Trying to conceive first child with PCO/PCOS or irregular long cycles

[Catconfusion]

Hi there,

I'm currently on my 3rd cycle ttc my first child and I suffer with irregular cycles due to PCO. I conceived first cycle but it was a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. My second cycle was a chemical pregnancy. I'm now on my 3rd and it's day 34 with no ovulation yet. I'm using Ovusense to temp which helps to show when I've ovulated. I can't help but worry it was a fluke to fall quickly like I did. Just wondering if there's anyone else in a similar situation struggling with long cycles as I'm finding it really frustrating. Looking forward to chatting to some of you! x

If I have... I have missed it.
I feel so crap now. My positivity and optimism has been tipped down the drain.

That does seem very early @EssJayyCee and I wonder how viable it would have been if it is o. Keep temping and see what the next few days bring! Stay as positive as you can as it might be just around the corner! Xx

My temp just keeps going up and up. I had some pains the other day as well that could have been o pains.
I think I've missed it :(

I last ovulated 6 months ago!
So looks like I only have 2 chances a year.

I really need to get the fact I'm not ever having a baby.

Hey lovely, don't think that! You will have your baby. It might be you just need some support. I don't think there's anything you could have done. If this is O your lining probably wouldn't be ready so early on. The egg probably wouldn't be mature enough. I doubt you would have conceived from it. It could mean you're on to the next cycle quicker xx

@Catconfusion @EssJayyCee so am thinking I might have ovulated after all.... think there's a squinter of a line here 9/10 DPO?

I guess you're right @Catconfusion but it just seems pointless even having another cycle if it's just going to be annovulatory.

I can see it @Avocuddles congrats.

Looks like I'm on my own on this journey now.
Good luck to you both

@EssJayyCee please don't feel like you're on your own. Your time will come, hopefully sooner rather than later. Ironically this is the second time I've had a positive just after being referred to the fertility clinic! Won't accept it as a definite pregnancy until Wednesday when I'll be a full two weeks post O. It's taken me a year and a half to get pregnant twice, I'm hoping this one sticks but pretty nervous. I would definitely recommend saving up for a few sessions of fertility acupuncture - it might just be a coincidence but after just 5 or 6 sessions my cycle reduced from an average 45 days down to an unheard of 32 days xx

Oh wow @Avocuddles that's fantastic news. Didn't have to squint to see that one. You'll know more in a few days but it's fantastic news! Xx

@EssJayyCee please don't feel alone. There are many ladies suffering with irregular cycles. It's been a tough journey for me. I had three years of infertility when I was in my early 30s and it was heartbreaking. The doctor just needs to support you in getting some medication to help. It could all kick off quickly with support. Please don't think you're broken. Chances are you bfp could be very soon. I've never had acupuncture for fertility but it might be worth a try. Focus on what you can do rather than the things you have no control over! Xx

I know alot of people have had it worse than me, I just feel so rubbish about it all of the time.
I know I'm broken though. If I wasn't broken everything would be normal.

People have it worse and also better but it’s understandable to feel upset when you’re feeling stick. I’m sure @EssJayyCee your body is trying. You are not broken. I’ve felt broken before when I wasn’t having periods and couldn’t find evidence I was ovulating. I’m now expecting for the third time. Hopefully this is it for me now. I now know I wasn’t broken and it wasn’t my fault I have pcos. 10% of ladies have it. It does not mean you won’t fall pregnant and have the family you want. Your doctor needs to support you now in achieving it. Try and let those feelings of being broken wash over you. Trust your body and try hard to develop a positive mindset towards it. It’s something I’m trying during this pregnancy. I’m telling myself I trust my body to do this and grow a healthy baby. It’s definitely made me less anxious which isn’t easy after our two losses. Do you have your blood test results now? Xx

*stuck

@Catconfusion I'm trying to get myself back into the positive mindframe. My temp came down again this morning so I'm hoping maybe I didn't ovulate early 🤞🏻

I was told if something came up on the blood tests I'd be called.. and I haven't so I'm guessing they were all normal.
I have an appointment with my doctor on Friday so hopefully I will get a little further... but right now my pessimistic side is taking over and I feel like I may be sent away with no new answers or any help.

@EssJayyCee you’re feeling how you’re feeling and that’s ok. You can work on mindset when you feel you can. Honestly if those bloods are normal it’s great news. Ladies with high hormone levels have a much harder time getting pregnant. Saying that my sister had abnormal bloods and metiformin got her pregnant. Just don’t let them send you away. If you’re not ovulating you can’t even try so you need support in inducing it. Even if they won’t give you a fertility referral insist on a Gynae one. If no luck with the doctor see the practice manager. Really focus on how this is affecting your mental health. I really hope you get some help soon! Just try not to blame yourself or your body. It’s not your fault! Xx

@Catconfusion thank you so much. You have no idea what impact your words have one me. You make me feel so much better.

I phoned up about my results and got
"If there was anything to report you would have been called by now but I'll check anyway"
So she went down the list and said "normal normal , oh, this one says it will be discussed at your follow up appointment" so now there is something... I am worrying now. I have to wait until friday for the appointment.

I hope whatever it is. Is easily sorted.

I'm trying to keep positive. I really am.

Thank you for bring me back down to earth!

@EssJayyCee hope that your appointment gives you some answers. It's great that most of your tests have come back normal, it's frustrating having to wait for the other result but fingers are crossed that it's something easily resolved x

@EssJayyCee you are more than welcome. I know how frustrating it can be.

Try not to worry. It might be that your LH is a little raised which is really common with pcos/irregular cycles. It’s good in a way if it is because there is evidence for why you’re not ovulating. I’d be really surprised if you don’t get a referral now. Most things can be fixed with drug treatment. It’s best to know now if there is something. They would have called you if it was serious. Xx

I've done the worst thing in the world and googled possibilities and now I'm so worried.. I'm so silly teasing myself.

@EssJayyCee it’s unlikely to be any of the nastier things because it was only one result. For example if you were menopausal all your tests would be abnormal. It’s highly likely to be something just a little raised. Ovulation is such a delicate process it doesn’t take much to tip the balance. This means it doesn’t take much to put it right. Xx

I really hope you're right @Catconfusion!
I have stopped worrying so much now I just wish friday would hurry up now.

I hope everything goes okay with your scan today! Let us know how it goes :)

I can imagine @EssJayyCee but I’m sure it will be ok.

Scan was last Wednesday. The sonographer has a poker face and wouldn’t tell us anything which was frustrating. My gp rang me yesterday to say a gestational sac was seen on the scan. I’m baffled as to why we weren’t shown and told. I’ve been a little worried about ectopic pregnancies since all she said was my lining was thick. Turns out the sac was there in the right place for 4 weeks. I’m 5 weeks and 1 day today. In two weeks time we’ll have another scan xx

Sorry @catconfusion I don't know why I had it in my head for today.. so weird Haha.

That is good news. Weird she didn't tell you at the scan... are you feeling a little better about it all?

Yes @EssJayyCee it was really odd. I was feeling really good but got a bit of anxiety last night. I feel a bit better today. I’m just letting any negative feelings wash over me. We’ll have a scan in a couple of weeks and should hopefully see the heartbeat then. Xx

I need to take my own advice, but try not the let the negative thoughts take over!
You have an extremely positive thing happening!
Always look at the positives!

Have you still got the nausea?

Yes @EssJayyCee I would say I’m about 80% positive and going with the flow. It is extremely hard after pregnancy loss though I think a missed miscarriage makes it especially hard as there were no signs anything wrong. I feel like I’m doing pretty well. DH has said how proud he is of how well I’m coping. It’s a bit like being in a horrible car crash and then getting in a car again. I’m just letting negative thoughts wash over me and obviously I’m very grateful I’m pregnant again. It’s impossible to be 100% positive and I feel it would be wrong to get too excited until we know there’s a heartbeat. Saying that I’m allowing myself to start planning a little bit and be a little excited. Unfortunately miscarriage does rob you of the innocence that pregnancy leads to a baby. Especially at 40 when mc is more common. I’m happy to surrender to it and hope for the best while being prepared should the worst happen. Xx

Aww bless you,
Well I hope it all goes smoothly this time.
I don't know what it's like to miscarry but I can only imagine it must be a terrible feeling.

I have my doctors appointment tomorrow... getting a bit nervous for it.