ttc after MC July 2007 - anybody out there?

[popsy76]

Hi ladies, our old thread is full and now I can't find anyone
I have posted here and on bereavement thread with same title - come join me if you find this

Pipsqueeke, its great that she actually listened to you and was so supportive. As least now you know that you are doing something and hopefully a positive outcome is that much nearer. Well done!

Hi all. Just got a quick question if anyone can help... Is it likely to get a negative pregnancy test on the day your AF is due but still be pregnant? I read that sometimes the level of hcg (?) can be too low to detect. It's just odd because I'm normally very regular and I've been feeling queasy quite a bit lately. But I've only had one AF since my m/c so perhaps my cycle has been mucked up.

Hope everyone is ok.

x

lcy - sorry to see you on here another one from the Due in March 2008 thread seems theres quite a few of us now. How are you feeking after the D&C? I decided not to test again after the mc, I am hoping to see some EWCM this month once the bleeding has stopped. I have loads during ovulation I also have pains so it's pretty clear when I ovulate.

pip - so glad the docs appt went well and she is supportive makes all the difference. I swing from being pretty OK about it all thinking it was natures way and the baby had something seriously wrong and couldn't go on to OMG I'm not pregnant anymore I have lost a wee person. Reading the stories on here about EPs and recurrent mc's makes me feel so grateful I have the DDs and have only had one mc if that makes sense.

MsG - I really don't know sorry, your AF is due but you are testing BFN, I think it may be your body is a bit messed up but I don't know enough about it all.

HI All

Welcome Lcy - take care of yourself and feel free to come here and moan.

Glad all went well at docs Pip - sounds like you got a good one there !

MsG - Possibly your body all messed up - is this your first AF since m/c or second ? Give it a few more days and test again if no show....

Hi
D&C was physically fine and i have stopped bleeding already - was sad before it though.

My midwife visited me at home today to see how i was. I asked her when the best time to TTC was - she said whenever we are ready and that there is no evidence that trying before my period is due would cause another miscarriage - she said that my body would do it when i was ready and to keep taking folic acid. Good news for us beacuase want the option to TTC when i am ready rather than when a doctor tells me i can.

Ms G - are you using an early response pregnancy test? It could be your cycles a bit messed up or you could be pregnant but its not showing up yet?

thanks for that Pip, all these abbreviations are difficult to keep up with :-( . Glad your appointment went well today. Am now crossing my fingers eys and toes until your results come in, which is likely to hurt but will be well worth it if you get good news....hehehe...lol

Lcy its encouraging to hear you sound so positive about going for it again.... go girl and best of luck.

Tested today and to my disappointment I got a BFN. Keeping my head up as it is still early days and will try again every single day until AF show up....lol

lcy - I can honestly say with DS (concived the month after my 2nd m/c) there was absolutly and is absolutly nothing wrong with him - v v easy pg all the way thru (worrying aside I mean)

w2e - thanks. (ther'es an acroms list at hte top btw_)

ktity- makes total sence - i'm so thankful for DS. (apart from tonight when we've had 25 mins of screaming and him currently bashing about in his cot - GREMLIN!!!! lol) DH is away so he always plays up - think he know's i'm the soft target! lol.

mrsg - think it depends on the test tbh, some women don't have pos till about a week late. with this one I tested wiht a cheapo ebay one which was so faint it was bearly there - but a CB digital gave a BFP within a minnute so think it jsut varys tbh. leave it a few days then try again.

think AF of sorts is on the way (am having real back aches and various other symptoms - incl PMT - all my week before af things I mean so am expecting it to come next week at some point and hopefully then DH will be about at the right time after

Thanks guys.

Lcy, I didn't use an early response kit. Still no AF. This is my second AF since my m/c, Wheelybug, and I don't feel pre-menstrual at all which is unusual... But I wonder if I'm just clutching at straws. I have felt queasy a lot, which is how I was last time. I think I will try to wait a few more days before testing again. I'll buy a kit tomorrow maybe.

Waiting2Exhale, sorry you got a BFN - I hope you get a BFP soon.

Lcy, sorry about your m/c - I saw your other post about it too. I was also encouraged when a gyno told me to keep taking the folic acid...I'm sick of blooming taking it now though! What a palava.

I hope we all get our BFPs soon.

I'm also quite new here and never quite know whether to reply to people or not, especially I'm not one of the regulars... I would hate to annoy anyone.

xxx

Hi there Lcy, glad the op went OK for you.

And hello Pip, thank goodness yr doctor was so helpful - sounds as though she knows her stuff as well.

Took my 9 year old nephew to the Science Museum today and I'm knackered! I suppose this is the shape of things to come with DS....

ooh rach that sounds like fun

mrsg - course you should reply - otherwise how will you become a reg we're all int eh same boat here and everyone brings a differnt welth of knowledge to the table. you won't annoy anyone.

Hi

I hope nobody minds if I join in.

Lost first child to miscarriage earlier this month after years of trying. Seems everyone in my family is either expecting or have children and am now feeling very depressed about situation. Had some very insensitive comments made - although this appears to be quite common

Only admitted after BFP how much I had wanted children and now feel very desperate about the situation

Hopefully watching this thread, will keep me encouraged and make me feel less alone .

Here's to hoping ......

Welcome KD and lcy- so sorry that you have to be here, but I hope you find the comfort and support that I did.

Morning all- only 9 days until the cakefest....so don't forget about it. I don't want to be some sad cow sitting there by herself eating too much....

No news. CD26. Must not test, must not test...(flosspot scribbles lnes frantically in bid to stop herself from doing something foolish!!!)

kd - hello and welcome - hopefully you'll find no insensitve comments here sorry you had a join us. know the feeling of family memebers being pg. seems everywhere i go someone's pg or had a NB. my dr yesterday thou said 1 in 5 women have m/c's and apparently (according to her) most women have 3 m/c's as well - not sure that most know about them thou - perhaps just think AF is late?

flossy - what is this cake fest? what do we have to do? I can join in spirit eating cakes at the computer good luck with teh not testing! lol. how long is a ave month? any thoughts on how many dpo you are?

as for me we're 20 days now from passing the remainder so am hoping not to see any forms of af until the 28th as otherwise DH will be aways at the crucial times (assuming I have a cycle like before) so roll on the end of the month

Hi everyone!

Been away for a while - thought MN might be feeding my TTC obsession and tried to stay away but had to come back, hope that's ok!

I am so sorry to see quite a few people going through a MC recently (Jules,SweetKitty, Lcy), so, so for you guys.

Congrats Ellie!!!!!!!! So but also so for you!!

I am now CD19, 1st cycle after ERPC early July. Been trying to check signs for OV since about 10 days after AF but I am so confused!! CM seem to indicate that I have been about to ovulate for about a week (surely that can't be right?) as for BBT, that just seems constant so not helping me figure out whether I have OV'd or not either. Think I will have to wait till next AF and then start counting/analysing signs again, hopefully will make more sense then.

I am a bit worried that my cycles might take ages to return to normal as I had fallen PG in first cycle after stopping the pill but that ended in a MC. Anyone gone through the same?

Also meant to say so sorry KD. Feel free to post on here as often as you need. I can't tell you how much MN helped me after my MC last month. Big hugs to you xxx

Hi all,

sorry to see so many new faces on here , I do feel for you all. Please don't worry about posting however you're feeling, I've found so much comfort from everyone here- it's a really friendly thread and has made me feel like I'm not alone and not mad. I've just started my 6th cycle since mc and I would say that I am feeling a bit more normal. I'm actually looking forward to things and can talk about my mc without breaking down. I still have sad moments and am sure I always will (along with mad jealous moments over pg friends), but I just wanted to let those of you who have just joined us that the raw grief and shock does pass and become more manageable.

Had a gynae appointment yesterday and thought I would share her tips- in addition to folic acid, she recommended 1000mg vit c and 400 mg vit e safe for pre conception and throughout pregnancy. Apparently, there are studies which show they have an effect on the womb lining making implantation better.

She was a bit airy fairy about my thin lining but will book me in for an HSG once AF arrives to check for scarring post ERPC. I told her I was worried that my periods were loads lighter than before but she said lots of factors effect our hormones, stress and grief being major culprits.

Anyway, I've been having acupuncture and have found that really relaxing. This cycle I've also seen a chinese herbalist for herbs, much to DH's amusement (Don't know if any of you saw the Richard Dawkins programme on alternative medicine the other night but I got alot of raised eyebrows from DH). Not sure what effect they are having but it must have boosted something as my boobs have hurt since CD3 and I'm weeing like a horse (just hoping its not my kidneys shutting down!)

9 days til cake fest- bring it on!

little squirt- I'd say only my last cycle (5th since mc) was normal-ish. I think it can take a while but there have also been some lucky ladies who have fallen pg fairly quickly, its all a lottery it seems.

Torres- helpful info. Dpon't know how you dealt with chinese herbalist though- mine gave me the most disgusting tea imaginable, which made me vomit and haven't been back since!!!!

pips - Cake fest at Otto Lenghi on Upper street in Islington 31st August at 3pm. If you can come, it would be super. I know those who are not conveniently placed are synchronising watches and having cake at their pcs!!!
Av. month up until now has been 40+ days, but am on 100mg Clomid this month and ewcm bang on day 12/13, so chance I may have 28 day cycle which, quite frankly would be just as exciting as getting pregnant!!!

Hello everyone....

Hi flossie- I have avoided the teas and have been given some yummy tablets like fishermans friends ( maybe too like fishermans friends...)

hello everybody. At MILS so very
quick post.
AF turned up last week. CD
24???? Been drinking lots
of French wine so all
good!
Sorry to see all the
new girls. It is brill
on here we are all
completely nuts!
Will post when
when home tomorrow.

evening everyone hope you are all having a ncie evening, I'm not responding to all the messages personally as I am too tired tonight.

I had my scan today (yucky vaginal one) nearly all gone apart from a few clots so that was good news. Was also told that they like you to have one AF before ttc again only for dating purposes. As I've said before we will just go with the flow and if it happens it happens, I do expect it to take a few months for everything to settle back down.

Sweetkitty pleased to hear it is getting back to normal. I remember you from the ttc thread (march I think) - used to be plummymummy. I am at the same stage as you almost. Have had first period post erpc and now am not using contraceptive but not exactly planning. However, would really like to conceive next 2 months or so.

Hello all, I'm back in the world of broadband again after our 3 week trip to the UK (parents + DS + dial-up = no MN!) and I see CONGRATULATIONS are in order for EllieG - so pleased for you love.
My software is telling me that I will OV today so poor DH has been doing a sterling job (!) all week. He does NOT like un-spontaneous sex. (Is there a word for un-spontaneous?) Meanwhile I am still taking the Prozac so have no sex drive whatsoever. But feeling a lot more positive since our trip and really enjoyed relaxing with DS, feel more like just going with the flow now, iycwim.
Sorry I'll miss the cake fest, but I'll have a virtual one at my PC - maybe even make my own cake
Welcome to all the new faces, this is a lovely friendly thread, hope we can give you the support you need - it's easier to talk about it and ask for help on here than in RL xx

Hello All - Been busy on here !

Well DH finally capitulated and went to the gp this morning to sort out about his 'test'. I went with him to hold his hand and the poor thing - he saw a locum that didn't really know where anything was in the room and didn't know the procedure so he got the envelope and a small pot (a urine one) and was told to ask at reception for a bigger one. So down he goes to recpetion and asks for a bigger sample pot which the receptionists can't find and are doing their best to be discreet - you can imagine - stage whispers and DH is getting more and more embarrassed and they're saying 'we can ask a nurse' etc etc. In the end DH was just 'Right its fine, I'll manage with what I've got' and shuffles out. So some decent aim could be required .

I have phoned up the path lab though to find out what times etc it needs to be there as she didn't know that. I just have to persuade him to do it now - tomorrow is really the only chance as we're off on hols on sunday and then we'll have builders in our house from 8am once we're back for about 2 months.....

Also to make matters worse tomorrow is CD14 for me and we have been abstaining due to needing to do this sample so we won't be able to perform tonight either. Fingers crossed I ov as late as usual but I have been having the most bizarre pains in my ovary for about 3 days - not quite sure what is going on. Mentioned it to the doctor and she said it could be ov pain (for 3 days) or an ectopic (WTF !). Am fairly sure its not the latter as had period, don't feel pg, appear to be about to ov by CM and ov tests are negative....

It is turning into somewhat of a comedy.

Morning all.

DH getting VERY excited as tomorrow is two weeks since ERPC so we're officially allowed to be at it like rabbits again. Goodness knows how long till AF comes back but I suppose we'd better get some practice in before starting TTC properly.

ZamMummy your DH sounds like mine, poor thing, I can feel him flinching when I say thinks like "OK, AF finished we need to do it at least every other night for the next 12 days, like it or not....".

Cakefest sounds magnificent and Upper St is really close to where I work - but I don't work on Fridays, so can I join you virtually?

TLSM and J&L - congratulations. It does give me hope when I see that others on these boards are regularly conceiving! That, plus the fact that I got the Lesley Regan book out of the library and having been reading it concentrating on all the positive messages she gives!

Hi all. Feeling very strange - still no AF (two days late) so am going to do a second test tonight. Before my m/c I was regular as clockwork but maybe the m/c has mucked up my cycle. It's driving me potty not knowing any my DH just thinks I'm not pregnant as the test the other day was negative.

I have a really bad cold now so I am worried in case I am pregnant...

Hope everyone else is ok - sorry I am being really selfish at the mo but I feel lousy and just wanted to vent. xx