The Hut of Gl/doom part IV- it's still never going to happen- but ^in^ ^style^, yes

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After all that desert sand, we are in serious need of slightly damper place...

This one is a hamam, complete with essential oils and thick Turkish towelling bath sheets. Mosaics on the floors, marble pools. You get the picture. It still needs some decorating though.

We have had a few graduates (OK, quite a few), which is good, but time to dust off the old Hut for those of us who are still barren.

Happy sunday all. Hope everyone is having a nice weekend.
I'm at a bit of a loss and am after some advice please.
Since my mmc (Jan) and subsequent ERPC I have been having daily pains in my abdomen, plus shooting pains down the fronts of my legs, plus backache, etc, etc. For ages I just assumed I was still healing after ERPC but about a month ago I thought that really enough time had passed to went to GP. Had swabs done - all fine. Had an ultrasound - everything looks fine. Now I have seen mentioned on other threads that these types of pains could potentially be endo and that swabs and scan would not show this up.
Although the pains annoy me and are sometimes fleetingly horrible, most of the time I just get on with things. But it does worry me that I am getting any pain & discomfort at all. Especially the leg thing as I never had that before mc.
Anyway, saw GP on Friday and she reckons that the swabs and scan indicate nothing gynae. I really don't want to go for further invasive tests when the pains are bearable, but I worry that whatever is causing the pains will effect my ttc. How long should I wait before I pursue further with GP? Other than endo, can anyone think of anything that could cause these sorts of pains? And if I had any scarring or anything from ERPC would it have shown on the scan?
P.S. I am considering no longer ttc and baby person and instead go for a baby elephant....does anyone know if this will effect my c-section scar?????

fmn, no advice im afraid other than get the pains checked out. unfortunately in my experience the nhs are rubbish when it comes to gynae probs and you deserve an answer!!

what a shit weekend.

firstly, on friday my period came. on cd34.
last 5 cycles since mirena out have been this: 28, 13, 41,43,34. WTF???

then, we woke up saturday morning all late and lovely . we went to wash our car at 2pm and someone kicked in the side of our 2 year old car! £1500 to find now......it needs a whole new back panel, because its a 3 door car.

i am so mad and just feel like im floating around at the mo, iyswim. is anything ever going to go my way?

Scorpio what are some people like?! That's crap.

FMN, I don't have any advice either, but even if they can't do anything about it having gone to the gp about it will have at least got it registered. (blimey, what a tangled sentence..!)

hello fellow hut inmates.

Can I have a few moments to rant, rave and behave like a complete and utter NUTCASE.

I have been trying for over a year to conceive no 2 - ds is now 2.

My SIL announced she was pregnant about 6 weeks ago. Her ds is only 1.

This made me feel like a complete loser.

It now turns out she's expecting twins.

I feel like the bottom of my world has dropped out.

I am so angry, depressed and feel like a complete psycho. I hate her so much - I can't tell you. I've never liked her much and this has made me loathe her - this is upsetting for dh and I feel like a total witch.

I was feeling in a quite a good mood yesterday until dh told me.

I have hosp appt next week and was trying to be positive - now I just feel like jumping under a train.

Oh MsLucy, how crap for you! But don't jump under a train (or any other potentially fatal vehicles!)
Continue to hate SIL - you have a fantastic reason. It would have been shittier if you used to actually like the woman and just hated her cos of the pg, but if you never really liked her anyway then you've nothing to lose by hating her guts now!
Just think, she will have her twins and be permanently knackered, look like shit, never shift her baby weight, will have nasty tears when she gives birth, plus huge piles and the added embarassment of untimely fanny farts where her fanjo has stretched soooo much that she just can't control her bodily funsctions!

I knew the hut was the place to be today.

Do you think I should send her a tena lady as an anonymous gift?

mslucy, it's normal to feel like you do! My bf fell pregnant after telling me she admanently didn't want any more children and hardly ever had sex! The day she told me I ranted to my dp about it for hours. I couldn't believe how unfair life was and for a few hours I think I really did hate her, my oldest friend! Of course, with time, etc, it passed but I still feel jealous, she's had the little one now and I remember thinking as long as I was pregnant by the time she had it I'd cope. Bloody useless body hasn't listened to me though but I'm OK, I'm sure you will be too but if not there's always drugs and alcohol

Mslucy, the best anonymous gift you could send would probably be a packet of sponge fingers (for the same reason as tena lady, but a more horrendously foul idea!) I can just imagine her mentioning to you "I got a packet of sponge fingers sent me in the post but I don't know who they are from......why would someone send me sponge fingers? What do you think it means?" Chortle, chortle, chortle, snigger.

pmsl at sponge fingers, just put some preparation h in as well.

thank you for your excellent suggestions.

Was crying in the toilets at work today - just couldn't stop myself.

DH out tonight so at least I can have a good sulk and then go to bed early.

Tomorrow is another day.

Have acupuncture before work. Can have a good rant and moan to the acupuncture lady, who is a bit like a therapist.

Should be having sex a lot in the next few days - today is cd12, but can't really be arsed.

Had it last night and will pester DH tomorrow/thurs.

think it's a bit of a waste of effort but I feel really cross if I don't.

Lissie, what is Prep H? Would it make it rather uncomfortable?

FMN, you dirty girl! (I love you

MsLucy, I think what you feel is completely normal. It's really hard to see people 'just getting' what we all want SO BADLY. I feel like you do and I'm having to work really hard to get over it enough that I can actually see friends x and y.

I've been hiding from quite a lot of annoying yummy mummy types who keep asking me when I'm going to give ds a brother or sister.

There is one person in particular I am especially loathed to encounter.

She claims she planned for both her dds to be born in the winter so they would do better at school.

Get a life you sad fuck!

prep h is piles cream (tee hee hee)

am truly f*cked off. remember my lil sis's lil sis is 15, pg and doesnt know who the dad is? well, shes having a little girl. dont know why but its really upset me. cant believe im not pg anymore and everyone else is getting on with their lives.

MsLucy, if said smug mummy is that controlling her little darlings will prob become complete nightmares

Lissie, poor you honey. Talk about rubbing the salt in. It doesn't matter why exactly it's upset you so much: point is that it has. Poor you xxx

Lissie, maybe you could send your ls's ls a pack of sponge fingers too!! She must need them already if she doesn't know who the father is!!

Miiiaaoow! Saucer of milk for me please......

lol. thought had occured!

I can't even begin to imagine being 15 and telling my parents I was pg, let alone then having to admit I didn't know who the father was! My dad was furious at me for being pg at 23 with my steady bf and didn't talk to me for weeks and weeks, and then only to be nasty! I would be heartily ashamed of myself if I were her!

Hello, All, I've had a marvelous 'lunch hour' (ahem) reading all the threads on TTC. Geniiii, all of you.
Scorpio1 - bin to the docs yet?? Eh?? Get going.
Have bin OV stick weeing in a very enthusiastic way over last week (today = CD18) trying to figure out where OV takes place. It's all utter bs. Seems I might have ov'd at least twice according to some very faint lines - or possibly, not at all. Based on all the evidence I think this suggests I am about to give birth. So stand well back........mind those prams.

Soreheart.

I'm liking the cut of your jib.

I did an ov stick once and got the smiley face.

Whoop de do.

that was about a year ago.

Without meaning to be utterly gross, I have oodles of ewcm, a regular AF and a 2 year old ds.

But no luck yet.

Dh's sperm count is a bit shit but he's knocked me up twice (includes m/c) so i can only conclude that no one really understand what makes you get pregnant and obsessing over temps/pissing on sticks/frantically counting days etc will just drive you bonkers.

I'm going to hospital on Monday and hopefully I will get some proper information.

Im here again, now I know many of you may say I am being stupid after all I have not been ttc for 12 month yet. But Im so fed up. The doctor does not seem in the slighest bit interested. I have to have another 2 cycles on my own.

I feel like I have been ttc forever!!! Im driving myself mad. Another one of my Friends who I went to Uni with annouced she was pregnant yesterday. She said to me "are you not trying yet" I smiled politely and just said that it was not the right time. Maybe it isn't. I then came home and cried my DH tried to be understanding and said it will happen for us!! as he tucked into his beer. (I asked him to give it up for a short while, but as you can see he had none of it)

I feel like just giving up (I know I wont) but I just feel like saying sod the peeing on sticks, temp taking, mucus spotting. Symptom spotting during the 2ww.

I do not live in the best of areas and I see so many teenage pregnant girls no partner, no home and with the foulest language coming out of their mouths. I am not judging I am just really jealous. Who am I kidding Im jealous of all pg women.

My DH looked at me the other day and said to me I cannot wait till I look at you and there is you and our baby. It almost shattered me. He was being nice but what if I can't give him what he wants.
I know it could be his problem but to be honest today my mind is anything but rationale.
I know tomorrow I will pull myself together. But for today I am really down and really want to give up the ttc.

BabyBratt I totally understand how you're feeling.

I have one but so want another.
And I feel time is running out as I'm nearly 37.
Can I ask a very rude question.
How old are you?
I imagine you're quite a bit younger than me and if so, you have plenty of time and sghouldn't be so hard on yourself.

Its not a rude I am 30 and ttc for my first for 9 mths now. I was at church on Sunday with a lady who had had her 2nd baby at 44!!! She had just got married for a 2nd time and it was a honeymoon baby, so that just shows us we both have plenty of time. Still doesn't make it any easier on us though. Do you find you are surrounded by pregnant women or newborn babies?

You know I have spent the majority of my adult life trying not to get pregnant. You think it is going to be so easy. You know my DH did not realise that a woman is only fertile of 24/36 hrs he thought it was a week, ahh bless him!!

That meant to say rude question. my mind is running quicker than my typing!