ttc after MC July 2007 - anybody out there?

[popsy76]

Hi ladies, our old thread is full and now I can't find anyone
I have posted here and on bereavement thread with same title - come join me if you find this

Good things abuot my job....hmmm... nope. None. Am a social worker and this week it is rubbish.
It's not that bad all the time I suppose am just on a bit of a downer at the moment. Been to see my therapist - we talk about everything and anything LBS - lots about MC and how I'm coping and about how I cope with things generally - apparently my 'biochemistry' means I have a vulnerability to depressive episodes at the moment so have to be careful with myself and not get too stressed or I will turn into a mentalist. At the moment am stuggling a bit, crying a lot and very stressed so need to chill out really. I like my sessions with her, and generally feel much better after them, though I have seen therapists in the past where it has made me feel more unsettled for a while. They say that 70% of the outcome of any theraputic intervention is down to the relationship you have with the therapist though, which I think is true, it has to be supportive in the right way and not create a dependency.

And thank you for the hugs LBS - have some back xxxxx
Don't worry about having a good cry, I think it's quite cathartic actually

Hi Ladies
Back from the big smoke. Amazingly met someone from work i haven't seen in a year. She started on about having had her baby and before i knew it she told me she had had a MC and tried for 2 years after that ... so of course I spilled the beans. Turns out she was super stressed partic after the MC and had everything checked but her system was fine. She then changed jobs and went PT and then took clomid and was pg in that very ccylce.
I feel totally inspired
I need to get out of my stressy job asap
It is really bad for my physical and mental health
She said having a baby had become about getting out of her career too (in addition to the usual reasons) and that changing job before getting PG was best thing she had done
anyway - thought this might be inspirational to some of you too (ELLIE NH?)
Am going to have a good talk with DH tonight - but basically cycles are still not back to normal after over three months and don't want to waste another few years waiting for something (my sanity) to snap
Off to doctors tomoz to see what they say...
LBS hope you are better now - the rollarcoaster is shit isn't it? I can't believe how quickly i can go from fine to floods of tears?
flossy I have not been back to full faculties after MC - comes with territory and fact that your head is messed up with what ifs? and how can I's? from that point on
spugs helps to know someone else is being thwarted by their body too and is not just me... get frustrated knowing i should have had 3 attempts instead of 2 in last 12 weeks grrrrrr
gilly lets make a date for august - i am pretty fine for all of it - anyone got any prefs?ronshar you have the new title of wise owl
jules how's it going - cd24???
herby any signs? Hope you are just enjoying the new hope the nurses gave you - I have a warm glow when I think of you being a mummy!
simeez are you peeing on sticks too?
Is everyone peeing?
I'd like to know how many ttc graduates have used clomid and how many peed etc so i can work out the odds (typical scientist )
By ladies off to make tuna nicoise with tatties from garden (they grew by accident as i threw them in compost then spread over soil ha ha)

Hi popsy, its a git isnt it, i think i thought i would just go back to normal like i did after pg before and just get on with trying. I really dont know whats going on ive had pink spotting today so im asuming im not going to get pg this month. Is there anything you can take/do to sort yourself out? Thanks

hi all sprugs keep your hopes up it might still happen...i had a m/c a few weeks ago and am ttc my 3rd child and am trying to remain posative but i understand how easy it is to get disheartened.. keep a smile and ull be ok

Im on cd 16, had bright red spotting (just the once) cd13, the brownish discharge cd15 and then today a bit of pink discharge till lunchtime. I was thinking it was ov as I had cramp, wierd bbs and high/soft cervix, but its gone on too long, i think. If anyone has any ideas please let me know I'm going batty over here

jules could be right it could be implantation! just have to wait and see!

lol thanks jules im new to mumsnet so dont really no what to do on theese forums but its nice to chat to ppl in the same situation of ttc after a m/c that understand what ur goin through

Hellooo! I found you....! I was starting to think you had all abandoned me!

We all sound to be at aimilar stages in the cd stakes. Cd 21 for me, and I keep telling myself that any vague symptoms are just the usual pre af. I have a raging uti , and so am feeling very sorry for myself. The nurse at the GPs asked if I wanted her to do a pg test today, and I wavered but said no. I would rather wait to see a bfp or af rather than the devasting bfn, so am feeling strong willed at the moment.

its just as well, as it should be my due date on Sunday. I'm feeling very odd, very thoughtful, and quiet,needing to be on my own a bit. Of course, apart from you lovlies. Really dreading the day though. I think we are going out somewhere, and buying a plant, I think I would like a pure white climbing rose, just to mark the day, and to tell my little spirit that I havn't forgotten them.

I'm rambling now...

thinking of all you special ladies today.

thank you id wish id known about mn with my first m/c and child it certainly would have helped me theese past few years but o well! ive found it now and can rant, cry and hopefully laugh with all u lovely ladies now!

we're lovely and busy today aren't we? I like it when we're all on here .

loving popsy's random tatties. my dh would be jealous- he's growing veggies in our garden but it is hard work keeping up with it all... And i forget what is where so never do the harvesting so have to call him to come home to pick veggies for me to cook. so much for self sufficiency, more like dependency {wink}

welcome wiltedrose!! spugs- intriguing. with my last pg/ m/c I had pink mucus around ov time which i have never noticed before. and then the day i got a bfn (af was due then) - which 6 days later was a bfp - i had random spotting. odd things i'd never had before.

kensgirl - poor you and your uti - but you're v v good to have held out on the test. I'd have done the same cos a bfn is a lot more disappointng than af, i always think (esp when a bfn can easily be a false neg). ALso the white rose sounds a gorgeous idea for edd

jules - fingers crossed for you that your weeing is a sign!!!!!!!!!! .

floss call me stupid - whats TVS?!

Right i'm knackered- this being depressed lark is v tiring. I'm off to bed with a book.

loads of love to all my lovely ttc buddies!
xxx

too many randon *'s in there!!!!
night!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Ladies,

just wanted to pop in and say hello and see how everyone is doing. I worry that people think I shouldn't be on this thread anymore but I still keep lurking! You are never far from my thoughts

Perhaps I could give you a wee bit of hope by letting you know that we had the early scan a couple of days ago and things are looking good. There seemed to be a fairly well-formed head so it's looking like we can rule out anencephaly this time round. The sonographer was a complete cow to us though and barely said anything. I had to actually ask if the head was okay, to which she mumbled under her breath "it appears to be but we can't rule out anencephaly just yet"...so when were you actually going to tell us that?! We had waited 6 weeks for that bloody scan, I felt physically sick during it and she was treating it like it was some trivial matter that wasn't worth a mention!! What type of training do these people undergo?...sigh. She also gave me into trouble for trying to be helpful by putting the paper in the bin Apparently, the bags are really expensive and she was just trying to save my taxes...despite the fact it was already half full and the only feckin bin in the room I know it's such a trivial thing but I was feeling so emotional that the last thing I needed was to be chastised like a naughty child

Anyway, enough ranting from me. Overall, we're feeling slightly more positive (the stress really doesn't stop when you get a BFP but I'm sure you know that!) although I don't feel that we are out of the woods yet.

I have been following all your cycles (I know that's a bit stalkerish but I can't quite give up the habit now I don't have mine to obsess over!) and will be looking forward to all the up and coming HPT and symptom updates

I'm also very jealous of the London meet up (and not just because of the cake). Maybe we could have a Scottish one. I'm trying to remember who all the Scots are...MrsMc, Basil...any others still here?

Hey Jules,

sorry I cross posted there, I wasn't ignoring you!

You sound like a very lovely friend. You are obviously a much nicer person than me as I know something like that would have hit me for six and I would probably have been very bitter! Your friend is lucky to have someone like you and I hope her m/c fears are completely unfounded.

I also really hope you get some good news this month

Hi ladies, old ronan keeting was right wasn't he - life is a bloody roller coaster and
Going to try to have a poisitive day today
spugs I had the same last month - pink then brown - it was mid cycle and totally freaked me out. I say just ignore it and continue to BD as much as you can (I stopped as thought no OV but now think I OV'd after that)
I am going to doctors today to see if i can get clomid - this stimultes your ov so may be good for you too spugs. Don't know if he will say haven't been trying long enough but after speaking to colleague yesterday i just feel could be waiting for years and that is very
Hi kathyH good to hear your news - i always think of you being here with us anyway so please do keep us updated!
Jules99 You are AMAZING - there is no way i would have been so calm (howl howl). I have this weird thing where someone goes to tell me something and my first thought is "YOU@RE PG!!!!!!!" - Basically I am protecting myself from the shock of them telling me - it really is the worst news for me to hear at the mo so am very sensitive to watching other women in an obsessive way oops. Anyways - as you say sounds positive for you this month (in both sense)

• let us know how you get on (everything crossed still though is a little uncomfy) Hey kensgirl Great to have you back - is horrid when you can't find everyone isn't it? Poor you UTI - I get that all the time - spesh when ttc as getting to it so often and not letting myself pee afterwards w2hich basically meanbs definite UTI. Maybe is a good sign for you though as I had a horrendous one when was PG last time also VERY STRONG not to test - i agree would rather wait than do it with a nurse? I hate docs now - so impersonal - katyh I hated my scan person - so COLD! LBS How are you doing today? katyh thinking of you on Sunday - mine is 24/09...dreading it but also think might be a good think mentally! anyways better get some work don! ((((waves, hugs and TFI Fridays to you all))))

Morning ladies. I am not feeling very wise old owl this morning.
AF is here. (Cry cry).
I was so sure this month as well. My breasts are still sore. I think they are mocking me and my obssessional behaviour.£50 in stupid tests.
The sonographer at 13 week scan who diagnosed possible Molar preg in March was bloody lovely. She was the only bugger who asked if I was ok. Not one nurse or doctor bothered!!
Having worked in nhs and had lots of contact with mc women I am also slightly ashamed to think that sometimes I may not have been as caring as perhaps I would be now.
Kensgirl I shall be having a quiet moment for you and your dh on Sunday.
Mine wont be until 3rd Oct. I hope I am as serene as you by then.

Hello all,
I've been rationing my MN for a bit (feel that it helps directly in emotional support, but wonder if it makes me madder in the long run?!). Anyway, CD1 for me too today so I know how you are feeling ronshar and am sending hugs. Actually I just had that feeling this month that it was not going to work, despite a lot of mid-cycle BDing. How is it possible to have so much sex over so many months with so little result?!

Good news katyh - but sorry you had such a hopeless radiographer. A smidgeon of bedside manner makes all the difference in situations like that...BTW I'm in Scotland too, so would be on for a meet up as long as we could find someone else who is not pg