TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

[Laney79]

Hey ladies, we were nearing the limit on thread 28 so here's a new one.

Roll Call...

Name: Laney79
Age: 39
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
2 losses - MMC discovered March 2018, MMC discovered Sept 2018 both at what should've been 9 weeks, bean and bow measured 6 weeks.

@Lilimum6 @Russkispy @Catconfusion @Boboelephant @fnej01 please tag and pass on!

@Catconfusion my cycles are only 24 to 26 days (33 to 35 days during anovulation) it so disappointing when you see the LH go up and you dtd like crazy but no temp rise. Its like wth did I do wrong this time.
Hoping you ovulate this time.

No problem @Squiff70 we're all here to listen and help if we can.

I have loved having a new space to mooch around in. DH wasn't so pleased as there was stuff everywhere. I find moving furniture around therapeutic. It's funny how it often ties in with ovulation time. It must be nesting! Xx

@Lilimum6 it's soul destroying isn't it!? I've been guilty this cycle of letting it ruin my day. Of crying and moping around. I'm trying not to do that any more. If I don't get a rise tomorrow I'm going to get on regardless as life is too short! Xx

@Catconfusion good for you hun wish I was that strong xx

Hi ladies,

Just thought I would say hi. Am still lurking although not much to say as waiting on the TTC until early June. When I will try for the first time on the RMC treatment plan I've been given.

Sorry to see so many are having a hard time. I don't suppose it helps but I am now 6 months post miscarriage and cycles plus other symptoms such as hot flushes only just feel like they are settling down. I know it's frustrating but our bodies go through so much with the miscarriages I think they sometimes just take a while to sort themselves out, and all the pressure we put ourselves under doesn't help.

I hope there are some BFP's on the thread soon.

Baby dust to us all

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@Lilimum6 some days being strong is just getting up in the morning. Sometimes it's doing normal activities. You are strong too. Anyone who experiences pregnancy loss is strong doesn't fold completely is strong! Xx

@Catconfusion it could well be nesting! As long as it makes you feel good, that's the main thing :)

@fnej01 Welcome. I'm sorry to see you here and to hear of your loss. Thank you for joining us on this journey.

@Mistymeow @AliceRR @moonpeace @VenusStarr thank you for sharing comments about light and short AFs. That has helped a little as it has been really worrying me since mc#2.

@AliceRR that is a positive that you've DTD twice. Fx that it continues and you can hit Ov.

Jumping in on the discussion about being strong. I find all you ladies amazingly strong. Everything we've all been through and we're still trying and pushing medical staff to do something to help us .........the support everyone gives each other here, everyone is strong, even on the days you don't feel it, you are! x

@Squiff70 thanks for the welcome I am unfortunately an old cheese on this thread having been on here since June last year, my first of 3mc in 2018. I just sit quietly whilst not TTC having been in the RMC system, but will start again in June on honeymoon. Not starting until honeymoon as it would now be complicated with drugs and appointments to fall before and be away pregnant.

@InDreamland I think the short periods are really common. Mine dropped down from 4/5days to 2 days after the 3 mc last year. I became obsessed that it meant my lining too thin, however I've had about 5 ultrasound scans in the last 4 months all showing a good thick lining 10-11mm. Also my period does seem after six months to be lengthening again. Doctor has been clear all is fine and normal post miscarriage this happens so try not to worry.

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Thanks @fnej01. Hopefully you're all correct and it's nothing to worry about. I have been really worried about my womb lining not being thick enough. Nice to see you still here although at same time sorry you're still here. I'm getting close to joining you as old cheese here sadly.

Hey @fnej01 it's good to know there's an end to the repercussions. It's so frustrating to feel your body struggling when you just want to be well enough to ttc again. Xx

@InDreamland I've had periods that last just one day for several years since my copper coil was removed. The doctor said perfectly fine for conception. After my missed miscarriage surgery the pathology report said my lining was the optimum level for supporting a pregnancy which made me worry less about it. Xx

I have to say I've met some amazing strong and caring ladies on MN so far and it's been a real life line during one of the worst times of my life. I'll always be grateful for you all! Xx

Wow! Thread is moving fast!

@Lilimum6 Sorry to hear you are feeling so down my lovely. I really hope your appt with mr sizer gets you some where. I'd go armed with questions and tests you'd like doing-see what he says. Worst he can say is no! And if you don't get anywhere you could ask to be referred to Tommy's in Coventry or bham instead? Hugs.

@Catconfusion I hear you on letting opks/tracking affect your mood etc. I feel like I'm on a tightrope constantly-and my body never seems to do what it's "meant" to.

@Mistymeow I'd contact the go, if only for piece of mind. If the pump is coming and going it deffo suggests hormones, rather than anything else. I really wish there was some way other than birth control to help settle your hormones-when I was on the pill I was pretty even mood wise, now I'm all over the shop and feel on edge almost all the time! Poor oh-I'm a nightmare to live with.

@moonpeace I dropped off all the bits too-just kept the folic acid and vitamin d. Consultant for ivf now has me back on some specific ones but it was liberating to stop the pill popping for a while

@fnej01 What treatment plan do you have from the roc lovely if you don't mind me asking?

Hugs to@Squiff70 @frillyfarmer @AliceRR @InDreamland And everyone else.

Thanks for the best wishes ladies...appt went ok although I was freaking out in the waiting room, my phobia was on full form today. Had to try so hard not to run away. No results yet of my AMH test-apparently can take a week or two. Got to have a scan and oh needs his SA then another appt in two weeks but in the meantime we're being added to the waiting list for ivf/ICSI. Bricking it to be honest. And hoping I fall naturally and it be successful rather than have to go through this process. The stats are pretty scary for success at my age. I listened to some of you and yours on radio 4 yesterday talking about the clinics who have been accused of exploiting women over 40 who want to try ivf. Quite sobering to hear.

@Mistymeow it would seem you were 100% correct my poor little ovaries are trying again only it's a definite positive this time - fingers crossed 🤞

@Laney79 thanks hun x I'm going well prepared.

As for old cheese I think I might be the oldest cheese I've been here since thread 14 lol

Hey @Laney79 I think I'd be exactly the same at an ivf appointment. At least you have some information but hopefully you'll have success naturally.

Yes I've had some very sad days this cycle due to two failed ovulations. Since I started temping with Ovusense last August I've never had this happen. I do have pcos but I've always ovulated and had 4/5/6 week cycles. One was 8 weeks but my body didn't even try until it happened. It's been distressing to get all the symptoms and then they fade with a temp drop. It's been really triggering. Luckily I think yesterday was finally it on day 36. Now hopefully the wait for bfp or AF. I have a 17 day LP so some way to go yet! Xx

@Lilimum6 that's really good news. I hope that's a rise coming for you too as it's horrible being in limbo! Xx

@Lilimum6 that's a lovely positive - woohoo jks time!

@Laney79 sounds like plans progressing quickly for you - great news! I have been diagnosed with APS/sticky blood and high NK cells, so meds are day 21 cyclogest twice a day, bfp aspirin + heparin + steroids (prednisolone). I don't want to risk miscarrying on holiday again, hence not trying until June. I had miscarriages hanging over my head on holidays twice last year, and so will delay. Helpfully fw is while we are away though, so will try then fingers crossed.

@InDreamland @Catconfusion other thing that has helped me I think is acupuncture if you aren't already going down that route.

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Thanks @fnej01 sadly it's a case of money. We've just had a wedding, honeymoon and bought a house so can't afford it. I think if no success by the time I turn 40 in June we'll find the money! Xx

@lilimum6 great work, ovaries! Looks like your body is doing the right thing. I know it's hard but try to relax because my GP told me that stress can delay ovulation.
@catconfusion can't believe your ex lied and made you feel like it was you with the fertility issues, all because of embarrassment. So glad you've moved on and have a lovely DH. Yes they say 15million is considered normal, so my DH is on the low end of normal (and his other results are lowish- normal forms, morphology etc). I'm absolutely fine with IVF because I've known for years that we will probably need it. I know it's a tough journey but after going through the trauma of two MMC I feel like I've got the coping mechanisms in place to handle it. I'm also moving stuff around (ovulation time!) and redecorating, it's quite therapeutic.
@laney79 sorry your phobia came back in full force but it's always difficult when you're waiting for test results. I have heard of a fair few ladies being successful with IVF who are older, there may even be a thread on the infertility section. The fact you have successfully conceived twice is very encouraging (this is what I was told, despite not having a live birth).

Thanks ladies for your advice, I did see the GP today. He can feel a very small cyst in my breast which he is fairly certain is benign as it's tiny and movable. It may well be connected to my hormones and he said if it's not gone in a few weeks after my period (whenever that decides to show up!) he will refer me to the royal marsden just to be on the safe side. He was very reassuring but not exactly what I need right now!

@Mistymeow I know I can't quite believe it looking back. It gave me so many fertility hang ups. That's why I was so shocked when we conceived first try because on some level I still felt something was wrong with me.

When I faced IVF with my ex I realised I was with the wrong person. I think in a strong relationship with support for each other it can be really positive despite how tough it is. I'd do anything for a family with my DH, even a donor egg if it came to it. It just feels so right. If his results come back low I'm prepared for IVF if we need it.

I really hope it doesn't come to it but it sounds like you're ready. Just think in a year all this worry could be over and we could be Mums already or heavily pregnant. I really want that for all the lovely ladies on this thread.

It's so funny how the nesting kicks in. I don't even realise I'm doing it. I get a low mood just before then on the day of O I get a bit high from the hormone surge and just want new configurations of furniture and everything tidy. It drives DH crazy! Xx

@Mistymeow I know I can't quite believe it looking back. It gave me so many fertility hang ups. That's why I was so shocked when we conceived first try because on some level I still felt something was wrong with me.

When I faced IVF with my ex I realised I was with the wrong person. I think in a strong relationship with support for each other it can be really positive despite how tough it is. I'd do anything for a family with my DH, even a donor egg if it came to it. It just feels so right. If his results come back low I'm prepared for IVF if we need it.

I really hope it doesn't come to it but it sounds like you're ready. Just think in a year all this worry could be over and we could be Mums already or heavily pregnant. I really want that for all the lovely ladies on this thread.

It's so funny how the nesting kicks in. I don't even realise I'm doing it. I get a low mood just before then on the day of O I get a bit high from the hormone surge and just want new configurations of furniture and everything tidy. It drives DH crazy! Xx

Another baby bomb at work! I can't take this! Why? Just why?

@Catconfusion that's good that your lining is good. Scans I've had all say it's fine too. I guess though that every little change makes me worry lots, especially with my age.

@Laney79 fx all tests results come back positive and great you're on the list. It's progress. I saw something like that on the news yesterday about IVF, the stats are really scary. DH is trying to stay positive about our chances of another natural conception given we got pregnant twice last year but I'm petrified of another MC.

@Lilimum6 that's a good positive. Fx for this cycle!

@fnej01 we are looking into acupuncture now. DH is trying to get an appointment for us asap but think we won't get one in time for this cycle.

@Mistymeow so glad it sounds like it's nothing to worry about but also good now you're getting it seen to if it doesn't go. Fx it just disappears.

@InDreamland I know it's sometimes hard to believe healthcare professionals when they say things are normal after miscarriages. My periods are barely there so was pleased the lining wasn't an issue with my mmc. It probably was with the chemical I had straight after although I bled a lot. I think an ERPC can make the lining not conducive to implantation straight after.

I really hope you get a natural conception! It annoys me when people say at least you know you can get pregnant. It does however bode well you have had pregnancies. I'm so sorry they didn't work out though! Xx

Hi everyone, can I join you? I’m 30 and had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago, my first pregnancy. The doctors said to take a pregnancy test tomorrow to check everything’s gone and it’s making me very emotional, I thought I was ok but think I’ve been fooling myself!

For TTC, I just want to wait till my first period is out of the way but OH wants to wait longer but no set time frame which is making me feel really out of control.

I’ve lurked on this thread recently but want to be involved

I'm so sorry @Avf88 How far along we're you? It's such a shock to lose a pregnancy and horrible this is your first experience of being pregnant. I would definitely do the test tomorrow and then give your body some time to heal. The doctors often say fine to try straight away but I have to say I needed more time than I realised. I had two miscarriages back to back and had I waited I might not have had the second.

This thread is lovely and I'm sure you'll get plenty of support during your recovery here. Xx

@Catconfusion I would have been 10 weeks, I had a little bit of bleeding but I had convinced myself I was overreacting when the dr organised me a scan, was so excited that I’d get to see baby earlier than 12week scan because it was all going to be ok...
They said to wait ideally till after first period and I do think waiting is the right thing to do because of the mental impact too. I think for me it’s just that not knowing from OH, when will he think it’s ok?! What if it’s months from now?!

It does seem very supportive, I hope I can add to that too xx