November has arrived...time for TTC )

[Scarletrose18]

Hello all of you lovely mumsnet peeps! So I have literally just created an account right now.

Just stopped my mini pill. Have a 15 month old son, excited and nervous to try for baby 2! Baby one came after first period from stopping pill which i know was very fortunate but its given my high expectations for this time...which is not a good thing as chances are wont happen that way twice. Trying to be realistic and casual about it.

Anyone else trying for second... or first?

@Scarletrose18 oh that’s tough, ds was like that until recently and he seems to be calming down alittle at 20 months but mind you that could all change in an instant like all of the phases they go through! I wouldn’t have been ready before now (I’ve left it until ds would be a minimum of 2 and a half when the second one would be born.)
I think that’s spot on for your cycle. At least you roughly know when to expect af. I haven’t had an b nuts yet lol, I need to start eating them don’t I?! My little one has just woken from his nap so I’m off to get him.

I think you're right @Scarletrose18, should be roughly two weeks until your AF.
Sorry to hear your little one has been playing up! Hope he's been being a bit nicer to you, they can be absolute monkies sometimes can't they? My girl has been terrible at bedtimes recently - not naughty or crying or anything, just refusing to go to sleep! Rocked her for an hour last night trying to get her sleepy, it did my back in. 😣

Oh wow @Cocobana, you're in the fertile window already?! Get your baby-making pants on (or off rather!)

What app are you using? Also I THINK its brazil nuts during the TWW isn't it?

They say 2.5 years is the perfect age gap @cocobana because dc1 is old enough to understand and help out a bit and entertain themselves but young enough that dc1 and dc2 will be bff's and enjoy same activities on day trips etc. Its the age gap I know I should really try for but I just feel I cant wait... although it could be the age gap I end up with anyway as I have no idea how many cycles will take to concieve dc2.

@pastasaucehoarder strange u saying that... ds was playing up at bedtime too and is normally great at bedtime. He started crying hysterically every night to the point we had to get him up as was shaking uncontrolably, dh had to rock him (too heavy for me lol) but about a week ago i decided I had had enough and let him cry it out (it was horrible ) but after first night he cried less and so on, now hes only crying for about 2 mins then goes to sleep. It was like sleep training all over again. So strange and we never figured out what caused it.

Not sure about when for the nuts coco but as pasta said, get bedding! Never to early.

*uncontrollably

@PastaSauceHoarder haha I will sure be getting started with dtd or continuing lol and you will not be far behind me, didn’t you say it’s your fertile window start date in 2/3 days? It’s a little scary now it’s here! Oh yeah it was brazil nuts to aid implantation wasn’t it; it’s just as well you’re keeping us right. I think me and scarlet would be munching them all month for nothing lol.

@Scarletrose18 i think it’s a pretty cool age gap too but because it’s my minimal it means I could end up closer to 3 years or more but I’m prepared. I was just too sleep deprived to try sooner and needed ds more settled first. He went through a terrible 18 month sleep regression and developmental phase which lasted awhile and he was having what I can only describe as night terrors. I’ve noticed such a huge change in him at 20 months old, his sleep is much better now too. It’s so tough when they don’t sleep isn’t it!?! With ds it’s usually teething or a bad dream or something that disrupts his sleep and we just bring him in our bed, there was a point in time when we thought he’d never go back to his own bed but he has done it in his own time. I’m sure your son will settle too but by the sounds of things he’s sleeping again for you which is great.

@PastaSauceHoarder forgot to say ds went through a similar phase where he was hyper at bedtime and just wouldn’t go to sleep and as you say not upset or anything. I think it was all connected to the 18 month developmental leap thing which can start early. It was a phase like all of the others and he went back to going to sleep easier again. It seemed to get better suddenly where one day we put him down and he actually just went to sleep. Hope your dd does soon for you, I’m sure she will.

Ah I wonder if she's going through an 18 month sleep regression! I'll have to look into that @Cocobana, thanks. It is only two weeks until shes 18 months so that would make sense.

I used to just feed her to sleep but obviously I stopped that recently. She was fine with a cuddle, a bedtime story and her dummy for a while, but the last couple of nights shes just not wanted to fall asleep!! I'm thinking of shortening her daytime nap so that she's more tired for bed, if that makes sense.
Also we have just started to put her down in her own room until she wakes up again - shes been co-sleeping with us since birth. Maybe that has something to do with it too?

Good to hear that your DS grew out of all that though, @Cocobana! Hopefully DD does the same.

That sounds hard @Scarletrose18, glad to hear that your DS is much better at going to sleep now though! Poor thing, I wonder what made him so upset in the first place? Just one of those things!

Annnnd as if by magic I can hear her crying through the baby monitor. Into our bed she goes!

Hope everyones had a good day. The weather has changed a little though 🌧❄
Yes must be one of those things, kids are so unpredictable.

I didnt realise your dd was almost 18 months @pastasaucehoarder any signs on your opk yet? Or would yours normally be totaly blank until ov?

@cocobana yes i didnt know, I would of been telling u to get started on the nuts now... although they arent exactly cheap to eat for a full month! Any signs on your opk?

Are both of your dc talking now? x

Hope you've had a good day too, @Scarletrose18! Its bloody FREEZING where I am. Its beginning to look a lot like Christmas! 🎄

Nothing yet on the OPK front, but that's to be expected. The last three days (including today) I've just had a faint line, so it looks like I should ovulate when I usually do. Only 2 days until the fertile week starts!

Yes @Cocobana, whats your OPK saying today? Any promising signs?

DD says quite a bit @Scarletrose18, though shes not great at copying words back. Its like she has her own little language and can babble for England sometimes! She sings a lot too though not the proper words, shes good at remembering tunes though. Her newest word is 'hide', she runs about so excited shouting it.
How about your little one, hows he doing?

@PastaSauceHoarder it does sound very much like that, I hope your dd settles for you soon. I thought it was because we were putting ds in his cot at the time aswell but it ended up being that developmental phase. I thought having him in our bed so much had caused such a bad habit but it hasn’t. He goes to sleep with us then I transfer him to his cot and he stays there most nights now unless something bothering him. I know it’s not ideal but it works for us.

@Scarletrose18 no signs of opk yet and for some reason I’m getting alittle scared lol for a second child! I do realise though that it usually can take 6 months or longer and that keeps me sane because it’s unlikely going to happen this month. Part of me really wants it too but the other half would wait the six months lol. I know those bloody nuts cost a small fortune. I went today t get some and can you believe my local supermarket didn’t have brazils!?! They had every other nut under the sun but no brazils! I do hope this isn’t a bad sign lol the gods are against me

Any signs of AF @Scarletrose18? Oh yes ds a little chatter box and it’s so adorable how cute are their little voices?!

Scratch my last question you said TWW didn’t you.

@pastasaucehoarder He only says mama and dada and grunts for everything else which would really worry me but he is really smart for everything else so I think he is maybe just lazy at talking. Still hard not to worry a little when u make the mistake of googling whats average lol.

Aww how sweet that she sings! That must melt your heart when you hear her 😍
Im excited for you only having 2 days, you will be so ready for Ov when it comes!

My opk is still showing up, not as dark as positive but still a bit dark.. not sure how long that will take to go away, and I know I shouldnt really be still taking them but to pass time until AF I feel like I have to do something lol That sounds a bit crazy but makes me feel better lol

Sorry didnt see your comments until after i had posted my comment...Didnt u say your app says you might be due to ov on sunday now? Maybe it will come on Sunday, or it could come in next few days and the line will suddenly go dark. You have plenty of time yet and your young and healthy so im sure it will come... But I totaly get what your saying, for some reason we all tell ourselves it wont happen (i think thats because of being scared of getting our hopes up and then having to face a bfn)

Yes still waiting for AF, it may come sooner than 2 weeks or later, hard to know as this is first cycle

You are scared for a second child coco?? Well Ill be honest with you, part of the reason I wanted to wait until next cycle is that im a little terrified lol. I do want af first for dates etc but I also chickened out 🐔

Sorry forgot to tag you in 2 above posts @cocobana

I'm glad that you said him sleeping in your bed didn't cause any bad habits @Cocobana, hopefully DD will be the same. She goes down in her own bed for naptimes easy enough.
If our future second child wants to co-sleep too then they'll be bloody four of us in the bed! 😂

I love the look of those next2me cribs (I think they're called), have either of you used/seen them?

I'm sure your DS if absolutely fine, @Scarletrose18! I think DD can be a bit of a lazy talker too, most of the time it usually is just 'mama, dada, baba' with her, with the odd new word chucked in. Its hard not to worry though, I do understand!

I also feel like its just not going to work this month. Not sure why exactly, just not feeling optimistic today. Being pregnant again would be such a dream come true, theres no way it could happen to me so quickly.

I have nevrr used one so not much use, only used a crib upstairs when ds was first born. We put him in own room from first night and it worked for us as he slept through the night early on. Hes too noisy a sleeper so we couldnt of coslept anyway lol.

Hit send before finished typing @pastasaucehoarder.... But everyone is different. What works for one wont work for another. He hated his moses basket and whenever we put him in it for daytime naps he would instantly wake up. So i let him snuggle on me for alot of his naps (another bad habit and another thing we prob wont have time to do with 2 kids lol. )Oh my goodness imagine if one of us had twins!! Twins run in anyones family?

@Scarletrose18 yeah ov due on Saturday, no idea when it will happen though, I didn’t chart my first ov after coming off pill before AF. Ds says words and odd little sentences but not proper communication, I don’t think they do until 2-3. I think they look for 10 or 20 words (I think it is can’t quite remember) by 2.

Oh god lol twins I don’t think it’s cope haha it would be amazing but terrifying at the same time! No twins in my family, how about yours? Ds never liked his Moses basket either and would nap on me aswell or on his little sleepyhead nest supervised.

@PastaSauceHoarder ds slept in a chicco next to me crib for five and half months next to my side of the bed. After 12 months we allowed ds to co sleep sometimes (who translates to we fell asleep as were too knackered to put him back every time lol) We now have a cuddle with ds at the start of the night, he goes to sleep and then spends the night in his cot, I wouldn’t have it any other way because I cherish my cuddles with him.

The funny thing was about the next to me crib was we didn’t measure and our bed was bloody too high for it to attach so we had to have it in crib form next to bed instead. Since then we’ve bought a new bed and his one happens to be lower so i have high hopes it’ll be used for a second child intended!

I agree with you @Scarletrose18 it depends on the child and we all know what’s best for our little ones.

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* By my post I meant im no use on an opinion on the next to me cots because iv never used them...not that they are no use. *