Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

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New thread for us 40+'s

@mellongoose I’m not sure if that’s the right word, but I think you’ve made a hard and very brave decision.

I really hope you find true peace.

Just confirming. Bfn on clearblue. Even took a digital too to make my brain believe it and it said not pregnant. Hopefully af will come soon and whatever is causing my symptoms will go away.

AF here for me too yesterday. Felt okay as I tested around 9/10 dpo and was negative. So I was just waiting for the witch to appear 🤭

This cycle was 26 days long, last cycle (chemical pregnancy) 28 days long. Still feeling good re. the HRT as previously my cycles were between 23-26 days long.

@KristieP2018.. sorry you have a bfn. It's esp tough when you have had the spotting and faint line. It's so strange as I have all the symptoms of ovulation but never a BFP .. I think it must be Peri knocking on my door. I've had more than enough time seeing as I'm 47 and am blessed to have DS.

@mellongoose.. sorry to hear you're leaving us and it is indeed a very brave decision to make. I wish you so much love & happiness .. i will miss you on this thread x

I'm at this moment sitting close to two new mums and am in silent tears knowing I'm at the point in my life where I'm on the verge of peri. But i'm trying to console myself with the fact that DS has just shown me he can swim using floats which I've never seen before. This after just two school lessons! He has never wanted to learn before. So a first today for him.

Love to all x

Who started the very first thread? Was it Chat or Cleo or someone else? It's been going so long I can't remember!

@KristieP2018 so sorry it's BFN after all. Just sucks.
@sheshootssheimplores sorry you had BFN too. Onwards and upwards.
@BooseysMom thought it was @orchid. She just disappeared. I remembered she said she would get back to us to tell her TTC outcome. But never seen her since. Hope she's ok.
@mellongoose so sorry you're leaving. Take care of yourself

I think it was orchid. She had IVF then disappeared. Hopefully she got a BFP and didn't tell us so as not jinx it, thar has happened before, people have vanished then comee back 9 months later with a birth announcement 🤣

Oh Orchid, of course! I'd forgotten her. I remember sending a few msgs to see if she responded but nothing. Yes, I hope she's ok

Hi ladies! Room for another one?
Congratulations on the BfPs and beautiful babies so far, definitely gives me hope.

I turned 41 last month and am currently ttc#2. I got together with DH Sept 2016 (childhood sweetheart I hadn’t seen for 12yrs), CP in Dec 2016, then got pregnant with DS 3mths later and gave birth at 39 in December 2017.
Got married in December 2018 and DS turned 1 so started ttc for a sibling for him straight after. Unfortunately I had a terrible breakdown in January due to building PND and crippling anxiety so we put our plans on hold for me to get better and now that I’m genuinely feeling 100% again we’ve been trying again for a couple of months.

I’m absolutely desperate for a sibling for DS but if it doesn’t happen and always feel just so lucky that I have my little boy. He’s the light of my life.

Welcome @MaryShelley1818 always room! Wishing you all the best ❤️

Sorry to hear about your experience with PND - not dissimilar to mine...we didn't start trying again until DD was over a year...it took me that long just to start sort of feeling like myself again.

Lots of lovely ladies on here and babies! xx

Welcome @MaryShelley1818 and good luck 💐

@BooseysMom it wasn't me, just back from a late shift, on early tomorrow.. will catch up properly tomorrow... sending lots of love ladies 💕

Hi@MaryShelley1818 our first are about the same age- aren't they just wonderful at this age?! I also had my first at 39

@MaryShelley1818 I had my first aged 39 too. Wishing you lots of luck x

I decided yesterday to start ovulation testing agin after 3 days of increasing ewcm. I had low fertility yesterday and high today! I ran out of strips earlier in this cycle (13-18 May had high before I ran out). Guessing my body tried to ovulate but couldn't? Maybe spotting last week was some odd breakthrough bleeding? More confused than ever.

Just a quick update from me. Clearblue Digital is still only showing 1-2 weeks since conception since the first one I did 11 days ago.

Cheaper tests are showing similar results over the last few days but not progression. A little fainter today if anything. They've never shown a really strong positive

I know there are success stories around this kind of thing but I'm a realist after 2 previous miscarriages and those stories are wonderful exceptions but not the most likely outcome.
I'm now 26dpo, 5 weeks 3 days in. Hcg should be doubling at its fastest rate at this point.

I really didn't want to have to go to the doctors but I think I need my levels confirming now so I can prepare myself. Hope for a natural end this time. I so desperately don't want to have to face going to hospital again.

Urgh. So fed up :'(

Sending lots of hugs @EllieJaye ❤️❤️

@EllieJaye sorry to hear you are feeling so worried. Totally understandable given your history, but your line at least looks nice and strong. Do you have any cramping?

I’m in a very similar position - have no progression on IC over 4 days but too scared to even buy a proper test. Woken up all crampy though like AF on its way.

@EllieJaye those tests still look strong and positive to me... hang in there 💕💕

@MaryShelley1818.. Welcome. Sorry to hear about your pnd. I had DS at 40 nearly 41 and he's the light of our lives too . Good luck x

@EllieJaye.. oh that's so sad, I'm sorry. I want so much to say it might still hold but you are being realistic I know and very brave. Such strong lines too. Thinking of you x

I don’t know how to tag people but thank you all so much for the warm welcome :)
It’s a lovely age - he’s so funny and learning so quick but wow the tantrums!
We went to Mothercare yesterday to get him some new shoes from Clarks and use the softplay, DH bought me a new bigger changing bag and we wistfully strolled around the cribs and new baby stuff planning what we might need IF we’re lucky.
In the 2ww now and tried our best last week so fingers crossed and baby dust for everyone xx

Elliejay thats such sad news, hoping it all still works out xx

EllieJaye I think getting your HCG levels measured is a good idea. I’ll admit to you that I don’t think it looks great. I’ve had seven pregnancies now and the ones that worked were the ones that had good strong positives and where the CB indicator had risen as it should.

I have read other stories online where people have all sorts of weird shit happening early on and the pregnancy is successful. For me though if I don’t get a good strong positive around 10dpo that darkened, it never worked out.

@sheshootssheimplores same here, the tests have been right in my other pregnancies - good and bad, by now levels should be in the 300's as an absolute minimum and the threshold for the 2-3 week result is only 153.

I've got the doctors in the morning then I will have to try and get a nurse appointment that fits around work to get first bloods taken.

I've had period type cramps last couple of days. Hoping that as levels must be low they wont take too long to drop back down for me to have a natural loss. I really don't want to face the hospital, EPU, Ultrasound clinic with all the pregnant ladies, the scans where you should see your baby and you see little or nothing. Hoping for a swift end and to move on while I still have the strength to keep going. Had a cry this morning but I don't want to keep crying.

Ellie - Sorry to hear you are going through this, I know the feeling well as I went through similar last year. I think your best net now is to stop testing for a bit, as it'll drive you buts, maybe go to the gp and then let nature choose which route it will take, as unfortunately thete is nothing we can do

Agreed, I'm out of tests now anyway. Today was always going to be the decider :'(