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TTC after pregnancy loss - tread 28 - Bfp will be coming

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Lilimum6 · 31/01/2019 04:26

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Here's the new thread. This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Welcome to any new ladies and sorry for your loss.

Let's have a roll call ladies

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InDreamland · 12/03/2019 18:09

It's just him all over @AliceRR. Doesn't bother to check anything, everything unless it's for himself is slap dash, half hearted and half a job. He clearly couldn't even be bothered to read it. Of all the cards in the shop it had to be a Mother's day card. I mean WTF!

AliceRR · 12/03/2019 18:32

I know @InDreamland you couldn’t make it up! I’m sure he knows how upset you are and I hope he pays more attention next time! And I hope he finds a way to make it up to you so your birthday isn’t too tough

InDreamland · 12/03/2019 18:36

@AliceRR He's just gone all defensive rather than try apologise or make it up to me. I never feel like he can be bothered to make any effort for me, to pay any attention to anything to do with me and this just cements that.

Raincart2017 · 12/03/2019 19:53

@InDreamLand boys are rubbish! They have no clue! Its very bad on his part and he's not making it any easier for himself but dont forget you will always be a mum to your angels XX

InDreamland · 12/03/2019 20:10

Thank you @Raincart2017.

Raincart2017 · 12/03/2019 20:24

InDreamLand your welcome X keep your chin up X do you have a support network away from your DH? Sometimes a good bitch and cry can do the world of good just to release the emotions x

InDreamland · 12/03/2019 20:28

@Raincart2017 my family are not supportive, they think they are but I don't find them supportive about anything to do with the mc and they're always quick to defend my DH ......I know, they love my DH! My friends don't get it either. My best support comes from here.

Raincart2017 · 12/03/2019 21:01

@InDreamLand it's very supportive here especially as so many people have been through similar experiences X I'm lucky my cousin who is like my sister has had 2 MC's before I did so I can talk to her very openly about anything X I hope you can get a good night's sleep and forget about your bad day x tomorrow is a new day! (I know you shouldn't have to suggest this but maybe suggest a Birthday V2)

moonpeace · 12/03/2019 21:38

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Dimblebimble · 12/03/2019 21:39

@InDreamland that is horrible, really insensitive! I'd feel the same. My dh is lovely but can be quite defensive of any criticism, so I found it useful to write everything out as a letter the other day, so that he had to sit and read about how I felt. I also focused on explaining why his actions had hurt me, rather than criticising him as person (which I might have slipped into if I'd explained out loud) which I found helped. Maybe if you wrote it down he would understand how hurtful this is for you. I agree that you should arrange birthday version 2. Happy birthday 🥳

frillyfarmer · 12/03/2019 21:46

Huge big hugs to you @Dimblebimble I'm so sorry for your loss.

Sending you all the love and strength I have for tomorrow @AliceRR I hope your little girl gets a lovely funeral. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult this is for you, I don't really know what to say. Xx

Raincart2017 · 12/03/2019 22:11

@AliceRR sending love for tomorrow I have no idea the pain your going through and can only imagine X i hope the days goes ok and your baby girl has a wonderful send off xx

Yukka · 12/03/2019 22:21

@indreamland I’m a bit speechless to be honest, I don’t have any advice other than to try and not stay angry or upset for long for your own sake. But I would be fuming at such a stupid stupid mistake that he should have paid more attention. It’s one thing in the shop it’s another to actually write the bloody card and still not realise. I’m not helping, sorry! Xx

@laney79 I stared getting second ewcm when my cycles returned to normal, apparently it’s second estrogen surge after ovulation so another good sign you have ov’d.

So sorry @dimblebimble and @mistymeow, look after yourselves.

@pample I remember you from the thread, we both had mc in days of each other last May. Congrats on new pregnancy! Fingers crossed for you. I’m also pregnant and can’t leave the penguins behind...

@aliceRR thinking if you tomo, what a tough day ahead. Stay strong xx

InDreamland · 12/03/2019 23:07

Thanks @Raincart2017 @moonpeace @Dimblebimble @Yukka you're all spot on. Now spoken and he's apologised and I told him he's gotta make it up to me - very expensive meal out and a weekend away at an expensive resort in Hampshire I've been wanting to go to.

Typical that tonight my OPK has gone static smiley ..... normally I'd be thrilled especially on my birthday but now gonna have to try get in the mood! As will he!

Raincart2017 · 12/03/2019 23:14

@InDreamLand I'm glad you have talked it through! Ooo where in Hampshire its where I live 😁 have you ever watched how I met your mother? They have a time out where they pause any issues and just enjoy eachother for that moment!

InDreamland · 12/03/2019 23:16

The Four Seasons @Raincart2017. I've not seen that episode, I used to watch it but dipped in and out.

AliceRR · 12/03/2019 23:24

@InDreamland Pleased you sorted it. I think there was an episode of Friends where Monica and Chandler were fighting and then she realises she’s ovulating and pretends to be over 😬

Thank you @RainCart2017 @frillyfarmer @Yukka

AliceRR · 12/03/2019 23:32

Thank you @moonpeace - I have “snoozed” certain people! I did send my friend a message (not sure if I mentioned - sorry if I’m repeating myself!), not on Facebook as I didn’t want all the notifications every time someone else posted or whatever. But I messaged her to say congrats, her daughter is beautiful and that I have lots of spare nappies if she wants them and to remember that I’m not working atm so am around if she needs anything... she hasn’t replied but I’m glad I sent it. I don’t want her worrying that I’m upset and also I’m glad I got it out of the way as I as to work up a little bit of strength to send it tbh...

mitchellpj · 12/03/2019 23:39

TTC #2
I have DDaged 5 and would love a sibling for her. I am currently having my 3rd MC (had MC April ‘18, MMC September ‘18) I will be referred for RMC tests once my hormones settle. I have just turned 40 and feel my time to conceive is running out...feeling hopeless

Laney79 · 13/03/2019 06:48

@AliceRR thinking of you today xxx

Bluebelltulip · 13/03/2019 06:50

Thinking of you today @AliceRR

MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue · 13/03/2019 07:06

Thinking of you today @AliceRR and sending love and strength xxxx

moonpeace · 13/03/2019 08:05

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InDreamland · 13/03/2019 08:13

Thinking of you today @AliceRR.

No BD'ing last night or this morning. Hope we don't miss it if we do tonight and tomorrow. On plane now so will be taking off soon.

Raincart2017 · 13/03/2019 08:18

@InDreamLand have a nice time away X don't pressure yourself on if you DTD today or not just focus on you two being back on a level X four seasons is lovely you deserve that!!!

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