Over 40 ttc- lots of baby dust for me!

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hmmm123: 41 (42 in spring!) 1 dc ttc #2 6 months ish
Rose68: 43, 2 DS 9 and 6, 1mmc, ttc #3
chatbash72: 46, 2ds 21,19,17,8,5
2 mmc(9wks,6wks) 2cp ttc 2.5 yrs
Russkispy: 42 (43 this April). 1 DD. TTC#2. 1mmc. 2 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, no frosties
Minime2017: 41 ttc#1, 1cp, 1mc, ttc 2.5 yrs
Karryk: 41, 1cp, 2mmc (5.5wks, 8wks), 1dd (17 mths old), ttc#2, 1mc (6.5wks)
Realitysucks:40 (41 in 17 days) ttc#2, 1mc (5.5wks), 1DS (16), TTC cycle 5
KateyA: 40, ttc#1 (1 frosty), cycle
Karigan195 41 1DS 1mc April 2018. Pregnant 5+4 today 3.1,19
Littlemimosa age 42, 2DC 5&7, ttc too long!
Cleozeta, 41, 2dc, ttc #3 for nearly 2 years. 1 mmc at 10 wks, 1 cp
Onemorego2019 - age 40, DS 15, DD 10 & DS 3 ttc#4 Dec 2018
ZoeRoma, 41, 1st month TTC#2, DS aged 4 months
Crittertamer: Turned 41 last week! No DC, currently (as of 3.1.19) 15+5 pregnant with twins following second IVF cycle.,
Gizmojo: 44, DS (18 months), 1 mmc, ttc#2 4 months
Letsdothis43: 43 TTC#1 ttc for 2 years first IVF cycle in January/2019
Booseysmom: 46. 47 in Feb. 1 DS 5. Ttc #2 3 years
SparrowSG: 44 in April, 1 DS 2 from IVF 2016. 1 ectopic 2014. Currently BFP @ almost 8wks
Olivia12: 43. 44 in September, 1 DD 10yo, ttc #2 with DP, 1 month
Floofsquidge: 40. No DC, currently 20 +5 pg as at 9th Jan.
Taxgirl: 43 (44 in April). 1 DS (March 2017) ttc #2 for 1 year - 3 mc and 1 mmc

Thanks @mellongoose - it's v kind of you to be so supportive when you've been through so much. I'm glad you are feeling a bit more positive - you sound very brave, and your mum sounds great. X
@CritterTamer - am thinking of you. I wish we had windows into our wombs... chances are good that all will be well tomorrow - that's v reassuring they found both heartbeats, but I know you must be v scared. I hope you get answers tomorrow and that all is well, will be thinking of you x
Hope everyone else is doing ok too x

Well AF has gone the baby dance is back on fingers crossed for this month

Congratulations Hobbes..I haven't seen such a strong line for a while!

Congratulations also to onemorego xx

Mellongoose.. lovely to hear from you and sending you a healing hug xx

Critter.. easy for me to say but try not to overly stress. I bled with DS and thought it was AF so didn't even know for 12 wks he was in there! Fantastic you have a boy and a girl! Try to relax and take care of you all ..good luck xx

@anaconda76..welcome to our group. This is a really safe and supportive place. Good luck ttc x

As for me, I'm out. AF turned up last night and I was utterly convinced this time I was preg. Why are all the symptoms of AF coming exactly the same as early pregnancy?! I've had enough ladies..so sorry to be so negative but I just can't go on kidding myself. I'm 47 next month. I blame myself..I could have tried harder
We have DS and we are so lucky to have him. Everyone please don't give up like me. You're all so much younger! Good luck everyone of you lovely ladies xx

Oh Booseys. Huge hugs for AF. It’s the worst day ever when you are ttc that much wanted baby. Why do you blame yourself?? We all do what we can, with what we know and the resources and energy we have at the time. You can’t blame yourself for anything. You’ve been so strong. Take a couple of days and see how you feel. I totally understand the birthday looming feelings tho. You’ll probably feel a bit better strangely once it has actually passed. We’re here for you x

Critter - so sorry to hear you’ve had some bleeding that put you in hospital but good that the babies look fine and that it’s tailing off. The worry never stops does it! Thinking of you. Rest up and take it v easy.

Mellon - good to see you and that you are feeling even slightly better. Your mum has given great advice and we are here for you whatever you decide. Take time to just grieve and care for yourself and your family. Much love.

Congratulations again Hobbes and onemorego! Great lines. Hobbes how many embryos did you transfer? Ps, I never was very good at maths lol.

Oh Booseys...I'm sorry. Symptom spotting is do awful and causes such hurt but we all can't help it. When TTC is all about reading your body's signs, how can we just not do it in the 2WW. Is this AF talking or are you really giving up?

Booseys I totally understamd how you feel. One of the reasons I freaked out when af came this month is because my birthday is coming up next month and I know withn every didget that goes up, the chances go down. You are not alone. Hopefully you can start to feel a bit more positive when af has buggered off and you can look to the next fresh cycle. While you are still ovulating there is always a chance.

Oh @BooseysMom - I'm sorry you are feeling so low. I understand
the need to draw a line. It's hard though. Look after yourself xx
@littlemimosa - we had two transferred - I'd be shocked if both made it tho! X

Hobbes - I asked because that is a very strong line for 11dpo and if I remember rightly Critters was similar..... just sayin’......!

Ohh goodness... @CritterTamer so glad little ones are ok, safest place to be resting up in hospital..sending lots of love xx
@BooseysMom sending big virtual hugs.. af arrival is crap... but while she still arrives there is still cycles.. of that's any comfort xx
@mellongoose big big hugs..
big hugs to all you lovelies.. full moon is coming.. xxx

Can I just say what a truly amazing group of ladies you are, you show such strength, courage, kindness and support.. sending out lots and lots of love and baby dust to you all..
welcome @anaconda76

Good luck today @CritterTamer - will be thinking of you x

@CritterTamer good luck for today, hope it goes well! Will be thinking of you 🤗

Good luck critter will also be thinking you of today x

Morning! Congrats to all the bfps (yay) and big hugs to @MellonGoose and @CritterTamer ❤️❤️❤️

@CritterTamer thinking of you today and willing on your little ones. Please remember that what happened to my baby was unavoidable and incredibly unlucky. MN is brilliant in lots of ways, particularly this thread. However being on here does highlight those tragic stories and sometimes it feels as though they are more common than they really are. For every late loss, there are hundreds and hundreds of successes. Good luck today. Big hugs.

Thanks again for your kindness ladies. It really does help. I'm willing you all on....and me when the time is right.

Thanks to all you amazing ladies.. i really am blown away by your supportive msgs. You all helped me last time I had a blip like this and it's always AF who destroys my hope..this time she's being particularly evil . I have v heavy bleeding and cramp. Still got to haul my sorry arse to work today tho!! Talking of symptoms spotting I was getting some lucid dreams in the run up to AF which is another reason I was convinced I was preg as I had that with DS. I dreamt I had a daughter..she was about 3. Now I won't ever have one but it's just life. We didn't start ttc until late 30s and we always knew we were cutting it fine but we were in a desperate situation with my DH losing his jobs and we were renting mouldy houses with no hope of our own home. Now for the first time ever we have our own home and it's come later in life. We just got DS in time and any more at my age is pushing our luck and I'm terrified of the worst happening.
So ladies, thank you for listening, for all your support and friendship. If it's ok with you I'd like to hang around in the background. I feel I know you all and want to follow your fertility journeys..after all, I've come this far
Good luck all... And Critter..thinking of you today xx

Thanks ladies for your kind thoughts. Unfortunately I've just had a call from the ultrasound department and the first available appointment for an 'emergency' scan is tomorrow afternoon so another day of limbo 😢

Booseysmom - sorry you're feeling do down - sending big hugs your way xxx

@BooseysMom I’m so sorry you have decided to stop trying, but I completely get how you feel. I was really rooting for you this month too. I also won’t be trying for much longer. Maybe another couple of months.... I need my life back.

@Critter I’m so sorry to hear about the bleed. It’s strange it happened right after the scan. I am sure that all will be well, but I know you will still worry. But it’s lovely news that you are having a boy and a girl!

@Mellon Lovely to hear from you, I am still thinking of you x

@Hobbes39 I agree with @Littlemimosa, the line is very strong for 11dpo. I’m definitely thinking twins could be possible. When do you have your first scan?

Welcome @anaconda76

I am feeling quite rubbish today, I have caught DS2’s cold which I think is quite remarkable given all the supplements I’m taking.

I was thinking.... wouldn’t it be funny if we met up and found that some of us know each other in real life 😁

@booseysmum Sorry you’re feeling so down. Sending you big hugs xx

@crittertamer Can only imagine how you’re feeling about the bleeding and keeping everything crossed and sending lots of positive thoughts your way for scan tomorrow xx

Afm, went to gp this morning about night sweats and lp and he dismissed peri menopause straight away because I’m still having regular cycles (not clockwork but regular) and not having hot flashes. Got to have blood tests to double check and look at hormones but he’s confident it’s definite not that. He’s put it down to a nasty infection I had a while back plus the fact I’ve lost just over four stone in the past year - reckons both can bugger up your body’s “thermostat”. Also said even nine day LP isn’t an issue. He said night sweats are common and often unexplained (stress and anxiety both also being factors) but on their own don’t mean peri. @cleozeta I know you were having them too so hope this helps x

Congrats @hobbes39 and @onemorego2019, lovely bfps!!! :)

Oh and also - looks like I O’d almost a week earlier than last cycle, a CD14! So now in 2ww but almost zero chance as we only managed to dtd once about three days before it as it caught me off guard but at least now more hopeful for future months!

Gizmojo - that is really interesting that your gp said that. Mine was the opposite, I went to the gp when I was 39 for a few issues and his automatic assumption was peri, he brushed it off really lightly saying it was normal to start having peri symptoms any time from around 40 and they could last for up to 10 years before actual menopause. I also had regular cycles and no hot flushes. About a year later I had the blood tests which proved he was right. But he really thinks nothing of it and said I could still get pregnant (which I did, twice, although neither stuck).
It's interesting how different gp's have different attitudes and thoughts towards peri.

Rose - yes there's a funny thought! Maybe some of us were old school friends or something haha

Aw thanks Critter. feeling better now i've got it all out of my system!
I'm sorry to hear you are having to wait another day. Best of luck for tomorrow.. a virtual hug for you right here! xx

@Rose68.. thank you. I'm also on the one child families thread now but it's not v popular esp compared to this one.. probably the fastest growing thread on mumsnet! When you say you just want your life back I agree.. I just think it's important to not lose sight of what you have in life.
Very good point about whether any of us actually know each other IRL. I did think I knew someone as she knew about this thread and was ttc at 40 but don't think she was on here then x

@Gizmojo ..thanks for the hugs xx