Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

[SparrowSG]

New thread for us 40+'s

Morning ladies, how are you all doing? I've been praying a lot and feel I should try this cycle.

@Catconfusion I don't know why but when I read your post I thought you'd really benefit from fertility reflexology or fertility acupuncture. Relaxing, and can help regulate cycles.

I'm CD17 after D&C and waiting to ovulate. Looks like I might get my results before I do.

How's everyone?

Nothing to report from me, 5DPO, CD18. Not feeling confident at all.

I hope you OK @EC22, thinking of you.

Hi ladies I hope your all well as can be, I'm due af on Tuesday (usually wake up with it so Monday through the night to be specific). Dull cramps and ravenous so I'm defo expecting it. I did do a test the other day but was negative. I'm defo waiting till Tuesday to test now though. I'm also not feeling confident but I'm ok xx

@Elles1980 I'm due same time as you. Fully expecting it to come as have all the usual symptoms 🙄. Really starting to get down about it as next month timing of O is also OH nightshift so another month older and starting to lose hope
I hope everyone else is ok

Welcome newbies!
@Catconfusion I also have been having irregular cycles for the last year or so. They were always long, around 35 days, then started ranging from 35-52 days!
Am currently on a weird one... have been checking basal temp with Ovusense, which found I ovulated on Day 30 as had a temp rise, albeit a small one - which made my AF due last week and I was testing every day; no AF, BFNs. Very stressful. (Would now be 18dpo)
Then suddenly my temperatures shot up massively, and I believe that I actually ovulated properly on Day 39 (and the previous was a failed ovulation).
Another App (Fertility Friend) puts me currently at 8dpo - so am back to the annoying 2 week wait AGAIN! SO stressful!
What I'm not sure about is if these crazy cycles indicate there is something wrong with the egg quality? Or can people still conceive with a sluggish egg..?

Ooh we have a flurry of new ladies
Welcome @Harriettenightingale @Zigzag11 @findingmyfeet12 @KCM99 @Mumof4andahalf @weediva
hope I have everyone...
@EC22 how are you doing, hope you are resting up.... and have some answers from your scan..
@rubyroot how are you doing? Did you have a scan too ?
@KCM99 have you had a phone call from the drs yet re molar ?
@Harriettenightingale that's an impressive list of supplements.. think we are all rattling with our tablet intake 🤣🤣 but if it keeps us healthy then fabbo I say.
@Catconfusion I can understand the distancing.. you have to keep your emotional well-being as steady as you can... sending hugs 🤗
Lots of love and baby dust to you all...
atm I'm Day 24 in cycle... not sure how many days past ov as I don't test anymore as I found it too stressful. Am normally on a 28/29 day cycle so due around about my nephews 1st birthday and party.. fabbo 🤦‍♀️ boobs bonkers and sore but that seems to be the norm for every cycle.. 🤣

atm I'm Day 24 in cycle... not sure how many days past ov as I don't test anymore as I found it too stressful.

I'm on CD25, and I find temping stressful too Chatbash but my acupuncturist insists on me doing it! I hate it.

Currently temping both orally and vaginally as I don't think orally works for me. I have a low temp orally but vaginally seems to be ok. Not sure if that's significant. Am dutifully plotting them on two different apps!

Cd26 for me today, although I think I didn't ovulate until cd17 this time (FF says cd19 bit I think it's wrong). I had my ewcm on cd11 and +opk on cd13 so my ovulation is definitely sluggish. It doesn't pop out, more slops out like a soggy sock.
No hope for me. I prop my LP up with progesterone pesseries. Next cycle we are away, so no pesseries, no massive stash of vitamins & pills, no temping or opk's. Just nature. Crapping it.

Welcome to all the new people, wishing you all lots of luck x
I'm on day 31 after my ERPC last month, so still stuck in limbo a bit. I think I ovulated 8 days ago, but I had such a long LH surge I'm not sure if I actually did. Anyway not holding out much hope for this month, I just want my period to return so I know my body is getting back to normal!

No I haven't heard back @Chatbash72 - is no news always good news? I had my emergency D&C on 5th July. On the morning of my D&C I was happily 6 weeks pg with HCG rising (not doubling properly though). It was at almost 5000. So I didn't want a D&C. I wanted a W&C (wait and see)! But they were not up for that at all. I'm grateful they cared for me yet I want some answers.

Getting a bit worried about my body. I'm on CD18 and haven't ovulated yet (fine), but I'm getting sharp pains again like I was getting whilst pg. I'm starting to think it is a pelvic infection or endometriosis or something. I'm still adamant it wasn't a molar.

I feel sad I lost my baby and ridiculous as this might sound to some under the circumstances, I'm feeling guilty about having the D&C. Obviously if they are telling you it could be cancerous and I've two kids to care for, I'm going to agree yet the "what if" voice is in my mind... what if they got it wrong and I just had slow doubling that one time they measured it, and what if it's 'just' endometriosis or an infection and baby would have been fine. What if baby was hiding on the ultrasound and was still in there doing fine and it had its poor life ripped out of it. I know these are all in hindsight "what ifs" but I feel sad about it all (and guilty).

I just want some answers so I can grieve properly.

Update: I spoke to the kind nurse and she will call me when results come back in and let me know either way and not leave me in limbo.

She's also reminded me I can call the bereavement mw, so have placed a call with them.

She said the pains are probably my cyst bursting coming up to ovulation. It was huge on my right ovary 2 weeks ago.

Overall she said the consultant and surgeon did not think molar anymore but histology will confirm 100%

Going also this week (Wednesday) to shc to rule out any infection causing any inflammation.

Feeling relieved now. Nurse said they advise waiting for histology before trying again. But we all know it wasn't a molar so if we do decide to try this cycle I won't be condemning myself over it.

It's frustrating isn't it @NicLondon1 I've struggled my whole life and I have say my cycles are a bit more regular. Feel free to post your charts. I have Ovusense too. Xx

I'm so sorry @KCM99 my thoughts are with you! Xx

Shall I start a new thread? We are 10 messages away from being full on this one.

We could also do another roll-call as we have many new joiners if anyone is interested?

SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks Feb 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks Feb 2019. Planned IVF Oct 2019.

@SparrowSG thank you that sounds good.

@Catconfusion thank you.

Roll Coll: 43, 2 DC, ttc no.3 since April. 3 early losses since then.

New thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3644917-Over-40-TTC-lots-of-baby-dust-for-us-4?

Ooh @KCM99 that's just dreadful to be just waiting for news... I'm surprised they were so adamant for a d&c at 6 weeks... I hope you get some proper answers... now swapping to new thread thank you @SparrowSG not tech savvy enough to do it 🤣🤣