Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

[SparrowSG]

New thread for us 40+'s

Hi ladies

I know this doesn't really belong in this thread, but I know that some of you have been really interested in what happened with my IVF and subsequent twin pregnancy so I just wanted to update you all and let you know that despite being almost 6 weeks premature, my twins were yesterday discharged from the SCBU and we are finally all at home together after a traumatic few weeks 😊
The support and friendship on this thread has been a literal lifesaver at times and I really hope it continues to do that for everyone here.
Wishing you all baby dust and all the luck in the world with whatever paths you choose to take in this TTC journey, and safe, healthy pregnancies and deliveries for those currently expecting xxx

They're beautiful @CritterTamer you've given me some hope today. Take care and enjoy being a mummy to these darlings as I know you will! Xx

Hi all - just saw your @CritterTamer update and had to come on to say how happy I am to hear you are all home and together - how long was that you stayed in for altogether?
how are you doing now? I know it will take time, but hope you are feeling less traumatised?
@Rose68 - I'm sorry things haven't worked out yet for you... when I'm having a bad day of feeling fed up with pregnancy related issues I do remind myself how v lucky we have been to get this far, and how utterly heartbroken I was feeling before. I don't know what to say, but thinking of you and the others on here in that limbo land of still hoping for good news, but feeling like it's time to move on. X
Good luck @EllieJaye - hope it sticks this time. And god luck to anyone else I've missed with early BFPs - I know it's incredibly stressful xx

Congratulations critter, they are beautiful. Enjoy them

Congrats Ellie - I hope it sticks this time!

Rose - good to hear from you. I totally understand where you are coming from and feel like that a lot of the time too, but yet somehow I still carry on. This thread gives me hope, without it I would have given up years ago.

This thread does seem to have been lucky lately too! Hopefully it'll catch on....

@CritterTamer beautiful babies! Enjoy being a mummy!
@Rose68 sorry to hear it all. And shame you DH is not on board. It sucks. Thankfully mine is and we're still doing anything possible to get there! Whatever it takes. If we're going for donor egg then I'll have to be on a pill for 2 cycles to regulate AF and only plan embryo transfer on cycle 3. At the moment my AF hasn't even arrived after a MMC. So we're thinking to skip June and maybe start in July. In my head I'm constantly fighting if natural conception ever happens if we keep trying?! In 12 months I had 2 MMCs from IUI and IVF, one CP. 2 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, no frozen embryos. And 1 embryo had trisomy in 18. It doesn't really good if I kept trying naturally? Or even go for IVF with my own eggs? And I'm already 43. So I go in circles about the above in my head.
@EllieJaye tentative congratulations! And I really hope it sticks this time. Everything crossed for you!

@crittertamer they’re just beautiful. Glad you’re all home now.

Arhhh critter I often check the thread to see if you have updated. It's lovely to see the babies home, youve come along way!

Beautiful precious babies @CritterTamer. Enjoy them. So very happy for you.

Good luck @EllieJaye.

Congratulations Critter! They are lovely!

@Russkispy I’m so sorry about your mmc, sending you loads of love.

Thank you for the comments ladies, I’m not sure where to go from here. I guess I just need to move on really, and find something else to focus on. Easier said than done!

Eloisa- I was so sorry to read your update. You sound quite philosophical about it with your plan for DE. Still, it’s devastating so I hope you’re getting some love andsupport. We’re all here for you.

Ellie - tentative congratulations. I hope this is 3rd time lucky for you.

Rose - I wondered where you were. Thanks for updating us. Sorry to hear you’re feeling that way. I go through phases of feeling the same then later on there’s that ‘hand in the small of my back’ gently pushing me forward and so I keep on going. My DH is a bit like yours in that he’s doing it for me really. He’s happy to stick with 2 but like yours carries on with contraceptive free sex so i figure he is up for another in reality. He also is not a supplement man but we eat really well and he’ll force down homemade super green soup even though he’d rather have a sausage roll 😆 I also shove fruit into his hands and he eats is quite happily! All I can say is have a look at Julia Indichova’s books, they e given me loads of hope. There are tons of strategies for blocking out the noise of the ticking biological clock and negativity surrounding age and fertility.

Cleo - I’m on CD30/14dpo. No sign of AF so do you think I should do a hpt to make sure it’s negative before stopping the cream? I think it’s working for me!

Critter! I love them! The babies are beautiful and it’s such great news that you are all home together. It must feel wonderful. You enjoy every minute. Believe it or not they grow sooooo fast and before you know it you’re waving them into school. Such special days. Much love 💖

Ooh @CritterTamer gorgeous babies, don't be a stranger, pop in from time to time ( if you have any) and let us know how your doing.
@Rose68 mine doesn't like the supplements either, says they zap his libedo.. and said he wasn't sure he wanted another but still happy to have unprotected sex... so I'll take that. Like yours @littlemimosa
Congrats @EllieJaye
Af hit last night but was a funny cycle this month... onwards and upwards but have upped my coenzyme co10 to 400mg per day..
sending love and baby dust to you all xxxx

Mimosa - great that the cream is working for you! I'd say do a test then stop if negative. You should have a line now if it's positive, even with daytime weewee.
Good luck

Hi I'm new here, just came across the site while googling 😁. I've just turned 44 and had my second miscarriage 2 days ago at 6 weeks, the 1st being a mmc at 12 weeks, baby had stopped growing at 7. My heads been totally all over the place as you can imagine but reading everyone's posts has given me comfort one way or another. Not sure if we'll try again but again, reading everyone's posts has made me realise it's not over yet if I don't want it to be!! Thank you x

Just playing catch up again!

@PetraRabbit.. brilliant to hear your scan went well. A great relief for you
@karryk...Great news from your scan too. You deserve that cake!
@EllieJaye .. Good luck with this one. Keeping everything crossed for you x
@eloisa246 .. really sorry to hear of your mc
@rose68.. sorry it didn't work out for you. We're in the same place tbh and i kbow how you're feeling
@CritterTamer.. the twins are perfect. Amazing to see them. Beautiful little babes! Such a relief you're all ok and they're out of hosp now

@Nickimum3.. welcome and I'm sorry for your losses. I had 2 mcs at 6 then 8 wks. DS was then conceived not too long after when I'd given up hope being over 40. It's a horrible experience and sorry if it's still too soon to say but you're apparently more fertile after mc. It's def not over yet.

Thank you booseysMom, I feel like I need to try again. Both pregnancies were a surprise to say the least but I feel it's something that's supposed to be. Thank you xx

I should also add, I have a scan on Monday, I bled for a couple of hours on Wednesday and passed a large clot (sorry if tmi) the size of a 50p piece, done tests since which have got weaker. X

I'm a long time lurker here and thought I would introduce myself. I'm 41 TTC 3rd baby (have DCs 11 and 7) I had no problem getting pregnant before though it's proving a little more difficult this time - obviously because I'm getting on a bit and my new DP is 57. He's never had children and we weren't planning any until last September I had a CP which made us realise how much we both would like a child together so we decided to go for it - for a while at least.

We've discussed at great length the age thing and I realised that I was more bothered about what other people would think than about how we would be able to cope with a child. We are financially secure, fit and healthy and DP has far more patience than DCs dad ever had. He has spoken about the regret he feels about not having a child in previous relationships and is really happy we're trying. If nothing happens by the time we get back from holiday in August we'll go and have tests and have even been talking about exploring IVF. Has anyone else here got an older DP? What are your experiences?

It's been good to read everyone's stories here - it makes us all realise we're not alone.

Welcome @aprilfoolsbaby

Lovely picture @CritterTamer

Weirdly I've not had a peak this month normally ovulate at 13/14 but tested every day and now on 16 and nothing☹️

Hoping I've just missed it but also no usual signs either. If I don't ovulate will I still get AF?

Welcome nickimum and april

Hmmm - it may just be delayed this cycle, don't stress yet

I had a cycle like that @hmmm123. I never ovulated. You’ll still get a bleed but it’s not a “period”. It’s an estrogen bleed. It just happens sometimes. But you still have time to ovulate.

I missed out on whether I ovulated this month. Ran out of strips and by the time I got more I think peak had come and gone. Had one single pink dot on the toilet tissue yesterday morning and then one single streak of pink right after then nothing. Cramped yesterday but nothing today. Still expecting af though.

Welcome Nicki and April. It never ceases to amaze me how normal it is ttc in our 40s:) there are so many of us now.

Hmmm - I agree it’s early days still. Don’t stress yet. You can get rogue cycles in your 40s. I ovulated CD16 this cycle. But I have had a few cycles recently where ovulation has been very delayed but I got there eventually. I don’t seem to bleed unless I ovulate though even though people talk about a break through bleed.

AFM stark white bfn. I expected it to be honest but it’s still always a kick in the teeth. I truly hate pregnancy tests and avoid them usually but I can’t now whilst I use progesterone cream. So it’s my first night off it tonight. Let’s see how long it take AF to show. I’m so grateful for a normal cycle tho.

Morning all, just a quick one. My AVA bracelet broke again and so I did some research on the Ovesense (which does something similar but you wear internally like a tampon overnight). I decided to buy and managed to find a good discount code after some digging this morning. £149 for the Ovusense +12 month app subscription, normally £199. If anyone is interested the code I used was BABYBIRD, not sure how long it will work for so if you're interested maybe don't hang around!
Website for information and to buy is here: www.ovusense.com/uk/

Sparrow I have the Ovesense but I only used it for a couple of cycles as I found it quite tricky to keep the sensor in overnight after we’d had sex (TMI lol but semen is slippery!!!!). If he interested to know how you get on with it as I might dust it off abs try again.