TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

[Laney79]

Hey ladies, we were nearing the limit on thread 28 so here's a new one.

Roll Call...

Name: Laney79
Age: 39
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
2 losses - MMC discovered March 2018, MMC discovered Sept 2018 both at what should've been 9 weeks, bean and bow measured 6 weeks.

@Lilimum6 @Russkispy @Catconfusion @Boboelephant @fnej01 please tag and pass on!

And the royal baby has arrived and my phone has already started sending me breaking news story. Deleted the shitty bounty app who also had the audacity to send me a notification on it.

No doubt everyone's news feeds and social media will be filled with it, how do you avoid the world whilst they get over baby mania?!

Have they said why they're recommending it @moonpeace? It's a difficult one because it's a decent chunk of money especially when your NHS consultant hasn't recommended it? Can I ask what other tests you've had done and what the outcome was? My GP seemed really dismissive of doing anything at this stage as I have a living child with the same partner and I've "only" had 2 MC so it could just be "bad luck". Have you found any resistance to testing etc because of your DC?

@moonpeace Dtd twice in fertile period and then a day either side.

This month I think I ov on CD14 so my fertile period according to Ovia is cd9-14. We dtd in cd 8, 10, 13, 15 but that was partly by accident because I didn’t realise til CD13-14 that I think I ov then (earlier than I thought) but I could have got my ov day wrong!

I like Meghan and I loved watching their wedding. I think I would have been so excited about the royal baby if my baby had lived but in the circumstances I’m just not! I’m sure I’m not the only one.

@Mistymeow how's the garden? Hope you didn't need to aggressively dig. You're very strong, I'm not sure I can cope spending any time with pregnant friends or colleagues or babies.

@Lilimum6 fx this is the start of a stronger line and a sticky bean.

@Laney79 those lines are so lovely and strong. Hope this one sticks.

@Frillyfarmer @Russkispy thinking of you. Sending lots of hugs. Hope you're being looked after.

Sorry not to mention everyone I'm rubbish at keeping up with a fast moving thread. Sorry not been on for 48 hours, it's been a very busy long weekend. Had a lovely late lunch with a friend yesterday before we went to see Take That at the O2. Gosh I love those guys so much, amazing evening, I enjoy every concert I see them. So had a lie in this morning to recover from the concert and then had lots of house stuff to sort out and did a bit of holiday planning. The news about the royal baby has hit me hard and made me all angry and upset again. It's just so unfair how some can have it so easy, get married and within a year pop out a healthy baby. We'll be marking our 6th wedding anniversary on Saturday and will again be well aware of the fact that we've been trying since we got back from honeymoon........only this year not only will be say we have no baby but that we've also had 2 losses now. Life sucks! I hate the world sometimes. Even last night at the concert I couldn't help thinking this would probably have been the first evening I left what should have been our 14 week old baby with DH and I'd be all anxious about it .......or I should be at the concert almost 30 weeks pregnant and maybe not exerting myself so much waving arms and jumping around. Why me?

@InDreamland I'm glad you had a good evening but I'm sorry it was bittersweet for you. How are you and DH getting on after his appointment?

I'm angry today, just wanted to watch the news before work but obvious bother GMB and the beeb have got a load of fusty royal correspondents to comment on inane aspects of the royal baby.

I've stopped bleeding, so my job today is to get another appointment with my GP, push for another set of swabs to rule out an infection and then see what else he has to say. I don't want to wait for this to happen a third time before I'm taken seriously, especially as the attitude is that I can't be broken cos I've got one child already. I'm going to request a different GP I think.

Well that was really the shortest pregnancy I've had so far.

Negative cbfm test and frer rediculously lighter than yesterday's. So just waiting for the bleeding to start now.

I truely don't know how much I can take now I'm so sad and fed up of this journey now.
Needless to say I am changing my name to lilimum7 now.

All changed x

@lilimum6 sorry to hear that but aren't you still before AF due? At this stage HCG is very easily diluted. I'd wait to see if AF does arrive and test in a few days.

@Bluebelltulip yeah maybe but not holding on to any hope at all. These been no progression in the line darkness either. All symptoms have gone and I just have AF type feelings now.

In future I'm not testing until after I'm at least 3 days late.

Tomorrow is going to be really hard its my due date too and now cp to boot. Why is this happening, what did I do to deserve this

@lilimum7 you did not do anything to deserve this, pregnancy loss is not a punishment. Hugs x

@indreamland it’s like pulling a plaster off. I know I can’t avoid my friends and I don’t want to, so I put myself through it in order to heal. Haven’t done the garden yet, the weather is better today so I might force myself! Sorry you still feel so down. Are you continuing with the counselling? Does your dh have another SA?
@lilimum7 this is so stressful, I’m sorry. It’s not a chemical until you start bleeding so I really hope you don’t. Can you call your GP? You need support. Have they done any investigations (sorry if you’ve already answered this)?

@Mistymeow I've got rmc on 14th so will hopefully get some tests done then.

Hugs @InDreamland Life can be so unfair sometimes

@Lillimum7 I hope this is not a cp for you. A lighter line doesn’t necessarily mean the worst. Fingers crossed 🤞 for you xx

So sorry to hear this @Lilimum7 it is very cruel 💔 sending love xx

Just got to the hospital for my first fertility clinic appointment, feeling really anxious, I didn't sleep well at all. And I think I'm gearing up to ovulate - am cd7 but been getting twinges the last couple of days and had ewcm this morning. I usually get that for a couple of days before I ovulate.

Did that happen to anyone else? This is my first proper cycle after the miscarriage, had one period then this. It would be around 3 days before my usual ovulation day.

@FrillyFarmer exactly how I feel about the news. I couldn't give a f* where how or when the baby was born. All I see are 2 selfish rich privileged people who announced their pregnancy to their family at a family member's wedding to steal the limelight and then announce to the public on International wave of light day and baby loss awareness week which was the most insensitive thing to do showing they couldn't care less about others. Hope that you can get that GP appointment, you have to really push for what you need for MC care and testing with the NHS, well certainly where I am anyway. It's a constant battle.

@Lilimum7 I'm so sorry, this is just the shittiest thing to happen. Sending you lots of hugs. Hope you can get all the tests and answers from RMC.

@Mistymeow the counselling sessions have finished now. Had the last one beginning of last month. They were good for accepting that it's okay and normal to think and feel how I do but only time will help with the pain of the 2 losses and infertility.

@AliceRR life is totally unfair. Certainly don't get out what I put in. In all honesty I feel like the more you put in the less you get out and the less you put in the more you get. I'm so angry with the universe.

How can I hide from everything in the media baby and pregnancy related and people around me who are pregnant?

@Russkispy how are you today? In my thoughts

@VenusStarr mc can really mess with cycles timing and can take some time to settle down. If you're worried though mention it to the consultant.

I had a telephone appointment to discuss my miscarriage with another GP today who seemed quite clued up.

She did say that due to my age and having only been trying since November, they won't refer me unless I have a third loss, as at this stage it could just be very bad luck. To continue taking my vitamins, folic acid etc and to start trying again as soon as I feel ready. I have asked for swabs to ensure no infections and she has agreed that's a good idea.

You know, sometimes in the thick of it all, I think I am my own worst enemy. I've spent most of this weekend convincing myself I have hyper fertility, that I have low progesterone or that I may have NK cells. In turn the constant googling and worm holes build some fucking colossal anxiety and I'm in the world's most foul mood.

I'm going to try being optimistic - perhaps this is just bad luck and I need to stop stressing out over the situation a little bit.

Hello i have been following the thread but i do not understand what CP CD or ERPC mean please enlighten me

@Trying37

CD- cycle day.
CP- chemical pregnancy (very early miscarriage).
EPRC- not sure exactly but concerns the medical management of a miscarriage I think.

Thanks @InDreamland. I hate not knowing what's going on. It's hard to trust your own body.

Back from the appointment. It was very clinical but they haven't discharged us. He's ordered a laparoscopy and hycosy plus another ultrasound. He's happy with Dh SA, so not redoing that. Follow up appointment will be in a few months. He did recommend the amh blood test but we'd have to pay. We've agreed to ttc in the meantime, have these tests then see where we're up to. If it's looking like we need an intervention or ivf it will be useful to know so we'll get the blood test then but not sure it would help now (and probably make me more anxious). Really hoping we can conceive on our own and it sticks.

Hope everyone is well today. I am avoiding the news.

Mind if I join?
i'm 34 with a 3 year old DD
TTC #2 cycle #5
TFMR (incompatible with life) Dec 2017-at 12+1
2 CPs last month and month before.

My whole group of friend now have their 2nd baby we're all due after my little boy should have been born including my SIL who was due the day after that was really hard and my only childless friends have twins due in June!!
I did get BFP this morning I'm 15dpo and I'm not prepared to think I'm pregnant for another week yet coz my last CP was 19 DPO! I also have a 50% chance of having to have another TFMR due to genetic condition I find out from an 11 week CVS if I make it that far. I hate it that I can't just think yay I'm pregnant I always have to wait to week 13 from results of CVS then past the 1% chance if MC from CVS!

@Trying37 @Bluebelltulip ERPC = evacuation of retained products of conception

@VenusStarr it's good that you're getting tests done. Problem we found with NHS SA is that it only looks at motility and count but not the quality of the swimmers. We had to go private for DNA fragmentation and quality which showed up an issue, the issue is strongly linked to MC.