Yammed if you do, Yammed if you dont

[Owlpatrol]

Yammers thread 10!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@BGDino keeping everything crossed for you!!

@todaywasafairytale very early days, don't lose hope! Time goes so slowly in the TWW.

Still flat temps here. CD49 and no ovulation. I've got a horrible cold as well. Plus a friend told me she was pregnant this morning. I'm very happy for them but uggggh.

@todaywasafairytale I got a bfn this morning too 9dpo. Gutted x

Well af is here, no surprise really as we only dtd once during my fertile period but still had a glimmer of hope!

@impatientmammy still early days 🤞

Fx for every one xx

@impatientmammy hopefully it was just too early for us both 🤞🏻

@cookielove really sorry to hear that :( give yourself a big hug tonight in the form of a treat. Hopefully next cycle will be yours

@cookielove sorry to hear that

I have eaten all the food, to make up for it!

AF arrived, I'm out. Roll on the weekend so I can have some wine to commiserate!

Sorry to hear that @todaywasafairytale

Sorry @todaywasafairytale have a glass for me too 🍷

Thanks ladies 💕

@todaywasafairytale Sorry to hear, definitely enjoy yourself with a few drinks.

12dpo, at due on Friday and the longest I've gone in a long time without any spotting. I'm not a bit poas fan but could not help myself today as predictably I also started feeling tired and nausaus and hmm is that a metallic taste in my mouth? Anyway it was an unambiguous BFN on an IC so assuming that af will show up. Not feeling too bad, really. I applied for two new jobs recently, one of which I'm very excited about so whilst having a baby trumps everything, not being pregnant for a few months in case I get the job wouldn't be a bad thing. Plus dp has his SA today so feeling like we might get closer to finding out if we're dealing with any difficulties. Hope those of you in tww have better luck!

Rough day. Spotting arrived so expecting af tomorrow although this wasn't a massive surprise considering the BFN yesterday. On to cycle 14, I guess. But then found out that I didn't even get an interview for the jobthat I was so excited about and probably would have considered pausing ttc for.

And then the woman at work who recently went on maternity leave brought her baby into the office.

I very quickly went from the immediate thought of 'she is so cute, I want to hold her' to sadness and had to place myself at the other end of the office until they left. Everyone was sharing baby stories of course and I was sitting there feeling the way I was feeling and not really knowing what to do about it. It's so hard for other people to understand why it's so painful to be around a baby right now and I don't expect them to. I certainly don't expect anyone to not bring the baby into the office on account of me. But god. All I feel now when I deal with babies up close is the absence of not being a mother and the fear that I might never be. It fucking sucks, basically.

Hopefully I'll feel better when we get some tests back in the next few weeks- maybe a lot of this is being driven by the uncertainty. I don't know.

Oh god, so sorry @goldflakepaint - I know what it's like being surrounded by babies all the time unfortunately 😩 sorry if AF does turn up, but don't beat yourself up about the job, it just means something better is waiting for you. Put your feet up and have a glass of wine if you drink, you deserve it xxx

@goldflakepaint that sounds really stressful, sending you a massive hug!

@BGDino how did you get on yesterday?

Still nothing here. CD52. Will be upping the metformin dose today to my full dose so at least there's that.

You ladies must have sent good karma down to Australia for me... I got my BFP yesterday!!! The nurse told me my BHCG is 300-something and my fertility specialist isn't having me do the repeat test until a week's time... I don't know what that means but I'm taking it to be a good thing.

I've also decided to stop looking up cervical stitches here and on other parts of the Internet and trust my obstetrician!!!

Will do my best to send some good karma from Down Under for you all (hmmm that sounds less PG rated than intended now I read that back... )

That's wonderful, congratulations to you!

Omg @BGDino massive congrats!!!!!!

That's amazing news BGDino!

@BGDino I left this thread back in November, but still check back to see how any of the old familiar faces are doing. I don't recognise most people on this thread anymore but remember you. I'm so happy you finally got your BFP. Much deserved. Look forward to seeing you on the Yammer Grads thread!

Congratulations BGDino 😁

That's amazing news @BGDino so happy for you! Congratulations!!!

I love your username Owlpatrol!

Hello everyone else.

I'm going to join in again after staying away from TTC boards for a few of months. I have felt extremely low in recent months. Although we are only on month 9 of officially trying, it has been a very long road with genetic counselling and tests and things like that before we even started TTC. I'm talking years. In that time several people have had or are currently pregnant with their 2nd baby.

Age 26
TTC #1
Cycle 9
CD16
6 DPO

To make matters worse, DP only has one working testicle so naturally has a lower sperm count. He has been referred to the urologist and may have to have surgery, which would put him out of action for 4-6 weeks. He's still waiting for an appointment and I hope we can have a miracle in the meantime but I am not hopeful.

I started this journey, like many people, so positive and happy and hopeful and now I just feel bitter and sad and there are always new babies and pregnancies being announced.

I've lost hope in OPKs, I was using them religiously for months but no luck. My periods have changed as well, going from alternating 26 days and 30 days to being 25-26 days each month so there were a couple of months where our BD timing was COMPLETELY off - this was devastating as I felt we were just wasting time.

I'm not enjoying work either but I'm reluctant to move in case I DO conceive and the company has a really good maternity pay policy.

Sorry to be all doom and gloom, I am just feeling very sorry for myself today this year. I've been comfort eating as well, so I am technically overweight now. Perfect.

@PaintingOwls welcome! Sorry to hear you've had such a difficult time. I've found this a really supportive thread and a good place to vent. I hope you find it useful too but that your stay here is a short one!

@PaintingOwls exactly what @NoseringGirl said - we all know what it's like to not be positive or 'just relax', especially when we have zero idea what our bodies are doing. You've got us all here so rant away!! X