The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

[Frazzlerock]

Here it is! Our lucky one 🤞

All I do is listen to his bullst @Frazzlerock!!
He is a dick at times. His 'fuse' is non existent!!
The row last night was started as follows...
we both had 2 big box files full of old paperwork from our previous lives. He was moaning about them constantly for months, so one day around 3 weeks ago I had nothing to do so I cleared mine out and ended up with an Aldi bag (you know the big bag for life ones!) full of paperwork to destroy. I asked him to burn it in our garden burner... which he agreed to do.
He then brought a shredder and I told him categorically I was not wasting my life shredding 2/3 pages at a time and the bag has stayed under the stairs for a week. Last night, despite it being there a week, he noticed it and lost his shit and called me all the idle lazy bitches under the sun.... let me point out... he STILL hasn't even sorted his box out, let alone dealt with the stuff to throw away out of it, it's still sitting cluttering the dining room!! But apparently that's not the point because he works 9 hours a day and I 'sit on my lazy fat arse all day' (I'm a size 8) ... so I pointed out as well as sitting on my lazy fat arse, I deal with his kids 3 days a week, doing all the school runs, all the washing, all the cooking... and squeeze working in too! That doesn't count tho... because it doesn't suit his pathetic argument! Dick!!
Anyway, he has to get up at 6am for work at 8am.... I decided I couldn't hold my pee any longer and started clattering about at 8.05!! He rushes out of the living room going 'why didn't you wake me!' I pointed out I was too fucking idle and took myself back to bed with a cup of tea and the Labrador!! (So I haven't exactly stopped the argument lol!)

Oh I must admit I did proper laugh at my desk reading how you let him lay in tigsy ! Good for you! He is being really awkward about all this. It is obviously difficult when DTD becomes about baby making but at the end of the day that is what it's main function is for! Can we not view how special and romantic BD can be?

Oh Tigsy I completely feel your pain. He's being a massive arse but agree with Frazzle that he probably needs to talk. It's really shit timing.
It sounds he was in a mood last night, and regardless of what you did or said, there would have been an argument.
Absolutely love your petty "I was too fucking idle" - that's exactly the sort of comment that I would make that would infuriate my DH
Ps. didn't know you had a lab too!
I think Frazzle and I have said before, lying in bed knowing you are O'ing but not dtd and just wanting to cry. It's really shit
He sounds SO similar to my DH in terms of the clutter and we actually had a very similar mini-argument last night... I absolutely cannot deal with clutter and a messy house and working from home 90% of the time, I need the house to be tidy and for all the good in him, he's one of those psychopaths that love clutter/tat. If we ever go anywhere, and there's a souvenir shop, he's like a kid at Christmas.... So I explained Marie Kondo to him - yep all sounds good. Then every fucking bit of tat I passed him apparently bought joy

ratherbe my DH is like yours with holding onto stuff. I was trying to clean out a cupboard and kept asking things like "this ancient electronic thing which looks like its from the 90s?"... "Keep!"... "this empty clothes packaging from the 60s"... "Keep!". I gave up tidying the cupboards and refuse to discuss the subject.

Twittle I agree, baby making sex is special, although does get tiresome.

@Kinsters that's DH all over it's so tiresome isn't it? A novelty empty photo-frame from a landmark neither of us have ever visited? "KEEP!"

😂 I'm not a particularly neat person myself so I can put up with the mess itself. I refuse to put up with him talking about "when we tidy out the cupboards" though!

Well I've booked an early Scan, nothing on Groupon this time though so paid full price of £79. It is booked for 7th February, so just under 4 weeks away. Just bloomin hope everything is okay, cannot stop worrying, just feel like I am gonna cry all the time

How far along will you be then Twittle? I guess all you can do is take it a day at a time x

Oh @Twittle I am hoping so much all is okay this time (Can't do a fingers crossed on laptop).

I've another temp rise this morning. DP looked at my chart and said "Are those your temps!" Yes DP..."
"Bloody hell, they've gone mental!"

I still don't trust that they will stay high. Though, weirdly, they are all higher than my preg cycle.
I'm getting all the usual LP symptoms that used to trick me into thinking I am preg - Metal mouth, mega thirsty and dry mouth. the past couple of days I've been drinking 4.5 bottles (just over 600mls) of water when usually I struggle to drink 2. The odd boob twinge. The odd lower ab niggle. But I know my body tricks me so trying desperately not to clutch straws as that is where madness lies.
9 or 11dpo now.

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Enough for all of us!

I'm also quietly symptom spotting and hating myself for doing it. I don't even know how many dpo I am! And my temps aren't even that high.

Frazzle Can you upload your graph! Desperate for you to POAS already. FX

Kin hopefully something will make sense either way for you soon!

I should be 7+4 based on FF prediction

Ladies, last night and even worse so today, I have been having severe cramps on/off on lower left side. not sure if its just my existing bowel issues anyway (I have come off my meds) or if I should be worried. Oh, feel like a mess at work as it really is painful when it comes on.

I dont want to ring GP/EPU though as I feel like they will just think I am worrying due to my anxiety and previous MMC

@TwittleBee CALL them. Of course you're anxious because of previous MC. They will understand!

Chart coming right up..

I'll call them Tuesday if it is stilll bad. If it gets worse I'll go straight to Walk-In Centre as they can transfer me to EPU I guess as its only upstairs from them. Frazzle I know I should just call them, but I've been in/out Drs & hospital so much past year I feel like they will think I enjoy being ill.

I'm not POAS for ages yet so you will have to be patient 😉

Slight downward trend but certainly high still and bit of variation is expected! Your signs so look like you are 11dpo. Really hope you get to test and see a BFP rather than AF. Just got to hope you don't see a sudden temp drop.

Do you usually get a sudden temp drop before AF or a gradual one? I usually get pretty obvious temp drops from 9/10dpo that do not rise again until AF is here. If that was my chart it would be a promising one.

I don't know yet as the first time I tracked my temps since TTC the DS was my preg cycle so I never got to see what actually happens in LP.
With the DS's I temped but never ever saw evidence of ovulation. My cycles were 100+ days back then so I gave up most cycles. As you can imagine, 100 days of temping and seeing nothing is tedious!

So this cycle will be interesting to see (if I get AF). I will finally get an idea of how long my LP is roughly and patterns. I will be very disappointed if AF arrives, but I will be really interested to see my LP, and again next cycle if I don't get BFP, I wonder if that will be the same.

I find the whole temping thing really fascinating now it is working for me and my cycles are relatively normal!

oh yeah of course, thats why you arent sure of your LP length!

I suppose if you do get AF rather than BFP then that is a (very very) small silver lining that you will have a nice chart to compare next cycles to!

Fingers crossed @TwittleBee

Don't forget cramping can be a neutral sign- happens for positive outcomes as well as negative so try not to worry.

Hard to compare as two different apps, but this was my preg cycle

This is my current cycle with same app

Frazzle that looks so promising!! I'm so excited for you!
Definitely Team FrazzleShouldPOAS here...

Sending [cake[ Twittle, hopefully it's just the little bean implanting nicely. I do think you should call the EPU though if you're concerned. They will totally understand x

looks like as long as your temps remain above 36.7 then you'll be looking good!

thank you Pegase I will try to keep that in mind

@twittle if it gets worse please go to see someone!!
It’s probsbky nothin and I’m keeping it all crossed for you!
@frazzle I don’t understand charts.... mine still looks like a mountaineering map!
@rather yes I have a choccy lab and a little fluffy moungral
I adore them and the are my fur babies!!
They aren’t allowed on the bed normally (DH rules) but this morning I let her up just to wind him up! 😂