Trying to conceive first child with PCO/PCOS or irregular long cycles

[Catconfusion]

Hi there,

I'm currently on my 3rd cycle ttc my first child and I suffer with irregular cycles due to PCO. I conceived first cycle but it was a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. My second cycle was a chemical pregnancy. I'm now on my 3rd and it's day 34 with no ovulation yet. I'm using Ovusense to temp which helps to show when I've ovulated. I can't help but worry it was a fluke to fall quickly like I did. Just wondering if there's anyone else in a similar situation struggling with long cycles as I'm finding it really frustrating. Looking forward to chatting to some of you! x

Thank you for your advice my periods are always varied and stress plays a massive part in it. I always thought I wouldn’t be able to go to doctors until been trying a year?

I might make an appointment as it does play on my mind but also my husband has the worries it is him too do you think they would see him too?

@MeeOoO you probably wouldn’t get a fertility clinic referral just yet but if your periods are irregular and always have been you could ask if this could be investigated as a gynae issue with tests your GP can order. Just say it’s affecting your mental health as you’re ttc and wonder if something could be wrong.

As I said my GP investigated mine just because I was concerned and I wasn’t even ttc. As it turned out my hormones were normal but I had cysts on my ovaries so it wasn’t full blown pcos but just pco. This was an indication I wasn’t always ovulating. I was in my early thirties then. Now I’m 40 and I no longer have the cysts but still have irregular cycles. Luckily as I’ve got older my ovulation has kicked in more regularly. Your cycles don’t sound massively long but they are irregular so it could easily be pco or pcos. Don’t worry too much if it is as most women do conceive with it. Stress does seem to make pco/pcos worse. It would be good to rule it out at least.

I’m not sure if they would send your DH for tests just yet but you could ask the GP at what point he could have a sperm analysis.

I definitely think it’s worth seeing your GP as it’s affecting your mental health. At least to find out what the policy in your area is for fertility support as it can vary. I would have thought though they would offer you some tests to rule out pco/pcos since your cycles have always been difficult.

It’s also worth seeing if one of the gps at your surgery is a gynae specialist. Sometimes it says on the website or you could ask reception. They will probably be a bit more understanding.

Anyway I really hope you get some support as ttc can be gruelling, especially with longer cycles! Xx

I think I ovulated the day before my last blood test.
Why is my body ovulating now I am in the process of being given help?

Will the blood test show much with it being the day after ovulation?

I assumed I'd be getting Clomid in January but now I'm potentially ovulating I don't think I am going to get it and I will just end up having more tests and no closer to having a baby.

I am such an over thinker sorry for rambling all the time!

@EssJayyCee as I've said before, I've definitely ovulated several times in order to have been pregnant twice but I'm still getting help. The only reason ovulation (if it has happened) will stop you getting help is if you turn out to be pregnant with your baby so try not to worry too much. Ovulating once in a very long period still isn't normal, you still deserve help should you need it. Not long to go until your appointment now!

Try not to worry @EssJayyCee I was ovulating but still referred to the fertility clinic as it was late in my cycle. Clomid is still used with ladies who ovulate to bring it forward and give a better chance of conception. I can’t see why you wouldn’t get it! Xx

My sister announced she is pregnant today.

I am so happy for her but I had to try hard to keep the tears in.

@EssJayyCee I understand how hard it is to have received news that is both happy and sad at the same time. Since starting this journey we've experienced many pregnancy announcements (and births) from close family and friends, I know this was something you had worried about previously so imagine you've had a lot of conflicting emotions. Based on my experience it's fine to feel a little sad, to have some tears, to tell your partner 'why isn't it me?'. In time these feelings will fade, but you're only human to feel to jealous. Hopefully soon it will be your turn and your baby will have a cousin to love and grow up with.

Arh I’m sorry @EssJayyCee that must be hard. My best friend told me she was pregnant the day I found out I was pregnant with the first baby we lost. I thought I was ok with her being pregnant after my two losses but it really hit me hard when she had the baby. I had a proper meltdown as that week my ovulation failed and it just felt like it would never be my turn. It was tough seeing the pictures of her in the hospital with baby and thinking in a few weeks that would have been me if I’d not lost my first pregnancy.

Be kind to yourself as all the feelings you’re having are completely normal. It’s ok to distance yourself a bit if that helps. I’m sure she’ll understand it’s tough for you at the moment. Your mental health is extremely important at the moment so do whatever feels right to protect it.

Remember life can change very quickly and how you’re feeling right now won’t last forever. Just one week after my friend had her baby I ovulated and conceived my baby on day 32 of my cycle. It was so surprising as I thought my body was broken.

Try to put the news out of your mind at the moment and have a happy Christmas. Of course you’re pleased for your sister and she will be happy for you when your time comes. It will be lovely to have cousins of a similar age! Xx

Thank you both @Avocuddles and @Catconfusion

It has all been put into perspective for me recently.. as in the time we've been trying my partners sister has given birth to a baby girl, got pregnant again and will most likely give birth again before we even get pregnant.

My sister came off the pill only a few cycles ago and they were funny cycles but the one she fell pregnant on was the first proper one since coming off the pill.

I hate how long it's taking us.

I also saw my cousin today with her 3 month old and that was hard too.

It's crap.

@EssJayyCee it is hard and it is crap but not your fault or anything particularly wrong with you or your partner. Some people do just fall pregnant very quickly. It is however perfectly normal to take up to a year, even with normal cycles and no known problems, sometimes longer. Just know that it will happen for you and live your lives the best you can. You deserve to be happy and the more positive you can be the better. Stress can have such a negative impact. Of course there will be bad days but the more relaxed you can be about it the better.

Have a lovely Christmas and be kind to yourself! Xx

@Catconfusion @Avocuddles have taken a super cheap pregnancy test this morning!
Can either of you see the second line?
It is so so faint so I'm not sure it is a line or just indentation.
I am shaking I am crying I don't know what to do!

Yaaaaay I can see it. Do you know when you might of ovulated? I got a line very similar to this at 10 dpo. If you can, go get a first response and double check. I’ve got everything crossed for you! How exciting! Please let us know how you get on. Xx

@Catconfusion this is my chart.. I'm not sure .. I wasn't convinced it had happened because of the dips afterwards...

Hey @EssJayyCee, so FF puts you at 12 dpo which would be consistent with a faint positive. Sometimes implantation can happen late. TBH I was surprised to even get a faint positive at 10 dpo as the cheapies are less sensitive. Try not to worry about the dips for now. Get a First Response as they are far more sensitive and see what you get. If it is a bfp you should get two clear lines. I really really hope this is it. Xx

Do do I need to take the first Response in the morning or can I do it now I bought some today

You should get an accurate result now as long as you haven’t had a pee in four hours. Failing that wait for first pee tomorrow. Xx

@catconfusion I really want to take it now but I'm so scared and I don't want to waste it if it ends up being negative is it possible to get a false positive on the cheapies

Hey @EssJayyCee I can appreciate you’re scared and it’s really nerve wracking. Do you have two tests in the pack? I’d be surprised if a false positive as mine looked similar. Here it is...

In fact it’s not as strong as yours. Obviously a false positive can’t be ruled out and sometimes it just doesn’t progress but You may be more stressed if you wait it out. It’s completely up to you and depends how you feel. Just take a deep breath and know you’ll be ok whatever happens. Xx

@catconfusion oh wow they are so similar. I think I'm going to do it in a minute. Is it normal to get cramps at this stage I'm worried as is on the way.

@EssJayyCee mild cramps are normal with a bfp. I kept feeling like AF was going to start but it didn’t. Good luck! Xx

I've done it.... I have a feeling it is going to be negative. Just waiting for the timer.
I looked at it with 1 minute left and there wasn't even a faint bit of pink.
Looks like I've been hyped up all day for nothing...

Oh my god!!!
Can you see that?

Omg that’s amazing. Definitely a bfp. I’m so happy for you @EssJayyCee Of course it’s early days but you have a good chance of this working out. Just try to relax as much as you can and keep busy. You could carry on with the cheapie tests every couple of days if you want to check the line is getting darker. I’m so happy for you I’m all teared up. Must be the pregnancy hormones. When will you tell your partner? Xx

I still don't believe it @Catconfusion!!
And with my temps and chart still being so higgledy piggledy I can't 100% pinpoint ovulation.

I don't know! I've got an idea how to tell him but I need to go and buy something first but I can't go out tomorrow because I am waiting for a delivery! And then the shops are shut on wednesday... and tomorrow night I was meant to be having one last drunk NYE! so I'm definitely going to have to tell him before tomorrow night! Eeek!

I don't know what to do with myself!
Did you/do you take any pregnancy vitamins?

I literally just bought two boxes of seven seas trying for baby yesterday!!!!