[insert imaginative thread title here] - sanity for those waiting to TTC (part 3)

[dottydally]

New thread ladies! @PastaSauceHoarder @Goostacean @Barker26 @crazychemist @DoveGreylove @springsummerautumnwinter can't remember who else to tag.

I know @cupcakesandglitter has linked us to a new thread but I'm not sure I am strong enough to be surrounded by those TTC already!

@dottydally I just keep trying to think it's going to be an amazing holiday and something I'll never do again.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who trawls baby clothes/ items. I get a bit embarrassed by it 🙈

@McHelenz it will be amazing! You'll look back and be pleased you did it I'm sure. We keep talking about doing one last holiday but won't have time before we want to ttc. So there's a chance I could go pregnant! A bit nervous though as this is no. 1 so I've no idea if I'll be sick etc!

No no not at all. I draw the line at buying clothes though. Might buy the odd thing when we ttc but don't want to jinx it! How is your DH about it all?

@dottydally we joke about having kids (we went to B&M and he was messing with the toys and he was saying when we have kids they'll have this etc etc.) I also had to admit to him how skint I am and he's made a plan to clear my overdraft and when to start saving! He's the more sensible one. He's also talking about us trying to loose some weight and it's one reason I've decided to start CBT.

I wanted to go to do the German Christmas Markets this year and he won't let me because I should be saving!

I was googling accupuncture last night 😂. That was my next part of my TTC plan!

@McHelenz that's really good!

I'm not doing well today, I've spent my time looking at prams and car seats... does anyone know what they might want?

@dottydally we have been looking recently too- browsing is so tempting to buy though - especially when there is a good offer on!
We're currently getting blown away at 40mph winds in our tent!

Hi everyone!

I've been stalking this thread for a few weeks now and finally getting the courage to send a message! Can I please join?

Myself an dh are 29, like some others of you got a holiday booked in a zika zone in December and will need to wait until Feb to ttc. This will be our first. Been getting super broody lately and can't stop thinking about babies/pregnancy and starting to worry about my biological clock so Feb can't come round quickly enough! Although I've decided to stay on the pill until after our holiday to make sure I don't get my period while we're there, so it might be a little while after Feb when my cycle gets back to normal 🙁

Hope everyone's had a good weekend! 😊

@Pinkroseuk look on the bright side - you still have internet!

@ValleyFire welcome! Zika seems to be the reason a lot of us are waiting. I'll also be waiting until February I think, but fortunately for us it's just me travelling (not DP) as I think it's 6 months for men?

If it's any help, my cycles went straight back post pill. I've had a couple of wacky cycles where I've been a bit late but nothing compared to what some deal with!

Hi @valleyfire

If you're travelling with your partner to a Zika area it's a 6 month wait!! That's why I'm having to wait until Feb.

@dottydally I keep obsessing over Cossattos....

Can I join in with you lovely lot?

Me: 27 (28 next week)
DH: 29 (pushung 30)
TTC: January 19
Reason for waiting: we have a skiing holiday booked plus ive been on the pill for 8 years so want to have a few months after this current pack for my body to sort itself out.

I have no reason/family history to be concerned but I am still worried about being able to concieve - has anyone had this fear despite having no reason to think we would struggle?

I literally cant wait to start TTC and then to have a little one to add to our family!

Good luck to you all!!

Thanks @dottydally and @McHelenz! Hope you both have fab holidays that are worth the wait!

My Dr told me only need to wait 6 months if dh has any zika symptoms, otherwise it's 8 weeks for men too? Will definitely have to wait until June if he does get any symptoms!

Plan is to cover both of us in mosquito repellent every day 😂 - I've trailed through so many of our hotel's reviews on trip advisor and quite a few say didn't see any mosquitoes there so fingers crossed!

Hi @manycatsandallthegin, I'm new to this thread too! Welcome!

Skiing sounds like fun, have you been before? I always think I'd be too scared to go for it!

@ValleyFire thanks for the welcome.

Yeah I’ve been very fortunate and skiied since I was small, as we were stationed in germany with my dads job when I was young. Its our last time skiing probably until our kids are old enough to ski too.

I understand the fear of skiing, I had skiied with no fear from 4ish then suddenly at 12 i lost all my nerve and was petrified like a total beginner. But its not as scary as it appears, and the scenary, feeling of skiing down the mountain and all the hot chocolates make up for any iffy parts haha!

When are you hoping to concieve. Will you take any conception vitamins or anything?

@valleyfire it's deffo 6 months as it can be symptomless. That's NHS England's advice. I'm a nurse so I keep trawling public health England 😂

Also you might know if you've been bitten! I know it's dead disheartening I just don't want you to be told false info.

@Manycatsandallthegin hello! waves you are of course welcome to join us.

Skiing sounds brilliant though. It's just disheartening when you want to ttc now now now.

I am really scared it will be difficult. It's something I've struggled with throughout the wait as I'm constantly thinking 'even if we started now it could take a year'. It's irrational, I know it is, I have no reason to think we will struggle. I think it comes down to the fact I know I want this so badly that the thought of not having it is awful. There is a history of early menopause in my family too (although not my mum), being early 30's which scares me. We had originally planned to start next summer but there's also a lot going on lately which makes me think life is too short. Reasons for waiting beyond February are trivial and quite frankly there with always be something to wait for.

@ValleyFire thank you! Not a holiday as such for me though as I'm heading away with work. Hopefully I'll enjoy the weekends though

I think I would ask your doctor again if I were you. Mine was very clear when I had my vaccinations done that it would be 6m if DP travelled with me. Hopefully the link works. It's close to the bottom!

www.nhs.uk/conditions/zika/

@dottydally Im the same. Hubby had mumps at 21 and my parents apparently struggled to have me so it really worries me. Also I have this stupid thing in my head that being 31 is ridiculously old.

Also, I work in a children's hospice and it just brings up a lot of its own worries.

@McHelenz 31 is absolutely not old! In my profession 35-40 is very normal for a first child. Many go on to have a second and third too! I'm not saying they all find it super easy, but 31 is still very young!

I definitely couldn't do your job. Do you not just end up in tears when bad things happen? I'm such a softie

Hello @ValleyFire and @Manycatsandallthegin!

@Manycatsandallthegin I think the fear of not being able to conceive must be quite common. I'm still worried about it now, even after having one happy and healthy pregnancy already! I think @dottydally hit the nail on the head when she said that its irrational but wanted so badly - its just a silly fear really that we all seem to have!

I started spotting yesterday in preparation for AF and I'm starting to feel majorly impatient - I just want to TTC now!
Only roughly 70 days to go. 🙄

It absolutely is heartbreaking sometimes but it's filled with absolute joy all the time. I love working there but it does make me worry about extras that probably don't cross people's minds.

I think it's because I convinced myself as a child I was an only child because my parents were 30 when they had me. So my logic was I needed kids by 27. Failed there haha.

Hi ladies!

Have been taking a break from mumsnet to avoid obsessing over wtttc. The next 3 months are pretty long in my head.... I'm back to school though now, which hopefully will keep me busy and distracted. I took DD to a toddler group this morning and sooo many of the other my,s had a cute little newborn on their lap while the toddlers were playing. Seriously tugged on my hormones!

@PastaSauceHoarder if you are worried and you already have one there's no hope for the rest of us  I'm pleased it is so badly wanted though. I'm at a point where the idea of not doing it makes me more scared than doing it so I know it's right for us. I have a counter on my phone! 147 days to go! Almost double what you've got 

@McHelenz how long have you worked there? Have you ever asked why you are an only child? I joke that I want two but if the first one is really painful I'm not having a second! I know I'll likely end up having a second if I can but the thought of the pain really does terrify me. And morning sickness. Anyone have lovely stories of how they were never sick and labour didn't hurt at all? Wishful thinking.

Hi @crazychemist! It's been a while. Three months will fly by!

I've been here for just 12 months now. It's one reason we are waiting because I wanted to settle.

I have and I think its because they couldn't afford and my granddad lived with us. I took ages to come to the point they were going to stop too. Also I probably was a pain in the arse 😂😂😂

Ooh good idea @dottydally, I'll have to get a counter on my phone too!
I'm afraid I have no stories of a non-sickness pregnancy and a pain-free birth, so I'll refrain from going into detail! But I will tell you that I've completely forgotten the pain now - birthing my daughter seems really dreamlike these days. I'm definitely not scared of going into labour again, I can't wait.

Morning ladies, hope we are all ok!

All checked in for Mexico and only 4 days of work to go! Getting a bit excited now!