TTC after Miscarriage

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Hi ladies,

I suffered a silent miscarriage end of October and was just looking to start a thread for ladies in a similar position to me, who are trying to conceive at the moment. Would be lovely to have some support and guidance.

xx

@Novasky1 as I've said to the other ladies I'd really advise against it. I had a chemical pregnancy straight after. Even though we were told we could try. I saw another doctor later who said chemicals are really common after a d&c. It really messed my hormones and my next cycle up so feel like we're a step back for not waiting. Also my head is all over the place from having two back to back miscarriages Xx

Thanks @Catconfusion

@Novasky1 thank you. We dtd a few times but weren't overthinking about it. I don't even know if I ovulated. Awk well. Sorry for you too and hope it all works out for us xx

@catconfusion...appreciate the advice...it's hard to make rationale decisions right now..I'm sorry about your CP...I hope you get your sticky bfp soon x

@firsttimemama91 ..best of luck to you too for next month...it will happen for you..sending positive thoughts your way x

I completely understand @Novasky1 it's such a difficult call to make. There's so much conflicting information out there. I trust the doctor who told me I should have waited and I know of three other ladies who went through the same thing on another thread. I really underestimated how much time I'd need to feel ok physically and emotionally. I'm still struggling a bit three months after my mmc.

On the other hand if you feel you could cope if it's a very early loss and are willing to take the risk it's up to you. Good luck whatever you decide. Xx

@FirstTimeMama91 😘 we will get there xxx

@EC418 ❤️ 🌈 xxx

2 days until AF is due and getting impatient now, I didn’t think I’d get like this especially on my first cycle! 😩

@Catconfusion how are you doing? Did you do another test.
I had another scan this week and they are happy that the last d&c was successful. Good news I guess but felt so emotional after. End of another pregnancy etc.
Anyway just need to hope that my period doesn't take too long to return !
Hope you're doing OK?

@jacquesjacques how was the 12 week scan? Hope you're OK! X

I'm good thanks @Gpmg84 AF came and all in all I think it's for the best. It's my first natural period since November after two miscarriages.

I'm really pleased your procedure was successful. I can imagine it's bitter sweet though and it's simply not fair you've had to go through this twice.

How is the health kick going? I've been eating pretty bad this week and drinking wine but I'm going to try and lose a bit of weight now.

The temping has led to a lot of stress this cycle so I'm going to try digital opks.

I hope your AF comes soon. I have to say I found it a relief, like a big reset. I really hope your body continues to recover well! Xx

@Novasky1 how are you? It sounds like we are in similar situation, i had a d&c ~3 weeks ago. Although this was my second mmc. How are you coping with it all?
My experience is similar to @Catconfusion we ttc straight after 1st mmc which ended at ~7 weeks (had d&c at ~9 weeks) and fell pregnant v soon after but sadly ended up having another mmc again around 7 weeks.
Management of that pregnancy has been horrendous and very drawn out but I finally had the all clear this week.
We are now waiting a bit, trying to focus on healthy eating / let my body fully recover and get back to 'normal' before trying again. Part of me would much rather get back on it straight away but I don't think I could go through another experience like my last again.
Of course everyone is different - I have a good friend or conceived 6 weeks after her 1st mmc and went on to have a health baby girl.
Wishing you lots of luck! X

Hey @gpmg84, yes I had my d&c two weeks ago today. I'm so sorry to hear you bad another mmc so soon after your first. I've been having some ov symptoms so we've been dtd'ing again...i know there's a risk that same thing could happen but for my own sanity I just want to get get back into trying..I'm fully not expecting to get pregnant so soon! Hope the break does you good and hope you get your good news soon x

@Gpmg84 how are you feeling after your D&C? Was your recovery ok? I've been thinking about you and hoping you're bouncing back.

12 week scan went absolutely fine, apart from horrible sonographer and midwives who kept telling me my BMI was too high (and a miscarriage risk). I know they have to tell you the risks but - given my history and the fact I have already had risks explained at booking in - it felt a bit insensitive. And I'm overweight but am only a size 14 so it's not like I'm massively in danger

Apart from that though I'm just grateful to be where I am, and trying to stay calm and reduce anxiety but it is quite hard when you know what the worst case scenario feels like x

Congratulations @jacquesjacques and I'm so sorry they were rude. A size 14 is hardly abnormal, it's an average size. I'm a size 10 and I've been told I need to lose a stone by the doctor. My bmi is 28 I think and I'm being told I need to get it down because of miscarriage risk. This baffles me and I see lots of far bigger women healthily pregnant and can't believe my weight was an issue. I have put on a couple of stone in the last year but I was underweight then. It does make me cross as if we don't have enough to worry about. As long as diet is reasonably healthy it shouldn't matter too much! Xx

Hi everyone hope all is well almost 6 weeks since mc and still no AF plus yesterday my cousin and her partner shared on fb they're pregnant expecting in November. I knew already and am so happy for them but still makes me sad. We were so excited our wee babas would've been a week apart.
Hoping for happiness for us all soon! 🌈🌈 xx

Hi @firsttimemama91 ....sorry to hear there's been no sign of your AF yet...do you think you ovulated? I'm sure it will come any day now. It's so hard hearing pregnancy news so close to what would have been your due date..it just sucks. Are you going to ttc again soon?

@Novasky1 thank you I'm not sure if I ovulated, haven't a clue. Thought I mightv ovulated early but can't be sure. I've been POAS too just incase but all negatives.
Awk I know but I'm trying to be happy for them too. It's just so disappointing for us.
Hopefully you're right and AF shows up this week xx

@jacquesjacques I'm SO pleased that all was well with your 12 week scan. I am v cross though that the sonographer / midwives were so rude and unhelpful though!!
In my opinion a size 14 seems like a very normal size. The docs telling you the mmc risks when 1) you're trying to stay calm / not worry and 2) when you know what the risks are all too well already is really insensitive and I'm surprised they did that. Hope you're feeling a bit calmer now.

I'm recovering Ok thank you, I've been having acupuncture, reflexology and drinking gross smoothies.... still no period (and a depleted bank balance) BUT I do feel calmer and less anxious so that's good.

Stay strong, I know the wait is hard. Xxx

@Catconfusion hope you're doing OK?
I've had so much conflicting advice too re weight etc. I've decided (for now!) to kind of ignore the weighing scales and just focus on being 'relaxed' and 'healthy' with occasional treats! I'm convinced that stress is worse than a few pounds in the wrong direction...
How are you finding the digital opks?i used OvuSense last time.
Still no af but guess that's to be expected.

I've been feeling really wobbly today though. A new pregnancy announced at work... Wish I didn't get that stab in the heart feeling whenever I hear that someone is pregnant or I see a baby. I feel like such a nasty person for reacting that way. It just reminds me so clearly of what I don't have and that there are no guarateees I will... urgh rant over!

Xx

AF has finally came!! Woohoo! Went back to the gym for first time yesterday and today so think that got things moving. It's been the longest 6 weeks! Excited for this cycle but trying not to get hopes up x

That's great @FirstTimeMama91 ! It took me about that long after my first mmc / d&c and my af was much lighter / shorter.
Good luck for your next cycle! X

Hi ladies, it's so lovely to have such a supportive group going through this stressful time!
I'm looking for some reassurance / advice if possible?

I had a MMC at 11 weeks at the end of Feb, 4 weeks later i has what I perceived to be a regular period, & took the first day of that AF as my CD1. I've had nothing since. Currently on CD47 BFN last Friday, I've had limited success with my BBT monitoring this month due to shift work messing with things.

Has anyone else gone through similar?

I'm 35 & we're ttc our first, first started trying in Oct 2018, had our BFP in jan this year & now desperately hoping to get lucky again

Thanks in advance x

Hi @Tashdreams
So sorry to hear about your mmc and that your cycles are taking a while to normalise.
I had my second mmc in March/ April and a d&c end of April.
After my first mmc it took me several months before my periods returned 'normally'. I had some spotting / bleeding sooner but it did take a while before my periods became 'normal' again.
I think this is expected as it takes a while for our bodies to readjust, linings needs to thicken up again / hormones stabilise.
I was SO stressed about it first time as just wanted to start ttc again. It was only when I sort of gave up and relaxed did my cycle return to normal. I tried meditation and acupuncture to help me chill out a bit (not easy!)
Hope that helps a bit xx

Hi ladies
Sorry but I really need somewhere to rant....
Heard about 3 new pregnancies today, all women I know well, having their second child and all a year plus younger than me. Feeling so depressed. I know comparing is a pointless cruel thing to do but I just feel utterly crap.
Wish I had a crystal ball and could look to the future so I could tell if I am going to have conceive a healthy pregnancy or not....
Urgh. Hope this mood lifts soon!
X

@Gpmg84 there's nothing worse.. hope you feel better soon. Our time will come x