Over 40 ttc- lots of baby dust for me!

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hmmm123: 41 (42 in spring!) 1 dc ttc #2 6 months ish
Rose68: 43, 2 DS 9 and 6, 1mmc, ttc #3
chatbash72: 46, 2ds 21,19,17,8,5
2 mmc(9wks,6wks) 2cp ttc 2.5 yrs
Russkispy: 42 (43 this April). 1 DD. TTC#2. 1mmc. 2 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, no frosties
Minime2017: 41 ttc#1, 1cp, 1mc, ttc 2.5 yrs
Karryk: 41, 1cp, 2mmc (5.5wks, 8wks), 1dd (17 mths old), ttc#2, 1mc (6.5wks)
Realitysucks:40 (41 in 17 days) ttc#2, 1mc (5.5wks), 1DS (16), TTC cycle 5
KateyA: 40, ttc#1 (1 frosty), cycle
Karigan195 41 1DS 1mc April 2018. Pregnant 5+4 today 3.1,19
Littlemimosa age 42, 2DC 5&7, ttc too long!
Cleozeta, 41, 2dc, ttc #3 for nearly 2 years. 1 mmc at 10 wks, 1 cp
Onemorego2019 - age 40, DS 15, DD 10 & DS 3 ttc#4 Dec 2018
ZoeRoma, 41, 1st month TTC#2, DS aged 4 months
Crittertamer: Turned 41 last week! No DC, currently (as of 3.1.19) 15+5 pregnant with twins following second IVF cycle.,
Gizmojo: 44, DS (18 months), 1 mmc, ttc#2 4 months
Letsdothis43: 43 TTC#1 ttc for 2 years first IVF cycle in January/2019
Booseysmom: 46. 47 in Feb. 1 DS 5. Ttc #2 3 years
SparrowSG: 44 in April, 1 DS 2 from IVF 2016. 1 ectopic 2014. Currently BFP @ almost 8wks
Olivia12: 43. 44 in September, 1 DD 10yo, ttc #2 with DP, 1 month
Floofsquidge: 40. No DC, currently 20 +5 pg as at 9th Jan.
Taxgirl: 43 (44 in April). 1 DS (March 2017) ttc #2 for 1 year - 3 mc and 1 mmc

Hang in there @CritterTamer - that's so frustrating that they can't scan today - I can well imagine that every minute feels like days at the moment - my way of dealing with these things is to go to bed and sleep as long as I can...if that's at all possible!
@Rose68 & @littlemimosa - I think I'm probably just an early implanter.. I just can't imagine 2 making it when we had such small numbers.
If you could guarantee me healthy babies at the end, I would love to have twins, but the reality scares the bejesus out of me as I know the risks are higher with multiples... we will deal with that tho if we get that far! X

@critter I've just caught up on this. I hope you and babies are ok. Rest up!!

I am Currently in the waiting room waiting for my scan to confirm iui on Wednesday.

I'm in bit of a state because I have Graves Disease (hyperthyroidism) and am taking the lowest dose of meds for this. Was diagnosed in Feb2018 and have been stable since July 2018. I am loathe to mess with this. However, I've read loads that the meds that I'm on are dangerous for baby if I conceive.

In fact reading back, thank you everyone for the hugs and support..I'll never forget you all!
@littlemimosa.. just read your msg again and wanted to say thank you for saying I've been so strong. I only blame myself for not trying harder as in physically..i feel almost like I shouldn't really be on here when everyone is trying so hard! It is just so physically exhausting and emotionally draining though isn't it?!

@cleozeta Yes bizarre that we’ve had such different responses from GPs! I do hope mine wasn’t being too dismissive of the idea and that the blood test will include AMH etc.

I realise it may all go horribly wrong still, but I've been thinking about how my last 2 cycles have already been more successful than my first 2 (first 2 I had lower numbers and an early chemical and nothing) and just thought it worth mentioning....
For first 2 cycles I did acupuncture religiously, and I took oodles of vitamins and folic acid. I ate as healthy as I could and ate a high protein diet during stims. But no joy.
I started ubiquinol before my 3rd round and I did try to eat a good amount of protein then too and that was the best round I had in terms of quantity of eggs and how many fertilised. I am sure the ubiquinol made a difference, the protein may have too. I gave up doing acupuncture as it felt like just another thing taking up my time and hadn't appeared to help.
This time i have been eating normally doing nothing/ taking nothing other than uniquinol and taking folate (rather than folic acid) as I read somewhere that older women can sometimes have problems converting folic acid into folate, so thought it might help.
Who knows what has helped and who knows if it will all go wrong still, but thought I'd say what I had done/ not done. At the end of the day I think it really shows me that not a lot really makes much difference - it's probably all just luck, so we shouldn't be hard on ourselves if we haven't done xyz etc. X

Gizmojo - you won't get amh on the nhs, ig will probably just be fsh (day 3) and progesterone (day 21) but that should tell you enough.

Hobbes - I think sometimes it is just pot luck and we do all these things & take all suppliments ever invented just to feel like we have done all we can. Who knows whst works & what is just a fluke or random body fluctuation or luck of the draw.
Fingers crossed you've cracked it now though!

It’s beyond me trying to figure out what works! I had given up and was avoiding when it happened and only on b6 to regulate my cycles otherwise I get constant intermittent bleeding! Didn’t work the entire year I was trying and taking all the right stuff but happens then. Got my first scan in a week. I’m going to be enormous by then. Already having to use lots of baggy jumpers to hide it. Can’t do trousers up anymore either. Hopefully that’s a sign my little bean is growing but I know it doesn’t always mean that.

Critter- hang in there!!!

Critter thinking of you and have everything crossed all is ok xxx

Booseys- yes it damn-well is! Not much tests you like ttc long term. Especially at our age. You have done what you could with the energy you had and resources you have. Please don’t beat yourself up. (Easy for me to say!) Life is so weird. It almost never works out like you planned. That’s not to say this is the end for you, whilst you’re ovulating your body is theoretically able to get pregnant. Only you can decide if this is truly the end of the road or not. I have the same thoughts daily. But I’m not ready to stop yet even tho I’ve not had a whiff of a BFP in 2-3 years. I just couldn’t bring myself to go on any contraception anytime in the foreseeable future. Have you had acupuncture or reflexology or anything like that?

Critter - how frustrating that you have to wait TIL tomorrow. Sending distance love and prayers to your hospital bed. Let us know how you go tomorrow x

Hope everything goes well today Critter

@littlemimosa.. you are absolutely right! Thank you for saying this and telling me not to beat myself up. What was said previously about what can you actively do to give yourself the best chances..well I believe also that it's mostly down to luck and timing. I took folic acid daily for years and had 2 mcs then we gave up and I fell preg and I wasn't taking any vit's or folic!! I worried about that but I was so lucky as I had a very low abnormality risk result! the only thing I was doing was eating fairly well, and i exercised regularly and I had a healthy bmi. I still had a little tipple every other day (half glass wine) and chocolate..I was never gonna give that up!
I've never tried acupuncture although someone recommended I try it for pmt.

Critter.. thinking of you today..Good luck xx

Thank you for all the welcome messages. It's so nice to hear that there are so many women in their forties ttc. I'm so used to getting looks of horror from my friends when I say I would like another baby.

Good luck today CritterTamer.

Congrats to everyone with BFPs and virtual hugs for anyone with AF (as long as we're having AF we're still in the game).

I thought this month was going to be a definite right-off because I thought DH was working away during the most important days but I had my LH surge on Sunday and we'd dtd 3 times before this so there may be a better chance than I thought. I've read the "egg" book and made a few changes; no nail polish (boohoo), cut down caffeine, started taking ubiquinol, tried not to breathe too much (rolls eyes), etc etc. If AF still arrives, then so be it. There's only so much you can do. My DH is away from Monday to Thursday/Friday most weeks so it doesn't exactly help our chances. I didn't take much notice in biology but I seem to remember the penis was kind of essential in ttc.

Oops! I meant write-off.

@crittertamer Thinking of you today, hope all goes well x

Karigan - all sounding positive, fingers crossed for you.
Critter - good luck today, thinking of you
Anaconda - haha yes the penis is an annoying necessity for ttc. Sounds like you may have timed it well after all. I am also giving up life for the egg book. Let's see what happens.

This cycle is frustrating gor me. Currently cd9 and already seeimg signs of iminant fw, but unfortunately can't do anything about it as hycosy is not until next thursday (cd18). It's going to be really hard to see ovulation pass by and not dtd!
Gutted thar the clinic would not move my appointment forward a week, I would have thought in their line of work they would be a bit more understanding of someone in their 40's not wanting to skip out on one of the few remaining fertile opportunities. But she just said "hycosy can be done right up to cd28 as long as you don't have intercourse, so your appointment on cd18 is fine"
rage

Cleo that is really annoying. Sitting out a vital cycle doesn't do much to stem the stress. I think what helps the stress of TTC is actually DOING something though, so at least the hycosy is a tick in the box for this month.

Anaconda....well quite! Pretty essential. Ha. Welcome!

Critter- still thinking of you.

Booseys- I think it's easy to forget when you're in such an involved and dedicated group of women that the average 40 something (or any-something) doesn't put in this kind of effort so don't compare yourself to anyone else. We are not typical of the general TTC population or we wouldn't be here swapping a million tips! You did an awful lot to help your chances and just didn't hit any luck....so far.

Does anyone understand day21 blood results - I have dr booked Wednesday but would any one know levels or interpret mine were
Progesterone 0.2 nmol/l, fsh 72.4 u/l, lh 48.4, eostrogen 56. Pm/l and prolastine 125 any help would be good thanks ladies xx

@Angelbabyollie usually only progesterone is done on day 21, FSH etc should be done on day 2 or 3. I’m not sure I understand your progesterone result... I will see if I can find mine. Sorry, I know that’s no help at all.

So... finding my results hasn’t helped me understand yours... my progesterone was 51.5 nmol/l, which is the same measuring unit, but I don’t understand how yours could only be 0.2.
Similarly your FSH doesn’t seem right...
What CD did you have these tests on?
Sorry, I know I haven’t helped at all 😞

@Rose68 thanks that's what confused me as at 0.2 by what I googled I would be post menopausal. ( already in tears!) I got results over phone and receptionist said it was normal but normal for what! It was day 23 as no appointment in the Monday and also I am so irregular - I am going to call back and ask again!

@Rose68 I just called and yes 0.2 I don't understand how could be so so
So low- annoying thing was I was sure I was pregnant this month as cd30 and no signs of af and also the spotting cd24 - so if that's the case I have gone from having my angel in may to straight post menopause ?!?!?

@Angelbabyollie try not to stress, I expect the silly receptionist told you the wrong numbers, or something equally as daft. Also the progesterone test should be done in the middle of your LP, so, for example, if you have a 24 day cycle, it would be wrong to have the test done on day 23.

If you had FSH done on day 23 I’m sure thats why it is so high. It needs to be done right at the beginning of your cycle.

I would ask for the tests to be done again. xxx

If I were you I would work out the dates you should have had the tests done, and maybe do a bit of research so you understand what you are talking about, and speak to your GP tomorrow. If you are still ovulating (which it sounds like you are) you can’t possibly be post menopausal. Try not to stress, I’m sure the doctor will explain tomorrow. xxx