Yammed if you do, Yammed if you dont

[Owlpatrol]

Yammers thread 10!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Oh @Owlpatrol I'm so sorry about your difecaulties and that I got your situation wrong. You can buy sperm test kits at Superdrug or boots I don't remember they only do sperm count so not as good as nhs but I'm pretty sure it would hopefully shed some light on the vasectomy concern.
Welcome @Rosieposy89 sorry your here but it's a lovely group x

Oh @Owlpatrol sorry to read that... do you believe he's had a vasectomy or is it more that it would be a quick answer to explain why you've not had any luck yet? TTC is a really difficult time and it's shitty that we end up taking our frustrations out on the one person we need the most!! I hope things do get better soon - maybe just book his SA for him? That's pretty much what I got DH to do, that way he had no choice really. Men do tend to put these things off, but I think DH didn't do it because he was scared of the results... who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️ hugs x

Welcome @Rosieposy89 sorry you're here too but @impatientmammy is right, it's a lovely bunch (and probably one of the smallest and most honest ones right now!) feel free to unload whenever! X

Hi @Rosieposy89
@Owlpatrol sorry to hear that

@Owlpatrol sorry to hear what a tough time you're having. I hope you can get him to get tested soon.

@Rosieposy89 welcome! Sorry you're having difficulties and I hope your stay here is a short one.

I'm still bleeding, my temp has continued going up today but the test was very faint. Fainter than yesterday's. So I don't think this bean is sticking and my body just has to catch up to that. I'm feeling completely devastated and also worried that my cycles will be all over and anovulatory like after the loss last summer. It took nearly a year to get back to normal.

@NoseringGirl I'm so sorry, please look after yourself, I don't know much about temping really because I've never had any successful charts, so I can't comment on that, but if this is the worst case scenario, then fingers crossed your body will go straight back to normal and continue ovulating again... hope you're okay ❤️

@NoseringGirl so sorry its looking like the worst outcome, it's so cruel. I hope you are looking after yourself

Ahhh @NoseringGirl I'm really sorry we're all here if you want to talk about things. I hope your body returns quicker for you thins time x

Aww @NoseringGirl I am so sorry. Sending hugs xx

Thanks everyone, you're all so lovely. Temp finally dropped today and test was pretty much negative.

How you feeling today @NoseringGirl ? X

@impatientmammy I've been keeping busy because I just feel really sad if I stop and think too much. A very good friend told me today that him and his partner are expecting a baby. I didn't tell him about what's happened to me so he didn't realise the timing. I managed to hold it together until I was away from him. I'm so happy for them but it's painful. I'm nervous for this next cycle now as well in case it's anovulatory. I just don't think I have it in me to go through months of not ovulating again.

How's everyone else doing? I feel like I've been really self absorbed recently. Sorry!

@NoseringGirl I'm so, so sorry this has happened to you. It's just not fair. Sending lots of love and hugs 💕

Sorry I've not been very active here. I've been catching up with everyone's posts every day but I've not had much to post. I genuinely come on here each day and check this thread first. I'm just a crappy contributor.

I'm feeling sorry for myself today. A woman I work with who started trying at the same time as me came into work with her 3 month old today. One of my best friends is due her baby next month.

At the beginning I thought it would happen straight away or at least within 6 months. I should have a baby by now. I really thought I was pregnant this month but AF came today. Had a big cry with DH. We're both going to book drs apt's next week, what should we expect? It's been over 12 months.

Just feeling sorry for myself tonight 😭 this journey is heartbreaking.

@NoseringGirl I hope you have a regular cycle it's so hard when your just so close like that. Your probably doing the right thing keeping busy go easy on yourself though you have been through so much. Also your not self absorbed at alll !!!
Sorry your having a hard time @justbeingelle at the one year appointment they ask if your cycles are regular check you are doing the right thing at the right times and regularly, then they book an appointment for you to have bloods done and for your partner to get a sperm analysis. This was my experience anyway; they'll need to know the date of your last period and length of average period as well so if you use and app it's handy to check stats before you go in. It's a pretty relaxed conversation really though. X

Average cycle not period sorry x

Gahhh sorry for the negativity last night. Just felt sorry for myself after AF appeared last night! Definitely booking in to see the Gp next week, need to start getting the ball rolling.

Thanks @impatientmammy, that put my mind at ease.

@justbeingelle if you can't rant about ttc here you can't anywhere it's what we're here for x

@justbeingelle there's lots of us at that stage of the journey so please vent when you need to... its such a difficult journey! I asked when I booked the GP appointment if there was anyone better to go to for fertility issues as we have lots of GPs and my named GP is an older man who I don't really like... the GP they recommended was lovely
@NoseringGirl keeping busy sounds like a good idea. I hope your cycle sorts itself out quickly. Being baby bombed must have been awful. Take care of yourself

@justbeingelle sorry that AF got you! All the best with the doctors appointment. They usually arrange blood tests for you and an SA for your partner and go from there.
Never apologise for any negativity. It's so important to be able to vent it here!

CD5 here, well roughly CD5. I've counted from when the pregnancy test became negative rather than when the bleeding started as I read to do that somewhere! Starting OPKs early just in case. I've been feeling quite low as on top of the recent loss, we've also just found out one of our cats is quite poorly so it's been a shit week.
I woke up feeling a lot more positive today though, I have no idea why but I'm embracing it!

Oh @NoseringGirl I'm sorry to hear about your cat but I am pleased your having a better day today. My post chemical cycle was pretty standard so I hope you find the same x

@impatientmammy I had 10 months of anovulatory cycles after the chemical last summer which worries me but I was on the metformin for my PCOS back then so I hope that makes a difference!

*I wasn't on the metformin back then that should say.

Fingers crossed, for you xx

Guys if my period started at 10pm yesterday am I CD1 or 2 today? Usually start in the morning so not sure x