Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

[SparrowSG]

New thread for us 40+'s

I'll join in. I'm 42.

Af due Friday and I thinks she's coming.

Time is running out for us I think 😭

Just popping in to see how everyone is. I kept losing the other thread. Need to try and do a catch up!

@Russkispy. I’m so sorry for your loss. Just found the other thread. Look after yourself. 💐

Thank you for all your messages and support! It means a lot 😢

Can we do another roll call..
Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.

Oh no Russkispy, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Heartbreaking. It's so hard to accept after a good early scan. The same happened to us, we lost the heartbeat a day after a good scan too. You just don't expect that

@Russkispy I'm sorry to hear your update. Cuddle your dd. She will get you through this. It's shit. I'm so sorry.

AFM stress levels have sky rocketed this month due to DH's work and impending financial doom. I'm supposed to be ov this week but I doubt we could/should be attempting to bring another child into the world atm. Instead I had to pull over earlier as I had a weird flashback to being on the delivery table with our one that didn't make it back in Jan. It was really vivid. Horrible. I'm sure brought on by other stresses.

Trying to get through the next few weeks and hope life gets a bit better. 2019 has not been nice to us.

Thanks for the new thread - I am blatantly placemarking.

Thanks for the new thread Sparrow.

I have just spent ages reading up to page 22 on our previous thread and amazed to see there were 5 bfps so just a boost to our deflating spirits when we need it ..I still need to read the rest of the thread to see how many more there were. It's 40 pages!

I've added me to the end of the list...

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.
Booseysmom: 47, 1 DS, ttc forever too!

@Russkispy I’m so sorry, there is nothing anyone can say to make this better. It’s so shit and so hard.

Sorry I haven’t been around much recently, I couldn’t keep up while we were skiing, and then I couldn’t keep up during the rest of the Easter holidays. My boys only went back this week.

I have taken clomid for 2 months in a row with no success, I have had really bad headaches around the time of AF, and a few days before and a few days after as well as during. I have one now , it’s not nice.

I am considering trying clomid again, I do still feel this is possible, but I just can’t seem to achieve it. I am rapidly running out of steam and DH has definitely lost interest. I’m sorry to see there are a few of us that are feeling the same.

Now I’m on a stupid diet because we go on holiday with my parents in a few weeks and I have put on half a stone while ttc. I am a bit stunted in the height department, so this is a lot of weight for me to have put on.

Anyway, that’s my update, Cleo did you want to try clomid again or are you going to steer clear? Do you think you will have ivf? Part of me wants to, but I don’t think I could convince DH, and I think I would rather put that money towards the DC I already have. I have also stopped acupuncture because of the cost. I know I am slowly giving up.

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.
Booseysmom: 47, 1 DS, ttc forever too!
Rose68: 43 (44 in June 😭) 2 DS 9 and 7, ttc since Aug 18, 1 mmc.

Even though we’re not actively trying we’re not preventing so I’ll add myself to the list

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.
Booseysmom: 47, 1 DS, ttc forever too!
Rose68: 43 (44 in June 😭) 2 DS 9 and 7, ttc since Aug 18, 1 mmc.
KristieP2018: 43 (in April) TTC #1 since June

Rose - really interesting that you mentioned the headaches, AF is due tomorrow and yesterday and today I've had the most stonker of a headache. Kept waking me up in the night too. Do you think it's related to the clomid?
Not sure I want to try it again, I don't think it really helped me last time.
DH is up for IVF now so just have to find 9k.....

Even though we’re not actively trying we’re not preventing so I’ll add myself to the list
@KristieP2018..i think that pretty much describes us too!

Cleo - yes I do think the headaches are related to clomid, I’m really struggling, hopefully it will pass soon. I have decided to try one more month, I must be crazy!

Sorry everyone's feeling despondent. Just came here to say to Rose that your history is almost identical to mine except you have 2DC and I only have 1. I'm 8 weeks now and still hoping it will work out, so I can't see why you shouldn't also have a shot! If you think about it, maybe it was just me rather than you because I was slightly luckier with timing that one month. You're not too old. Hugs to all.

Russki I'm so sorry, the same thing happened to me last April - had an early scan at 7.3, all fine, and started bleeding the day before my 12 week scan. They said the baby measured 7.3... Devastating.

@Russkispy I'm so sorry I can't imagine how awful that must be.. sending hugs

Afm I've decided to try until September on the basis that sunshine is good for fertility and I hope we will get lots of sunshine!

Then if nothing happens I'm going to move on with my life positively .. get a new job and focus on my career which has been a bit on hold the last few years

Fingers crossed for all!

I’m still sending as much baby dust to all those on the thread as possible but I don’t think I’ll add to the list. It kind of feels like tempting fate. 24 weeks today and he’s still growing well so hoping he comes out ok when he’s due!

Hi all, not been around for a few days as nd just found this thread, and caught up with the old one.

@Russkispy I'm so, so sorry to read your sad news - it's just so cruel. I hope you and DH and DD are looking after each other ❤️

Its good to see there are still positive stories in this thread - Karigan and Petra, hope all is going well with you and you're feeling OK.

AFM I'll be 33 weeks this weekend - both babies are already measuring over 5lb each so been warned to prepare for an early labour at any time now! I also have obstetric cholestasis and low platelets / RBC so will be induced at 37 weeks if they haven't made an appearance before then.

So good to see positive stories still happening!
Question for IVF people. How long did it take between the initial consultation and having to fork out the megabucks?

@Cleozeta - for me there was an imediate outlay of about £700 for all the pre-cycle testing and consultations, but I think you've already done all that?

After that you can go for your cycle planning appointment which is likely to start you off at the beginning of your next cycle (provided you've gone early enough in the month to organise drugs, etc.) payment in full is due before or on the date of your first baseline scan which is done on day 2 or 3 of the cycle you're going to start stimming. This is all assuming you're in short protocol.

Payment for the drugs is due immediately as these have to be ordered in advance.

Hope this helps.

This is my first post on Mumsnet.
Am 40, 41 in July, and we're trying to concieve.
I've never been pregnant. Medical issues all through my 30s meant pregnancy wasn't an option. We've been trying now for about 18 months.
Hoping hard.

Thanks critter. So it all happens quite fast then? We've had all our initial tests, so would be able to go straight in. Issue is going to be finding 9k! so better wait until we've got it before contacting them then.
Pleased things are going well with your twinnies, you have a good hope story

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