Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Here's our new thread ladies.

Oh Orchid I totally get how you feel about other people’s pregnancies. They cut me like a knife through my heart when it’s the same number baby you’re trying for. Keep going though, there’s plenty of hope for you to have your second child.

Russ and Cleo - thanks for replying re the dhea. I’m torn about starting it or not.... anyone else any thoughts?

Hmmm - fingers crossed it was implantation bleeding!

Orchid I'm with you. In the time since my mc 5 close close family members have announced pregnancies. At first it was unbearable but I now have two of the most adorable nieces and an extremely cute nephew. I get to visit and snuggle them on a regular basis. Although no substitute for having 1 of my own, my heart bursts with love for these little people.
Currently on cd 9 and getting blank circles on cb opks. On the previous 2 cycles my opks showed lashing smileys at cd9. No idea what my messed up 40+ body is doing and frankly this month I don't care. Eat, drink and be merry because I'll be back to ttc in January. Im planning on some recreational dtd over the festive period!

Lovin your attitude mini ! Recreational dtd ha ha.

Hi All, checking in, @Orchid have been thinking of you, I know what you mean about hearing about pregnancies, its getting harder when I never thought it would, still over the moon for friends but now tinged with some weird feelings for me!

Off to get the Vit D 1000 spray tomorrow, @Critter your scans looked beautiful!

@Boosey, hope you're well

@littlemimosa you too!
hope everyone has as happy a christmas as they can, I have completely been relaxing for a few weeks before starting IVF in mid January, I just hope AF plays ball!

Af has arrived sadly. I spoke to dh about my disappointment that my deadline has gone. He said it was a self imposed deadline and we should keep trying for a few more months maybe until my 42nd birthday and that has cheered me up a bit

At least can drink on Xmas day! Happy Christmas all

Sorry af got you hmmm. But pleased you have decided to continue trying.

I am feeling the panic today. This year has gone so damn quick and my 42nd birthday is fast approaching. This was my original deadline but I have moved the goalpost to 42 & 3 months (up until I would be 43 on due date) I worry it just becomes unrealistic after that. My wrinkles are spreading and yesterday when looking in the mirror (I don't do it much) I noticed a thick grey streak in my hair. Is TTC a joke now? Would I look too old to be pregnant?
I hate my aging saggy wrinkled body, why is time going so fast?

@Cleo you are a spring chicken, I am already 43 AND A HALF. Our deadline is upon us... but it feels like most of the time was used up being preggers & the mc. I still feel it’s possible, one more shot for us.... if I can get DH on board. xxx

@Cleozeta - my hair went grey at 23 (no apparent reason for it other than stress levels) - hair dye is a wonderful thing!

@Letsdothis43 - thank you - just back from first NHS scan and proper midwife appointment, which was actually wonderful and a far better experience than I've had with the NHS so far - I actually feel looked after now 😊 got some lovely scan pics and been officially moved up to 14 weeks 1 day because of how the babies are measuring - EDD is now June 23rd although the midwives say its actually likely to be up to 4 weeks before that with twins. Anyway the photos are a lovely early Xmas present!

Good luck to all in the TWW and testing over Xmas., and to those starting treatment cycles soon - I will be keeping my fingers crossed for all of you xxx

@cleozeta don’t give up or fall to the timelines! My friend at 40 went through three rounds of ivf all failed. They gave up at 43, then at 46 she found out she was 7 weeks pregnant and it was a gin fuelled baby 🤣🤣🤣 I sit here wondering whether I should wait for the ivf as We have only been ttc for 4 months I haven’t given it time. On the other hand my AMH is so low then I think we should just get on with it!

Hello, I've been following this thread for a while now. We are thinking of starting IVF in January. I'm nearly 44. My Amh level has come back at 3.6 which is in the middle of the reduced range. Does anyone know if that's too low for IVF please? Thanks x

Welcome Ali, I can’t help you on that question but someone who can will be along I’m sure. Good to have yon here tho. Pull up a chair and get comfy.

Hmmm so sorry AF arrived but really glad to hear you’re going to keep on trying.

Hi Lets. Hope you’re ok x

Cleo - I feel your pain. Time does go toooooo fast. Those birthdays come around too fast. It’ll be my 43rd in the spring which is depressing but I’m determined not to let the number stop me. Try not to get too hung up on the number and deadlines. It just puts too much pressure on. As long as you’re ovulating you’re in with a chance. Keep drinking those yummy herbs and keep having as much sex as you can.

Just wanted to say Happy Christmas to my lovely fertility buddies. I hope ALL your wishes come true, but one special wish in particular🌈 love and hugs M x

@AliBingo welcome to the group of these wonderful ladies!
@littlemimosa my 43rd is also in the spring. So gearing up for a fresh round of IVF in January. Crossing everything here! In the meantime I started taking Clomid from cd5. And booked myself a private fertility scan in Thursday to see how things are developing.
In the meantime, wishing you all a lovely Christmas and hopefully we will have a better new year! From Russia With Love 💗 x

Hello all,
@Snowie3 so sorry for your loss..
welcome new ladies, and big hugs to all whose afs have arrived.
I think deadlines are tricky as you impose a great level of stress by having one.. loving the recreational dtd... sorry can't remember who was doing it... but let's all enjoy a little Christmas recreational dtd...
my mother mentioned yesterday that an old family friend had her third baby at 44, 26 years ago... so no ivf, supplements, vits or changes in diet... it can happen ladies.. keep the hope and faith..
the news of newly preg ladies feels like a kick in the guts.. and we have plaster a smile on.. its so tough
Happy Christmas ladies you are all awesome and have got me through some crappy emotional times.. and I know this time of year can be crap because it's all about "family" and that word can hit hard...
sending lots of love and baby dust to all you beautiful women.. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

Aww Chat and Russ- lovely messages ❤️ Some days I wish we could just all meet up for wine and chat in real life:) Are you really in Russia Russ? Sorry if I’ve missed something reaaaaaally obvious here.... Oh and can I ask... why you started Clomid?

Hi @alibingo I’ve been looking for the same question! Do you know if your AMH is in pmol or ng? My bloods came back as 4 in pmol most people were saying it’s not too bad for my age at 40 but when you convert it to ng it comes out as 0.004 :( unless I’m doing it wrong ! We start ivf in jan and my clinic have said it’s fine for ivf

@realitysucks it's whichever one comes out lowest :( seems v low to me but gp did the test cos it was cheaper but they obviously aren't very au fait with it.

I must be ovulating as I've had 5 miscarriages in the last two and a half years. Just got crappy eggs.

Cleo- What grey hair and wrinkles? Nothing hair dye and good cream can't fix, keep going!
Ali- welcome. I know the first clinic I looked at wanted AMH of at least 5 but I don't think the clinic I went with at the end had any AMH requirements so perhaps it depends on the clinic but I'm not 100% sure.
Chat my grandmother had her 7th and last child at either 44 or 45 (but if it was 44 she was close to 45 since my uncle was born in Oct) and that was 64 years ago! Sadly it doesn't look like I inherited her fertility gene ...
Mimosa- what a meeting that would be if we did meet in real life! It's funny I feel like I know so many of you and we've never even met.

Happy Christmas wonderful ladies, this ttc would definitely be a lot worse without you all. Enjoy and here's to hoping 2019 gives us ALL that one thing we all desire so dearly xxx

Thank you for all your reassurances after my wobble earlier. I don't know where I'd be without you lot.
Mimosa I agree a meet up in real life really would be amazing!
Wishing you all a very happy Christmas and may all your dreams come true in 2019 & may we all be holding our precious new bundles by Christmas next year xxx

@Alibingo - when I had my AMH tested and was asking the consultant what the result meant she was reassuring me that it was good and said that she was currently treating one lady whose AMH was 0.1. Yes, a very low result will decrease the success chance per cycle but there are many clinics which are willing to try with much lower results than yours.

Merry Christmas all!

Have a happy Christmas everyone, grey hairs! I went grey at 25 and hair dye is great here too!

Welcome Ali, my AMH was like 2.2 I think I am heading out for IVF treatment in January, can't give up hope!

Thinking of you all and I'm in for a catch up if it's ever arranged!

It's been lovely to finally delurk!

Merry Christmas everyone!

Looking forward to chatting to you all more soon x

@littlemimosa I'm born Russian but live in Kent 😉
My doc always gave me Clomid for all my IUis even though I ovulate on my own but Clomid also matured the follicles. I trust her and she knows my body inside out by now. Clomid won't harm this cycle and we will DTD in the next couple of days. See what happens.

@Letsdothis43... thanks for your msg. I'm ok. Just getting over a vile cold which DH has now. Then i get a lovely Xmas present this morning...AF starts. .fab timing
So I'm with you @Hmmm123! I feel your pain.

@Orchid222...thank you. That's a lovely Christmas msg. .. i'm with you on other pregnancies and babies. Just so hard to keep going. My DH's bro has just had their 1st after 2nd ivf attempt..Very much deserved after ttc naturally for 10 years and they're only 35 now! But I don't know why ttc no.2 is so difficult. I always assumed age but how does that explain the healthy young couple not being able to conceive for 10 years?!

Happy Christmas all and good luck to those waiting to test

Happy Christmas Booseys. So sorry af arrived. What bad timing too. There’s still hope for you hun. Don’t give up, keep going x

Russ - ah I see now:) good luck with the clomid. Have you had any side effects?