ttc after MC July 2007 - anybody out there?

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Hi ladies, our old thread is full and now I can't find anyone
I have posted here and on bereavement thread with same title - come join me if you find this

Basilbrush - I am sooo sorry to hear what you've been through. I am thinking of you. I hope your appointment goes ok tomorrow.

Lissie - good luck with the clomid. Are you taking this to make you ovulate (if you don't mind me asking) or for something else - I have always wondered this about clomid as I thought you only took it if you didn't ovulate but then hear lots of other people taking it so am obviously missing something. I understand about staying off the ttc threads - I definitely feel much better if I do although I miss everyone.

Hello and hugs to everyone else - nothing to report here. Its a year this week since I m/c and a friend who m/c at about the same time has just had a little girl and and all at the same time.

im taking it to regulate my ovulation, i presume, bit scared tbh, but if it works it works!

Hi everyone,

Basil- sending you a big hug. I'm so sorry about your bean. Don't be rushed into anything by the EPU, its really up to you. I imagine the main risk in waiting (other than the awful limbo) is an infection but if you're not showing any signs of that, then I can't see why you can't wait for nature to take its course. Dealing with hospitals can be crap at the best of times but its so difficult when you're emotional. Get DH to be tough with them if needs be and to get the information so you can make a decision together, and don't feel you have to make a firm decision one way or other on the spot. Will be thinking of you xx

Ronshar- sorry to hear about your fight with DH, hope you resolve it.

Gilly- hello! haven't heard from you for a while- how's the move going?

wheely- nice to see you back! what crap timing for you with your friend. Hope the anniversary isnt too hard and that your wedding anniversary is great!

lissie- hope you're ok- how are you finding clomid? I've heard you can get really bad PMS and go a bit loopy!

MrsMc- thanks so much for lending me your book. It's really fascinating!

Hello again - sorry don't post often or quite keep up with all the messages. My sympathies to all of you who are having problems at the moment.

Just got first AF since mc 4 weeks ago - bit gutted tbh as sort of hoped I'd manage to get pg straight after and could sort of forget all about it but was not to be so back on the ttc again.

So sorry to hear about that Basilbrush and I know where you're coming from - my first mc was in Spain. After my second mc I asked if I could see a consultant on the basis that I was 37 and had been trying to get pregnant again for a year, so didn't want to wait for another 15 months plus and another failure for more testing. They agreed to run most of the usual blood tests (except the chromosomal ones) even though I had not had 3 mcs. So it's worth being persistent with health professionals!

Unfortunately, I then went on to get pg again and mc again very quickly, but as I already have a dd I am counting my blessings and hoping for the best...

I wish you the best of luck and the stats are very definitely on your side!

not taking it yet. will be prescribed on the 30th i'll have to take it days 2-6 and the 30th will be CD2 so i can start straight away. thank god!

basil, i had real difficulty getting referred after my 3rd mc (i have a ds, still young etc) so i made a fuss in the gp's office asked them why, if age was on my side i was stil mc-ing? did they want to wait til i was in my 30s and my chances dropped every year? asked the (male) gp how many times he had been pg and went in every other day for about 2w. oddly they soon referred me. make a fuss!

Good luck at the EPU today basil. I had a mised m/c, but it happened almost 5 weeks before it was discovered. I was offered the choice of ERPC or drugs. I didn't want surgery (and also there was a week's wait and I wanted to move on straight away), so I took the drugs. I took one and went home and then went back to the hospital 48 hours later for the other drugs which induced the m/c. I think I made the right decision. But I don't often hear of people taking that option on MN. I don't know if it's because most people prefer the ERPC route or because the drugs aren't always an option. As far as I know the disadvantage is that there's a small chance you may still need surgery. Anyway I hope you are treated kindly at the EPU. I was looked after very well and I think it made a big difference.

Hello to everyone else.

Hi Jess, you are right - I don't think many women are offered that option. ERPC was the right thing for me as I was booked in the following day and then it was all over - though I am still bleeding two weeks later. At least there is no pain though.

It makes me to think that I am the 1 in 400 women who have 3 m/c. Still no news from the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic. I will have to get on to the hospital. I am so impatient to conceive again and all these investigations looming doesn't help.

Hi all-

back from the oblivion that was my mum's visit. Coped pretty well, I think, until DH and I were at a wedding this weekend where the vicar asked if the couple were "happy to accept any children sent from God"-paraphrasing- at which point I burst into tears and had to leave the church. DH ended up taking me home early from reception too as I kept having to take myself off to calm down!!! Complete disaster- hope the bride didn't notice. So embarrassing.

Don't think it has helped that DH in the middle of big trial and I literally have not seen him to 'talk things through' since the mc. Told him on the phone last night when he didn't come home (again) that I'm seriously considering IVF.

So fucking fed up just sitting around waiting for bloody af so I can get on with trying again. Can't even summon the will power to stop myself from testing every few days. Grrrr. Really mad at the world.

So sorry for rant - there are so many other women who are in a much more tricky position than I . Than you for listening (reading, technically, but you get the point!)

Yes a woman in limbo ttc is a MAD woman

Afternoon girls -

Midwife at EPU was lovely and made me a cup of tea and everything. I thought i was coping well but having yet another scan just to see a dead wee blob on the screen really brought things home to me and I started to cry

They put absolutely no pressure on me to have D+C, I have to go back in two weeks and if things haven't started by then, think through my options again. I really would prefer to let nature take its course but I don't want this hanging over me when school starts again so may change mind if it drags on and on. I think then, even though there's no risk of infection, I need to consider my emotional sanity! It's very hard to grieve properly in this weird limbo land where your body still thinks you are pg and your heart knows you are not

But re referral they were adamant there was no need yet which i suppose i should be glad about. Said I was "young", healthy, already had a child, yada . Although midwife's stats were less inspiring than GP's, 1 in 80 chance of a 3rd m/c. And I suppose she knows what she's talking about

DH and I have decided to take a break from ttc till New Year. 2007 has been a crap year for us. I just don't have the energy to go through the rollercoaster again: When will AF return / What's my temp today / More sex now / Legs in the air / Just one more bonk you never know / Do my nipples hurt / Do I feel sick / Is there a line on test / How strong is line on test / Do my nipples still hurt / Do I still feel sick / Is that spotting or the pattern on my pants / When should I phone EPU / When should I book in with GP / Dare I start daydreaming about names / Oh Bugger it's all over.... You know what's it like, I know girls...

I am going to focus on a mildly radical career change that I was putting off "until I've had No.2" (am teacher and want to do PhD) I cannot put my life on hold as I have no idea when or even if Number 2 will arrive. But hopefully, if I change jobs to something where a pg would be highly inconvenient, it will happen one day!

So I'll be back here after Christmas and in the nicest possible way, I fervently hope none of you are here when I return

Lots of love
BB xx

basil, take care sweetheart. i'll miss you but totally understand. x

Basil I really hope that the rest of 2007 is positive for you. I really feel for you. And all the best for ttc again in the new year. xxxx

hugs basilbrush - wishing you a better rest of the year and good luck for 2008. Thinking of you.

Good luck basil! So sorry this has been such an awful year. Especially good luck with the Phd - you're right about jinxing pregnancy being the way to go...

... because I think I just did it by buying non-pg-sized bras and pre-seed for next month ... faint BFP on cheapie test this morning. Was convinced it was an evaporation line as took a while to come up so went out and bought one of those 4 Days Before You're Due test (AF a day late) and not a screamingly loud line but definitely a line.

I don't believe it because I don't feel pregnant at all and am terrified that I have no symptoms (even though I had loads last time and look what happened) and also just the completely overwhelming terror of the road ahead.

I'm so wary even of posting this here because maybe I'll start bleeding this week and it will all be over and I'll wish I'd never known... I did go and lurk on the pg after mc thread but got scared by people having healthy babies and scuttled back here!!

I feel weird and transitional so will lurk here for the moment and hope that's OK with you all! It's due on April Fool's Day so this has to be a joke

Basil- will miss you and will be thinking of you. Here's to a brighter 2008 for us all. And good luck embarking on a PhD x

Siameez- congratulations! stay here as long as you like!

Flosspot- you sound like you had a rough weekend, take care of yourself. Hope DH's trial is over soon.

Good luck basil - hope you and dp get some much needed R+R

Congrats Siameze

Sorry siameez

Siameez - Congratulations.

Basil - Glad to hear they were nice to you at the EPU and they didn't push into an ERPC. I hope everything works out well for you and good luck with the PhD. I have a PhD - what subject would you do it in?

I know what you mean about 2007 being a crap year. I found out I was pregnant on December 27th. Since then all I've had is 2 months of (pointless) morning sickness and exhaustion, miscarriage, and then 5 increasingly desparate months ttc. Somedays I feel a bit more positive and think my luck must be due to change. But then it all just seems a bit hopeless. I can't believe this month is my last chance to get pregnant before my due date (no pressure or anything). I'm so scared that the m/c has left me infertile. I expect if I went to the doctor's they'd just tell me to be more patient.

Good luck, basil - I know exactly how you feel and hope the break does you good.

Well, I didn't post when I was pg in March in order not to jinx it - and then came a m/c anyway. So here we go....got a CB digital BFP this morning! Was astonished because I felt so PMTish and not at all like last time. I also feel very un-jublilant but maybe that is a protection mechanism...

So well done Siameez and let's hope they both stick

Iwillbe - big congratulations, great news.

Siameez - congrats to you too.

Hope both keep sticky for you.

Basil - I wish you great success with your PhD, hope it goes well.

Jess - hope that you get your dream soon.

Floss - hope you are feeling ok?

I am waiting for af at the weekend, or a bfp possibly, but right now just wondering how I will feel having af for the first time after the mc?

Hi Ladies can i please join you? i m/c at 11weeks in early June, apparently little bean never made it past 8 weeks, so i guess a missed m/c. i then bled heavily for 3 weeks before they decided it was incomplete and ended up with ERPC 4 weeks ago. i luckily seem to have been visited by af last friday (how often do people say that on this thread?!) so now am cd6 and raring to go again, err so to speak! as the doctors said i should just wait one cycle before ttc again. i have a dd who's 18 months and a little treasure, so would really like another one soon so the age gap isn't too big!
Great to read all yr stories and feel that we're all in this together and lovely to scan down the messages and see MrsMcJ... i remember you from ttc march/april threads, so delighted to see your news, so happy for you. You seem to be a bit of a celebrity on MN!!!!

I know what you mean Rainbowdays, I too am a bit apprehensive about first AF after MC...Will also be my first 'natural' AF since stopping the pill in April, so I really don't know what it will be like! I have heard some people say their 1st AF was really light and others say it was really painful and really heavy...