TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

[Laney79]

Hey ladies, we were nearing the limit on thread 28 so here's a new one.

Roll Call...

Name: Laney79
Age: 39
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
2 losses - MMC discovered March 2018, MMC discovered Sept 2018 both at what should've been 9 weeks, bean and bow measured 6 weeks.

@Lilimum6 @Russkispy @Catconfusion @Boboelephant @fnej01 please tag and pass on!

Oh @Lilimum7 I'm so sorry. Is there any chance the wee was too dilute? Huge hugs.

@InDreamland the royal baby news is really hard. I can't escape it as I work in a radio station! I confess to have been wearing headphones a lot today.

@Frillyfarmer that phone appointment sounds positive-can't remember how old you are? I think trying to be optimistic is good but don't feel bad for trying to find an answer-sometimes considering all the options and educating yourself does help in the long run-at least now you know what to ask if you need to.

@VenusStarr your appointment sounds positive too-good to have a plan xxx

Welcome @MummyBearBoo

Hugs to all. Xxx

Thanks for the welcome everybody. Sorry I haven't been back for 48 hours, and it seems I've already missed a lot - this thread moves fast!!

I've booked a GP appointment for next week to see if they'll refer for tests yet. If nothing else, I should get my thyroid levels tested again as they haven't been tested for more than six months and I've had a MC in that time.

@mummybearboo we are very close in age (I'm 33) and I also have a 3 year old DD

www.itv.com/news/london/2019-05-07/parents-race-against-time-to-raise-500-000-to-save-young-esme-handley-diagnosed-with-aggressive-cancer/

Just seen this on the news. Heartbreaking. Life is so unfair couple finally get their rainbow baby but then have to fight and raise £500k to save her.

@Laney79 I don't blame you for going round with headphones. I came escape any baby pregnancy talk, working in HR someone being pregnant and giving birth is mentioned to me a lot. No escaping it being shoved down my throat all the time.

@Laney79 no chance used fmu and backed up with 4 hour hold smu. Plus I'm now spotting and have cramps. So I guess it's all over

Thank you @InDreamland, we paid privately for dh's SA. It had morphology, motility and count. Think we'll try the tests for me and then review when we see the consultant again. It's useful to know about the fragmentation. How much was the private test?

@Laney79 thank you. How are you feeling?

I'm sorry @Lilimum7, there are no words xx

So sorry to hear that @lilimum7 x

Really sorry to hear this @Lilimum7

So sorry @Lilimum7. Hope someone is taking care of you. x

So sorry @Lilimum7 try to be strong. It's so unfair x

@VenusStarr it was £500 for the test.

Currently 4 or 5 dpo and had a cry this evening. I feel so low. How will I ever cope with not having living children.

@Lilimum7 oh my lovely. I'm so sorry. I just hope the appt next week can give you some ideas and investigations to find out what's going on.

@VenusStarr doing ok thanks, trying not to worry but it's impossible! Poas again this morning and line progression is good so I'm not going to test again. Been getting pulling/bubbly sensations in tum and feeling slight nausea in a morning as well as being really windy and tired, so hoping they are good signs. Which tests are you going to go for?

@Lilimum7 I’m so sorry. Look after yourself xx

@strawberrye your Tommy’s appointment sounds promising, really hope you get some answers. It’s also very good you are eligible for ivf. Our fertility consultant is waiting to see what the rmc say before we start ivf but so far my blood results haven’t shown anything abnormal. I’m off to San Francisco so it should be very relaxing and positive for me, really looking forward to it.
@lilimum7 I’m really sorry. It’s very timely you have your appointment soon. I know you were concerned about your low bbt this cycle so that would be worth mentioning. I hope you’re coping ok.
@laney79 symptoms sound promising!
@indreamland sorry you are still feeling so upset. I wish there was more we could do to help but I think it’s very hopeful now that you have had treatment for the infection your dh had. Fingers crossed this cycle.

Sorry to see new joiners but between us all I think we have a wealth of advice and support for you.

I’m worried. 8 weeks now and no af since erpc. Cramps, but nothing. FF has taken my crosshairs off. Still have the breast lump. My chart does look ovulatory to me. Any ideas? I scrapped my temps earlier in the month because I was abroad and the room was hot, and I think it was a failed ovulation attempt.

Oops, forgot to add my chart

@Mistymeow definitely worth a chat with epu or gp hun even if it just for reassurance.

Thanks ladies for all your kind words. Shame it's not the same at home ( I basically live with Sheldon Cooper from big bag) not what I needed, resulting in a huge argument and we're not even speaking now. When I informed him that the pg had failed he said sorry and then proceeds to tell me how bad his night at work will be and that he's going to go snooze on the sofa. Which he did all day and then he explodes when I accidentally woke him. Needless to say not the best situation at the moment. I know he's up set be he only knew for 24 hours, I didn't tell him until I was sure. I so cross and upset with him right now.

Any who how are all you ladies doing?

Hi all, sorry you all find yourself in this shit situation I remember it very very well. Just been having a tidy and I have about 100 opks and 4 one step pregnancy tests. I've had 2 losses myself and am currently heavily pregnant so they are no good to me. Let me know if you would like them and I'll post them to you, don't mind splitting them if people are happy to share. Leanne x

Sorry to hear you aren't getting much support at home @lilimum7, linking into what moonpeace said I don't think it seems as real to them but it doesn't mean that he can't support you.

Sorry @Lillimum7 it’s a massive generalisation but I think men don’t know how to deal with these things sometimes or what to say and it could be as simple as he’s tired and moody

Vent on here if you need to!

@Lilimum7 so sorry - praying this isn't the worst for you but we're here for you if it is

No @moonpeace it was all very shocking just presumed at 24 I'd have a healthy pregnancy, first was a natural mc at 7 weeks and second was missed at 14weeks baby died a couple of weeks earlier, was booked in for surgical but all failed and was very traumatic. Got pregnant 6 weeks after mmc and had bleeding with clots until 17 weeks and was positive I'd lost this one too but was a extra chronic hemorrhage which had gone by 20 week scan. Shes wiggling away right now and I'm due in 5 days. Didn't do anything different at all was just offered alot of scans by epu x

@moonpeace I'm the same - my DH had no fucking idea until he was born. TBF I think he has been a lot more sympathetic to these losses because of my first pregnancy - he understands a bit more about it now he's done the whole doting father thing. But he's still on the outside of the mindless research and questions that go round and round in my head.

@xJune88 I'm glad you've posted, gives me a bit more hope, just finished my second MC and I am feeling a bit desperate about everything right now.

I think I’m 11dpo and had traces of blood when I wiped this afternoon. I don’t usually get they between periods and didn’t have implantation bleeding with my first pregnancy. Haven’t dtd for a few days either so it’s not that - anyone had this? 🤷🏻‍♀️

@moonpeace Men are on the outside when it comes to pregnancy and carrying a child. It’s not just recurrent loss it’s any loss. I carried a child to term and held her and everything but still DH has admitted he doesn’t love her as he does his other (living) children as he didn’t know her and he never knew her alive. We had her with us for a bit after she was born so he saw her and everything but it’s very different for him and it’s hard for me as he has two other children whom he loves and I feel I have nothing. He has been good in lots of ways but I feel alone in my grief x