TTC after pregnancy loss - tread 28 - Bfp will be coming

[Lilimum6]

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Here's the new thread. This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Welcome to any new ladies and sorry for your loss.

Let's have a roll call ladies

@Russkispy did you use first wee of the day? It may just be that the level wasn't concentrated enough for the clear blue? Good that the frer still shows a line xxx

Evening everyone! Lots to catch up on, glad to see some more BFPs!

@KnitKitty my husband is a bit of an arse with understanding too. Last week when he was pissed he made it clear that he isn't "worried" as we already have our 18month old son so "it's just one of those things and we will get there". And (personally) I agree it's much easier for us because we do already have a healthy child, but it doesn't help my process my grief. They don't understand that when you get a BFP, there are a number of very important milestone date which appear in your calendar and never ever leave.

@Laney79 they told me to retest in 2 weeks which would be 28th. I haven't POAS yet, was going to leave it a few more days. I've had no bleeding at all, cramping and lower back pain but no bleeding since 6th Feb. Just want it done with now.

@rdm10 that’s good newd re extra scans.. It does help and they say even having greater care increases pregnancy outcomes x
@ale2992 sorry not sure if right name the alcohol really won’t do anything at this stage as it can’t reach the embryo but it’s entirely down to what you feel comfortable with x

@russkisspy the tests are really difficult to read in the early days and they can vary a lot. Perhaps stop testing and wait for bloods if you can as that is 100% accurate info x

@Yukka absolutely! It's just a DH wanted to see digitally say how many weeks pregnant! Haha silly sausage! Then he run out to get more FRER! I've never been crazy about POAS and certainly not starting now. My doc asked me to do blood tests and that's exactly what I'm going to do.

@russkispy ah it’s so sweet how excited he is!

Thanks @Mistymeow. I think I'll be counting the days now and hoping for a BFP 3rd time lucky but at the same time I'm realistic. Glad you're feeling more reassured x

@Russkispy maybe you didn't test with FMU? Try step away from the tests and wait for the blood test. Fx that you will still have a healthy sticky bean.

@boboelephant how are you today?

@rdm10 glad you're getting looked after. Fx for you that all goes smoothly.

@lilimum6 sending you lots of hugs! Like others have said maybe it's a good thing you're having this naturally now and that your body is sorting itself out.

@Pop1234 I'd wait a few more days. 9dpo is very early to test.

So please someone slap me. Only 2dpo and already symptom spotting. I mean seriously what on earth am I doing? Grrrrrrrr. This TTC after mc is a total head fuck!

Anyone else dreading Mother's day? The thought of it makes me feel so sad and tearful. I should have a 3.5 week old now ........ or be 19 weeks pregnant.

@InDreamland I'm dreading mothers day. It was mothering Sunday 10th March last year I found out I'd had my first mmc ( I'd had mc's but I didn't know mmc was a thing at the time I've since had two more and a cp) huge shock is not the word

Oh @Lilimum6 that's so sad. You really have had the shittiest time. Really hope after all this you get a healthy pregnancy x

@InDreamland me too but I have to think there is always someone having a tougher time of it than I am. I'm alive and my DH is alive I'm greatful for that

@moonpeace nice to see I have a TWW buddy. You never know, my 2 BFPs were both very unexpected surprises. Yet when we try hard we don't get pregnant.

@Lilimum6 I say similar things with DH, in general many people would love to be in or position. However, that doesn't minimise your pain and grief x

@InDreamland tbh I just want to get back to ttc now. Fed up with waiting now. But I have to wait until 6th to book another scan to see if everything has gone. Which I dont think it will have because the bleeding isn't getting going and keeps stopping so not enough to shift anything. Cramping like hell but nothing happening then ill have to wait for surgery and then a full cycle so it'll be april before I can even try. Sorry I'm being a Debbie downer today

@Lilimum6 you're entitled to feel like this. Fx that it gets going and shifts everything very soon. The cramping could be a good sign.

My boobs have stopped hurting today. This is what happened with all 3 mcs 😢

@rdm10 try stay positive ........although I know it's really difficult. Mc just takes away all the joy and excitement out of pregnancy doesn't it. I hope your boobs start to hurt like crazy again and have a bit of sickness thrown in too. In all seriousness though, I hope all will be well with this one x

@rdm10 do try and stay positive. It is so incredibly hard, I know. Up there with annoying sayings but it's true "every pregnancy is different" so maybe you'll sail through this pregnancy without sore boobs and no sickness etc... my pregnancy with DS was exactly that way. I know what you mean though - these days I symptom spot like crazy and pray for a day I get to hang my head over a toilet bowl. This TTC journey has really taken it out of all of us. Fingers and toes crossed and lots of baby dust x

@rdm10 try and stay positive. I know it's hard and this happened with two of mine and one I didn't have sore boobs at all. But they do say symptoms come and go. Do you feel tired or anything?

I'm feeling rubbish too. Last time I got a faint positive at 9dpo and today I'm 10 dpo and got a BFN. I caught first time with all 3 pregnancies that ended in MC and can't help but feel like I'm already out this month. Sorry for the moan, just feel so rubbish and sick of the TTC journey today.

@rdm10 hugs hun this is such a stressful time for you. I've got my fingers crossed 🤞 that this will be alright and baby is nice and comfy in there.

I think we need a collective penguin hug today. I'm also feeling rubbish. AF arrived yesterday afternoon and is now in full flow, and it just makes me so sad, it just feels wrong, I should be pregnant with Bow now. Add to that a cold and I'm feeling very sorry for myself.

@moonpeace that was insensitive to ask, especially in a group situation like that. You are strong, and recognising that it's hard and you feel rubbish is part of that strength. Pretending all is ok is much worse in my opinion.

@rdm10 keeping everything crossed for you lovely. When is your next check? Xxx

Sorry that everyone else is feeling rubbish. Least we have this group

@moonpeace it's awful being surrounded, I know how you feel. 4 of our closest friends are all pregnant and it's so hard being happy for them (even though I am) when it's all I want more than anything. I feel like there is no escape to pregnancy and babies.

@Laney79 had you been trying this month? I'm expecting my AF to arrive this weekend. I'm only 10dpo but feel like I'm already out. It sucks. I also said this month that I would have the private tests if we didn't catch this month which includes a hysterosalpingogram. But I've read it's really painful and I've all of a sudden become terrified of having it done. I was hoping I would get pregnant this month with my rainbow and wouldn't have to go through it.

@Pop1234 Yeah, tried this month and was great timing and felt we'd conceived but it was my body fooling me again. It's so hard isn't it. I'm having private tests myself next week but just bloods, nothing else. Once those are done I'll have had all the tests Tommy's at Coventry do as standard. X

@Pop1234 not brave enough for anything more at this stage so you are a step ahead of me!!