so just having to trust my body now. From CD4 I've had painful boobs which I have never had and on Friday 7th CD7 I had brown cm when I wiped. I just hope it was Implantation. I have a really crampy back and twinges and pull sensation in my uterus ever since. All these symptoms are new to me so this cycle feels different to the previous ones. Also completely aware how gutted I will be if it all comes to nothing. CD10 today.
@Louise190 - sorry about the BFN but hang in there, as you're not out yet.

@blackfriars - How annoying about the exchange. You certainty don't need any extra stress at the moment.

Skyla01 · 10/06/2019 18:41

@blackfriars that's so frustrating about your house. I really hope you got things sorted and can get moving soon.
With TTC it's hard to know where you stand going forward. I haven't put my life on hold but also hardly feel I can plan a big holiday for 6 or 12 months down the line because life might be very different then! I think we just have to keep hopeful, DTD lots, try and keep stress levels down, and we'll get that BFP one day! Although saying that pretty sure mine won't be this month. But a new cycle is a new chance!

@Dweebette a very close friend of mine is expecting. Whilst I am genuinely happy for her and love to hear how she's getting on I'm simultaneously crying inside for myself. How sad! Would love to be able to join her with a bfp too! I just hope it happens for me before her due date...

Dweebette · 10/06/2019 19:02

@Skyla01 I love hearing how things are progressing too and I am genuinely happy for all 500 that I know who are expecting currently Grin but I think we're justified in feeling a little jealous too.

@keeponsmiling2019 that sounds promising!! Fingers crossed! When would AF be due? I gave up on OPKs on Friday (CD 19) without ever getting a positive so I think I was maybe missing the surge due to only being able to test in the evening but who knows!

keeponsmiling2019 · 10/06/2019 20:27

Yes it's so hard not to envy other people. I keep seeing pregnant people everywhere!
I'm due AF this Friday. I really hope I make it until Saturday to either test or for AF to start. I can't stand the thought of having to put a happy face on all day at work if AF starts!

Skyla01 · 10/06/2019 20:45

I just wish I was pregnant too so instead of a bit of jealous / sadness on my part I could be 100% happy with them!

As for this cycle my confusion continues. 2nd day of cramps for me, and just had what looked like ewcm... Will have to wait and see what all this means. Might DTD tonight just to cover all bases!

Louise190 · 10/06/2019 22:33

Sorry to hear about your house @blackfriars fingers crossed for this week!

@keeponsmiling2019 do you think laying off the OPKs really helped? I'm toying with the idea of chucking it all in and just focusing on being fit and healthy. I can't deal with the monthly disappointment and everything else that comes with it. On top of everything else that life brings!