TTC number 2

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Is it me or does number 2 seem to take longer to conceive?

Hello @crazychemist and everyone.

Sorry for not checking in - work has been crazy. I did get my solid smiley yesterday  later than usual but not complaining. We DTD Monday night but was too exhausted last night so will do it tonight as still got a positive on the cheapie OPK. Our timings this month have been off but I'm feeling calm about it which is unusual!

How is everyone else?

Hope you're feeling well @Chips4dinneragain

Sorry I've been quiet on this thread.

Big congratulations @Chips4dinneragain x

Hope everyone is well.
What cd/dpo is everyone on?
I'm currently 13dpo was due to start af yesterday. I have had about 5 bfn whenever I have tested this month. Keep getting af cramps so she will be here soon

Yes feeling fine thanks nespresso did my final FRER today and got a nice strong line which is now darker than the control, so starting to chill out a bit!

Thanks goldendust sorry to hear AF threatening to make an arrival, I always found the last few days of the TWW so draining.

Seems like there's a gaggle of you going into your TWW so fingers crossed for you all! And hope your positive OPK makes an appearance soon chemist so you can make the best use of the Easter Holidays!

Hi guys, I’m new here (normally just a lurker on Mumsnet). Just wondering if anyone knows if I got a a negative test the day after my period was due but my urine was pretty dilute (I drink tons at work) if I’m still in with a chance? This test was taken half an hour ago in the toilet at a gas station

@snowscreamer hey! My af was due yesterday I got a negative yesterday too! I'm getting cramps but people say there's always a chance until af arrives. Lol at the gas station 🤣

@Chips4dinneragain yes they really are 😢 what dpo did you get your bfp?x

@snowscreamer I just tested not got a bfn

@Crazychemist just finished my fertile period, DTD every other day so feeling hopeful!

golden I'm not really sure to be honest, based on OPKs I got it at 4dpo but obviously that can't be right so I've just guessed that it must of been around 7dpo based on the strength of the line?!?

Why is it supposed to be every other day, rather than every day? Is every other day actually better, or just more achievable? (Wondering as I head into fertile window hopefully! Doubt we’d manage every day, but wonder if we could do 3 in a row when I get a positive OPK.....) kind of desperate to throw my all at it this cycle as we have far better opportunities than we will next month

Can I join please? I have a DD who is nearly 5 conceived first cycle, been trying for 10 months and no luck, I'm 34. Really regretting not trying sooner but life got in the way, we are now more than ready and it's not happening :( Always wanted a four year age gap but now
it's looking like 5 and half at least. Trying to think about the positives like true big sister/little sister or brother roles which can be sweet rather than them possibly stepping on each others toes/competing to much ..but scared it may never happen!! I have a short leutal phase of between 9-11 days. I'm taking Maca, Vitex and evening primrose oil. I'm thinking about trying the vitamins mentioned in this thread, please can you tell me which brand you use?

yawn DD was up at 4.30 this morning..... @sassenach84 I’ve been thinking about what you said and maybe a sleep consultant is the way to go! We don’t seem to be making progress and I’m not sure DH are on the same page with it. Sooooo glad that she’s at nursery and I’m still on hols, I got up with her so DH could sleep but then I went back to bed until 10 once he’d taken her. Still feel a bit like a zombie, I’m not a good napper.

Welcome @tomorrowsleep! A big age gap can be good (I keep telling myself). A work colleague of mine says it’s fantastic because her kids don’t seem to feel like competitors and her DD enjoys helping (treats DS a bit like a doll I think ). It also helps spread the financial load a bit if the elder one is at school by the time you take maternity leave. Personally, I hadn’t realised that toddlers can’t dress themselves (ok, some can, but mine currently has zero interest in doing it herself and I don’t think she could anyway), so perhaps it’s a good thing #2 hasn’t turned up!

Any news of AF @snowscreamer or @Goldendust? Fingers crossed she doesn’t show up!

Having resisted OPKs until this month I am now an obsessed crazy person. I was so sure this cycle would be perfect timing! DH and I both have days at home without DD when I was sure my fw would be. Today is cd10-14 (not exactly sure), and not a hint of EWCM or a line on an OPK. This is not the Plan!!!

Glad to hear you’re feeling a bit more relaxed @chipsfordinneragain. Have you made your booking in appointment? It’ll feel more real once you’ve told someone and they just accept it as a totally normal, calm thing!

Hello ladies

Fertile window over, confirmed by negative OPK this am. CD 15 today, so think I ovulated yesterday. AF due 23rd but Ovia says I can test in 11 days but I will try to wait for AF

I can't understand why I am feeling calm about it? Normally I am so stressed. Is it because I am having bloods done next week and think they'll find a reason as to why we haven't caught yet?

We have DTD four times this fertile window, my DH said nobody could accuse us of not trying 😂

Also, next weekend I have a birthday do to go to, so should I do a test to see if I am or not to know whether to have a couple of drinks? AF will be due on the Tuesday after.

crazychemist psychologically I felt much better for managing to DTD 3 days in a row once I got a positive OPK, I almost didn't make the third day as I was really tired (as was DH, we are definitely past the aspiring chicken phase!). Not got my booking in appointment yet, in my area you have to see a GP first. Although I realised today despite feeling like I got my BFP a lifetime ago, I'm actually only 4 weeks today, so having to wait a bit isn't a bad thing.

tomorrowsleep I got my b50 complex from Holland and barrat (own brand) and vitamin c from boots (ownbrand).

Still no AF. Now CD32 and Ovia suggests AF was due CD30. I did have EWCM only a week ago but it was strange because I only noticed it for one day and when my fertile period should have been according to the app there was no EWCM. So who knows what's going on!

Thinking of testing tomorrow with FMU. My husband has been back in the UK (we live in the US at the moment) this week visiting his dad who is terminally ill. He is back tomorrow so if I did get a BFP that would be lovely to surprise him with after a difficult week.

What does everyone do about alcohol and caffeine consumption when there's no AF but no BFP? I'm just not sure... been limiting both a bit but not abstaining.

@crazychemist still no af yet but all the symptoms are there! I keep thinking I've come on but go to the loo and nothing there. Just want to hurry up and start the next month if it didn't work this month! How are you?x

Thanks chips for vitamin advice, and thanks chemist for support xxxx

Now 3 days late and a BFN this morning with FMU. It seems no lovely surprise for DH upon his return today. C'est la vie. No idea WTF is going on with my cycle... I didn't track over Christmas as we were travelling and had a lot going on so I've only tracked the last 2-3 periods but it was reasonably solid on a 30-31 day cycle. I think over Christmas they might have gone a bit haywire but can't really remember. We only agreed to start trying casually around 6-8 weeks ago so this is cycle 2. Barely any sex (life with a toddler!) during the first cycle so AF was no surprise. I would just like an answer now for this cycle so I can move on!!

Is anyone else in here currently breastfeeding? I wonder if that has an impact... but my cycles since they returned almost a year ago have largely followed the same pattern as they did in the 5 months I was off hormonal contraception and tracking last time. Daughter was a honeymoon baby so I don't really have a lot of experience of properly trying...!

Hi nespresso glad you’re feeling calm :-)
Not sure it’s worth a test, a few drinks won’t matter anyway, if you are pregnant the embryo will have only just implanted, the placenta will be nowhere near formed so nothing is exchanged between your blood and embryo at that stage (was a huge comfort to me as I realised I was expecting DD when I was at a wedding and had got hugely pissed at a wedding the previous weekend!)

Sorry to hear you haven’t got a bfp yet snow. I still feel DD, she can be a total boob monster at times. She’s ill and teething at the moment so is pestering me constantly! I’ve heard that is mostly doesn’t have an effect if your cycles are regular. FWIW, mine are more regular than they were preDD!

Still no positive on OPK. No EWCM either. Bit miffed, we’ve had so much time for dtd this week and it was when I thought my fw would be!

chips it feels like longer than that! I think because I’m obsessing over every day at the moment. I didn’t realise anyone still saw gp before midwife now, what do you talk about?

goldendust you tested on Thursday? Still no AF?

6 days till I’m due on and I’m obsessing!

God knows chemist it seems like a massive waste of an appointment to me but maybe my local area was full of people self referring to midwifery when they weren't pregnant or something?!?

How frustrating about your opks, what CD are you on now and when do you think you usually ovulate?

Sorry to those in that horrible limbo between BFN and AF, its a really shit time, fingers crossed next cycle is more lucky.

Morning ladies

Thanks @crazychemist - that's reassuring.

Been feeling fine in the TWW, some sore boobs but that's not abnormal for this time in my cycle.

I am a POAS addict. I did one this am. I think I have line-eyes and surely can't see anything - am I going mad? I think it's just that I want to see something 😬🙈

Btw AF due Tuesday so I'm testing 6 days early 😂