Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

[Hobbes39]

New thread as last one filling up - will try to link to this in old one...!

Morning all.

@littlemimosa..thank you for the link..That's v.interesting actually as my last AF was unbelievably hard and the run-up to it was savage! I really believe now I'm 47 my hormones are see-sawing as I'm in peri. But I still feel that I'm ovulating. Mid cycle is coming and I feel nauseas and have alot of mucus (sorry tmi!)

@CritterTamer..great to hear all cooking nicely with your gorgeous twins. I had awful acid heart burn constantly with DS to the point I had prescribed Gaviscon in a huge bottle I would drink straight from at my desk! Even water caused the acid feeling. Hope your symptoms improve x

@Realitysucks.. what a thing to be told by the clinic! It doesn't make sense. I think what Hobbes said is right.. so much is pot luck and at our age they just use the same story about ageing eggs.

@turquoiseturtle ..sorry to hear the clinic have come to that decision. I agree with Chat that the care and advice given seem to be quite unhelpful and you just get the feeling they just want the money. That said, I got a positive response from my lady GP when we said we had been ttc at 46!
Hope you have a relaxing holiday and things happen naturally. You still have time!

@SparrowSG.. sorry to hear you have had a hard time..Hope you find a way through it.

@FraterculaArctica..have a lovely holiday x

Talking of going missing from the thread I wonder where Orchid went? She hasn't posted for ages. A lot of ladies who added their names to the list have gone now.

Hi all

I’m new to this chat and wanted to pick your brains about something.

I’m 42 and my partner is 34, we have been TTC for the last year with no success so went to the GP a couple of months ago to ask what our options are.

She was very dismissive and said because of my age all they can do is blood tests and that we would have to go to a fertility clinic to get our results.

Money is pretty tight at the moment and we would struggle to pay for even an initial consultation at a clinic so wondered if we can actually just get our results from the GP and interpret them ourselves?

I have had texts from the surgery saying all my results are “normal” ( whatever that means!) and a nurse friend said they are obligated to tell us their findings - has anyone had any experience of this or similar? Would be great to hear your thoughts.

Hi @gonenative. I'm no expert but if your bloods are fine and money is an issue I would boost your system with the right vitamins and minerals for a few months and look after yourself. The ladies on here give great recommendations. Regular relaxation, exercise (but not too intense).

Like I say, I'm no expert. But I fell pregnant at 42. This one ended badly but nothing to do with age or fertility. I'm semi-trying still. I'll be 43 in June.

Are you having regular periods?

Evening all, I was active on this thread last year (I was the keeper of the list!) and really appreciated all the support I received after my tfmr at 39 and mc at 40. I've just had beautiful dd2 at 41 after an uneventful pregnancy - such a relief as it was hard to relax during my pregnancy after everything that had gone on before. If anyone is interested, I took ubiquinol and vitamin B6 (I have been pregnant four times in four years and only ever got BFP when taking B6).

@gonenative.. I was told exactly the same when I had hormone tests..That they were normal. I asked them to give me readings and they did this for FSH and LH but I'd have to look these up as it was about 8 months ago. I had DS at 40, nearly 41. I had 2 mcs and had given up but then it just happened out of the blue! I agree with Mellongoose that regular exercise, not too strenuous, and relaxtion helps. Also having a healthy bmi. I still had a small glass of wine every night and I didn't take any vit's as I had given up folic acid. I was fortunate I think. Ttc no. 2 totally different matter but then I haven't been dtd as often as recommended which is at least every other day during the fertile window.
Good luck x

Just came across this article the NHS website. Really interesting about the tests they do to check fertility. I was told by a doctor that it was too early to check hormone levels as I'd had them only 6 months previous but this is mis-information as the article says the tests just give a snapshot at one particular time and rather worryingly they don't show how quickly levels may then drop which might affect whether a pregnancy can go full term.

www.nhs.uk/news/pregnancy-and-child/hormonal-fertility-tests-waste-time-and-money/

Hi shiny! I remember you well:) especially your very organized lists;) congratulations on your second child! Lovely news. Interesting about B6 too, any ideas what benefits it has?

Huge congratulations @shinyblackdog. Lovely news 👍

Congratulations shiney! I remember you too :) x

Congrats shiny x

Great news shiny!

How much b6 did you take. I'm taking pregnacare and there is some already in that I think

Thanks everyone, so nice to hear from you all. I started taking B6 when I realised I had a short luteal phase - nine days, couldn't work out why opks were never giving me a positive until kept them up through the cycle and realised was ovulating much later than "normal". Started B6, pg with dd1 the same cycle. B6 from the start next time, pg straightaway but sadly our baby had spina bifida and other related complications so we had a tfmr at 20 weeks. Third time I was on clomid so didn't think B6 would be necessary, as luteal phase regulated by clomid - nothing for four cycles, started again on the B6, hey presto pg cycle 5 - miscarried at 10+2. Last time again on clomid but B6 from the start, BFP first cycle, despite very thin lining at ovulation monitoring scan. It might be that I'm naturally deficient in it.

I took one 50mg tablet a day.

Thanks shiny was that on top of pre natal vits?

No, I didn't take prenatals, only folic acid, B6 and latterly ubiquinol.

Congrats @shinyblackdog! Such lovely news 😊😊😊

www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-6923801/Pregnancy-rate-continues-rise-women-aged-40-over.html
We have bucked the trend... whoop whoop !! 🙌

Congratulations @shinyblackdog 💕💕💕💕💕
Welcome @gonenative I agree with @mellongoose supplements
@BooseysMom great article. While eggs keep arriving all can be good..
lots of baby dust ladies 💕💕

Got my first peak today in months (probably since my mc where my ovaries have been struggling and soggy eggs have just been flopping out) so yay for clomid!!

Jut finished my early Scan which went very well and all progressing well and according to the dates! 7w3d today! And only 1 baby! Strong heartbeat! tears of relief about everything! Booked for another reassurance scan in 2 weeks! Then harmony test in 3 weeks and anxiously waiting for its results. In the meantime time, still feeling tired every night and nausea kicked in last week, and boobs are still tender from the day of transfer. But I'm not complaining. Just feeling blessed we've gone that far and still more hurdles to overcome

Woo hoo! @Russkispy that's brilliant news! X

Congrats russkispy!

Excellent news @Russkispy 👍

Hi Ladies ...

May I join? I'm 40 (birthday in Nov) and have two DC, but would really love a third. Questioning the reality of possibilities...

My history is one MMC prior to first DD and two more consecutively after first DDs birth. One MC was actually a blighted ovum which was devastating to find out only at 12 weeks. The other MC was an MMC and happened at 9 weeks. Utter devastation ... I still vividly remember my D&Cs with trepidation.

After successful birth of second DD, my periods have been irregular (cycles ranging from 23-32 days) - this is ongoing from Jan 2018.

Met with a private GYN/OB at The Lister in London and had tests run & all is seemingly fine. He did tell me that if I had any hope to conceive with IVF using my own eggs I should consider harvesting beginning/mid summer this year (age being the issue). I've considered this route myself, but DH isn't a fan. He's content with our little darlings (and so am I!), but I don't feel "done". I feel a deep "need" to try for another baby. He's finally on board to at least TTC but with no pressures like last time (I used OPKs, charting, etc).

So, I am now on CD 31 and no sign of my period. I took a ClearBlue digital PT but it was negative, on CD 29, midday. I don't think I have any symptoms at all, but wondering if I should POS?? I feel like it will just let me down again ... and almost rather ignore the situation til next month. Is this insane?

Any positive stories of pregnancies turned into live births in women in their 40s with irregular or long cycles?

I am wishing baby dust on all of you ... and congratulations @Russkispy ... most wonderful news

Hey ladies. I'm done now . 47 + 2 and I'm very past it . No peak on opk this last 2 months.

Pretty sure I ovulated but later than I thought. Cycles now between 27 -35. Some very off but only been a couple but guess that's my age now....got to face reality. I'm 47. My baby days have been and gone. My pg at 44'was the last push and sadly it didn't work out . I'm done
Ladies.' Good luck to all.'
But I'm out x