ttc after MC July 2007 - anybody out there?

[popsy76]

Hi ladies, our old thread is full and now I can't find anyone
I have posted here and on bereavement thread with same title - come join me if you find this

hello ladies, im back! 5th mc underway, and cant f*cking believe it. well, no, thats a lie. im not even shocked tbh

rainbowdays, how are you doing? every mc is different and so is every womans reaction. remember its quite traumatic for your body as well so expect your cycles to be erratic for a while

kensgirl {{{hug}}} im sorry

alittlebitshy and herby, i started threatening legal action if they didnt start tests early, seemed to work!

lissie are you having another MC???

fraid so. at 5w again.

Oh lissie thats so sad. Please tell me you are not being ignored by the white coats! How do you get used to this nightmare?

Lissie I am so sorry. I logged on yesterday to see how you were getting on as I have been thinking of you after reading last week you got bfp from the doc's. Big hugs to you and your hubby.

I have been away for a few weeks cos I got a bit mental while ttc last month and thought I needed to chill out for a while! I get so stressed when reading MN, people always talk about this problem and that, and I think "maybe that;s what;s wrong with me!' when actually (hopefully) there is nothing wrong - I was just unlucky last time (fingers crossed).

So I have been happily ttc this month all innocently like I did the first time when it all happened so easily. Three weeks later I am all tingly boobs and hopefulness.

I think AF is due Friday (if I picked up on OV correctly this month) so am trying to hold out till then to test.

I have been saying all month that I don't mind if I don't catch this time cos I am going on hols in a fortnight - but who am I trying to kid? I am desperate to be PG. Keep your fingers crossed and I'll do the same for you guys!

Thanks for asking after me Popsy - I have been thinking of you and Ellie and Herby all month and have logged on every now and again to see how you are all doing.

Jules - that's ACE. Well done you. But how terrifying, also. My period is now four days late. I did a test on Saturday, which was negative, but if dear aunt doesn't show up by next weekend I'll wee on another stick. No symptoms, other than a certain amount of weeing. I have no pre-AF symtoms either, though. No sore boobs, no grumpiness (well, no more than usual) and no craving for peanut kitkats.

Lissie and Rainbowdays. I'm so sorry. It's such a shock, isn't it. And how ever early on it goes wrong, we've still instilled such a lot of hope into the poor little thing. Take one day at a time, but as we know it does eventually get better.

As for due dates, one thing about so many MCs is that I can't actually remember all the relevant dates! Which is kind of a relief...

Well done Jules! Hopefully me and Herby will be joining you at the weekend.

Thank you all for your help, I spent much of yesterday crying, and having taken the rest of the day off work, I spent time with dh at home, it was good to just be at home. Today I am feeling much more relaxed and even coped with testing the newborn babies at work. My mum was particularly helpful talking with her last night. As I already knew that she had two miscarriages, one of which was at 20 weeks.

Jules - don't think we have met before, but congratulations on your bfp today. Hope all goes well.

Ronshar - thank you for pointing me to the m/c threads - can you believe I never spotted it there before!

Kensgirl - thank you for your prompt and reassuring reply last night, it really helped me to feel free to allow the feelings to just happen and not try to be "strong".

Lissie - Thank you again for being so supportive and reassuring, I wish it had not happened to either of us.

rainbowdays so sorry to hear you news. I was exactly the same point when I found out. That doesn't make it any easier to bear, I know, but we are all here for you. And three weeks later I thik I may even have stopped crying

Jules yippee . Great news. Everything crossed for you. Even bits I didn't think I could cross.

Ronshar kensgirl- how are you sweetie?

Lissie so very very sorry. I wish I could do something....sending you (((((((VERY BIG HUGS)))))

Another day for me...nothing to report, just waiting for the old af so that I can get on with the Clomid and the trying again. Feel like I'm in a holding pattern at the moment. Am less weepy, which I hope is a sign of hormones getting 'back to normal' whatever that is....

Congrats Jules on the bfp
Rainbowdays - i had my first mc at 6.5 weeks about a month and a half ago, it was induced with tablets as i hadnt started bleeding but it wasnt bad less crampy then af but lasted longer (about a week and a half) cycles are strange and different though. Had my first af which was lighter and lasted longer then norm,al. Last month i cramped and felt sick from ov then this month i had spotting mid cycle and bit crampy sick etc but not bad yet, waiting for 2nd af to come now. Doc told me no need to wait apart from dating purposes but it is a bugger waiting for things to go back to normal. I took 2 weeks off work with mine and if you dont feel ready dont go back! Get a sick note. Im really sorry for your loss and I hope your feeling ok today.
Lissie - xx

my sil sent me this link. jules especially take note
chocolate

This kind of shizzle makes me mad. I thought it was an old wives tale that the worse the morning sickness the healthier the pregnancy. Now, women are going to panic they're not sick enough. Loads of women never get morning sickness, and they're fine.

However, I'm sure the bit about chocolate was true.

Hi all hope i can join you. Been lurking on here and posting on the ttc july thread.

I had a miscarriage in sept 06 and we didn't try again till february and still trying but scared if i do get pg again then i'll mc again i lost mine at 5 weeks.

Sorry for all the bfn and congrats to all the bfp too!!

Hello All,

Back from holiday, having had a wonderful time in the sunshine eating loads of ice cream and cakes and feeling alot less stressed. Had a few sad moments, but I think it is impossible to be continuously mopey with blue skies and beautiful scenery. Really glad to spend time with just my DH and telling myself it was the kind of hols that I could not have done if pg or with a baby.

Been back at work 2 days and its all gone to pot and have been bursting into tears nearly hourly. Had been given an important case on my due date which would require overseas travel and my colleague refused initially to take it over (as she would be a bit busy- had thought of getting her hair highlighted that day!). Then a client wrote to me congratulating me on my baby???!! I didn't think he even knew I'd had time off so have no idea where that came from.

So have decided I need to win some money , give up work and head to the sun with DH- also I didn't notice any pg ladies whilst away- think the heat must have kept them indoors or sent them back to rainy London where they are everywhere.

Anyway enough about me. Was so happy to see the bfps- congrats morning glory and jules- so so pleased for you.

lissie and alittlebit- I am so so sorry. As I was reading the posts I was so happy to see your bfps, what a cruel cruel thing to happen. thinkinbg of you.

Also thinking of you winky- hope you're ok.

Basil, mrs mc- any news, are you ok?

kensgirl- was thinking of you at the weekend. I hope you can find some peace and strength now the anniversary has passed. Hope you get lucky soon.

Sorry to see some new faces here, but you've come to a good place. There are some lovely folk on this thread.

Herby- agree about the morning sickness. I was sick as a dog and a GP told my DH at a conference that it was a great sign- 2 days later we discovered I'd had a mmc and for several days after I was still sick.
Do like the chocloate theory though!

Hallo to all the old-timers too- hope you move off this thread soon

i was more concentrating on the choccie side of that article - the rest was more blah blah blah EAT CHOCOLATE!!!!!

any permission to eat chocloate is good- have been feeling guilty about extreme choc intake on hols (breakfast, lunch, dinner and in between ice cream) but now I feel as though its been prescribed!

are you ok alittlebit?

glad you had a good holiday torres - but sorry you're having a rough time now you're back.
I'm okay thanks. up and down.
really trying to decide whether to wait for 2 af or 1. seriously thinking of just waiting 1 this time. Think am oving now ish so af should be here in about 2 weeks, then maybe i'm good to go. lol.

so happy for Jules. keep us updated though won't you?

Welcome newbies and hope your stay is shortlived (although we're a good bunch and it's hard to leave even when you "can").

I admit i haven't done a search but i haven't noticed mrsmrlovely around lately. anyone have any idea? did i miss news of hol or? or?

alittlebit- I would just try again when feels right for you. It would be mentally tough to stick out 2 AFs if your heart is saying to give it a go.

I think MrsMc is in Spain with her mum right now so hoping she is getting waited on hand an foot!

oh - i do vaguely remember spain being mentioned. i hope she's having a lovely time.

interesting article little bit, especially like the bit about the chocolate. Do you think the weight thing counts if your naturally underweight? Im normally 9st3 but i must admit id lost a lot of weight and was only 8st 10 when i got pregnant and droped a lot more when i mc. Ive hauled myself back up to 9st (been eating lots of donughts but im still not a healthy weight. Do you think its worth the risk of 72%

Hi girls,

Mind if I join this? We mc last Sept at 9 wks. Now TTC again but no luck. I'm 38 and we pushed for testing arguing that if there was anything wrong by the time we'd waited a yr trying and then got tested I'd be nearly 40.

We saw two diff docs and the 2nd older one agreed to refer us as in our area (South Wales)the cut off for referral on NHS is 38.5!!! So worth being a bit pushy perhaps?

Just had ovulation test, bloods for chlamydia and rubella and smear. DH tested ok. Next step we're told is laparoscopy which think checks out your tubes and womb.
Will let you know how we get on but hope it helps
AMT
x

Hi lurvely ladies and a special big hug to Torres, my preseed penpal

Hope you don't think me too selfish but please send good vibes my way tomorrow at 11am. I have my second early scan, really hoping to hear heart beat this time and get an accurate date.

Fainted yesterday and can't do top button up on jeans - these are good signs, right??!

Wishing you all the luck in the world for a fruity, fertile July

BB xx