Over 40 ttc- lots of baby dust for me!

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hmmm123: 41 (42 in spring!) 1 dc ttc #2 6 months ish
Rose68: 43, 2 DS 9 and 6, 1mmc, ttc #3
chatbash72: 46, 2ds 21,19,17,8,5
2 mmc(9wks,6wks) 2cp ttc 2.5 yrs
Russkispy: 42 (43 this April). 1 DD. TTC#2. 1mmc. 2 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, no frosties
Minime2017: 41 ttc#1, 1cp, 1mc, ttc 2.5 yrs
Karryk: 41, 1cp, 2mmc (5.5wks, 8wks), 1dd (17 mths old), ttc#2, 1mc (6.5wks)
Realitysucks:40 (41 in 17 days) ttc#2, 1mc (5.5wks), 1DS (16), TTC cycle 5
KateyA: 40, ttc#1 (1 frosty), cycle
Karigan195 41 1DS 1mc April 2018. Pregnant 5+4 today 3.1,19
Littlemimosa age 42, 2DC 5&7, ttc too long!
Cleozeta, 41, 2dc, ttc #3 for nearly 2 years. 1 mmc at 10 wks, 1 cp
Onemorego2019 - age 40, DS 15, DD 10 & DS 3 ttc#4 Dec 2018
ZoeRoma, 41, 1st month TTC#2, DS aged 4 months
Crittertamer: Turned 41 last week! No DC, currently (as of 3.1.19) 15+5 pregnant with twins following second IVF cycle.,
Gizmojo: 44, DS (18 months), 1 mmc, ttc#2 4 months
Letsdothis43: 43 TTC#1 ttc for 2 years first IVF cycle in January/2019
Booseysmom: 46. 47 in Feb. 1 DS 5. Ttc #2 3 years
SparrowSG: 44 in April, 1 DS 2 from IVF 2016. 1 ectopic 2014. Currently BFP @ almost 8wks
Olivia12: 43. 44 in September, 1 DD 10yo, ttc #2 with DP, 1 month
Floofsquidge: 40. No DC, currently 20 +5 pg as at 9th Jan.
Taxgirl: 43 (44 in April). 1 DS (March 2017) ttc #2 for 1 year - 3 mc and 1 mmc

Angel - it sounds like you had the tests on the wrong day. Progesterone sounds pre-ovulatory. Progesterone won't rise until after ovulation so you probably hadn't ovulated yet when you had the test done. Also lh & fsh rise mid cycle (particularly before ovulation) so again, totally the wronh day for the test and all should be completely discounted. Your gp should know better than to do all 3 tests on the same day, it's standard common knowledge that they are specific day tests as the numbers change dramatically throughout various stages of the cycle. Please don't stresd about this, the numbers are WRONG.
Have you been tracking your cycle at all? Opk's? Temping? I'm betting on (going by the numbers) that you ovulated soon after the blood test.

Speak to your gp and arrange to have the tests done again. Fsh & lh on day 3, and progesterone 7 days after ovulation (you'll need to track it to get the right day)

Hi all, I am nearly 44 and considering IVF but they said the chance of a baby is about 5-10% so now I don't know whether to proceed. Has anyone heard of this actually working for anyone as old as me?

I also have reduced AMH of 3.6.

Second question - if you take ubiquinol, which brand and does and why? I need to order some more and not sure which is best.

Thanks for letting me pick your brains!

Hi ladies

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts over the past couple of days. Have finally been scanned and reviewed by a consultant and all is well with both babies 😊 They are doing fine and the bleed was almost certainly down to the fact that one placenta is covering the entrance to the cervix. The bad news is thlis could bleed again at any time, and if it doesn't move up could lead to more serious complications later on, but there's a good chance it will move so fingers crossed for that! 🤞 DH not happy as no sex is allowed until it moves!

Couple of photos from the scan attached if anyone's interested 😊

@Alibingo - IVF can and sometimes does work for ladies of 44, but you will need to be prepared for the fact that you will likely need multiple rounds. The chance of success does increase slightly with subsequent rounds up until about 4 rounds. I have heard of ladies with lower AMH than yours having success too. You could also consider donor egg IVF as this will have a much higher chance of success.

Good luck!

Well that’s mostly good news critter :) glad the babies are fine! Have a serious chat with them about moving that placenta whilst their practising kicks in there!

@CritterTamer - great news! Must be such a relief! So pleased all is well with your babies!
A friend of mine had a low lying placenta that didn't move and as far as I'm aware all it meant was that she needed a c-section as VB was obviously not possible. It was all v straightforward for her. Are there other issues with it? Hopefully it will move anyway, so won't be an issue xx

Oh and @AliBingo - re ubiquinol - I get whatever brand is cheapest at the time of buying that has 'Kaneka' ubiquinol in it - the kaneka part is like a seal of quality approval supposedly x

Hobbes39 - yes if the placenta remains where it is it will mean a definite c section but the most serious risk is severe bleeding later on. They can bleed severely enough to endanger the life of both mum and babies, requiring weeks in hospital and blood transfusions in the worst cases. Of course this doesn't happen to everyone I guess they just want you to be aware of all the risks. Apparently about 90% move out of the way by 32 weeks so the chances are good that it will be fine 😊

Alibingo a friend of mine gave birth last year at (just) 46 after her 5th round of IVF, so it is possible, but as Critter says you need to be prepared for a few attempts.
I had a failed IVF last summer at 43, but have now amazingly become pregnant naturally. I was planning on having IVF again this year (would be 44), and expect eventually I might have had another pregnancy as it seems there was a good egg left. I believe it is mostly a luck and numbers game at my age. My AMH is also quite low at 2.5, probably less now as that was nearly a year ago.

Critter glad to hear all is ok and fingers crossed the placenta moves.

Hobbes and onemorego great news on your BFPs, wishing you
uneventful pregnancies.

Karigan good luck with your scan.

Angelbabyollie as others have said, those tests need to be done on specific days, not all at once! Definitely request for them to be done again at the correct times.

BooseysMom sorry to read you have been feeling low and thinking of calling time on ttc. I can completely understand. Ttc is hard work and often overwhelming and disappointing, especially when af continues to come every month and no bfps. Wishing you much happiness with whatever you decide to do.

mellon still thinking of you

Sorry not to mention everyone here personally, this thread is very busy at the moment which is great

@CritterTamer
Thanks for your thoughts re IVF. Why does success increase slightly with rounds at first? Is it because they figure out the right dosage of drugs etc? And congratulations on your pregnancy, how wonderful, double trouble!

@Hobbes39 thanks for the advice re ubiquinol, I shall look for some kaneka stuff now. Are you UK? Where do you buy, Amazon or somewhere else?

@SparrowSG wow that is amazing about your friend! Also congratulations on your pregnancy, fantastic! What happened with your IVF, did you get any eggs/embryos? Seems like it can fail at various/every stage.

I love this thread, brilliant to be able to talk to people in a similar position x

@Alibingo - thank you 😊 yes, your nedical team will learn from each cycle and make tweaks to your protocol to try to up the chances iof success. We did a lot of things differently for my second cycle and it has had a very different outcome to the first!

@CritterTamer ooh is this an IVF pregnancy? How come you have two, I thought you were only allowed to put one embryo back in? I am so pleased for you!

Oh I just rtft and answered my own question :)

CritterTamer - yay! I'm so happy the babies are fine.

AliBingo - I bought Doctor's Best Ubiquinol with Kaneka from Amazon 200mg but just a word of warning... the pills are frickin' huge!

Did anyone see the lady with triplets on BBC breakfast on Saturday morning? One of the babies was IVF but the other two were twins conceived naturally because she had dtd during the days when the clinic said not to have sex.

@Alibingo in the UK they are allowed to put two back if you are over 40. Also some younger women who've had multiple failed cycles can have 2 put back i think.

critter that is such a relief! Lovely scan photos. Are you back home now? Do you have to take it easy?

I'm having such a bad time here. HCG is just staying the same (been measured three times) rather than falling so they're worried it could be ectopic. I have to go back next week for another HCG blood test. If its not falling they want to inject me with Methotrexate to kill the cells. The problem with this is that you can't ttc for at least three months after that. I asked what the alternative to the injection is and they said taking away the tube they suspect the ectopic might be in . The risk of an ectopic is death, so all in all NOT HAVING A GOOD WEEK.

I've been bleeding but not heavily- just like what I imagine a normal person's period is like (my periods are usually crazy-heavy so this bleeding is different) and having really painful cramps, but the bleeding and cramping has slowed right down/disappeared. WTF is going on with my body?

I wonder if they're thinking who did I think I was pushing my luck thinking I could have another baby at this age. I feel like throwing in the towel.

Couple all this with having to take time off work for urgent scans etc when you haven't told work what is going on. Its awful. I burst into tears in the car park as I was trying to park and a lady came over to give me her unexpired parking token. Poor thing must have wondered what the hell

@anaconda76 thanks I have just had a look and ordered some from Amazon, 300mg kaneka ones and I shall take two a day. Wow about triplet woman! I don't really understand though because surely all eggs would have been harvested as part of IVF? Still, amazing!

@CritterTamer ah yes I understand.

@Dickybow321 gosh scary stuff x

@Dickybow321 I'm sorry you're having such an awful time - that's really rough. Can you wait it out until the bleeding stops to see what happens or are they worried its more urgent than that? I thought that with an ectopic there was a very specific sharp one-sided pain - is that what you're having?

Dickybow - I'm really sorry to hear that and no wonder you're feeling awful but I'm sure they don't think that about your age. Hugs.

I’m so sorry to hear this Dickybow. I wish we could do something to help. Just know that there are a lot of ladies on this thread sending you healing thoughts and virtual hugs. 💐

@Dickybow321 - sorry to hear you are having this shit. My first miscarriage was a suspected ectopic (they called it a 'pregnancy of unknown location' as they couldn't see where it was on the scan, just that it wasn't in my womb) they suspected it was actually up right at the top of my tube on my right ovary, but couldn't be sure. My HCG was always really low (never went above 200) it stayed static, went down, then went up, then down again - and finally down all the way). I was in pain - a lot of pain, but it wasn't one sided/ shoulder tip etc, it was just everywhere tbh. Have they seen something on the scan they think is it? Is your HCG high? Or is it quite low? Mine resolved by itself with close monitoring - but it did involve having a bleed, then that stopped, then just as we were thinking they'd have to give me the drug (which although I was 38 at the time, like you, I didn't want) or go in and op - I stared to bleed quite heavily again and levels started to drop. I hope that happens for you too. It was a horrible limbo, and just so utterly depressing. Will keep fingers crossed for you x

AliBingo - sorry, I've no idea how it works. She'd dtd in the 4 days before egg collection so the twins were actually a week older than the IVF baby. It's a lovely story though because they'd been trying for 7 years.

@Dickybow321 I am so sorry this is happening to you, it really is shit. Is there any chance it could resolve naturally? xxx