[insert imaginative thread title here] - sanity for those waiting to TTC (part 3)

[dottydally]

New thread ladies! @PastaSauceHoarder @Goostacean @Barker26 @crazychemist @DoveGreylove @springsummerautumnwinter can't remember who else to tag.

I know @cupcakesandglitter has linked us to a new thread but I'm not sure I am strong enough to be surrounded by those TTC already!

@Goostacean the idea of a squishy little newborn makes me question why I am even waiting! I'm guessing you don't want to go back to work already pregnant?

@Jelliestogether where is your other half on it all?

@Pinkroseuk it will all come together for you lovely. You have us in the meantime! And you can definitely try whilst camping speaking from experience. The blow up bed adds, ahem, a balance challenge, but it is funny. Surely the best sex is where you can have a giggle too.

@PastaSauceHoarder he wouldn't go for the idea at all?? It's the other way around in our house.. must stay strong...

@PastaSauceHoarder I’m on... chapter 19, I think?? I’m so invested! 😂 It’s so good!

@dottydally, no I don’t want to go back pregnant... It would have been one thing to extend my current official career break and have another baby then go back properly. But I work in a male-dominated and fast paced environment so coming back for like 6 months then leaving again, just wouldn’t be taken seriously. For my long term prospects at least! I’m so happy I got promoted, so I’d really like to keep trying to progress. But babies are sooooo loooovelyyyy 😍

He wouldn't budge, @dottydally. ☹ He's really excited when he talks about having two children and absolutely loves being a dad, but hes strictly making me wait until November for a few various and valid reasons. Ah well, I've gone past my fertile window this month though, so theres nothing that can be done now!

@Pinkroseuk I suppose if you did conceive while camping you'd always have your own private in-joke! 😂

Ahh it is so good @Goostacean, I'm impatiently waiting for the next season, even though its apparently going to be the last! 😭
I don't think my boss will be best pleased when I finally get to tell him I'm pregnant again. The lady who covered me got pregnant herself whilst I was on maternity, and now I'm planning to get pregnant again while she's on HER maternity...

Thanks @dottydally - yes it is rather interesting! A good giggle is always good!
This is true @PastaSauceHoarder
We will all get there eventually :)

Hi everyone. I can't believe I started the original thread!

We originally planned to TTC #2 in October but I think I got cold feet so we decided to put it off for a while. Timing wasn't right. Which is fine but... someone should tell my ovaries that! We're currently in the middle of major house renovations & I've actually gone back to work part time but I can't help but wish for baby #2!

So I think we are back on track & will start TTC in the new year! So excited! DS is 2 & a little firecracker- he needs a sibling to keep him in check!

Lovely to see you again @happytobemrsg! I'm glad you've figured out what you want. We missed you, of course!

Thanks @dottydally! When I get the chance I'll read through this thread & try to catch up. I'm doing all the things I shouldn't be doing while waiting... watching OBEM, looking at DS' baby photos... it's making me worse! Of course now we have a date for TTC EVERYONE around me is falling pregnant. It's like they know!

Hi @happytobemrsg! I wasn't on the original thread but I want to say thanks for starting it - I'm finding it so helpful to (virtually) be around all you lovely ladies who understand how hard it is to be patient!

@happytobemrsg lovely to see you back! And glad you have decided on a plan! I totally know what you mean about pregnancy and babies is all around!

@dottydally he's totally on board for around Christmas time, he just wants our finances totally sorted (which is a pain in the arse cos it's literally sorting one small credit card debt and remortgaging!) But I guess he knows financially the pressure will be more on him. However....we only have a couple of condoms left...fingers crossed he just doesn't want to buy any more!! Haha

I'm feeling pretty chilled about the whole thing but I'm on cd47 and still no sign! My nipples have been erect and so sensitive for the past 2 weeks with on and off cramping/twinges (not like AF cramps) and still have creamy CM so who knows what's going on! We are thinking we might do a test soon!

Lovely to see you back @happytobemrsg

@Jelliestogether the waiting is the hardest bit it find- I kept doing tests when AF didn't show up and sometimes I found it made it worse but good to know -

We have the day off work today for DH sperm test! Sat outside now waiting for him - we had to travel two hours to get here so I hope it works!! Hoping to find a nice garden or national trust place to visit this afternoon while we're here as the sun is shining!
There is a mothercare next to the centre and I don't know why but it made me chuckle 😂

Ooh that Mothercare sounds like a good omen to me, @Pinkroseuk!
I hope all went well with your husbands sperm test.

Thanks @PastaSauceHoarder - just waiting for him- then going to pop into the shops for a bit I think- it's in the middle of a massive retail park!

@pinkroseuk you are so right waiting is so hard!! This is harder than any tww as you never know when your actually due anyway! Plus with the chance of a few unprotected moments the hope is there....even though officially not trying!

Good luck with your husbands analysis today!xx

Thanks @Jelliestogether - it all went well so just have to wait for the results at my next appointment.

Yes it's definitely the not knowing what's happening that gets me! Xx

I know this isn't the Christmas thread but I've started to think about presents. I've got no idea what to get my parents! I really want to be organised but I'm not used to having to come up with ideas in August

@PastaSauceHoarder it's so hard talking about this with people IRL. Everyone seems to have an opinion!

Thanks for welcoming me back @Jelliestogether & @Pinkroseuk! I think the unprotected moments are the worst because they make you hope & worry at the same time!

@dottydally I've already done DS' Christmas Eve box! Thomas pjs, a Build a Bear, toy car & some Christmassy books! I've bought my bff's presents & know wheat I'm getting DH.... I swear I get into the Christmas spirit in February

@happytobemrsg you are right there is always a bit of hope and worry mixed in!!

Thought I'd update. AF arrived at CD48. Definitely feeling more disappointed as even the OH had come round to the idea of the possibility! So this time im going to give the insotol a try! It can't hurt I guess!

Hi ladies, mind if I join you?

I'm getting super broody but not quite ready to start TTC yet!

Hi @EthelThePiratesDaughter! I think we're all feeling super broody right now so you've definitely come to the right thread! When are you thinking of TTC?

Wish I could help @dottydally, but I haven't got a clue what to get my own parents! I'm happy to say that I've completely finished my little toddlers presents though (but that was the fun and easy part of Christmas shopping! ).

I'm really really REALLY feeling the envy pang today - it was a family event today and both of my husbands sisters are currently pregnant. November needs to hurry up! ☹

Everyone's in the same boat, huh?

I'm getting married in 6 weeks, so if we got pregnant right now I would probably still fit into my dress as long as I stop eating pizza like I did tonight but I wouldn't be able to drink all the lovely champagne.

I'm crazy busy at the moment with work and wedding planning so we would quite like to just have a stress free honeymoon and enjoy the first few months of being married. We're both really excited to start TTC, but we live in France and there's no way I could hide an early pregnancy at Christmas because I wouldn't be able to eat or drink anything we normally have. It's not just about the alcohol (that would be hard enough), but all the soft cheese, pâté, cured meat etc. (smoked salmon? oysters?) as well. So I think we will get Christmas out of the way and then start in January. I know it will probably take longer than we expect, but it would just be sod's law if we got pregnant before Christmas so better not risk it really.

But January feels like ages away and everyone is having babies!

Welcome @EthelThePiratesDaughter! Someone at work was talking to me the other day about how all consuming it is when you decide you want a baby. Like trying to explain how it feels. I just sat quietly thinking 'yes, trust me, I know how it feels to be desperate for a baby'. I am also waiting til next year so will be here to keep you company! Exciting news about your wedding, are you all set?

@PastaSauceHoarder Christmas shopping is so hard! What did you get your toddler? I can't wait to shop for a little one (and do Father Christmas!)

@Jelliestogether sorry to hear about AF. What is insotol? Sorry if you've already explained and I have missed it!

@happytobemrsg Christmas Eve boxes! I still get one from my mum  you are so organised! You'll be chilling in December when everyone else is panic shopping.

@Pinkroseuk When do you get the results?

Wow ladies, its September! Which means we're all one month closer to TTC - how exciting!! 🎉

@dottydally her main presents are a baby doll (I was going to buy her one when I next got pregnant, but she loves babies right now so I just gave in!), her first ever Barbie doll, some of that Duplo toddler Lego stuff, and I'm in the middle of making her a busy board right now. And shes got clothes, a ton of books and lots of lovely little stocking fillers. Shes going to love it all, I'm so excited!
Its lovely that you still get a Christmas Eve box from your mum! What does she put in it?

@EthelThePiratesDaughter how exciting about your wedding! Have you much else to get sorted?

Well I'm feeling mega autumny today! 🍂🎃🍁 I've been cleaning the house and I lit a big fat candle so it smells lovely. Looking at some recipes for meals to suit colder nights too so if anyone has any suggestions! I'm going to ask my mum to teach me how to make her stew, its absolutely fab.

@PastaSauceHoarder that sounds lovely! I get new pyjamas, a book and fluffy socks. I often get gingerbreads too! I still spend Christmas Eve at my parents, even though we have our own house.

Bit of a grump here. Had my appointment to discuss vaccinations for my trip. They know we want to ttc as I saw them before I came off the pill so we talked about zika. I'll have to wait til February to make sure I get two full cycles before we try. I think I knew this but had hoped there might be some magic why I didn't have to wait. She also said I should wait even if I don't think I've been bitten just in case

Oh @dottydally, how disappointing. I'm sorry you've been told you have to wait even longer, that truly sucks. How does your husband feel about it?

@PastaSauceHoarder I haven't spoken to him about it yet as he is still at work. We'll have a chat tonight. I know he will be super supportive (as he has been with everything) but disappointed. He is so ready to be a dad.

I am trying to focus on the opportunity the trip presents for me long term but I'm so broody!