TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 12! [edited by MNHQ at OP's request]

[cupcakesandglitter]

Oh god, can't believe we're on number 12! Current list - sorry if I've missed anyone!!

FlapJackered 30 Cycle 8
Bettythecat 30 Cycle 5
cupcakesandglitter 23 Cycle 7
Jessikka 28 Cycle 1
starkid 29 Cycle 5
MrsAW2018 24 Cycle 8
AnnaMC214 32 Cycle 5
TTC34 34 Cycle 1
ttc12019 29 Cycle 1
19Bee2 27 Cycle 1
Ember25 34 Cycle 4
BlueArtemis 24 Cycle 7
stormtrooperjulian 31 Cycle 6
MrsH497 32 Cycle 2
Tinag18 36 Cycle 2
MrsR16 25 Cycle 6
Random2468 28 Cycle 2
Jessikka 28 Cycle 1
BostonFern 34 Cycle 1

TTC#1 Grads......
EltzBee Cycle 6
Delilah7 Cycle 3
SullyWifey Cycle 11
MrsEG Cycle 6
MrsLBear Cycle ?
GemmaJen Cycle ?
Crossfitgirl Cycle 8
Bettythecat Cycle 8
Fivexfive Cycle?
Dogmum24 Cycle?
Scottslass55 38 Cycle 4

Thanks @KatBeCool you're right, I definitely am being too harsh on myself; I guess it's the fact that I know I need to lose some weight and be a bit healthier, but that shouldn't stop me at all. I really want to do the BBG again and really go for it, but I'm worried the intense exercise isn't going to help with fertility? I think I've really neglected my health physically and mentally too xx

@cupcakesandglitter you can alternate how hard you exercise. Harder before you ovulate and lighter during and after. Definitely get a heart monitor if you're planning to go hardcore. You can do it!

@Crossfitgirl what a lovely scan photo! So pleased for you.
@cupcakesandglitter be gentle on yourself.

CD3 here, I'm so emotional and tearful today, hopefully that'll ease off soon!

@cupcakesandglitter I am sorry you're having such a rough cycle. I do still think you ovulated on cd21 but it sucks when our bodies play tricks on us. I spoke to DH yesterday and we are going to stop trying if I am not pregnant by June and have the rest of the year off. Then we will try again next year and call it a day for good at some point next year if still no joy. Could you do something similar? Have a break from trying for a good few months? It is soul destroying ttc for so long. I feel like a different person now to be honest. X

@KatBeCool I am sorry you're having trouble getting through to your DH with sex. I have been there and it ain't easy.
I just don't want anything to mess up this cycle after all the effort I went to with the Isoflavones. I had 2 light drinks (not cocktails) so didn't deprive myself but didn't go crazy. I actually weirdly didn't enjoy them as much as I normally would. I have been on dry January until now so I think maybe my body has had an opportunity to get used to life without booze 😂

Thanks @BostonFern @KatBeCool @FlapJackered ❤️ yeah I think I'll end up doing something similar too, it's heart breaking seeing AF every month, I feel like a different person too. Sorry to hear you both may do the same thing too 😩 but I think a break can only do good tbh - I think we need to save up and do a really big holiday and have time off to do the house up how we want to etc etc.. how're you feeling? Any symptoms? Xx

@KatBeCool sorry I've only just read about what you said with your DH - are you having sex for the rest of your cycle too? Or is it just pressure for him around ov? Xx

@cupcakesandglitter very little sex the rest of the cycle. Last time DH was shocked it was just for fun and not for baby making.
I'm definitely not taking a break though, I'm 40, there's no time for breaks. But I'm a control freak, leaving something up to a chance can't happen with me. As much as I tried not using opks in November, I ended up reaching for them anyway. IVF isn't an option for me but I'll be trying everything else in my power (and wallet).

@Crossfitgirl amazing scan pic, so clear congratulations ☺️

@KatBeCool I understand that, it's hard to not try and be in control of this when there's such a small chance every month anyway 😩 do you mind me asking why IVF isn't an option? I don't know anything about it really x

Thanks everyone so so so much, what a pleasure to be on this thread. Bless you lot crying! DH booed his eyes out at the scan too! Such an incredible experience. I did shed a little tear too but had to reign it in as every time I moved it shifted the ultrasound and lost the picture! Lol. @MrsH497 whoops!! 😲

Sorry for not tagging individually, I'm just about to drop for the night, I will be keeping a close eye on the thread and following you all through your BFPs!

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@MrsH497 thank god, reported it and mumsnet have taken it off straight away. Thanks so much for pointing that out!! Haha totally outed myself there! Xxx

@crossfitgirl it’s still theee chick and on our other board, hadn’t even noticed that 🙈 x

AF got me gals! Little bit upset but I'm on a 29 day cycle first cycle off the pill! So the same as I was when I was on it. Hopefully I won't have her next month!

@thumper59 sorry she got you. She's a persistent wench.

I told DH about the negative test and that we're probably on to the next cycle. He was more disappointed than I am, bless him.

@thumper59 so sorry she's here. Come join me for the feb cycle 💪🏼

@Crossfitgirl beautiful baba, congrats again!! Must be an amazing moment x

@cupcakesandglitter you are stronger than you think x

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@cupcakesandglitter not having any symptoms really. When you asked that I concentrated and thought I had a bit of light cramping but that could be all in my head! 😂
I don't trust my symptoms AT ALL though as I have had all the symptoms of being pregnant a couple of times and nada! So trying just to put it out of my head. Any symptoms for you yet?

@DuchessofPemberley she is! Bloody thing

@DayDreamer1707 thanks! Roll on cycle two. Think I'll opk and track properly from now. When shall I start to OPK? I can't commit to temping because I've got the memory of a siv 😂

@thumper59 sorry for AF. Cycle 2 will be THE cycle! 🤞🏻💪🏻👍🏻

@FlapJackered aw Thankyou! Fingers x'd! At least I can go out this Saturday now if nothing else! 😂

I had some spotting last night, which I never have. It hasn't developed into anything more, but my temp fell a little today. Not below the cover line, but along with the spotting and the negative test I'd be pretty confident AF is arriving in the next 36 hours.

@thumper59 how long are your cycles? I wasn't sure on mine because they was about all over the place so I started on CD8 to make sure I wouldn't miss it. I normally catch my surge around CD11-12.

@thumper59 sorry to hear AF came but onwards and upwards to cycle 2 🙌🏻

So it’s my FW done an OPK this morning and it was very faint but there was a hint of a line so I’m very happy that the pill hasn’t messed my body up ☺️ Time to get DTD with DP 😂

Definitely something to be grateful for if your cycle comes back straight after the pill - I came off the pill in June 2017 (not to TTC) and I didn’t get my period again for a year, yep a WHOLE year!!! I had a scan and no pcos and I’m ovulating regularly now but my god that would have been horrendous if I had been TTC. My sister in law didn’t get hers for 18 months after come off the pill and again no pcos there (as far as I know). Safe to say I won’t be going on the pill again until I’m done having children!!

@DayDreamer1707 28 day cycle it's gone to exactly the same as i was on the pill. Just the cramps are so so bad today it's making me dizzy and making me feel really sick 😷

@thumper59 I would start testing from CD8/10 for your first cycle using the OPKs just to be sure you catch it. Maybe this is going to be a rough one if it's your first since coming off the pill.

@DuchessofPemberley if she is going to appear I hope she doesn't mess around with you. That's the worst part x

@BabySquid so I went the gym last night and even for a walk on my dinner. Safe to say my legs are killing me today but I'm sticking to our Fitness February (new name for this cycle for me). OH doesn't want to pay that for pre seed, plus he said we know we can get preggers so wants to see how we get on this cycle first, which is fair enough.

@DayDreamer1707 I got up this morning and did a workout from my Boxx app.
I was feeling the same, I know I can get pregnant as it happened in September but having had nothing since, I'm thinking we need a little help. Fitness Feb I love it ❤️🏋🏼‍♀️🧘🏼‍♀️