ttc after MC July 2007 - anybody out there?

[popsy76]

Hi ladies, our old thread is full and now I can't find anyone
I have posted here and on bereavement thread with same title - come join me if you find this

lol. rach - ah after the first time you'd be fine! lol. I never told DH thou and he kept getting pepe on him! i'm soooo mean! lol.

re the moon - I think yes it was full last night (but the looks of it anyhow) sorry you're feeling down as wel. when's your apt wiht the clinic?

Was told it would be about 8 weeks to the clinic but as I was told at the point they were booking me in for the D&C I wasn't on the ball enough to ask whether I would HAVE the appt in 8 weeks or just receive it in 8 weeks for (maybe) another 3 weeks later on. Either way, if I haven't heard anything by end of Sept I'll be chasing.

I would do - hopefully you'll have some answers before then

had a ruck wiht DH already today - apparenlty 'he thought we were over this' and 'I was fine yesterday' - I wasn't but then he says well if you talk to me i'd know, and i'm like well what do u want me to say??

My DH is of the same opinion, he thinks I should be over the whole mc a long time ago because he said it wasnt a real baby yet as it hadnt been born. I totally understand and the medical part of me agrees but unfortunately the woman/mother cant help screaming it was real you bastard.

God ronshar mine said the same thing - just once. Then I burst into tears and howled 'It was real to me, it was my baby' and he never dared say it again....

my dh is exactly the same. then when i have a rant/cry he's like "they were my babies too and i had to cope with you being ill as well." to which i retort, "well I had a whale of a time"

what is it with blokes? my dp seemed to close the door on the whole thing two days after it happened. and i know its prolly true but i got annoyed when people put my emotions down to my pregnancy hormones . . . it seemed so diminishing somehow.

I know and TJ - honestly it's not even my dr said it was my body's way of coping and not to blame hormones as it's emotions. v v real emotions.

lissie- sorry your DH is an arse as well. mine says 'well it's my baby to' but seems to think if i'm not crying then i'm ok - (he hasn't noticed that i jsut don't talk to him)

ron - can't belieive your DH said that. althou to be fair I guess for men until they can see/feel something it's not real to them but that's not their faults - it's ours for being superior

hi ladies, sorry have been "missing in action". I am officially chilling out and stopping thinking about ttc. The scan and blood tests were fine so nothing wrong with me physically - I just am dealing with my mental stuff .

I have started to realise that I come on here now because I need to feel am still in someway on the road to being PG but actually I just am dreading every post from the next person that manages to get PG and that doesn't make me feel good (on top of all my friends and colleagues procreating like crazy - its just too much)

Anyhoo I have made a decision to stop being popsywhohadanMC and become me again - i need some time out from it all and time to enjoy being normal again with Mr popsy before i entertain getting MAAS again.

Sorry I'll miss the cake fest but I know I need some time out from all of this. I hope you don't hate me - It has been a really hard decision to make but I want to start being me again today not on Saturday IYSWIM?
This thread has been my life saver and you all have meant so much to me - I really would have been in the loony bin without you all I really mean it!

I am crossing every finger and toe and my eyes for all you lovely ladies to get PG soon and have wonderful lives with your new babies!

You never know ... in a year or so's time if you see a short freckly lady with a mane of curly hair stuffing her face in the window of ottolenghi with a brood of gorgeous babies - it might well be me

Big love to you all

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My DH has been fab (probably because he saw the heart beat on the scan early on). However my mother takes every opportunity to point out that this is harder on DH than me because it was his baby and he is also upset about me. When i try and explain that i also have the hormones, physical process of losing the baby, operation etc.. She says now now its not a competition!!!! [so i take lots of deep breaths whenever she is on the phone]

Good luck Popsy x

Pospy can you email me? alittlebitshy at googlemail dot com

pleeeeaaaaassssseeeeee

loads of love
xxx

flosspot - what do you reckon? meet for late cake then meet the others for a drinky after work????

herby???? gilly??? yes???

Panicked when I was popsy say bye bye cos she's fab.... also panicked that the cake fest might be off cos i've been looking fwd to it for ages....... is that v v selfish

any thoughts??? we can do another one later in the year too? (or a mincepie fest)

not at all lbs - soudns like fun. we're in dorset thou so def can't come - i'd get lost on the undergroud! lol.

lcy - glad your DH is supportive.

pop - good luck hope everything works out well for you, and you to have some good news without realising iycwim

Ronshar hope your dd gets better soon.

Sweetkitty - a bit dubious about my opks now. I've had 6 postitives in a row. I am sure they are positive as the diagram says the test line should be the same as or darker than the control line. The latter has been true each time. I looked at peeonastick.com and it says LH surge only lasts 2-3 days but that sometimes the egg is not released so it starts the process again. I will mention it to the medics when I have my appt at recurrent miscarriage clinic soon.

Interesting about gum disease. I get bleedy gums too at times. I refuse to give credance to everything I read/hear however otherwise I would stop breathing - one has to filter these things

Lcy - I had a huge bleed clots and all 9 days after my d&c and felt much better after. Interestingly it happened the day after my first reflexology session. After that I got brown spotting for a week or so. Good to get it checked out though.

Bleeding seems to of stopped now. To be honest i just want the scan as a closure thing - to see it is all gone and to feel happy about TTC again.

GOOD LUCK POPSY....don't stay away forever!!!

Litllebit- good thought. WHY DON'T WE MEET AT 5?- we could always just meet for drinks if that is easier.....I think scheduling a cakefest nearer to the C-word is a good idea. Maybe November so it's not too busy. If everyone has enough notice they might be able to get the day off!!!

Best of luck Popsy - you'll be missed x

a new agony today - toothache from a filling but its nice to check another thing off my preparation list. i think i may have found a more appropriate flat too (fingers crossed).

after a good day, things took a nosedive when i went to visit my old boss/friend last night. her two daughters both gave birth in the past two weeks. then her husband was telling me about his daughter, who keeps having m/cs and is about to go get checked up.

its like i can't find a minute's peace from that stuff . . . from morning to evening, its either on my mind or i get reminded about it anyway . . .

good lucky popsy. it sounds like you have a really good attitude about everything

oh popsy, I will really miss you but completely understand. Thank you so much for all your posts this year, they've been so heartfelt and have really helped me. Take care xxx

alittlebit flosspot- I'm still up for meeting tomorrow. Later suits me as my colleague has gone sick so I can't skive off as planned. I could get there for 6 ish-

Gilly, Herby do you fancy a late meet? I could be the overlap if flossy and alittlebit need to head off due to a massive sugar rush

Kensgirl- glad to hear you enjoyed your hols. I was fretting you might have got caught up in the hurricaine. well done for braving the pg girlfriend.

Not much to report. Feeling as only CD23 and have bad period pain and spotting- so all this money on chinese herbs just seems to have shortened my LP. Grr.

Hello everyone else, will catch up at lunchtime xx

Popsy - totally understand. Hope you enjoy some quality time with dh and look forward to your return when you feel ready (maybe on a pregnancy thread who knows)

Hi,
I had a mmc this weekend and wondered if I could join you ladies? Sadly, there are a few names I recognise from the March 2008 thread. Just a bit shellshocked and haven't really got my head around things yet. Have been trying to keep busy and dh has had a few days off work (he's been great). Today's my first day alone (well, with ds so not really alone) and I'm feeling pretty miserable about everything, whilst trying to be my normal self for ds. There are so many things whizzing around my head, the main ones being, how long am I going to feel this lost and when do most people think it's good to start ttc again?

Hello winemakesmummyclever, sorry to hear of your m/c. How far gone were you? I don't know the answer to your first question as though on the whole I am doing quite well, I have bad days still (2 months on). As for when to ttc again, it depends on the individual. My inclination was to try first cycle after normal period arrived but others want to leave it longer. What feels right to you? How old is your ds? Mine is 3. He knew something was up even though I put on my best face.