@DayDreamer1707 We already do that, my fertile window is on our shared iPhone calendar, so he knows when it is. He just doesn't act on it, despite what he says about wanting a baby (which seem like empty words to me now).
I have tried to talk with him, but he refuses to speak to me any more today due to my "ridiculous, emasculating suggestion". He seems really hurt by it. I was trying to be practical, because I've seen women get pregnant that way on this board. I thought it was a sensible solution. But I see how he could take it as emasculating... but he's emasculating himself. Just have sex with your hot wife. It shouldn't be such a chore.
He has the energy to go to boxing classes at 5am daily (sometimes more than one), on top of work. So it's not fatigue. He tells me he's attracted to me. I choose to believe him (though that's easy to doubt). Sometimes I'm not in the mood, but you just get on with it. And within two minutes, you tend to find you can get into the mood! But he won't even try.
I don't know what I can do. He's got all the details of counsellors and therapy etc. He's just not done anything about it.
I adore this man. He is a wonderful partner and husband in every other way. I just feel sexless and lonely.
Honestly, I get a ridiculous thrill when someone at work will flirty-banter with me. Or a stranger wolf whistles. I know that makes me a bad feminist. But literally anything that acknowledges I am a sensual being is like a drug to me! Then I trot off home and try to be a good wife, but I am treated as platonically as the dog.
I am starting to understand why people have affairs. I wouldn't. It isn't in my nature. But I do understand.