ttc after MC July 2007 - anybody out there?

[popsy76]

Hi ladies, our old thread is full and now I can't find anyone
I have posted here and on bereavement thread with same title - come join me if you find this

I was trying to stay off the net too iwillbe and look what I missed!! Can't believe how many messages there are.

Sadly I'm with ronshar - AF came yesterday so I decided to paint a wall and compound my general anxiety and depression by watching Tim Henman (bad move). Should have stayed with MN! Wonder how Gilly's doing?

Will be thinking of you on Sunday Kensgirl. My due date is right before DS's birthday in November and am dreading being miserable around the day when he actually was born. Hopefully from next week you'll feel freed from all those 'what if' feelings for another year.

Welcome Wiltedrose! And hello to everyone else whose messages I may have skimmed or missed while trying to catch up.

Morning all- man you guys can chat!!!
LBS TVS= Trans Vaginal Scan. Apparently they get a better look at my ovaries from up there. Felt bloody awful as nurse seemed to want to poke out my middle!!! Also felt weird because had three TVS whilst miscarrying (French only use them-gives a better picture apparently)

Nothing to report here. No signs body is back to normal, or even that cycle has changed for the better (IE:shorter) so I am playing the waiting game. Can't even CD as have not a bloody clue. Sucks

Sending you all lots of positive (geddit?) thoughts and big smooches!

Yo girls. All very quiet this afternoon. Catching up on work not done during the week? Me too...

I wouldn't get too excited about my various signs. I'm having lower pains, which are frankly more likely to be the imminent arrival of our favourite aunt than pregnancy twinges. However much I like to think otherwise. Lot of knicker checking going on over the past 24 hours, but as I'm going to the pub this eve, no doubt it will come upon me then in true iconvenient aunt style.

I haven't had my usual pathalogical urge for a peanut butter kit cat, though, so perhaps....

Hi Herby, have a fab night out tonight - a few glasses of the good stuff will fortify you for whatever is ahead
I am sat at home on computer wearing blond plaits wign - i bought 18 for hen party and can't seem to take mine off...lucky DH might get some heidi doody role play tonight
Have a fab weekend everyone
I am trying to stay sane - I'll let yu know how I get on

bugger to every one with bfn's and yey to katy for her scan. thanks for the advice re the spotting, i had a bit of ewcm this morning but unfortunatly my dh was knackered last night and has gone on a bender tonight so theres been no swimmers put in there since wed! He really wants another baby but seems to fail to grasp the importance of catching the right time! this isnt helped because when i fell pregnant last time it was a one night slip up so he thinks he has super sperm

Hey all - being lazy and not read the posts but hope you're all fine - popsy saw yours about your return from London and I agree I am inspired at moment to make some changes. Been thinking last few days about job change as think on of the reasons I was so pleased about being PG was it meant a break from my job! But I could do that anyway I suppose by finding something better. Hmmm.
Anyway, have lovely weekends ladies. Am going car-booting with DSD tomorrow morning so must go get some beauty sleep in preparation for elbowing people away from the bargins

Hello! Can I join you? Had m/c a week ago at 5 and half weeks so am now back over here on ttc thread. Am planning to start ttc asap.

Hi sprogsterM
course you can join us - everyone is welcome here! Sorry you have to though .
Herby hugs winging their way to you...chilled white wine you say mmmmmmm
Ellie I was thinking of you with the job thing - would be good if at least something positive could come out of this experience eh? I am of to docs this week - though as less than 4 months post MC TTC think he'll tell me to sod off... we can but try (and am a bit scared of having twins )
everyone hope you all had a fab weekend - mine was very very chilled - examining all week so getting my MN fix now in case I miss out.
HAPPY MONDAY (ha ha )

Hello everyone (welcome sprogstersmum and wiltedrose!)

Sorry I havent posted, had a bit of a depressed week then hectic weekend.

Sorry to hear a few AFs have turned up Ronshar Siameez Iwillbepositive kensgirl hope your weekend was ok? Did you do something special.

Popsy good luck with the examining!

Hello everyone else!!!

Last week I saw my dr and she said I would have to lose another baby before they would do tests. And she had no advice so I felt pretty low. We did bd around ovulation but I am not feeling very confident. CD20 today. Just feeling far too calm!

Winky if you dont mind me asking have you had more than one mc? I am intrigued to know what the acceptable amount of mcs you have to go thrugh before the docs take pity on you and help!!!!
Welcome Sprogstersmum, I am sorry you have also had to experience the loss of a baby. We are all special girls on this thread and it is an honor to have all of your support. It is hard to know how I would be coping without you all.

Ronshar, the official line is they won't run any tests until you've lost three, as losing two could quite easily be bad luck. I'm still being pretty much ignored after five, but that's the postcode lottery for you.

You know on Friday I was having AF-style cramps, well she's still not here. Nor are the usual pre-AF sore boobs. Though I am grouchy, but that could be down to life. Last cycle was 26 days, and I'm now at CD28. I took a test at CD26, and it was negative. What the blazes is going on...

Think my cycle is all over the shop. Had EWCM at a number of points last cycle, but also was having acupuncture, taking herbs, and flew to LA and back (which I believe disturbs the hormones a trifle). Come on auntie, and put me out my misery...

ronshar - sadly the medial profession generally take the view that you have to have had 3 before they investigate. One is unfortunate, 2 is a coincidence and 3, yup, okay, maybe there's a problem. Grr.

I'm in the mindset that i may as well get moving and start ttc again (wavering between waiting 1 or 2 afs) so i can m/c again then get investigated. so negative

At least I've calmed down a bit since being stressed that my counsellor is away. I've managed to remind myself that I am feeling so crap (just typed carp 3 bloody times ) BECAUSE of the m/cs, not as well as the m/cs which i think i had been telling myself, ie, oh look m/cs - more reason to feel shit, rather than, oh, i'm okay but these m/cs have knocked me for 6. iyswim

let's see if i can keep it up.

and i'm probably talking nonsense lol.

What were your last 2 cycles? Give it another couple of days and it could be (whispers bfp). I shall be keeping fingers crossed.
Really 3mcs. Bad luck my arse. One is unfortunate, 2 is crap and 3 is obviously a problem. Bloody men if it was a problem with their testicles falling out they wouldnt have to wait for both to fall out would they!

xposts herby.

and at you still being ignored after 5.

Not nonscense. Perfect sense. These things are sent to try us, dont let it get you down. it is nothing you are doing wrong, it is your body not functioning at 100%. Try not ot take it personnally.

lol ronshar at men's testicles falling out!

Ronshar I had one mc at 9.5 weeks and then one really early mc or chemical pregnancy at 4.5 weeks. I guess the problem is that these things happen all the time.

Herby really hope you are pg!

Alittlebitshy Im like you, just want to get on and get pg again and then if that fails to get investigated. But am secretly hoping 3rd time lucky My dh keeps asking what he can do to cheer me up, but the only thing bothering me is not being pregnant (at least 14 weeks I should specify!!) Everything else is fine.

Ronshar would like to echo bloody men!!!

Hope everyone is Ok today!

Thank you all for your lovely messages of support. They men such alot, especially as most of reallife friends (and family...) either didn't remember or if they did know didn't seem to get why I would find it so difficult....Can you tell none of them hve miscarried?

We spent Sunday doing pamper things! I bought a gorgeous black dress in the sale at Phase 8, supposedly to celebrate the fact that I can still get into it[, but I would rather be the size of a small country with a jely belly to boot. Then, we did buy our special rose, a very pale pink, even though I.m sure i should have had a boy,and then had sunday lunch and 2 bottles of wine.., walked home in the rain, and watched TV. I do feel better now it is over, but it was realy rough. I hope it hels to bring me some peace, or closure, although I know I will never forget, or stop loving my lost LO.

Oh well, cd 25 for me, feel very pre- period-y. But heres to poitive thinking and good friends

oh kensgirl, im so sorry for your loss. I cant even beging to imagine what youve been through, but here is avirtual hug x

Thanks fifi!

maybe I'll learn to spell correctly now too!

Hello, I here as I am just at the start of my 1st miscarriage. I was only 5 weeks and 1 day, but it hurt this morning when it was confirmed to me, only yesterday I still had morning sickness. I am still a bit up and down with emotions, I was crying most of the morning, but have managed to distract myself a bit this afternoon with my family, but still strange things have set me crying again. I would love to have some advice from you all. Questions that the doc's did not seem able to answer, like is this loss likely to just be like a heavy period? Will it go on for longer? Will my cycles be messed up after such an early loss? Is there any reason why I should not ttc immediately again. Will the due date hit me hard when it arrives next March? Is there anything I can do to help ease the way I am feeling.

One thing I am concerned about is that I test newborn babies, and I dread going to work tomorrow morning and seeing all the babies, what can I do? Any advice to help me through this tomorrow?

Sorry this is probrably too long message and too many questions. I am just splurging some emotion on the keyboard. I hope you all understand.

Hello, Rainbow days. sorry to hear you re suffering, you have come to th right place though for support and care. I had my due date yesterday, and yes, it was a form of private hell, but the ladies here helped me through. I had an erpc at 11.5 weeks, so my experience is very different, but as long as you feel up to it, and have no infection etc, there is no reason at all to wait, Some even say you are more fertile afterwards. it takes a while for hormones to settle though, so you may have another cycle in 4 weeks ish, maybe longer or shorter, and they can be erratic or different from before.Your pre af symptoms may change too. the things that helped me most were allowing myself ime to grieve, and doing waht pleases me. Sometimes I just sat and cried, ate, had a glass of wine, talked it through, or had quiet me time. Do what feels rightfor you, don't force yourself to feel better before you are ready. take care of yourself, and mr rainbow days too. Hope this helps xx

Rainbowdays, I am terribly sorry you are going through this. It is an incredibly hard time. But it does get easier. If you need to see how the rest of us have felt since our mcs find the thread in bereavement 'mc two weeks ago'. Most of the girls on this thread have found lots of emotional support and the answers to all our questions. Of which there are so many it is hard to get your head around it for a long time. Hope that helps you.

Morning ladies
Just getting my morning MN fix before heading off into town again.
kensgirl Thanks for sharing your day with us - I have been dreading mine - it kind of helps to see it in black and white and to know that you will all be here when mine comes around.. . Your words of wisdom to rainbow were spot on!
Hi rainbow welcome to our world . Its obviously a fcker* to have to be here at all but I have definitely learnt alot about myself and about how fab women are - I really could not have coped without my MN lovelies! I am still having weird cycles since the MC and weird pre AF symptoms so the only advice I have is to sit back and let it happen - don't think too much about TTC either way as we have all tied ourselves into knots over it and gone totally doolally and and - me being the worst culprit!
You will however see that lots of ladies graduated from this thread already and are happily bunned-up in other threads...so there is hope!
Hey Ellie I am just writing a job description to take into my boss...will let you know how I get on (cross everything )
Anyone heard anything from nh?