Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Here's our new thread ladies.

Orchid - bet it feels like a 2 month wait rather than 2 week!! Lucky Christmas is busy enough it tebds to fly by. Good distraction too, so timed well!
Were you advised to do IVF after tests or did you just request it?

Hello ladies 😊 hope you're all well as can be. Just popping in

I've switched focus this month to just take time where I can find it to pamper myself. I had a really nice day out with a friend the other day, shopping and food. I hadn't done that in ages. Now I'm at my dad's - kidnapping him for Christmas so he's not alone (the house is just so full of memories of mum). Fertile week falls over Crimbo so there's no chance of dtd and I've decided that maybe that's just a sign from the universe to hibernate and step back this month. I'm reconnecting with my spiritual self, full moon tonight so the crystals are going on a recharge .

Wishing everyone a lovely Christmas xx

Good luck orchid22 and fingers crossed for you !

Ttc number 4 at 40 😍

@Snowie3...Also wanted to say sorry to hear you have suffered family bereavement.

@karryk...nice to see you as you pop by and thanks for checking in! Yes this time of year is so hard with memories of loved ones. My mum passed away 2.5 years ago and i feel it strongly now although it was June that she went.

Talking of the moon etc, don't forget there will be a meteor shower on Jan 3rd.. the Quadrantid meteor shower. The lady in the library told us she saw some a couple of nights ago too. (The Ursid meteor shower) Sorry not sure what relevance this has to fertility! We didn't see any shooting stars but there was a beautiful full moon last evening and the morning star Venus in the east is stunning all thru Dec!

Thank you for your Christmas wishes...the same to you xx

Karry - sounds like a great idea. Relax and enjoy your Christmas

As for me, I'm just stressing as normal!! Period seriously heavy at the moment, a lot heavier than normal. When I had my AFC scan last week they had said my lining was very thick and did I usually have heavy periods. I said no! But here I am with a seriously heavy period. Could it be to do with this months short LP or could it be related to the DHEA?

Thank you ladies for your support. It really helps.

Reality - i have been trying naturally in the months before ivf and so could always hope of bfp then. But now because of no transfer during this last lvf there isnt any. Just feels a bit strange.

Orchid - great you had 2 x 3d embryos transferred. That's how i got my bfp with my son. You are right, i did 2 cycles back to back, this second one a bust completely. I don't know if doing back cycles was the reason it didn't go well as it was much better the month before, similar to what it was nearly 2 years ago with my son.

Thank you Boosey, that is really sweet. Sadly it was my mum's partner of 25 years. It was a bit unexpected as he hadn't been ill for long. We just need to help take care of mum who now has to start over at 72 years old. But we will help her, it's a tough time.

These two weeks are taking so long until AF so we can start trying again. Now just need to get DH back in the mood for baby making which isn't always the most spontaneous as you can imagine!!!

Hope you're having a nice weekend ladies.

My period started yesterday. I think it was around the 21st last month, so does that make me on a 30 day cycle? Not really bothered counting before and it'll be our first month trying.

Welcome onemorego, sounds like 30 days, are you going to be tracking ovulation etc?
Mine started yesterday too although my cycles are generally slightly shorter that yours, averaging on around 27 days

Thank you @Cleozeta yes I think so, feel a bit like time is of the essence! I've always not really bothered before but I know it can be harder 40+ so I should give myself the best chance.

Also at 40+ anything could happen. I do opk's and temp (via ava bracelet) and the last 4 or 5 cycles (minus the chemical) have all been consistantly 27 days - however ovulation day has varied, it can be deceiving.

@Cleo sorry I have no idea what could have made your AF so heavy. Maybe it’s a question for the clinic when you see them in Jan? x

Cleo - it could be the dhea. If it raises oestrogen then I’m guessing it could thicken the lining?

My dhea arrived yesterday:) Anyone know if I start right away (I’m in the 2ww) or do I wait til AF?

Snowie - so sorry for your loss. Hugs and condolences x

@littlemimosa , my doc told me to stop taking DHEA during 2ww. And restart if it's BFN. Hope it helps

@Orchid222 , I'm more likely to go for another round in January cycle. My doc said it was fine. Start with the same dosage and see how things develop from there. I'm just hoping to have at least 1 frozen embryo. Any more would be a bonus. But in general just hope next round will have more surviving fertilised eggs. And how are you feeling?

Thanks, mimosa I had figured it was probably the dhea too, with the oestrogen thing.

I've read to take dhea all through the cycle. The facebook page that I go on for my Ava bracelet is mostly American and over there they take dhea as standard for fertility. I asked out on there about dhea and its safety once and didn't get many responses as they were like 'duh, everyone takes it' and I got a screenshot of a standard fertility recomendation with dhea at top of the list. They take 75mg 3 times a day throughout the cycle. Although I think progesterone supplimentation is easy to come by too

Update from me.. nothing more since 1 wipe of light pink stuff on cd21. Sorry tmi!Now cd24

Due on somewhere between Xmas eve and Boxing Day .. who knows what is going on

Good luck everyone trying! Those who aren't or waiting have a great Xmas!

Cleo- they take 225mg of dhea a day?!

Russ- nothing to report here. Way too early to test do just waiting though it's the longest 2ww since we started trying. You were on a short protocol so maybe back to back cycles are ok. I wouldn't want to put my body through a long one straight away plus we're going on a very long holiday so Jan is definitely out anyway. It will pain me to wait but at least I'll be rested, relaxed (and very jet lagged!) and ready to go in Feb which certainly won't hurt. But hopefully I won't have to, it's not over for me this cycle so fingers crossed...

Hmm fingers crossed for you too!

Orchid, I think Cleo means 75mg in total, 25mg taken 3 times a day... but I might be wrong.
Hmmm, have you tested? A bfp might show by now.

Yes I did wonder if it was 75 in total for the day.

I just found out another person in my close circle is pregnant with her 2nd- I just burst into tears :( The worst thing is I'll have to congratulate her and smile and see her growing bump over the coming months and it will break my heart if this cycle doesn't work and I'm not pregnant...

@Orchid222 I'm sure it's hard to hear fiends' pregnant news but please stay positive! Try!
I'm back on 75mg a day, 3 tablets of 25mg, my doc's recommendation. Never had any side effects and LP is still standard 12-14 days

Thanks Russ I'm trying really hard but with each announcement finding it more difficult. I was going to be good and not test until the 31st but in the light of this most recent development I decided to start sometime between Christmas and the New Year.

Orchid - sorry I meant 25mg 3x a day, so 75mg in total per day.

Fingers crossed for you this cycle. If things go to plan you may be growing alongside the new announcement person. Try to look on the positive side while you can. Hard I know!

Hmmm fingers crossed for you!