Still TTC your first baby? New thread for toomuch's mobile!!

[nomoremagnolia]

New thread so toomuch can load it on her mobile.

Hope you're all well, any news this morning?

I think I must have slight psychic tendencies then! (as apposed to pyscho, you understand ).

S0 far I have avoided Sheffield, the support nurse there says they only see around 5% of women referred to them, and that the risk of needing chemo or getting metastatic GTD is smaller after partial mole as apposed to complete molar. I think my 6mnths is coming to an end, as I had my Ist clear test in Feb, but currrently still on fortnightly monitoring. Hey ho!

I do think you should post a pic of your ds though, I bet he's a cutie! Did you have him before or after MP?

We had the big talk about going for tests last night. It went OK, and I think dh is now seeing that I am feeling a bit desperate, but he is lovely and supportive. He doesn't think accupuncture is a great idea though, labelling it a load of old hocus pocus .

Hope everyne else is doing just fine...!!

Ds post mp. That's why I can say that it can happen OK - as it has for me. Got very early scans as as result of mp. Unfortunately midwife didn't seem to consider that had already had mc and fairly lousy time previously and that I might not need to be told that there was a problem when there might not be, or that she was expecting me in with preeclampsia in the next few weeks (didn't happen ).

Accupuncture got me through pregancy - without it I wouldn't have been able to walk dog to day before ds arrived, etc etc etc. Also helped out hugely with stress.

Went to accupuncture Tuesday (not been sleeping well) - had the best 2 nights sleep since then that I've had in months. Come out of session completely relaxed, unworried, floating on cloud9....

We were lucky - having got to top of IVF list before mc, kept on seeing same consultant (who effectively was consultant in Leeds for mp as well) and saw him shortly after being formally allowed to start trying again - he gave us 5 months - got BFP at the last minute.

Hi Ladies hope you are well. How funny Mistlethrush I to did not have you down as a Leeds lady, I have not idea why. I think I assume everyone on here is from the South.

I used to date a guy in Leeds - Pudsey to be precise.

I was talking to a lady who had had a molar pg we did not go into too much detail but she now has one child which took her 22 months and she is expecting her 2nd which took her 18 month to conceive. Funily the 2nd one came as she left a job she hated.

It took my DH's mum seven years and then she had 5 one after the other. It gives you hope.

It makes me smile that I spent years trying to not get pregnant and now I want to it wont happen.

My doctor is not the best and not very supportive but the nurse is lovely so I talk to her alot.

I really fancy accupuncture I've heard great things about it.

BB, well, as you're only in Sheffield, I can recommend someone in Leeds if you want to go to someone with a recommendation. Let me know!

I wonder why I don't come across as a northern lass? Surely my accent (or lack of distinctive regional accent - very boring really) can't come across in writing?

22 months - obviously didn't have to have th same treatment as I had to put a stop on everything for 12 months after treatement after 1st mc....

I didn't ask whether that was 22 months after a treatment break. If Im honest I do not know that much about molar pregnancies.

I live in Manchester, I commute to Sheffield everyday for the shop.

I seriously do not know what is happening with my hormones this month. For the past six months my cycles have not changed this month I've had positive OPKs for the last week!!!! and my temp is up and down like nobodies business. I think I might just right this month off as I do not think I have ovulated. My bust is not sore or anything. But I was ill the other weekend when I had a fever.

Hi ladies

I know it is normally quiet in here over the weekend but I just need a chat so to speak.

I am thinking about giving up ttc for a time. This month my cycle is all over the place and it is driving me mad. I think from my charting my luteal phase may be short but my doctor is crap and wants me to carry on without help for a bit longer.

I have turned into a monster (which is seriously unlike me, Im normally laid back) my DH was tired the other night and his wilson did not want to play (we have been bding none stop) but instead of being understanding I fell out with him. What is wrong with me I love him so much and that was so wrong of me!!!

I don't want this to cause us problems and I am scared it is changing me, my life and thoughts revolve around it!!!

Sorry for being down guys as I know some of you have been trying for longer than me.

Hi BB
Sorry you're feeling stressed about ttc, it's really hard. I took a break from MN for a while when I found I was too obssesed with ttc that DH was suffering (and not in a good way!) You need to really sort things out in you head, esp with your business at the mo and your DH's friend dying. It's a stressful time if you're affected by just one of these things, so be kind to yourself as you're dealing with all three things at once. Feel free to chat here if it help, I'll be around for a while.
xx

Hi Nomore! Just wanted to say hello. How are things for you?

BB - I get like that too.Dh had a similar temporary problem a couple of times with the stress of everything, and I reacted like a spurned hellcat. I felt awful after, when I realised that sometimes I don't want to either, but only do so because of ttc. I think it must be a ttc rite of passage.

Just read your Hut post too, sorry you're feeling so down, it's horrible but I do know how you feel and it does get better. I think it's almost like a grieving process when you have to accept that ttc was not what you thought it would be (when we all believed that simply coming off the pill and bding was all that was needed) I know it's not what you want to hear right now but it will get better and you will come out the other side, it's just a dark time. Sorry if I'm waffling or repeating myself, I just wanted you to understand that I know how you feel and offer my support and some hugs too.

Hi kensgirl I just read your hut post too, hugs for you as well, you could just scream sometimes, couldn't you! Fate has a poor sense of humour sometimes.

Hi Nomore sorry to run off DH came home. He is sorry for telling everyone but apparently he just let everything go but he feels better.

I have let go to and had a good chat. I think I have to accept that my life is up and down and the moment

We go on holiday at the end of this month which is just a week in the sun but I cannot wait to just get away from everything.

I like MN because you don't feel so alone and understanding everything you are going through is normal.

I am off to Tesco now, how exciting is my life. I am going to watch Harry Potter tonight with my DH he is feeling delicate after last night.

Thanks ladies I hope you know how helpful your knowledge and understanding is.

Glad you've had a chat with DH, it really helps you to put things in order when you try to explain it to someone else. Enjoy the rest of your weekend, I'm off to tesco this afternoon too!

Glad you sorted things out BB. Sometimes you just get things out in the open, probably what dh has done. Hope you enjoy Harry Potter!

Nomore - thanks for listening! I am a moaning old boot these days .

moan away, I'll be cashing in my 'listening ear' credits in a week or so when AF arrives

Men just don't get it the same way do they? How many of us is it then that find that dp/dh is 'keen' for three weeks and has a week off just at the wrong time? (Sorry, I think that this post should be elsewhere, but given current thread, sounds as though it's appropriate here too!) Not quite sure how we ended up with ds - Oh yes I do, we'd resigned ourselves to starting date with IVF so that the possibility of conceiving naturally didn't seem remotely possible....

Lol, my dh didn't even know that my fertile time was so short! he thought it lasted a week...
It was our 1st anniversary yeserday, we had a lovelyday. We were at a edding the day before, and stayed overnight, where dh had arranged for champagne and a red rose to be in our room, and my card and present too, so I can't grumble .

I did spend part of yesterday wearing my tiara and wedding shoes though!

How are we all today?

kensgirl awww that's so sweet of DH (and you for wearing tiara and shoes!)

I'm good this morning, although I've got a day 21 blood test tomorrow and have no idea where the form is, I has a tidy up before we went on holiday and now I can't find anything!

Its probabaly in the bin... if you are like me, that is. good luck with the tests tomorow. How long do you have to wait for the results?

Hope goes well tomorrow. My veins have a habit of disappearing when required whcih isn't helpful. I have even managed to stump a professional phlobotomist (Sp???) who ended up having 3 goes and hitting a nerve the last time then getting a colleage to do it. There's always one isn't there, and in my experience, it often turns out to be me!

Kensgirl - sounds lovely, and how sweet . Our aniversary this year we were on the way into work before we remembered and then didn't even manage to have cards etc. Mind you, I do get my own back as its dh's bday the following day!

Nomore - if you're like me its in one of the piles of 'important' papers that need to be kept and actioned but you never quite manage to get there....

I suspect it's hidden in a cupboard somewhere as we had friends using our house when we were away and DH got all paranoid that they'd look through all our stuff

re anniversaries - the day before our anniversary (5th) our conversation went something like this:
DH: have you got an anniversary card yet?
me: not yet, have you?
DH: no
me: shall we not bother?
DH: ok

Don't think we bothered last year either. I do bother (and so does DH) when we aren't going to be together for our anniversary (the first 3 we were in different countries)
The same often happens re xmas/b'day presents (or we get something to 'share' usually for the house) though I insist on birthday cards!

Do you really need the paper? For some of the ones I've been to I've not needed paper, but for others, agree, needed (particularly when they've supplied you with special vials and a padded envelope to send it off in etc)

Sounds a similar situation re presents here, although I think that we owe each other several CHristmases now... Do try to remember cards, although anniversary one went out of the window. Big one next year, so we should perhaps try a bit harder?

It's the plastic bag with the form attached with details for the lab as to what they're checking blood for and it's signed by the doc authorising it, so probably do need it! Will have to have a big search for it tonight.

big birthday or anniversary?

Anniversary. At least, I think it is. And, also birthday later in the year

Hello everyone

Just to say that I'm going to take a break from mn for awhile as I've decided to not to ttc for the next few months. I am going to try and put energy into other things. I will probably look in from time to time to see how everyone is going but I need to put it to the back of my mind. Have been thinking about it for so long and am fed up with the stress and worrying, so finally I've decided. Good luck everyone and lots of babydust for you all