Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

[Hobbes39]

New thread as last one filling up - will try to link to this in old one...!

Crazy few days.. on night duty will read all the news after some sleep.. sending love x

Beautiful pictures Critter!!

Hi all sorry to keep ducking in and out. @Hobbes and @Critter, what beautiful pics, thanks for sharing!

@samk79 Sorry to hear about your loss. I’ve been there too, it’s so hard. Lots of hugs x

@Realitysucks Fantastic news! Will keep everything crossed for you

@Cleozeta No advice re antibiotics from me I’m afraid but I think that one is fairly common/not too harsh? Good luck with your appointment tomorrow - let’s definitely share notes! And make sure you remember your handcuffs in case you don’t get any straight advice x

Thanks gizmojo! Good luck with yours too. Yes I have the cuffs at the ready!

Good luck @cleozeta!! I finally got a peak opk today! Was quite shocked. Never ovulated last month only had an estrogen/breakthrough bleed. Started back on vitex and bam! Got a ton of lows because I think I was testing too early, one high and a peak today. Still no results from husbands SA. Fertility clinic said he has to come in for an appointment to get the results. No way. He’s already taken two days off work and he can’t take any more for something you could just send to the gp! So now gp is trying to get them. So far nothing has come in. So annoyed at them.

Hope everyone else’s Monday goes well!

Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could join in.

I'm 39 but 40 in June. Been with my DH for just over a year. and was relieved to finally meet the person I wanted a life/family with. We married quickly and decided to start trying for a baby in Jan this year. I have a history of PCOS so got an Ovusense to monitor cycles before we tried. Miraculously I ovulated every time though cycles were still irregular.

When we got back from honeymoon in Dec I was shocked to find out I'd fallen pregnant before we'd started trying. I had hypermesis and was very ill but other than that all looked good. The doctors said sickness is a good sign. It wasn't for us. Sadly it ended in MMC resolved with ERPC on 4th Feb. Baby made it to 6 weeks, we were 10 weeks when we found out by chance as no sign of miscarriage. 12 weeks when we had the surgery. We were heartbroken.

Miraculously last week I found out I'd fallen pregnant a few weeks after surgery. Sadly it's looking like that conception was another early loss as I'm cramping and tested to find now a very very faint positive. I'm waiting to talk to the doctor but pretty sure she'll say another loss due to a chromosomal problem.

So that's me. We seem to have no problem falling pregnant but keeping them seems an issue. I can't help but think this is age related. I know it's early days for us and a good sign we fall quickly but miscarriages are so painful. Just sucks the life out of you! I can't imagine the person I'll be if this keeps happening.

Anyway looking forward to being part of this thread! Xx

I can’t imagine how awful you must be feeling Cat. Sending you as many positive vibes as I can.

  to you, @Catconfusion

Lovely pics @CritterTamer

AF arrived this morning. It was accompanied by an unexpected but powerful wave of grief. There's me, thinking I'm doing fine and then my body reminds me how empty my womb is. I would have been 31 weeks tomorrow.

I turn 43 in June and I cannot help but think that she was my last chance. I just feel so sad. I must pick myself up and carry on.

I'm so sorry @mellongoose I'm not saying I know exactly how you feel but age is so unfair to us women and I'm definitely feeling it today. I'm so sorry about your loss. People, even the doctors always seem to have a story about someone who had a baby at such and such age with no problems but those stories don't give you much hope until you become the story that everyone tells.

At the moment I just feel if I could get my head straight after my losses I'll feel better and maybe it'll just happen. Yet getting my head straight seems impossible and it makes me feel mad in case it's stopping it from happening. Vicious circle I guess!

Anyway I hope you feel stronger soon. AF just makes everything feel worse. Xx

@Catconfusion Welcome to our thread, I am so so sorry for what you have been through. Many of us on here have been through similar and we know just how much it hurts. Perhaps some supplements or acupuncture might help to improve egg quality?

@Mellongoose I am so sorry about AF, sending you loads of love and hugs. I don’t think it’s too late for you, you fell quite easily last time and I’m sure you will again. It’s so hard when AF arrives, I hope you are okay.

@Cleo I hope it’s gone okay for you today.

Ovulation has gone and caught me by surprise this month, which is not what I needed 😩

@Catconfusion - I’m so sorry. I also had a MMC where saw heartbeat early on, lots of sickness, then started getting a tiny bit of bleeding and on scan, pregnancy hadn’t developed. Have you tried Ubiquionol? After the MMC I tried it and that resulted in a successful pregnancy (at 39, I’m now 40). Not sure if it had anything to do with it but there are medical studies showing it can improve egg quality. I have everything crossed for you x

Thanks @jamiecooks I'm so sorry for your loss and @Rose68 thanks for the advice.

I started ubiquionol after the MMC. I just spoke to the GP and she's said she doesn't think my lining healed after the ERPC and that's what caused the second loss. I'm so mad at myself for not doing more like maybe some acupuncture to improve the lining. I just didn't expect to ovulate as soon as I did. It just happened so quickly. I noticed EWCM and we dtd. It's incredible that you can have your baby surgically removed at 12 weeks pregnant and then your body throws out an egg a few weeks later. Doctor seems to think every chance it was a viable embryo but my body wasn't ready. I've been very crampy since I ovulated and it got worse after the BFP so that might be a sign. I'm just mad because the GP told us no reason not to try again straight. Now she's saying we need to wait until I've had two more periods. I just feel like trying so soon has set us back! Xx

Back from the clinic. The dr we saw this time was much better, he actually gave us some advice and options for a way forward. He has also perscribed me 3 months of progesterone pesseries. A world apart from the crap dr we saw last time.
So the down side of my case is that I am rappidly running out of eggs. That's fact. I don't have much time. This is why my ovulation has been weak and my lp short. He's not sure if the progesterone will help, but it won't hurt, so we're trying it. I asked about clomid to strengthen ovulation, but he won't do that as in a previous scan I showed some mini cysts (which were gone by the next scan) but taking clomid would risk even more cysts thar may not go away so easily. He went through the IVF option with us and chances on that actually look better than I expected, although still not that great. The thing that appeals about that is he said it was like having 3 chances in one cycle. He also went through donor egg options which would remove the time limit issue.
I think what we'll do is try the 3 months of progesterone, and if that doesn't work we may try IVF.

We also talked about the big issue I also have (age related of course) which is egg quality. I asked him what I could do to improve egg quality and he said the only thing that is proven to work is DHEA which is illegal in the uk. (I didn't tell him I was already taking that )

@Cleozeta it sounds like you had a positive appointment and you have a plan going forwards. It sounds like the doctor is being very careful not to pick the wrong treatment and jeopardise your chances further.

Good luck with the progesterone cream. I really hope it works for you!

xx

I’m glad the appointment went well Cleo! Much more positive.,

Melon goose

I do know exactly how you feel. I had a tfmr at 44. It seems it really was my last chance but my little baby girl had T21. Had I known them that it really was it for me I'm sorry sure what I'd have done although I've been with friend today with a disabled sone of 27 and listening to her worries about who will look after him when she isn't here made me think we probably did do the kindest thing for our baby. Her name was Rosie. She was due New Year's Day 2017.

Ladies where to buy DHEA ? And why is it banned in the uk?

Thoughts ....
I was in pill for years and didn't ovulate. I'm 47 (just) and ovulating regularly. I'm guessing the pill means I've got eggs left but that the quality isn't so great and judging by my T21 pg at 44 I'd say not. Really interested in DHEA as I have no menopausal symptoms yet and a regular cycle.

@cleo glad this appt was more positive. 👍

Oh and what dose for DHEA?

Thanks ladies x

Sorry you had to go through it too, @hellenbackagen. Our little girl was diagnosed with the most horrendous form of Spina Bifida at 20 weeks. She would have been due this May. She would have been very seriously poorly if she had survived at all.

I was told at the time and again since (when I asked again) that it was not age related. I'm on the extra folic acid now to try and reduce the risk. I'm told there is only a 1-2% chance of it happening again.

@Cleozeta that’s brilliant he is taking you more seriously. Did he give you cyclogest pessaries? A word of advice (tmi warning!) use the alternative route 🤣🤣🤣🤣 they are waxy and make a mess but much better if you put them in the other end lol! I’ve been on them since EC and coping better than I thought! ( I was very worried about the morning one and my long commute!) but I have it down to a fine art and just do it as soon as I wake up at 6. They do make you feel bloated and give you gas 😳 but it’s managable!

Thanks for the tip reality! 😂
Going to do my first one today!

Ok trying to catch up, if I've missed anyone sorry..
@Realitysucks fab news of transfer and keeping fingers crossed for those little beans x
@CritterTamer fab pics.. cuties x
@Samk79 welcome and so sorry for your loss.. sending lots of love
Welcome @tisonlymeagain I had my little boy when I was 40... it's not too late.. x
Hi @CateyA the tww sucks..
@hellenbackagen any swimmers in the tubes is a good thing.. enjoy the trip x
@KristieP2018 get busy...
welcome @Catconfusion So sorry for your loss, maybe you need to give your body a little rest, I don't think it's age related but sometimes the body knows something might not be right and it's very painful.. but yes the positivity is that you can get pregnant.. x
@mellongoose Ooh af arriving is total crap.. x
@Cleozeta Glad you got some answers, a more positive experience x
Sending big hugs to all you lovely ladies and lots of positive energy.. and baby dust
Same old same old for us, just dtd regularly.. and ov is in the zone.. x