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Yammers thread 10!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Thanks everyone, good to know I'm not alone in the madness! BFN today and lots of cramping so I'm expecting AF any moment now.

@NoseringGirl sorry for the bfn
I had bloodstreaked ewcm first thing this morning but nothing since. I think af is due at the weekend so might test on Saturday if there are no other signs of AF. But not feeling positive

@dragonmummy17 I actually had an implantation bleed once it was definite pink though
@NoseringGirl sorry about the bfn what cd you on now? X

@impatientmammy CD27 and 11DPO according to FF which is usually when AF arrives.

@dragonmummy17 I hope the spotting is a good sign for you! Good luck!

@NoseringGirl @dragonmummy17 hope FP has stayed away?!

Don't know why but this thread doesn't show up in the "I'm on" section, I have to keep searching for it 😡

Quite upset today. We'd both agreed that obviously we'd stop smoking 10000% and do everything we can to get fit and healthy... last night we went to DTD and I could smell cigarettes on DH. Asked him and he said he had one due to a stressful day at work. I was so upset I just went to bed, and he ended up falling asleep on the sofa. Queue me waking up at 5.30 to an empty bed and he woke up late for work and so we didn't speak. I get he had a stressful day at work but does he not understand that especially when he doesn't have the best sperm he should really be trying to do everything he can? His response yesterday was well I'm being honest - actually had I not have smelt it I doubt he would've told me. But if he can't even not have one then what are we doing trying for a baby? Sorry for the ramble, just don't feel like TTC this month

Awww @cupcakesandglitter I hope your day gets better today I hate it when they don't even attempt to apologise 😩 are you on your fertile period too? X

Thanks @impatientmammy same 😩 I don't think he thinks he's done anything wrong just by having the one - he probably hasn't but it's the principle!! I think I am 😩 I'm on CD13/14 I think but I had EWCM on Sunday so I think I've ovulated early and this is going to be a super short cycle again. If I haven't ovulated and I'm about to then I'm 100% out this month 😩

Awww @cupcakesandglitter hope you didn't miss it. Quiting smokings hard but he should have def just told you x

Thanks @impatientmammy definitely 😩 how're you? X

I'm good thanks. This is my involuntary cycle off and then I'm going for it I've started cq10 vits, back to diet and exercise then once af comes I'm gunna get on it with my old friend grapefruit juice, temping etc any tips I've missed please let me know. I'm gunna be using a menstural cup, fertility lube and clearblue ovulation sticks too. I was gunna do baby asprin but I've read some people have found it can mess with ovulation x

@impatientmammy I've heard aspirin can mess with your cycle and it's one of those things that should only be used if a doctor suggests it. I'm always so cautious of anything that could further mess up a cycle though!

@cupcakesandglitter I can understand your frustration. It feels like men don't have to do an awful lot as part of this process, most of it seems to fall on women so when we ask them to do one little thing and they don't, it's very irritating! Hope you can get things sorted and get back to TTC!

So I woke up to spotting this morning as expected. Put my menstrual cup in as normal. Just went to empty it and no bleeding at all. I've had cramps all day! I should be 11DPO and my temp has been dropping. No idea what the delay is!

Yeah I decided against the asprin @NoseringGirl I think anything that's often adverse and hasn't even been proven to actually work isn't worth the risk.
Sorry your cycles messing you about x

@impatientmammy I wouldn't take aspirin either but it sounds like you have the rest covered - I can't think of anything else that may help xx

@NoseringGirl do you usually spot and start AF soon after? I spot for two days so unsure - fx it doesn't turn up and your temp shoots up tomorrow.... could be IB that you had? X

@cupcakesandglitter I would find that very frustrating... it's not just your job to focus on getting pregnant. I hope you've had a better day today
@impatientmammy sounds like you've got everything covered
@NoseringGirl sorry your cycle is messing you around... that's very annoying

I had some spotting today so I'm confident AF will arrive at the weekend... just a waiting game now

Thanks @dragonmummy17 I did ❤️ applied for a new job and spent today sorting out my garden. Me and DH are okay. How's your spotting? Still convinced AF is turning up? X

@NoseringGirl any update with you? X

@impatientmammy how're you? X

Oooh what's the job @cupcakesandglitter. Not much I can say really just staying healthy and waiting for the nothing cycle to be over AFs due on the 8th so just hoping it's not late in case we miss another cycle x

@impatientmammy don't want to give too many details because it's so outing, but it's a step up from what I'm doing now but higher managerial level... fingers crossed but actually I don't mind either way really, guess I just want a change. Fx it turns up swiftly for you so you can start again xx

@dragonmummy17 how's the spotting? I hope AF stays away!

@cupcakesandglitter good luck with the job application!

I've done loads of tests the last few days and nothing really there but just did a clearblue and got a very faint positive. It was super faint and I don't fully trust blue dye tests but I'm cautiously excited to test again in the morning! According to my chart I'm 14DPO and my temps have been much lower than they'd normally be post ovulation so I'd been doubting if I'd ovulated at all. On the one hand it feels late to get such a faint result but on the other hand I can't stop myself clinging onto a little hope!

Ahhh @NoseringGirl I have everything crossed for you. Could you have ovulated later than you thought x

Thanks @impatientmammy I've honestly no idea, my chart is so weird this month. Much lower temps than usual post ovulation and no clear positive OPK. So much to make me doubt it!

Omg @NoseringGirl I'm definitely hopeful for you, do you have any FRERs? I don't know much about temps and what they mean so can't comment but don't let yourself worry about them anyway x

@cupcakesandglitter I do have a FRER left. I did one this morning and thought there was something on it but it really wasn't convincing. Will do the other one in the morning. I feel quite sick but I'm pretty sure it's anxiety!

@NoseringGirl eeeek fingers crossed for the morning... reckon you can hold out for a couple of days? Or will you test tomorrow and then buy more anyway? 😂

@cupcakesandglitter there is zero chance of me holding out longer than tomorrow morning it's taking all my willpower not to test again tonight!

@NoseringGirl 😂😂 don't do it tonight otherwise you'll be in a rush for tomorrow morning!!! Hold in that pee, it'll be more worth it in the morning 😂 fingers crossed - keep us updated!!!!