Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

[Hobbes39]

New thread as last one filling up - will try to link to this in old one...!

That's incredibly lucky @FraterculaArctica for you to fall so quickly. I was in the similar boat in December. We'd decided we wanted to try but didn't expect it to happen first time on our honeymoon as we thought age might be a factor at 39, nearly 40. We were in shock and hadn't properly talked through how it would factor in as we'd just moved house and not even unpacked.

I'm sure your DH will be really excited about it when he knows. I can appreciate the difficulty with not being able to tell him yet. It must be frustrating. Is there a friend you can chat to for support? When do you get back? I'm sure the ladies on MN will offer support in the meantime.

I can understand with it being early you're also a little worried about having a loss but today you are pregnant and try not to worry too much about the risks. I know that's hard. Sadly my pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks with surgery to resolve. I've since had another loss straight after but I've learnt for next time worrying will not change the outcome. It will either stick or it won't. I've got my fingers crossed for you it will.

I really hope you can get home soon and celebrate the news with your husband. Could you call him when your family have gone to bed and tell him? X

That's very kind of you Catconfusion, I'm sure it can't always be easy talking to other pregnant women so soon after your losses. I'm so sorry you've suffered those and hope you get a successful pregnancy soon. I wasn't sure whether to post on this thread or not as I know so many people are desperate to fall pregnant, I do know I have been very lucky.

I'm not going to tell DH till I get home on Tuesday, he's got enough to keep him busy without this going round in his head! It's only 2 days away.

No friends here, I'm on my own in the Far East which makes it all just seem really surreal!

Thanks @FraterculaArctica and don't worry. I'm fine supporting newly pregnant people. It can be such a confusing and stressful time. We all have the same goal of a healthy baby whatever stage we're at.

Since it's only a couple of days seems best to wait as you say DH sounds busy. So much nicer to tell him in person.

I bet it's surreal finding out under these circumstances. I guess make sure you wear your compression socks for the flight home and keep hydrated.

I'm so happy for you. It's such an exciting time with so many changes to make but it'll all be worth it! X

@Russkispy.. Good luck for your scan. Yes please do keep us posted on your news..photos too! Lots of love x

Welcome to @turquoiseturtle .. i was 40 when we conceived DS and 3 months off 41 when I had him.. Good luck and baby dust x

Thanks for the mention @PetraRabbit ..such lovely news! Congratulations

Well my news is just that boring AF has got me ! It was the worse run-up to it ever starting 3 wks before it was due and I was convinced something was different but sadly no .. I even broke down at work which never happens. It was hellishly embarrassing for me and my boss! She handled it well though bless her!

@FraterculaArctica...Welcome and congratulations on your BFP!

Hi all, so finally caught up with the thread. @russkispy good luck for the scan. Remember each egg is individual. I’m sure all will be fine, you have got this far x

I’ve had a bit of time away after the cycle. So had my test date on 28th March after some breakthrough bleeding. Test was negative but a couple of hours later showed a faint posative Clinic called me in for a blood test which was negative. So another failed cycle. I’ve decided to have some time off. And just enjoy dtd for the next few month without any testing. House is all go and at solicitors now so also going to focus on that, seems a lifetime away away won’t complete till September or October!

We are also booking a week away to santorini in June. Will be our first teenager free holiday so we are looking to enjoy it and have purposely booking for ovulation week 🤣🤣🤣 we still have one cycle left so will probably look to do this at the end of July / August time. Gives me time to get back into my running and to hopefully let work calm down a bit!

Hi to all the new people coming on, lots of helpful advice on here and support!

@Amanda81 so ovulation wasn't confirmed and my temp came back down. I'm so confused. It does seem like a failed attempt. I'm so worried now my cycles are messed up. How are your temps looking today? Xx

Sorry posted on the wrong thread!

Sorry @Realitysucks. Enjoy your 'time off' and come back to it with fresh eggs enthusiasm!!

Reality - sorry it didn't work this time. I think you are doing the right thing taking some distractions for a while, you never know it may help things along naturally

Thank you for the welcome and fingers crossed for all those still waiting for BFP, hope next month is the one for you.

Congratulations frat 🍾

I'm confused by the opk reading....had a low fertility day 8 then high every other day - but today is day 13 ....this isnt a good sign I dont think 🤔 5days of high but no peak so no LH surge. I did cheapy tests along side and had fairly strong lines but nothing today so I'm wondering if I've missed it or if lh surge was just too low. Never had this before. Always had a peak. I'll keep going another few days but no idea.

Saying that I never get consistent results with the cheapie tests and I've not managed to wait 4 hours today between tests.

Will see what the clear blue says tomorrow.

Why I'm even bothering I've no idea ....🤷🏻‍♀️

On my way to the airport now, looking forward to getting home and sharing the news with DH! (not that I expect him to be excited )

Hellen - I've not had peak for months, always just high's, but I have been ovulating. I now have to go by cheap opks and when it gets to its darkest is the positive (even if not fully darker than control) then it gets lighter again. I think as we get older our ovulation gets weaker, so harder to read, particularly on digital

Thanks cleo ....just surprised as last time I used these I got a peak. Obviously changes afoot the last few months .

Good luck @FraterculaArctica! Xx

I stopped getting peaks suddenly, I had them consistantly until about 4 or 5 months ago. Not had one since

Hi all - hope you are all good - fabulous news @PetraRabbit - good luck for the next few weeks!
@Russkispy - glad you are thinking positive x
@Realitysucks - sorry this cycle didn't work - hope you are ok. It's always so hard when you put so much into it x
@hellenbackagen - my clinic refused to do PGS as they don't believe it's accurate enough - but the harmony and particularly the CVS are totally accurate. PGS is done so early that there is time for the 'bad' cells to be rejected/ corrected, hence why it isn't always right, as it's done at just days old - by the time you have harmony r CVS any problems that could be corrected will have been, so you can be sure that your results for those were conclusive xx

hobbes thanks for that info - I feel a bit more reassured.

Well I'm cd 14 and no peak just flashing smileys but honestly- I can tell I have not ovulated this month yet.

This is late for me. Might be a rogue cycle. I have about 2 a year now. Guess at 47 that's not surprising really.

I might give up the opk till next month.

I am now so in tune I know when Ive ovulated. My boobs alter the day it happens. I reckon I'm in for a king cycle . Last one like this was 50 days. All the following ones were 28 days. So not totally giving up but writing this one off to save money on the opk.

Long not king. Bloody auto correct

Reality - sorry to hear of your bfn. Sounds like you’ve got a good plan in place though and Santorini sounds amazing. Big hug.

Cleo & any others using progesterone- how do you feel on it? Any side effects? Are you all doing the suppositories? Has anyone tried the cream?

I’ve been doing some reading and trying to get to the bottom of my annoying cycles. It seems that my oestrogen is crashing up and down (apparently this is classic peri) and new research shows that taking micronised progesterone in the luteal phase can stabilize this. Anyone got any thoughts as I’m desperate to sort out my stupid irregular cycles!

Hi ladies, just checking in to see how you all are - I really miss the friendliness of this thread!
So much has gone on - congrats to all the BFPs and lovely scans and welcome to the new members 😊

@Realitysucks I'm so sorry this cycle didn't work out for you - glad you're staying positive though and excited about the new house.

AFM I can't believe I'll be 30 weeks this weekend, getting so excited now. Scan last week showed that so far everything looks good for a natural birth so I'm really happy about that. I have another scan in 2 weeks or so and I should get the go ahead then if babies are still head down. Suffering from all sorts of horrible things (awful acid indigestion, acne, SPD, recurrent sinus and chest infections, swollen ankles, the list goes on lol!), but in about 7 weeks it will all be worth it 😊

I hope anyone considering doing or continuing IVF gets some hope from my story - it really can work xxx

hi Mimosa, I'm taking progesterone at the moment and some days do feel tired, dizzy and a bit sick but not sure if that is due to being pregnant or the pessaries. I don't know if progesterone can stabilise oestrogen but it sounds like it would be well worth a try. The only other thing you might want to try is the circle+bloom natural cycle hypnosis programme - because every day you send messages to your body about what you want it do - e.g. day 1, pituitary gland lights up, day 2, signals starting moving to your ovaries....totally understand if you feel sceptical about that but it really puts you in touch with what happens on every day of a cycle.

@CritterTamer so lovely to hear from you! I’m glad everything is going well. So some advice is required lol! We had our follow up appointment yesterday, to be honest I’m in a state of imbalance as to what to do next. We have one cycle of our multicycle programme. We were told yesterday that we could go ahead in a couple of months ( fine because I wanted a break anyway) or consider donor egg. To be honest I’m a bit gobsmacked. 1) to be suddenly told after two grade one eggs were put in that the reason it didn’t work was because the eggs were not viable! 2) that the two eggs that were fertilised were actually abnormal before fertilisation but then ok! 3) it’s ok as just because they weren’t normal doesn’t mean to say next time they will be the same 4) If I have a donor egg our chances increase to 60%!

I really don’t know how I feel about a donor egg. We have talked about it and initially I said I would be ok with it. Baby grows in me so would feel like mine. But actually the more I think about it the more I don’t like the idea. DH is being reassuring saying it will be ours etc but actually it won’t, it will be a child conceived by him with another person and not me. I know that’s sounds cold but deep down that is how I feel. I know there is transfer of some genetic material but the reality is the dna would not be the same as mine. Im not saying I wouldnt love it any less but I have to be honest about how I feel.

I am absolutly fuming that the clinic failed to tell us the eggs they fertilised were potentialy abnormal. We were basically told that if the embryos were ok they would have implanted so were obviously not viable.