TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 11!

[FlapJackered]

Hi all, thought we needed to start a new thread!
@KatBeCool
@cupcakesandglitter
@MrsAW2018
@Crossfitgirl
@EltzBee
@TrashKitten10

@ValidUser sorry, forgot to mention, BFN on a cheapie HPT this morning... not even a glimmer of anything! I have got 2 FRERs sat in the cupboard though 🙈

@DuchessofPemberley tell me about it! I'm just like "well, is this cycle 6 still or should I give up and class that as AF and therefore I'm now on cycle 7?"

@Bettythecat cross post! Yes I did this morning (on the advice of DH!) but a BFN 😔

@daisiesandpeonies so good to have you back!! We have missed you! So glad to hear you're feeling better about it all. We are exactly the same stage of our ttc journey! I am on cycle 8 and month 10. I have to say I am ever aware of the year mark coming closer 😬

@cupcakesandglitter I didn't know that, good knowledge! I woke up late so annoyingly I don't know if I have or not. Will see what happens with tomorrow's temperature. How are your opks looking today?
I did CrossFit's finishing technique this morning. DH lay on the bed and started to play on his phone and I had to chuck him out! 😂😂

@Jessikka sorry for AF. YOU is amazing isn't it! I binge watched that one in a big way.

@MrsR16 Ooo have you done a test? What dpo are you?

@FlapJackered yes I tested this morning, but it was a BFN 😕 I don't know how many DPO I am - I was really ill last month so was surprised that I was bleeding early! But now I'm not convinced it's AF at all and think I should change my apps back to cycle 6!

How do you stop yourself symptom spotting? I feel nauseous, loads of CM, have cramps and am off my food (which is NOT like me). I also looked into my temp dip below the cover line at 5dpo and it could be an implantation dip.

The last time I felt like this, back in September, we got a BFN. I hate getting 'symptoms' because it gets my hopes up and that makes the BFN so much more upsetting.

Currently only 7dpo which would be ridiculously early for symptoms anyway ☹️

@DuchessofPemberley oh hun I don't think you can stop symptom spotting!! Even if I'm not consciously "trying" it's still there and doesn't go away! Xx

@DuchessofPemberley still trying, but AF due in the next few days.

If my surgery is soon, we'll put it on hold then.

@MrsR16 do a FRER in the morning. I dare you.

@ValidUser oh, don't do that!!! 😂 I'm a sucker for a dare!! Xx

Evening ladies hope all ok. I'm trying to stop myself thinking I can feel twinges when I'm only 3/4 dpo. Only CD16 so if last cycle is anything to go by I've got another 16 days to wait until AF may/may not show.

@Jessikka Sorry to hear AF got to you. Hope you enjoy You! I finished it yesterday. Liked it so much I'm going to download the book.

@daisiesandpeonies Welcome back! I only joined this year. Cycle 2 and already caught up in the madness so completely understand why you may need to take a break from here. Sending lots of baby dust to you.

@ValidUser Hope the appointment goes well and they get you in for your op asap. Sending positive thoughts and baby dust your way. Take care.

@Babytrain89 So sorry to hear AF got you. Take care. Enjoy some wine and chocolate. I hope Cycle 3 is your month.

Thanks @PinkFizz19. ❤️

Is anyone else in their fertile window now? Im cycle day 11 and due to ovulate day 16. Anyone out there to share the ride? We DTD twice today so good start!

@BostonFern Hello Fresh came and tonight’s meal was fab! I’m the same with AF coming in that at least I know my body is getting back to normal after BC.

@Jessikka @Babytrain89 sorry to hear AF has arrived, it seems she has snuck up with a lot of us over the last few days!

@Nextchapter19

Clue tells me I'm ovulating on Wednesday... (based purely on timings from previous cycles - not using OPKs yet). It's reassuring to know that there are ladies out there in the same position. I quite like that some of us are pretty closely synced!

Day 2 of a 6-day fertile window now, and DH has yet to initiate anything. He doesn't like me to initiate, and he doesn't like me to tell him when the FW is, due to pressure etc. It's on the calendar, so he can look if he wants to, but I don't think he does. Effectively, we only "do the couple's dance" (ha!) if and when he happens to feel like it. In an ideal world, we would try multiple times during the FW, but my husband is a once-a-week (or less) sort of chap. I really hope we don't miss the opportunity this month.

@Cindarella812 yeah I know what you mean about the pressure. We were going to start on Saturday but neither was in the mood given we knew it was going to be planned! I told him today he had to surprise me so we had two quickies which were alot of fun. But, its Monday tomorrow and Im back at work which is school leadership. Anxiety and stress!!!! Just trying to prioritise. Ovulation due on Thurs according to the 2 apps I use. Lets keep each other updated!

@Cinderella812 can you speak to him about it and explain to him that you both want the baby and so you both have to be responsible to make it happen and you don't want to miss it for the month. Maybe you can try snuggling up to him or kissing him and try and take it from there?

I know I keep going on about this, but seriously-

Why the fuck is my period a week early?

After showing up A WHOLE WEEK LATE for no apparent reason in November, it has now shown up A WHOLE WEEK EARLY two months later.

I've given up hope of it being implantation bleeding. It's been 5 days. And although it hasn't been constant the whole time, it's gone from fresh and red to dark and clotty (I know, TMI, sorry.) so I can only conclude that my period has arrived a week sooner than expected for no reason (other than to fuck with my sanity), and in the space of 4 months my cycle has gone from a steady 28/29 days to 35, then 30, then 23. I've just cried on DH because I'm so frustrated and pissed off.

@ValidUser I get it don't worry, don't worry about moaning either, it's our only way to let it all out I think! Fx you get your BFP by 30, I'm sure you will ❤️ I'm okay, CD20 and no ovulation yet/signs of ov so just going with the flow really 😂🤷🏻‍♀️ x

Omg @FlapJackered what is it with these men 😂😂😂 glad you managed to sort it too though, even if it meant kicking him out 😂 no positive for me yet 😩 don't have much hope for this month x

@DuchessofPemberley I log all of my symptoms so as soon as I feel something I go back and look through them, it's the only way I can prove to myself I've had it before x

@AngeloMysterioso I feel your pain - I went from regular cycles to 23/38/27/33 etc etc for literally no reason, starting the month we started TTC!! No explanation from the docs either 🤷🏻‍♀️ x

@Nextchapter19 I'm CD11, I guess the day changed so it's CD12 now. Ewcm started today, usually I ovulate CD14. So we're close!

@AngeloMysterioso you should temp! You'll know whether it's AF or not.

DH did some "reading" and now refuses to DTD daily. At least every other is ok I suppose.

I wish there was a test that was definitive.

I got a bfp Friday am, started bleeding Friday PM. That pretty much was a period Saturday and Sunday. It’s much less this morning, although still bright pink/red and is mixed with EWCM.

Last night I was randomly sick. Was fine, then was sick, and within 30mins I felt okay (and vaguely hungry). Wasn’t sick again, this morning I have a huge headache but that’s probably because of the 4 hours sleep I got.

I had accepted in my head that it was a chemical. I needed by body to not be sick, and I needed the test to be negative or lighter than the others. I can’t see much change in the line either way.

It is the not knowing that is killing me :( I’m going to ring my GP and ask if I can get an appointment for a blood test. I can’t wait two weeks of this :(

@Keyboard91 I'm so sorry you're having such a horrible time of it. I would definitely ring the GP. Cry at them if you can and they might realise that making you wait 2 weeks is just cruel! We're all here for you xx

@Keyboard91 if it comes to it is there an early pregnancy assessment unit near you? Right now they can't do much more than bloods, but that's what a person would do in my part of Ireland. (Accepted too - DH and I are doctors and he worked in one once.)

Hugs. X

Ok I know I'm a POAS addict and only about 7 dpo and I'm going to the fertility clinic tomorrow and probably only seeing what I want to.

But I think I see something here.

@Keyboard91 I don't think asking you to wait for two weeks is reasonable or necessary. It's one thing when you see a clear progression on a urine test and you're just waiting for your first blood test and another when you're not sure what is happening. I agree with @ValidUser, see if there's a place that can do a blood test right now if your GP isn't going to.

@ValidUser tsk tsk for testing so early! I turned up the brightness on my phone to the "eye burn" level, I might be seeing something on the normal photo but not the inverted. But 7dpo... That's way too 🔜.

@KatBeCool I know. I'm ridiculous! 😂