TTC after Miscarriage

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Hi ladies,

I suffered a silent miscarriage end of October and was just looking to start a thread for ladies in a similar position to me, who are trying to conceive at the moment. Would be lovely to have some support and guidance.

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@Catconfusion thank you. It's great being back in a group praying for us all to get our babas x

No worries @FirstTimeMama91 I lost my first pregnancy too with a missed miscarriage. It's so heartbreaking. I then got pregnant again straight away but lost that one too early on. My best advice is to make sure you're feeling stronger physically and emotionally. I wish I'd waited as it was heartbreaking to suffer another one so soon after. Everyone tells you it's fine to try straight away and I know some are lucky and catch again. It however stalls the recovery even more to go through it again. Good luck and I hope you're feeling better soon! Xx

@Catconfusion you poor thing it's so unfair. Thank you for your advice I'll get there x

@Catconfusion I'm doing ok thank you. It's been a really tough few weeks. When I came out of hospital last week the next day I heard I'm very likely to have lost my job. I'm currently at home in a limbo stage waiting for clarity...! Just took myself into town shopping but got upset when I saw babies or baby clothes etc. Think I'm safer at home watching tele and eating choc...!
How are you doing?

I've made an appt to see a private gynae next week. She does testing etc. It is going to cost us the earth (not ideal if I am unemployed!!) but I just need some answers and support...

@Em39ma how are you feeling? Has the sickness got any better? X

Still feel very 🤢 @Gmpg84, but haven’t been 🤮 for about 5 days now.
Sometimes I think being 🤮 is better than feeling 🤢 all the time.
Very tired, sleeping about 3.5 hours every afternoon.
I know what you mean about the private visits costing the earth.
I lost my job, because of the miscarriage and we decided I wouldn’t look for a new one. I have my business, but have put that on the back burner for now. I would have to be carrying gazebos and stock around to setup at the county shows and don’t think that is really a good idea.
How are feeling about everything now?

@Em39ma I do know what you mean about feeling 🤢! When I was pregnant with my son I literally ate non stop through the nausea which seemed to do the trick for me 😊..
Gosh sounds like a similar situation - my husband and I are considering me taking time out of work now too. I'm so sorry that you lost your job due to miscarriage - that should never be allowed to happen!
Did you go privately / have medical testing in the end?
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@Gmpg84 just private for the scans so far. Will also go private for the harmony test if need it.
Need to take back the not been 🤮 for 5 days. Baby doesn’t like spag Bol.!!! Just returned in style.
I also have mastitis, which is making me feel pretty yuck.

Did everyone wait for a cycle after their miscarriage before starting to try again? I want to start trying maybe next weekend. Anyone any experience or tips?

Hey there. I was on this topic 3 weeks ago when I MC naturally at 11w (but my baby stopped growing around 8w).

I’m currently 3dpo (my ovulation occured at CD24 last saturday) so... we tried right away. I don’t know if it will work, we’ll see next week, but I have my fingers crossed. so yes, you can try right away if you didn’t have any complications when you MC.

Good luck ladies, I saw a couple of happy stories here, so it sure gives me hope! I hope that, in the end, we’ll all have our happy ending!

@Suldevy thanks Hun that's good to know. Fingers crossed for you x

Hi all - am so sorry to hear more sad news here. Just to add my story on waiting - we TTC straight away after the first 2 mc, and neither ended well. This baby (am now 9ish weeks) was conceived about 2/3 cycles after my last mc. I don't know if this is luck, or because we waited, but thought it might help in some way. Wishing you all the very best on this next bit of your journeys. Above all; be kind to yourselves.

@Gpmg84 I'm so sorry to hear about your problems with work. It's the last thing you need after all you've been through. I hope it gets resolved. I'm still feeling like home is the best place at the moment. After such a trauma it's understandable to rest up on the sofa.

I don't blame you for going private. My GP won't do any other testing until 3 miscarriages. DH is getting a sperm analysis though just to check quality. Let us know how the tests go.

I'm ok thanks. I'm having a very strange cycle after my chemical pregnancy. My temps went up and I felt like I ovulated but then they came down quickly. I'm presuming it didn't quite pop and my body will hopefully have another go. It's a bit disheartening but know my body's been through a lot so trying to be patient. Xx

@Catconfusion thank you. I've been signed off work by my GP for a fortnight which is a relief really. Like you I think home is best place for me for a while...
I will let you know how I get on with private gynae on Tuesday.
Sorry to hear you're having a funny cycle, it's frustrating isn't it - just want our bodies to return to normal!

Quick question for anyone really... It will be 2 weeks tomorrow since my last d and c and I'm still spotting. Is this quite typical? I can't remember for sure but pretty sure after my last d and c bleeding stopped within a week.... I'm getting worried that I have retained tissue. Did a test earlier in week and it was still showing positive.

My periods were really light after last d and c and worrying that it's going to take ages for them to return to normal....

Xx

@Gpmg84 I bled for 8 weeks after my D&C although I think that's excessive. It wasn't painful or massively heavy, just like a light/medium period. Baby was 6+3 but I made it to 12 without knowing, so I wonder if maybe my body had developed more and had more to clear out?

Big hugs love, it's rubbish going through this. Hope it stops for you soon

Sorry for the late reply no I'm not temping. It's my first cycle after the MC bleeding stopped. Ovia says to take a test tomorrow. I've been feeling abit crampy on and off. I don't know when I ovulated so we've just been DTD as much as we can. I checked my cervix today and it's low and closed, no real idea if it means AF is on the way or not.

Hi ladies, latest from me..
I went to see private gynae yesterday. She did a scan and it showed that pregnancy tissue was missed in my last d and c.... she is reluctant for me to have surgery again and wants me to try medically managed again even though it didn't work properly for me last time....So off to Gloucester Royal I go today.
She said she can't do any other tests / scans until this is resolved.

She did tell me that I need to cut down on exercise though.. I run 4 times a week and it really helps clear my head but she said that once a week is max now. Quite gutted about that!

Hope everyone else is doing ok.
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Why can you not go running? Hopefully it will get sorted for you.

Hi @tinatsarina she considers the amount I do as excessive and could have an impact on my egg quality....
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Hi @Gpmg84 I'm so sorry you need more treatment as if you haven't been through enough.

I didn't realise exercise impacted egg quality. I'd have thought the opposite. I don't think I do enough exercise if I'm honest. I've tried but have felt so unmotivated in life generally since my two losses.

I'm having what I'd officially call a WTF cycle. I know it's after a chemical pregnancy which was after my missed miscarriage but it's been evil. I'm now on cd30 and have felt very hormonal and emotional. My temps show two failed ovulations so I'm really worried as I have a history of pcos. Hopefully my body will gear up for round 3. In the meantime I'm trying not to be too upset by my temps as it's been really triggering to see my ovulation fail. I'm beginning to accept I just need a rest and shouldn't expect so much. Xx

So today is officially day 14 after my last fertile day I'm getting alot of cramps but so far no AF. I've ordered tests and I can't wait to test and see. My cm is like a creamy consistency. My cervix was low and closed but last night it was fairly high up again

Did a clear blue digital test this morning.. still positive says 1-2 weeks so must still have hcg since mc 12 days ago.. We're going to dtd anyway this week as I think it's my fertile week. Anybody got similar experience? Do you deff have to wait to get a negative before trying or is that just advised so you don't get your hopes up?

@FirstTimeMama91 I personally would wait for one period. It's frustrating but it's easy to underestimate how much recovery time the body needs. I tried straight away but then had a chemical. I know several other ladies who've had chemical pregnancies straight after miscarriages. I really wish I'd waited as it's messed up my cycle going through two losses back to back.

Just make sure your body feels back to normal and emotionally you feel strong enough to deal with another loss in the unlikely event it happens again. Xx

@FirstTimeMama91 I would certainly wait for a negative test just in case there's a tiny amount of pregnancy tissue left behind. It would be horrible to fall pregnant again and then need more medical intervention. Not saying this is likely but I know ladies who were given the all clear and ended up needing a procedure or medical management.

It's frustrating I know but your recovery is so important to sustain a new pregnancy! I underestimated this and suffered for it. Obviously it's completely your choice and I'm not a doctor so can only comment from experiences xx

@Catconfusion thanks for your help and sorry for your losses it's such a frustrating time. I've heard so many experiences, both positive and negative so now I'm just confused. We're heading onholiday in August and I don't want to go abroad being less than 12 weeks pregnant. So now I really only have this month or next month to fall pregnant. I think I'll just try and hope for the best. It's terrible having no control over something you want so badly x

@FirstTimeMama91 Thank you and believe me I know how frustrating it is and I wish you the best. You never know, it may just happen. Just be mentally prepared for if it doesn't work out. Two losses in a row is a real kick in the stomach! If you think you might have fallen pregnant I'd test really late. Chemical pregnancies are so common but if you avoid first response tests you might not even know if it has happened. If it does. I wish I didn't know about mine as it really affected my mental health. Also be aware another loss so soon could mess your cycle up.

If you can accept the risk factors I'd go for it. As you say lots of positive outcomes. I just hope you get a negative test soon as it's so important to know everything passed. Xx