Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

[SparrowSG]

New thread for us 40+'s

I just wanted to chip in and say I use Ovusense and it's saved so much confusion. I have long irregular cycles and didn't even know if I was ovulating. Now I know I am and have managed two pregnancy's (sadly both mcs). Would definitely recommend. Xx

Morning!
@SparrowSG how long have you been using the Ava Bracelet? I've been using it for just under a month and don't know what to make of it. Got my AF this morning two days earlier than expected and saw that Ava readjusted my predictions. Are any of you other lovely ladies using Ava? Is it worth the bother?
I'm 44 in two weeks time and had a mc in February, I hate that time is ticking by so fast...

Oh god now I’m thinking that my pelvic floor must be awful if I couldn’t easily keep the sensor in at certain times 🥴😳😳😳

Don't worry sheshootssheimplores my pelvic floor is virtually non-existent after my forceps delivery and my lack of doing anything about it!! I will probably be finding the Ovusense on the pillow beside me !!

KediKat I was using the Ava for about a year I guess but the damn thing kept breaking! I bought mine from a lovely lady on eBay and it was new as she had sent for a replacement after the ring on the back fell off and then got pregnant and so sold it. Then about 4 months after buying it the ring fell off again, I emailed the seller and luckily she contacted support and and got another replacement. And now, 6 months later it's broken again and either tells me I've only been sleeping for one hour or does not collect any data at all. I've seen on the FB group they are not great at replacing after a couple of times (even though I think they should as it's not cheap!) and I really don't want to bother the seller again. I decided just to try out something else instead that will hopefully not break within a few months!

When it was working though it gave me good data and I did like the fact of not having to remember to take my temperature manually every morning (my memory is not great at the best of times!) If it wasn't for breaking again then I would be continuing to use it. I know Cleo has one as well and I think is happy using it?

Thanks Catconfusion for the positive review, I am hoping it will work well for me too as I've just turned 44 and feel that time is definitely running out for me.

@CritterTamer what a pair of cuties, wishing you a speedy recovery now you are out of hospital and many, many happy moments with your lovely babies.

Kedikat - I have been using ava for about 8 months or so now. I really like it, and have learned to read the data. I've had a chemical cycle and many non pregnancy cycles so it's useful to compare. Only problem is it's easy to tell quite early on if a cycle has been unsuccessful which zaps the hope a little. I could choose to not see it but I don't have that will power. Other than that it's great, and super easy to use.

Sparrow 🤣🤣🤣

Hi there.

I'm new to this thread.

I'm 41 in September. We have 1 child, a 9 month old and are planning on trying for number 2 shortly due to my age. OH is 36.

Just not sure whether to wait until September to enjoy the summer (been pregnant the last 2 summers - 2017 but lost that baby at end of summer at 9.5 weeks then last summer with the child we have) or crack on.

Have just bought Ubiquinol (convinced it worked last time) and that takes 3 months to kick in. Just bought a load of pre-conception vitamins so want to build up the old folic acid again.

But just don't know whether we should just go for it given my age or wait to a) enjoy the summer and b)allow 2-3 months for the tablets to kick in??!!!

I'm in much better shape this time around as am 8lbs lighter than when we TTC last time and fit as been working out at the gym a lot.

Difficult to know what to do.

OH says number 2 (jf we are lucky enough) will be last child.

Welcome jamiecooks - I'd crack on straight away if I were you, as it's unlikely to happen straight away anyway, and you don't want to end up kicking yourself if you run out of time.

Yeah that’s what I’m thinking cleozeta (and thanks for the welcome!). I also had an ELCS with first so just wondering if that’s enough time to heal also! I suppose even if we got pg on first go (which would be July as missed FW for this month) which is unlikely then that’s 10 months since

Welcome j@jamiecooks I would say crack on too as I was convinced I would get pregnant as easily as the first time when I started trying and here we are nearly a year on!

Can you take ubiquinol as well as pregnacare? Also how much should you take and where do you get it from?

Also wanted to mention, especially to the newcomers as it’s not been mentioned for a while the book ‘It Starts with the Egg’, very good resource on ways to improve egg quality with supplements/lifestyle changes etc. I wish I’d known about it years ago when I started ttc and not just read it in the last few months!

@hmmm123 yes you can (well I have previously but I’ll happily be corrected). I take 100mg and you can get it online from Healthspan. It’s not cheap but I fully believe in it.

Agree I need to crack on. Ok, July it is. OPK’s being ordered now! I’m fully expecting another MC so it does make sense to crack on

@sparrowSG - yes I have heard this is v good! Thanks for the reminder!!!

@Nickimum3.. i remember the same with my mc. The doctor asked if I wanted to keep it and have a service/burial and I didn't. They expected me to be more upset than I was but it was the 2nd time and i didn't want to try again..but then we had DS and he was a miracle as I was 40 and thought it would never happen! So I send you lots of luck and baby dust x

@aprilfoolsbaby.. welcome and good luck ttc..you're def not alone here x

@jamiecooks..welcome and sorry for your loss. Yes no time like the present! It took us a good couple years to conceive and we started when i was about 38. DH was 37. Good luck x

@BooseysMom - thank you. I’ll never forget it. Awful time but got through it. x

Gosh just needed to be back in the world of lovely people after swinging by aibu and reading a horrid thread started by a woman wanting a 3rd at 41. The comments on there about having children in your 40s by most posters are just awful. So negative and mean.

Welcome newbies - you’re in good safe company here x

Think I'm CD33 if to count d&c as cd1 and still no AF. Don't even know when to expect it 🤔

Why are people so negative about it?! For me, I didn’t meet mr right until I was 36 and then it takes a good couple of years of getting to know one another to see if you’re right together for ever! Then I got pregnant at 38, lost that baby. Got pregnant at 39 and we now have a child and then obvs you don’t want to get pregnant straight away again hence I’m hurtling towards 41.

For me it wasn’t a choice, it was circumstances. But even if it is a choice, it’s exactly that, a personal choice.

Whatever age you choose to have kids is your choice. Personally I am glad to be having them in my 40’s. I caned my career for years so got to the point where I can now command a high salary for a 28 hour week with no overtime and flexible working hours/ability to work from home. We are also financially very secure so have no money worries. But most of all, I have the best husband in the world - he is an amazing partner and an even more amazing dad. So our child could not ask for better. If he grows up to be half the man his dad is, he’ll be amazing. So I’m glad it has happened the way it has.

And all those twats can just slither back into their dark wet miserable holes!!!

@jamiecooks very well said! x

@jamiecooks yes! 👍🏼

@jamiecooks totally agree, its a personal choice, end of story

@jamiecooks A different perspective from me...We TTC when my DC was 7 months, got pg immediately but had a MMC dated at 10 weeks- classic chromosome problem I guessed but I also now believe that BF and a fairly recent pg had been hard on my body and depleted it of vitamins. I kicked myself for not having taken ubiquinol, only folic acid. Obviously everyone's advice is so subjective (and I say this from the very fortunate position of being pg with my second at nearly 44) but I'd try to get at least 2 months worth of ubiquinol at a high dose into your system before trying, especially as you are still only 40 and have some recent proven fertility. And my advice is doubled if you have been bf your DC until recently. Accupuncture would be your friend too! Whatever you decide, I think luck comes into it a lot too so sending you plenty of that!

Petra which brand and dose do you take?

I actually feel the same about many of my miscarriages. I extended breast fed both my children and have subsequently found out I was chronically iron deficient. Whilst age was absolutely a factor I think my body just couldn’t cope. I had DS1 at 37 and we started trying again when he was 6 months old. Didn’t manage to have my second until i was nearly 41!!!

Now 44 and of course I want that bonus baby but I don’t think it’s going to happen if I’m honest. Stupidly tested today and it’s BFN, I’m around 10dpo on what’s now a 28 cycle. I know I’m out but because I caught last cycle I’ve irritatingly become all hopeful again. ARGH.

Ignore the bitches on AIBU. They live for making others miserable as their own lives are so fucking boring.

Ooh @littlemimosa step away from the nasty thread.. gosh why are people soooo judgemental.. we have some friends like that, needless to say I don't share my thoughts with them.. welcome @Nickimum3 and @aprilfoolsbaby and @jamiecooks and yup I'd get busy ASAP... good have lots more ladies joining..
Oh my god @sheshootssheimplores and @SparrowSG nearly spat my tea out from snorting with laughter from your comments re trackers 🤣🤣
Atm day 5 in cycle and cracking on with the house renovations and clearing through stuff in the house.. feels quite cathartic..
sending lots of baby dust to you fabulous ladies

@jamiecooks.. brilliantly put . If it's such a terrible thing to conceive in your 40s how come the stats are higher than ever for 40s mums, even first time mums?! I was 40 and nearly 41 when I had my first and now I know I'm too old for a 2nd but we are blessed